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🔞 MDNI 🔞 Born in 2000, 26 as of updating 🏳️‍⚧️ trans man. TME.

[inept-2-a-degree]

🔞 About 🔞

Hi! First and foremost: No one under 18! This is not the space for you

Trans man (He/him pronouns only please). I go by Ly

Pansexual

I have a nonbinary partner (he/her/they pronouns). We are polyamorous. While they aren't on tumblr they are aware of this blog and fine with it

Personal blog with vents and horny thoughts and anything else I want

Everything below here is kink info as this was originally intended to just be a kink blog

Heavily lean towards subbing

I don't kinkshame but please do not talk to me about kinks I list as a limit. Lets focus on the ones we have in common

Kinda shy at times and not the best at conversation but I'm happy to talk, make friends, etc. DMs and Asks heavily encouraged

Probably won't post pics. Especially because I'm pre-op and it makes me want to not perceive my body

While I do not claim a label, if I had to I would be considered proship.

DNI: Homophobes, transphobes, terfs, bigots, etc

I won't block people for being cis but please keep in mind that cismen tend to make me nervous. I'm sorry, I've just had bad experiences

Kinks you'll probably see here, limits, etc: Work in progress. *These are NOT exhaustive lists

I'll do my best to tw tag all kinks in this format: nsft: petplay

Kinks:

Pet play

Noncon (or CNC? I'm unsure what the defining line is here since they're both fantasy. If anyone could help me figure this out I'd really appreciate it.)

Omorashi

Humiliation/Degradation

Knifeplay

Chastity

Size Kink

Cucking

Fear Play

Differences? I'm not sure if there's a name for this but differences in strength, intelligence, etc are fun to me. Generally, I'd like to be the one at a disadvantage.

Bullying (like wedgies and stuff >///>)

Praise

Bodyworship

DD/LB, MD/LB, etc. Basically Dom of any gender/LB. (Likely won't post but will Like stuff. If I do post/reblog it'll be tagged like anything else on this list)

Uncertain/Won't Post Even If I Interact Through Likes!:

* As mentioned above, I will not reblog these kinks but don't mind interacting and stuff. I'm listing them purely so those who want to entirely avoid people who like these things (or people who haven't decided if they like them or not) can more easily avoid me. No hard feelings 💞/genuine

Limits:

Currently rethinking what should and shouldn't be right here

Raceplay (this one is a DNI, I will block you)

Scat

Feederism

[My limits are NOT a DNI unless stated. Please just respect them.]

Other Information:

I do have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). I tend to be the type that internalizes stuff more. I don't really lash out/rage physically or anything. I'm not sure if I need to clarify that or not but I am just in case.

I am probably putting myself at risk by saying this, should the wrong person see, but I'm hoping the assumed positive benefits of being open about it will outweigh the bad.

Positives being:

If you want to avoid me all together you can. That's much better than forming a friendship that would crumble once that information is out. I don't know, I never thought about warning people of my diagnosis until I saw a specific subreddit. If you know, you know

Ideally this will help ease concerns about whether I'm ignoring you if I were to temporarily drop a conversation to regulate myself, stop socializing for a period of time, etc. I'll probably add more to this later. Not sure yet.

[ahmedaldani333]

I write to you with a heavy heart, filled with fear and intense pain. My health is deteriorating rapidly; I'm experiencing shortness of breath and relentless dizziness due to the anemia that continues to ravage my health.

[ahmedaldani333]

I'm terrified I might faint at any moment. My body is weakening, and I'm also starving. I can no longer endure this constant pain, hunger, and fear.

[ahmedaldani333]

Please help me by donating so I can buy food to satisfy my hunger and medicine to alleviate my suffering. Please help me before my pain worsens and I faint. Please share and donate.

[pitbolshevik]

please donate

Reblog to let prev know their presence is wanted

[libraryleopard]

Are you ever just constantly struck by how women are not allowed to have body hair in film or TV

[batgirlpits]

I am so fucking mad the women in Baldur's Gate 3 have shaved legs and pits like it's the fucking middle ages, safety razors don't exist and we're in the middle of the fucking wilderness and I refuse to believe Karlach or Lae'zel are the type to care anyway so I doubt they'd wax. I know mods fix this but i shouldn't have to rely on mods for fucking leg and pit hair on women when it's fucking body standard. Also give shadowheart a happy trail

[bite-my-grimy-fleshy-ass]

Trans woman: It's fucked up that engaging in ageplay & incest kinks, a thing so fucking popular among cishets that calling people they think are hot Daddy & Mommy to indicate they find them attractive without even negotiating it beforehand or conceptualizing it as a kink, is seen as a sign of being a real life pedophile seeking to corrupt minors when transfems have these kinks, and used to deplatform and isolate us. It is literally just the right wing groomer rhetoric in a "leftist" costume to make you feel better about doing the same shit.

