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[aretheyaterf]

ATAT on hiatus until further notice.

Hey all, Mod Sylvan here. Running this blog has gotten pretty stressful right now for me and Mod Andy is busy with work, so we're going on an indefinite hiatus for the time being.

However, this does not mean the blog will be radio silent. We’re hoping to share trans positivity and art, in queue, to help uplift, spread love and positivity, but most importantly, support you guys. You’re free to tag us in your own art, whether that is a painting, photography, writing, needlework, you name it!

We know things are hard right now, given the state of the world, so to combat this, the blogs little hiatus from the serious, will help fight back against the constant flow of bad news, and try and brighten your day just a little.

We love you all!

[material-possessions]

I’ve found this comment from the author of Whipping Girl (yes, that book) to be very… relevant!

There’s also this part near the end of her essay which stood out to me concerning transandrophobia. Not only did she already say that she failed to acknowledge transmascs/men in her book (I forgot where I saw that, if anyone has a link I’d love to add it in) but she seems to actively acknowledge the mistreatment transmascs/men face!

The essay is linked at the end

This feels… I don’t know if ironic is the right word but it’s definitely odd that many transandrophobes cite the book Whipping Girl yet the creator is against the mistreatment of transmascs/men. Huh, some food for thought.

Penises, Privilege, and Feminist & LGBTQ+ Purity Politics

Content Warning: while I will not be describing any actual instances of sexual violence, this issue (and false accusations thereof) will be…

[transfeminist-action]

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[cerulean235-deactivated]

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[chongoblog]

you resisted the forcefemmification beams for too long

Nope. Completely incorrect and wrong.

This is a decision that I made for myself. I made this choice because it's who I want to be. Not because someone else wanted me to for their own pleasure.

[paper-mario-wiki]

hey to all those people a few months ago in mine and Jenny's notifs saying "cis guys are so sensitive lol whats wrong with being called a trans girl" i want you to know you actively made it feel less safe for my friend to transition for, quite literally, years. there is a difference between speculating openly about the gender of a fictional character, and the gender of a living human being who has asked people to stop doing so.

you didnt "force open" the egg. you didnt help. you told her "this isnt your choice, nor is it important. what you are is mundane and obvious, and we can all see it. stop pretending." that isnt encouragement. thats impatient and reductive. that's childishness. you threw an ideological tantrum when she asked you to stop. you threw a bigger one when other trans girls who actually know her asked you to stop.

you arent her friend. it wasnt your place to speak with familiarity as if you were. you made it more difficult for a public figure to come out as trans, and she was asking you to stop the entire time. that is the irrevocable truth.

there is no universal "best way" to have your egg cracked. if you keep trying to crack eggs that you shouldn't, youre going to end up with a lot of dead birds who you denied the opportunity to fly, all because you wanted to be in some part responsible for how beautiful you thought it might become.

[earsandtailsarefeet]

@sunspotpony this feels like it's at the heart of conversations we had on this a bit back maybe

[sunspotpony]

Every time I ask people to stop trying to force this shit or express discomfort about how this kind of stuff can and does hurt people, and then talk about my own active discomfort, I get called a TERF, for “parroting the kind of rhetoric that they use to discourage trans women from getting the support they need.”

And I’m like: You’re also just hurting trans women too. And also everybody else. Stop fucking misgendering people. Trust people on their own. Encourage them to examine their own gender, absolutely, but realize that misgendering people, even those you’re SURE have some SERIOUS GENDER THINGS HAPPENING — when you say you know someone’s gender better than they do, because you know “the signs,” you’re saying that there is a prescriptive truth of gender, that you can secretly detect a person’s gender just by looking at them. And that’s… that’s a lot more like terf shit, actually than me asking folks to not maybe consider at least not misgendering strangers in my presence because it makes me personally uncomfortable.

But nope, I’m just some sort of fucking monster who needs to “unlearn terf shit and read Whipping Girl so that I understand the needs of trans women better, and learn how misgendering them before they realize they’re women will actually bring them comfort and safety.”

[sunspotpony]

THIS. Too important to leave in the tags.

This is a practice that can literally endanger folks for a million and one reasons, especially now that there are things like bathroom bills and the like everywhere.

It can stunt peoples’ opportunity for growth. It can out people trying to stay stealth. Often too, when people say “egg” they almost always mean exclusively “binary opposite gender,” and try to force somebody into a gender that may well not be theirs, even if that person DOES have gender going on, and will eventually be trans. Maybe that person will turn out to be nonbinary. Maybe they’ll be agender. Genderfluid. Maybe they’ll just be a cis man who discovers he enjoys the performative masculinity of Rockabilly.

All these reasons and more — it’s fine to refer to yourself as having been as an egg. It’s fine to refer to hypothetical groups, like “Eggs in the south are going to have an extra hard time right now,”— but directly asserting someone else is an egg, overrides their autonomy, self determination, and possibly their safety. And you’re even more likely to do damage if you presume what kind of egg they are.

