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Anxiety is a never ending circle that cuts you off at the knees, and keeps kicking you when you’re down.

People Who Have Social Anxiety Disorder Are Terrified Of:

• Talking in front of people • Not knowing how to comfort people • Trying clothes on in a changing room • Answering the door • Talking on/answering the phone • People asking questions • Walking past people • Eye contact • Going into stores • Going outside the house • Busy crowds • Leaving voicemails • Being watched while doing something • Eating in front of people • Ordering food (anywhere) • Interviews • Being in the car • Making decisions • Personal space being violated • When strange people, or anyone you don’t like, are in/around the house • Being paranoid someone can hear me • Feeling self-conscious all the time • Crossing the street • Asking for help • Parties • Participating in class • Working with others • Restaurants • Competition • Voicing opinions • Sleeping with someone else/in someone else’s bed • Being touched • Being touched sexually • Holidays • Being seen naked • Hearing people laugh nearby • Public bathrooms/shy bladder • Starting/keeping a conversation • Feeling like people hate me • Always preparing what to say 100x • Being touched/hugged by people I’m not comfortable with • Feeling like people judge what I say • Not being able to get over embarrassing/stupid things I’ve done/said • Saying “no” • Being a pushover • Rejection • Coming on too strong • Seeing people I know in public • Making new friends • Being embarrassed • Being the center of attention • Working in groups • Being late • Being stared at • Being introduced • Worrying about people liking me • Being criticized • Meeting people in authority

dilfgmancoolatta

Also just because you’re not terrified of all of these things or even the majority does not mean you’re faking

headlikealamb

pantsareunwelcome

tumblr after dark is kind of like…

kanyewestest

NO YOU DONT GET IT IM HAPF ASLEEP AND IM IN TEARS FROM LAUGHIN

grandtheftautothree-blog

this looks like a rap video

mirrepp

Some harsh but very very true words

howtonotsuckatgamedesign

When people let me review their portfolios (on career day or open days at my game design school) I explicitly ban them from commenting during the review… …because otherwise they will follow the impulse to downplay everything I see in an attempt at being humble. "this is an old image…"

"I’m not happy with that one…" "this is just a sketch…"

"I did this really quickly…" "there is better stuff on later pages…" It’s totally understandable to have those impulses. The quality of art is not empirical data and therefore impossible to measure. Good art, bad art, it all comes down to standards. And you don’t want to come off as naive or self-absorbed. But just don’t do it. Don’t talk yourself down in front of others. In the best case you have someone supportive who now thinks “damn, this person needs to be prepped up all the time. Do I really want to work with somebody like that” or in worst case “now that you say it, yeah, this is kinda lame/rushed/unfinished/lazy, go away.” You can only submit what you have. If that is not enough, then it’s not enough. Your attitude will not change that. But if it is enough, you can do serious harm by not being confident of who you are now. This means appreciating what you are able to do right now and have a clear vision of what you want to learn, be confident that you will learn it in time. Be proud.

naamahdarling

This is really important. Eliminate this urge. Eliminate it professionally, when having contact with people in a position to buy your work. Eliminate it socially, when you just share your work for fun. Destroy this urge as thoroughly as you possibly can.

Because when you have done that, you’ll find that you feel at least 25% less shitty about your own work. You lose the urge to do it. You stop reinforcing those negative thoughts, and they retreat. They may never go away completely (although they might!) but this is good practice for ignoring those thoughts flat-out.

Don’t shit-talk yourself. Even if you can’t be SO PROUD, don’t ever try to influence anyone’s opinion toward your work in the negative.

Try to love your work. Try to see what you learned from each piece, even if it’s a failure. If you feel that you learned nothing, appreciate the fact that just spending time on it is honing your skills and giving you valuable practice.

i used to be super not-confident in my own work. When I stopped pointing out the flaws in my own stuff, I felt better about it almost immediately.

saucywenchwritingblog

THIS! I see so many people post art or stories and say it’s just a drabble or doodle, it probably isn’t any good, people aren’t going to like it.

There are always going to be people who are willing to tear you down. Don’t do their work for them. Even if you can’t say good things, it doesn’t mean you have to say negative things.

paisleypawpads

And don’t ever use it as a reason to ask for what amounts to pennies when you take commissions. Pre-devaluing it gives others the right to bully you further or ask why you should get paid for your work at all and then treat other artists in such a fashion. If you don’t feel you’re good enough - take the time to improve beforehand. If you want practice do some freebies, but take them seriously. Enough with the “I really need money here’s hours of my work for $1 because it’s not really good”. Have some more respect, especially for your self and your work.

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Rationalist Masterlist

This post is an attempt to list all the aspiring rationalists on tumblr. If you want to be on the list and are not on it ask me in my askbox or reblog this list saying that you want to be on it. If you just reblog it I won’t put you on the list. You do not need to post any rationality-related content to be on this list. You don’t need to visit Less Wrong or be able to quote Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality. If you identify as an aspiring rationalist, like the Sequences, HPMOR, Three Worlds Collide, the Sword of Good, Luminosity… or just want to hang out with the weird, eclectic group that aspiring rationalists make up you are welcome. If you are on the list and don’t want to be on the list, either tell me through an ask or by reblogging this post and saying so. I would like to thank Ozy for originally making the list. This list is a continuation of zir list.

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