Poster A who didn't understand: Maybe she's the real transmisogynist for saying liking incest and ageplay is innate to the transfem experience.

Poster B who didn't read: They are a transphobe and a pedophile.

Poster C who is racist: Anime is inherently pedophilic so there's actually many more transwomen who need to be called out for community accountability and safety.

Trans woman: *gets harassed, mass reported, and banned*

Poster A: damn I disagreed with her but she didn't deserve to be banned, fucking transmisogynist website and it's transfem banwaves.

Poster B: Just because she was gross and scary doesn't mean she deserved to be banned like that. Fucking transphobic website. Bet those nasty TERFs mass reported her.

Poster C: This banwave is fucked up but we need to remember this user was banned for grooming minors and harassing the people calling them out for it. Don't valorize an abuser just because the mod team is bigoted.

Like fucking clockwork on this webbed site

[autogynophelia]

Three things have happened in my local trans community in the past month:

A transmasc drag queen made a call-out post about how a newly-out local trans woman is a sexual predator. (The sexual offence was that, 6 years ago, before she came out, she was at a drag show with the drag queen (who was her friend at the time) and joked that the drag queen's makeup looked a bit like semen.) The trans woman spiralled, got drunk, got hit by a car, and is currently in hospital.

A newly-out trans woman and a trans man met at a local trans support group. They decided to meet up again at a local pub. She apparently asked questions about his transition that he considered invasive, and in a voice that was too loud and risked outing him to other people in the venue. She now faces being banned from the support group.

The only trans woman who volunteers to run that support group is being kicked off the team by the trans man who is in charge of it. The reason is that she once told the guy in charge to "stop talking" when he was giving her several instructions at once, and also that a different transmasc volunteer has said they find her "creepy" and don't want to be alone with her.

All three trans women are autistic, isolated, and don't have much practice with irl socialising. Maybe they're a little bit loud, maybe a little bit abrasive, maybe they misjudge the appropriateness of sexual comment to a friend at a drag show, maybe they're too keen to make a new friend that they get excitable and speak too loud and ask too many questions, maybe they get overstimulated by being told too many instructions and need you to stop for a second to give them space.

Maybe their behaviour that you consider weird and unsettling is actually a trauma response to a childhood and adolescence of isolation and bullying.

And you know what the funny thing is? I have been sexually harassed at a drag show by the drag queen in (1), who was performing and making sexual jokes about various people in the audience. I have been in a public place with the trans man in (2) while he asked me loud invasive questions about my HRT regimen and about child abuse I suffered. And I have been misgendered and deadnamed repeatedly by the trans man in (3).

And do you know what I did about any of these things? Nothing, beyond saying "Hey, I'd appreciate if you don't do that next time 👍 No hard feelings 🙂". Because, not only am I aware that people make mistakes, and I consider trans men and transmascs a vulnerable demographic and it would be a totally unjust overreaction from me to attempt to socially isolate them for these offences.

But also, I don't have the social power to do anything about these things anyway, even if I wanted to. My normal response to experiencing even serious abuse at a queer event is to simply stop attending it, isolating myself, and perhaps telling a few close friends about it. Because I already know that my complaints will not be taken seriously.

Trans women are being isolated irl every day for behaviours that other demographics can do with impunity. They are not given any grace, any benefit of the doubt, any second chances, and complaints about even the smallest offence will be taken seriously and escalated. And they will not be able to fight back, because a trans woman who fights back is just confirming all the bigoted assumptions that the wider world already has about her.

[tankie-transfeminist]

This is transfeminism!

[tpwrtrmnky]

I think the normalisation of treating political theories as these completely static Belief Systems that never evolve or respond to material conditions is really weird and anti-intellectual.

Like why are you going back to the shit ideas theorists had in the 60s when talking about a field with people actively contributing right now?

Do you know what physicists believed in the 60s? Do you think some number of physicists not believing in neutrinos in the 60s is a relevant indictment of physicists working on neutrino detectors today?

