In the Mind of Sarah @inthemindofsarah - Tumblr Blog

This is such an important and genuinely terrifying post. I could completely go off on the rise of anti-science, but for now I’ll just add: it isn’t just boomers that get deceived. This is a warning to all of us.

Pay ATTENTION to what you are being told. If you think you cannot be deceived, you leave yourself open to deception. Question, doubt, research research research. Learn about your personal biases, dig up any subconscious cognitive dissonance. Keep an eye on your mind.

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the witcher but with britney spears music (heavily inspired by @paper-records)

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lady macbeth will be like “i know a spot” and then madly try to scour it from her hand while sleepwalking

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Abuse by parents is so insidious, especially emotional abuse. Because parents can be fine and supportive and loving until something doesn’t go their way and then it’s guilt and appeals to authority that border on gaslighting.

Because I don’t know what else to call it when a parent says the way they remember it is the TRUTH, negating a child’s experience and memory and then saying that they are right because they are the parent.

Their version of what happened is the official story and a child gets manipulated into believing it or agreeing with it.

And sometimes these relationships don’t necessarily change when the child becomes an adult, sometimes that child standing up for themselves and holding their ground becomes evidence that they don’t “care” and that they are “unfeeling” or “unappreciative” of what the parent has given them.

And sure, maybe overall they are top tier parents worthy of awards, but so many can’t face that at best they have been using abusive tactics to emotionally manipulate their children.

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The Book of Names lists each person murdered at Auschwitz

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#and you have to remember how many names are most likely missing#from rushed trains and burned lists#from rushed transports and people who died on the death marchs#what about the names from people who died after their liberation#and then…#this is only Auschwitz#this was the biggest camp yes#but just one of many#and then remember sobibor and belsec#and try not to feel sick

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This is why we punch Nazis. This is why this vile ideology must be stamped out viciously every time it tries to come out of its hole.

Never. Again.

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Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between “not obviously pleased” and “obviously displeased” because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that everyone is going to be like that and you start feeling this urge to make absolutely sure that the people you actually care about aren’t mad or upset, because to you, “there’s no evidence that they’re not angry” is the same as “there’s evidence that they are angry”

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I have never heard this put into words before but it explains so much. Even as a kid I was constantly scared my mom was mad just when she was making a neutral expression cause she could go from 0 to 60 with no other warning.

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Omg I didn’t realise. I do this. I’m constantly checking that people are ok and not mad.

Because that’s what my dad did. 0-rage monster in a second.

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Hyper vigilance over other people’s emotional state because of previous / repeated / continuous exposure to volatile people is seriously just…the most exhausting, fucked up, draining, relationship-fucking, driving-yourself-mad thing and it is so rarely explained well or talked about at all and I’m SO GLAD this post is going around. If someone is even slightly less than being 100% positive/happy/approving of me I pick up on it right away, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with me, and I fret and stress and am on edge. Which is so unfair because other people are allowed to have feelings and they’re allowed to express those feelings and it’s almost never about me anyway. And then trying to explain that you expect them to be volatile assholes when they’ve never shown any evidence of being that way, and trying to say that it’s not personal, is almost impossible. Because it’s always taken personally and how can they not, really?

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Sometimes I wonder if you can get this reaction without the abuse part. Because I very much do the “if my person(s) is not obviously happy they must be upset! And it’s probably my fault! And I am bad and horrible! And I should shrink and hide until they’re happy again!” Or I get stubborn, and then get pissed at myself for wanting to hide and them for being upset (even if they’re not! Or they are but it has nothing to do with me, because I am not the center of the universe!) and anything that is even slightly wrong suddenly is the end of the world. But as far as I can tell, I was not ever abused. Or even strongly disaplined (ok, I can’t spell, and confuse autocorrect) as far as disapline went in the 80s and 90s.

But yelling scares me. And people visibly mad scares me. And I have to fight with my brain to not treat other people’s (negative) emotions as my problem (mostly to avoid). And I am so freaking scared of ~failure~ that it’s a massive battle to even try to do something that has any hint of mattering that I don’t already know i can do. I I just can’t figure out where all this ~shit~ came from. At least if there was trama involved, there’d be a reason, you know?

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Sorry if this is strange, but I’m going through the notes on my posts and saw this reblog. This is also something that’s associated with ADHD (as well as other psychological or neurological conditions).Rejection-sensitive dysphoria signals a person’s emotional state to become volatile over the perception of rejection or failure, and the outlook of “I might not succeed so I won’t try” is also commonly associated with ADHD. If you have access to a healthcare provider you feel safe having this discussion with, you might be able to find ways to treat your symptoms; if you don’t, personal research on trustworthy, reliable sites might help you find more information about what, if any, condition you have & discover productive ways to compensate without treatment.

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let him be himself

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Ok

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My favorite Animal Crossing memes, a collection:

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parents who tell their daughters they are ugly are bad parents

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everyone who is replying to this with some variety of “that’s just how life is”

no

your parents fucked up and should not have treated you that way

they were wrong and you should say it

techmomma

This includes implied ugliness.

you need to lose weight

you’ll attract more boys if

you’re wearing that?

i wouldn’t wear that

this will flatter you more

you should wear more makeup

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Another great graphic from @popsci

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This is so great for people with hypochondriasis! This is a rough time for everyone but we don't need people like me getting all anxious over nothing and clogging the system.

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If you can’t breathe, go to the hospital. If you can, drink some tea and get cozy with Netflix. (And take appropriate hygiene procedures like staying away from public spaces and vulnerable loved ones, etc.) Much love to other people with health anxiety, try to keep it simple.