If you really do want to help people, don’t try to force this shit on them. If you know them well, be open with them and say “you seem to be sharing a lot of experiences that a lot of your trans peers have gone through.

“Here’s some media that even if you’re not trans, may resonate with you for different but similar reasons.”

Or “have you considered just trying out, doing an experiment safely among your peers to see if it makes you feel different?”

“Doesn’t even have to be a big thing. Worst case scenario it’s just you and your friends having a good time together and maybe having a laugh.”

Unsurprisingly, the answer here is love and support without judgement or pretense, with a high respect for autonomy.

[audhdspacewizard]

Yeah there's a huge difference between "Have you ever considered exploring your gender?" and "I am assigning you this specific gender right now and you have no say in the matter."

[renthony]

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[fish-arent-real]

Absolutely baffling that this needs to be said... but if you are chosing to loudly (and proudly) hate trans men, you are transphobic. End of discussion. It's not super secretly justified because they're Men™, you're chosing to spread hatred for trans people based on their identity. You are just a run of the mill transphobe and will be treated like all the rest of them, as dangerous and unwelcome.

[problematicpeniswriting]

Everyone who unironically says stupid shit like "transandrobros" and thinks transmascs are only "experiencing a fractions of actual oppression for the first time" needs to shut the fuck up and apologize to coloured transmascs and ESPECIALLY black trans mascs. You need to apologize to fucking disabled and neurodivergent transmascs. Yeah, sorry, not everyone's white and multiple aspects of our identities can oppress us.

Edit: AND INTERSEX PEOPLE

[epic-sorcerer]

And especially apologize to @st-dionysus, the Latino creator of the term transandrophobia. I’m so sick of his race and disability status being erased because transphobes can’t stand the idea of a man being oppressed for being trans, disabled, and Latino.

I believe these aspects of St are ignored because in order to acknowledge them, one must also acknowledge that specific bigotries DO exist for the intersections of disabled men and Latino men. After that acknowledgment is made, it is then impossible to delegitimize the existence of transandrophobia.

Marginalized masculinity is marginalized in a specific way when paired with masculinity. Any trait a privileged masculine person is praised and elevated for is conversely demonized and punished in a marginalized masculine person. This has been and will always be true.

[silliestbutch]

Transfem Butch Books:

The Scales of Seduction by Rien Gray [historical fiction, retelling, erotica]: An erotic lesbian monster novella reinterpreting the Medusa myth. Romance between Medusa and a basilisk warrior. Transfem butch protagonist.

Reverse Tomboy by Auto Anon [literary fiction, autofiction, essays]: A novella about a trans woman who struggles with relationships, familial dynamics, and reclaiming her masculinity after transitioning. Comes with an essay on transfeminine butchness and masculinities. Transfem Jewish butch protagonist and author.

Hot Girls with Balls by Benedict Nguyen [litfic, satire]: A contemporary satire novel about two trans lesbian volleyball players, who have to grapple with the anxieties of stardom as well as their their own off-court relationship drama. Transfem Asian-American protagonist. Transfem author.

Little Blue Encyclopedia (for Vivian) by Hazel Jane Plante [litfic]: A trans lesbian mourns her straight trans friend, and comes to terms with her death by writing a personalized encyclopedia/love letter about the latter's favorite obscure TV show. Transfem soft butch protagonist. Transfem author.

Herculine by Grace Byron [litfic, horror]: A disaffected and traumatized young woman arrives at an all-trans girls commune founded by her toxic ex-girlfriend, only to discover something sinister afoot. Transfem butch love interest and side characters. Transfem author.

Our Monsters by Jemma Topaz (mystery, erotica, satire): In a futuristic city inhabited by monsters, a human woman tries to solve a series of grisly murders, while romancing several monster girls. Transfem butch love interest (poly romance, not the only love interest). Transfem author.

Always open to recs. Transfem butches are loved and appreciated, and I don't tolerate invisibilization of transfeminine people when speaking of butchness and lesbian masculinity.

toss a coin to a silly butch 🐻

[papercook1e]

Whoever wrote this, slayed so hard with all these statements, truer words have never been spoken

[genderkoolaid]

And not everyone who will be affected by this is actually a woman. Transgender men and nonbinary people are very much included in the "independent women" they want to break and trap.

It's vital that trans men & nonbinary people are not left out of this discussion, as forced marriages have already been used as a forced detransitioning tactic for centuries, and trans men & nonbinary people have always been extremely negatively affected by being unable to be financially independent, fully reliant on your cis male husband, especially when you have a child or multiple children, especially at a young age.

Misogynistic laws kill trans men and nonbinary people. And this is not accidental, it's not an unintended result, it is on purpose. We need to be aware of this now more than ever.