Have you considered that when you take a theory that started off from one perspective half a century ago and then got significant academic critique for that in following decades, and act like the modern state of the theory is unchanged, you are erasing the work of the people who contributed THEIR perspectives?

[inept-2-a-degree]

Very annoying when someone decides you're no longer mentally ill because you "seem normal now" when in reality you've just learned how to be careful around them

[tearsofrefugees]

Hundreds of migrants are vanishing in the Mediterranean. Authorities are withholding information

The beginning of 2026 ranks as the deadliest start to any year for people trying to cross the Mediterranean. But the true count may be even

[iteration-dave]

"Human rights groups are increasingly struggling to verify tolls as Italy, Tunisia and Malta have quietly restricted information on migrant rescues and shipwrecks along the deadliest migration route in the world. The news barely makes headlines, in part because the lack of transparency prevents journalists from confirming reports.

“It’s a strategy of silence,” said Matteo Villa, a researcher focusing on migration and data at the Italian Institute for International Political Studies think tank."

[theinklingofcats]

The Associated Press repeatedly asked authorities in Tunisia, Italy and Malta why they aren’t sharing information related to migrant rescues at sea and what their policies are. Not one responded.

[flowercrowncrip]

I saw you made a post before about how you didnt know how carers are supposed to act can you maybe give some points about it because i might need one soon and im wondering whats good and bad

Honestly I’m still figuring it out, but here are some things I think I’ve figured out so far:

- carers should not act like you are a massive inconvenience if you need help/ ask for something to be done differently

- carers are not your friend while they are at work. They can be friendly and you can be friendly back, but they aren’t your friend while at work. Again this can be tricky, and I have one carer who I’m now friends (and colleagues) with, but there are important differences. When they were still my carer there were different social rules.

-if you go to a group or event a carer should be in the background unless you’ve specified otherwise. I once went to a trans group with a cis carer who spoke (a lot) during a group discussion. This was absolutely not okay. I really struggled with this at first because it would be so rude to do this in other forms of relationships. Becoming okay with this and insistent on it has improved my life so much.

- carers don’t get a say in what you do, wear, or go unless that is part of their job (say if you need help to tell what clothes are appropriate for the weather). This is a big difference between friends and carers. If I’m going somewhere with a friend they might suggest alternatives they find more fun, a carer shouldn’t do this.

- carers should respect that they are in your home/ life. So they shouldn’t leave their stuff all over your house, even if they stay for several days at a time. They shouldn’t move things without you asking. I have a room in my house where my carers stay overnight, and a designated cupboard in the kitchen/ shelf on the fridge and I expect their things to stay in those spaces.

That’s what I can think of off the top of my head. Anyone who has a carer is free to add to this.

[batgirlpits]

I feel looking for/making cosiness in video games while somewhat underestandable is kind of a reactionary impulse. Like, you're trying to make art that's purposefully non-challenging, that means you're making art that's within the accepted views of the majority which means that even if you're not explicitly bigoted, you're very implicitly bigoted.

Like, why can't I name a single cosy video game where I can be disabled, fat, or have curly hair? Why can I think of so few disabled, fat, or explicitlly non-white NPCs in cosy games? Why is your fucking grandpa white in star dew valley even if you're Black???? Like it's a genre covered in hitler paricles.

I am not saying you can't want to relax or turn your brain off or want gentle media. But demand better from it. Demand that games that are safe and cosy for you are safe and cosy for the marginalised too.

[blackfolksintime]

[creatingblackcharacters]

"Regardless of whether they want to or have to, able bodied negro women in Greenville who are not regularly employed are to be put to work, put in jail, or fined heavily."

All because "it is exceedingly difficult for families who need cooks and laundresses to get them." Think about that. Imagine calling an entire group of people lazy, when you're putting them to work because you don't want to. 😐

[brownsugarcoffy]

This is why I say black women liberation is different from white women liberation. We have two different experiences when it comes to our womanhood.

[lizbehave]

THANK YOU!!!

