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he wasn't even looking at me and he found me
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Everyone in the group chat loves and supports Bella x Max. How can you draw something so human and tender and sweet by Accident.
SO TRUEEE
That’s our ocs now
Reminiscing on this and I remembered someone drew a good faith version of this and it is SO SWEET
The sign in the background that indicates that Kiki just moved in with Bella genuinely makes me want to cry. This is what being a furry is all about
(https://www.furaffinity.net/view/63102968/)
TURNING RED (2022) Dir. Domee Shi
Everyone go home, this is the only acceptable plza meme from now on.
Millennials who think they’re entirely detached from JKRs bigotry because they’e marauders fanfic writers or whatever the fuck are the most annoying people on the planet not only that but you guys talk about fanfiction of a bad children’s series like you’re the joker.
"bad childrens series" and it's one of the most popular and beloved pieces of media on the planet.
yeah ok and there are millions of people on the planet who thought the office was good
The series was only popular because Scholastics could smell money and marketing seeping from her shitty ‘The Slaves Like Being Slaves’ books that happened to fill a niche
That and AOLTimeWarner owned everything so they could shove HP advertisements down our collective throats as much as they want
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PTSD & DID
Today I wanted to touch a little bit about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD.
A large part of having DID is also having and coping with PTSD. My therapist recommended a very helpful book and I would like to pass the recommendation on. It’s called “The PTSD Workbook: Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms” and it is a pretty good starting point if you are just being diagnosed with PTSD. You can find it here.
Personally, I have “go to” strategies when dealing with PTSD, and that is what I would like to share.
Knowing my Triggers - Prevention is the key here. I think it is very important to know my triggers. That way I can avoid, a flashback, dissociative episode, or a switch. Knowing my triggers and avoid them all together is by far the easiest route to take, however, it’s not always practical. For instance, sometimes there are things that trigger me that I didn’t know where triggers or that are unavoidable; like the way a certain word is said or a look.
Grounding - Grounding is way for me to stay in the present when I feel I’m about to go into a flashback or dissociation. I used to think that a good way to do this was to listen to some music, until I realized that I dissociate into my music. But in may be a good way for you. Some ways I ground now are to smell a peppermint - I always have a few on me - or anything strong smelling, have a bite or sip of something sour, grab onto a piece of ice (this one isn’t very practical unless I’m at home or in a restaurant), or concentrate on my surrounds - for instance see how many red things I can find or count the chairs etc.
Meditation - As stress is a very big trigger for me, I like to meditate, especially if I know that the day is going to be a stressful one. This can be a preventative measure or one used as a way of avoiding an impeding flashback or dissociative state. Personally, I only use it as a preventative measure because if I use it as a deterrent I find it only pulls me into the flash back or dissociative state faster.
Bringing a friend - Sometimes the best thing you can do is have a friend around who knows about your PTSD/DID. I like to have my boyfriend around especially if I know I may be going into a triggering situation. This way if I do have flashback or switch, he is there to help me with it.
I hope this proves to be helpful to someone besides me. Again, I highly recommend this book to anyone who has been diagnosed with PTSD.
Thanks for reading. Until next time, Kay
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Recognizing emotionally mature people
Taken from Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, Psy.D. A summary of the tips the book hands you on how to recognize emotionally healthy people.
They’re realistic and reliable
They work with reality rather than fighting it. They see problems and try to fix them, instead of overreacting with a fixation on how things should be.
They can feel and think at the same time. The ability to think even when upset makes an emotionally mature person someone you can reason with. They don’t lose their ability to see another perspective just because they aren’t getting what they want.
Their consistency makes them reliable. Because they have an integrated sense of self, they usually won’t surprise you with unexpected inconsistencies.
They don’t take everything personally. They can laugh at themselves and their foibles. They’re realistic enough to not feel unloved just because you made a mistake.
They’re respectful and reciprocal
They respect your boundaries. They’re looking for connection and closeness, not intrusion, control or enmeshment. They respect your individuality and that others have the final say on what their motivations are. They may tell you how they feel about what you did, but they don’t pretend to know you better than you know yourself.
They give back. They don’t like taking advantage of people, nor do they like the feeling of being used.
They are flexible and compromise well. Because collaborative, mature people don’t have an agenda to win at all costs, you won’t feel like you’re being taken advantage of. Compromise doesn’t mean mutual sacrifice; it means a mutual balancing of desires. They care about how you feel and don’t want to leave you feeling unsatisfied.
