[anxietyproblem]

[stuckinapril]

I love being alone <- girl who has known nothing but loneliness her entire life and so has no choice but to take comfort in it

[demonprincex]

i promise you that nobody has ever in their life thought "wow, this other person inserted absolutely zero friction into my life. they were so efficient and worked so hard to get out of my way. i love them for that." not EVER. not ever ever. if you sublimated your own personhood that hard they didn't even think of you at all. the people we remember in life are the people who got in our way a little, and broke up our routine, who asserted their perspective and gave us something new to think about or feel. that's how we form real relationships -- by inconveniencing one another and actually having a marked influence on one another's lives. to be loved is to be annoyed. and to be annoying at someone. and to be thankful, at the end of it all, that somebody broke you out of yourself for a moment and got in your way.

it's great to be considerate and obviously not every interaction is gonna be special, but you can't go through life as if every person is a cashier that you don't want to get mad at you for asking for an extra bag.

[averagefairy]

being at work while your personal life is falling apart has to be among the top 3 worst human experiences. You’re at your absolute lowest and someone wants to circle back on an email…… unreal

[clawmarks]

The Girl's Own Paper - Vol. 15 - 1894 - via Internet Archive

[random-brushstrokes]

Ernst Oppler - Einladung für einen Ball der Berliner Secession (1926)

[wizardarchetypes]

guy who owns a really really old car: does this parade have a specific theme? actually i don’t care. i’ll be there. yeah i have a really really old car

[bug-leg]

Vine Creature (watercolour)

[tactfullyinappropriate]

It's like we all collectively forgot as a society that friendship and just connection in general takes effort. Even if you meet someone you immediately click with, it takes hanging out about 20 times (!) to become friends. And guess what, some of those 20 meetings might be awkward or unimpressive.

We all want to reap the benefits (having a friend circle, having a partner, getting married) without doing the work (going to events, interacting with people, learning to handle conflict maturely, dating). Myself included. If I could, I'd never leave the house or go on another mediocre date again... except, that's part of the process.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, the cure to the loneliness epidemic is touching some grass and building tolerance for tedious in-person interactions.

[lmaonade]

there is always some fucking laundry and dust and some other shit

[overwelmd]

ren-o-graphics

[stuckinapril]

learning lately that a lot of confidence is about owning up. like "yeah i'm a little addicted to my phone right now" or "yeah i'm not really over this person yet" or "yeah i still get pretty anxious in crowds" just saying anything at all but then following it up w "but i'm trying to get better" and being super nonchalant and unaffected. so powerful. you would literally be undefeatable in the face of even the most judgmental person. no one can judge you for things you already know about yourself and are trying to improve on. the trick is to know yourself from the inside out, to hold yourself accountable, and to actively improve every day. like that is literally the secret to never feeling like you're at the mercy of somebody else's judgment

[redlipstickresurrected]

John McAllister (American, b. 1973, Slidell, LA, USA) - Some Delirious Pageant, 2022, Paintings: Oil on Canvas

[pwlanier]

Study of a Hare in Winter. 1922. Clarence Alphonse Gagnon. Art Gallery of Ontario.

[lascitasdelashoras]

Glowing Giant Fish Made of Discarded Plastic Bottles, Playa de Botafogo, Rio de Janeiro, Brasil

[heartsl0b]

chartreuse kitchen / milk shelf

[y2kvictim]

the most infuriating thing about personal growth is that even if someone else did have the answer you needed and conveyed it to you in a precise and effective matter, it won't make sense until you're ready for it. you could hear it every day of your life and it wouldn't matter a fucking bit until it finally clicks. there's very little you can do to influence when that happens, either