[inept-2-a-degree]

If i were anything but human I'd be euthanized for behavioral issues

[inept-2-a-degree]

Seriously threw a tantrum cuz i spilled my partners food on the bed. It was an accident fine idc I STILL SPILLED IT CUZ IM STUPID IM STUPID AND I SPILL THINGS AND NOW THE BED IS RUINED NOW I GET TO SLEEP IN SHITTY HAMBURGER HELPER AND MY PARTNER NEEDS NEW FOOD AND ITS CUS IM A DUMB FUCKING IDIOT WHO CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHATS BEING SAID UNTIK ITS TOO LSTE FUCK ME FUCJ ME FUCK ME I HATE YOU

[inept-2-a-degree]

If i were anything but human I'd be euthanized for behavioral issues

[mousidy]

"I really would not like to be treated like my body makes me dangerous" OK but sorry, transphobia aside, that is just part of being a human. Your hands can strangle someone. Your fists can punch. Your legs can stomp hard enough to crack bone. The fact that you are presumably an adult means that you could, theoretically pose a sexual danger to any child or sufficiently disabled person or elder. There is no world in which you do not have to earn people's trust to be in vulnerable situations with them. That is a fact of fucking life. Why are you always going on about how you don't want to prove yourself? Are people wary of you? Probably the reason people are wary of you is that you seem to expect to access other people's vulnerability without doing the *necessary* work to prove you are a safe person who can hold boundaries. Be a safe adult, I believe in you.

me when I don't know what it's like to be part of a marginalized group that has been heavily fearmongered about in mass media

[mousidy]

it's like... yeah. I know. I hold a capacity for harm. there are many people around the world who put in the hours 24/7 to remind trans women of this, lol. the hard part isn't learning that

the hard part is opening up, relaxing, being tender and letting tenderness come to you

the hard part is noting the ways that the rhetoric that binds you finds its way even into the beliefs of those close to you, and knowing that there is a wall between you that means you will always be a loaded gun to them

the hard part is noticing how these walls don't exist between yourself and other trans women, because the footing is equal. it's wondering whether this ease of trust and closeness with other trans women is how it feels all the time for other people. it's wondering what it's like on the other side, where you don't only ever feel truly safe among people from 0.5% of the world population

to be privileged is to take for granted how often you mingle with people with whom you are on equal footing, because nobody's fearmongering about you and nobody's fearmongering about them. you do not get contemptuous glances from strangers. to be privileged is to think that one can simply pull themselves up by their bootstraps and no longer be bound by the rhetoric that makes their kind monsters

[mousidy]

I have been abused all my life by people who could not conceptualize their own capacity to harm, and none of them have been trans women

[lifesgrandparade]

I want you guys to all start making a bigger stink about Tumblr's Age Verification Horseshit.

[lifesgrandparade]

Like they tried to change Reblogs and people rightfully got up in arms, this is a LOT worse. In order to have access to any sort of thing dubbed mature, and We haveALL seen what they think is mature, Everything from a black and white photo of a black woman's arm, to posts about IUD recalls, to a nude painted by a 17th century artist, to anything involving the word Trans; you have to send your personal information to a third party site that WILL get hacked, and you will be doxxed. And they can say "Oh shit, well it wasn't us who sent your name address and gender identity to Moldovan teenagers, here's a couple extra minutes in the ball pit.

That's bad enough!!!!!!!! But the entire idea of needing permission from state authorities to access anything labeled mature by our friendly AI overlords is some fucking Boll shit. Die Gedenken Sind Frie baby. This is all a reaction to people getting uppity about their lowly lowly rights and is being propped up by the same bad actors tht have made life unlivable. Fuck that shit.

"Well it's only being rolled out in Brazil and UK" Yeah, to start. "Well they're being forced to do this by laws." YOu know it's always really funny when these tech giants (Or whatever you call owning tumblr dot com) get really antsy about laws considering they pick and choose which ones they abide by.

This is a breaking point and it's going to be very interesting to see how we proceed from here.

[draculadhd]

"Well it's only being rolled out in Brazil and UK" really struck chord with me. like wow, these losers really only care when bad things happen in the US.

[shotatoga]

im really wondering if they had a choice in the matter. if they do then yeah its some bullshit that theyre doing this like what the fuck

[inept-2-a-degree]

Embarrassed to admit that one time I created a femboy oc so tgirl coded that as soon as one of my transfemme friends pointed it out I transitioned her.

To be clear, I'm embarrassed this had to be pointed out to me rather than me recognizing it myself.

Looking back on it, I think in part I thought it'd be offensive to assign that level of angst to a trans woman oc as a trans man. The character has been a prostitute and a drug addict from the moment I created her so already that's enough for me to worry about her coming off as a caricature or stereotype.

But then everything I put into her lore, from her love for her long hair, to it being forcibly cut, and so on made this character so obviously a trans woman and not a femboy to my friend, that she pointed it out to me. So I can only hope I don't do anything horrifically stupid with this particular oc because after hearing my friends perspective keeping her a femboy just felt wrong