They’re even-tempered. They don’t sulk or pout for long periods of time or make you walk on eggshells. When angered, they will usually tell you what’s wrong and ask you to do things differently. They’re willing to take the initiative to bring conflict to a close.
They are willing to be influenced. They don’t feel threatened when other people see things differently, nor are they afraid of seeming weak if they don’t know something. They may not agree, but they’ll try to understand your point of view.
They’re truthful. They understand why you’re upset if they lie or give you a false impression.
They apologize and make amends. They want to be responsible for their own behavior and are willing to apologize when needed.
They’re responsive
Their empathy makes you feel safe. Along with self-awareness, empathy is the soul of emotional intelligence.
They make you feel seen and understood. Their behavior reflects their desire to really get to know you, rather than looking for you to mirror them. They aren’t afraid of your emotions and don’t tell you that you should be feeling some other way.
They like to comfort and be comforted. They are sympathetic and know how crucial friendly support can be.
They reflect on their actions and try to change. They clearly understand how people affect each other emotionally. They take you seriously if you tell them about a behavior of theirs that makes you uncomfortable. They’ll remain aware of the issue and demonstrate follow-through in their attempts to change.
They can laugh and be playful. Laughter is a form of egalitarian play between people and reflects an ability to relinquish control and follow someone else’s lead.
They’re enjoyable to be around. They aren’t always happy, but for the most part they seem able to generate their own good feelings and enjoy life.
– © Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Lindsay C. Gibson, Psy.D.
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Passing: Profiling the Lives of Young Trans Men of Color (2015).
[ID: Excerpts from interviews with two trans men. The first, Lucah Rosenberg Lee, has a shaved head and a trimmed beard. The second, Victor Thomas, has curly black hair and a trimmed beard, and is heavier-set.
Lucah, talking about gender dysphoria prior to transitioning, says, “I was in a heterosexual relationship. I was female. I would question this all the time. Am I attracted to these men, or do I just want to be them? That was a big turning point in my own self-discovery.”
Victor, talking about the transphobia he’s endured as a trans man of color, says, “You’re subjected to something because they don’t understand you. And you have to watch the way you react, because you’re a man now. People take you as a threat.”
Lucah, in another scene, discusses feeling erased as a trans man, and racism in trans communities. He says, “Being so invisible within the LGBT community can actually feel so isolating. When people don’t know my history as a trans person, I feel sometimes that I’m viewed as more of an enemy.” END ID.]
Trans men of color deserve to be loved and appreciated, and made safe. Trans men deserve access to our own spaces, no matter how masculine and cis-passing we are. We deserve credit and recognition for the contributions that we have made to trans history, most of which are erased nowadays.
Being a man is not dangerous or wrong. Being masculine is not dangerous or wrong. Being a black man is not dangerous or wrong.
Please support trans men of color.
Please support trans men.
Please support men.
Men belong in trans spaces. Men of color belong in LGBT+ spaces. Straight trans men belong at Pride. Men do not have to be feminine to be queer.
more people need to give themselves permission to write and draw pornography
it is virtuous and necessary that you write, draw, and distribute pornography
horrible news: you have to practice to level up your skills because it's unrealistic to think you'll be good at everything first try
this applies to unlearning things like shame and creating better coping mechanisms and forming new habits
It is your responsibility to heal, but you know what? That wasn’t fair. And I want to acknowledge that.
You don’t deserve to have to heal from the things others did to you. You didn’t deserve what happened.
While you do have to do the work to heal, it’s okay to be angry that you have to in the first place. And it’s easy to get stuck on the fact that you shouldn’t have to. And I get that. But please don’t give up. You should heal because you deserve to be the healed you. It’s not fair you have to do it, but you deserve to heal.
Eroticism is simply one of the basic modes of human expression and the fact that it terrifies people who have built their lives out of repression and self denial is only more reason to make erotic art. They will not stop with their own lives, they want to punish anyone who doesn’t conform to the same standards of cruelty they heap on themselves. But of course it will not work. It has never worked before. Even under the most adverse conditions beauty has always found ways of flourishing. We refuse to hide or live in shame and fear. We will make beautiful that which they find repulsive.
shoutout to systems with only a few members that front, even if that's only one member. no matter how big or small your system is, no matter how you count how many of you there are. your experience is real because you experience it. our brains are very complex and weird and there's no reason your experience is "wrong" or "invalid." you don't have to live up to anyone's standard. you can just exist. all of you.