[beaft]

i must admit i also find it hard to take seriously any sweeping statements that trans women and trans men are perpetually at odds with one another because this has simply not been my lived experience or the lived experience of anybody i know

[papercook1e]

Whoever wrote this, slayed so hard with all these statements, truer words have never been spoken

[genderkoolaid]

And not everyone who will be affected by this is actually a woman. Transgender men and nonbinary people are very much included in the "independent women" they want to break and trap.

It's vital that trans men & nonbinary people are not left out of this discussion, as forced marriages have already been used as a forced detransitioning tactic for centuries, and trans men & nonbinary people have always been extremely negatively affected by being unable to be financially independent, fully reliant on your cis male husband, especially when you have a child or multiple children, especially at a young age.

Misogynistic laws kill trans men and nonbinary people. And this is not accidental, it's not an unintended result, it is on purpose. We need to be aware of this now more than ever.

[genderkoolaid]

Cis Students Were Suspended for Calling Trans Kid a "Girl Boy." Now Trump's DOJ Is Defending Them

The school alleges there was“relentless harassment.”

Two Christian students at Loudoun County Public Schools (LCPS) filed suit against the district in September, after they were reportedly suspended for sexually harassing a trans boy who uses boys’ locker rooms and bathrooms at school. DOJ officials filed a motion to intervene in the students’ lawsuit on Monday, claiming that the LCPS school board violated the 14th Amendment by suspending the students and by enforcing trans-inclusive school policies against them. The students are represented by America First Legal, the far-right law firm founded by white nationalist and Trump administration official Stephen Miller. “Loudoun County’s decision to advance and promote gender ideology tramples on the rights of religious students who cannot embrace ideas that deny biological reality,” Assistant Attorney General for the Office of Human Rights (OCR) Harmeet K. Dhillon claimed in a press release Monday. Dhillon was tapped for the OCR position last December, after previously working as a legal advisor to President Donald Trump and representing “detransitioner” activist Chloe Cole in her lawsuit against healthcare provider Kaiser Permanente. In a supporting memo, the DOJ alleged that LCPS violated the cisgender students’ rights by requiring them to use the trans student’s pronouns and respect his presence in boys’ facilities. Those requirements “go against their sincere religious beliefs and practice, which require using sex-aligned pronouns and using sex-segregated intimate spaces,” the memo claims. The students’ families say their children only made comments expressing that they were “uncomfortable” sharing a bathroom with the trans student, and their lawsuit claims that a Muslim student who expressed similar sentiments was not suspended. But in an October response, district officials said that the cis students had actually engaged in “relentless harassment” of the trans student throughout the 2024-2025 academic year, with one of the plaintiffs allegedly yelling “girl boy” at him repeatedly in a school hallway. The trans student made audio recordings of the harassment and filed a Title IX discrimination claim of his own in March of this year “which LCPS was obligated to investigate,” leading to the suspensions, the district contended. LCPS was one of five Virginia school districts labeled “high risk” by the Department of Education (DOE) in August, citing district policies that allow trans students to use facilities that align with their gender. In September, one day after the students first sued LCPS, the DOE concluded that LCPS “failed to treat the male students equitably” in its Title IX investigation.

[modern-politics111]

Colorado state sports association settles lawsuit by allowing schools to ban trans athletes - LGBTQ Nation

The Colorado High School Activities Association promised not to sanction anti-trans schools.

[analog-delight]

hey girlies who follow me, please put a space in between trans and woman in your bio. i'm begging you.

[analog-delight]

if you're wondering about the difference:

"trans woman" refers to a woman (you, presumably) who is transgender.

"transwoman" is a terf dogwhistle

[hotvampireadjacent]

Transanta

Send gifts to trans youth in need, safely and anonymously!

Saw this posted on blu sky.

"Transanta is a mutual aid project that connects anonymous gift-givers with trans youth who are unhoused, in foster care, or otherwise without crucial support they need to thrive."

[justsomeguycore]

also while i’m ranting about gender i always see debate about whether girls are rewarded for being tomboys or not and it’s like. actually girls are rewarded for mirroring whatever the situation demands of them. girls can’t be too prissy and refuse to play in the creek, but girls also can’t show up to girly events covered in mud. girls can’t have makeup art as a hobby or else they’re superficial, but if they never wear makeup they’re a slob and dumpy, etc. it’s not that girls are universally rewarded or punished for being tomboys, they’re rewarded for bending over backwards to always be exactly right for any given situation and punished for breaking those boundaries. so yes a classically pretty girl who cleans up nice is rewarded when she can ALSO be a tomboy. but a girl who is a tomboy all the time is definitely punished for never being able to achieve that prerequisite feminine side. this debate is over now thanks

[lousyfuckingratboy]

this is spot on. A woman's masculinity is rewarded as long as it doesn't conflict with being heteronormatively attractive and as long as the masculinity plays harmonising second fiddle to the masculinity of the men around her.