Second time around

I'm here to like shit and have a good time

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Man logic: if women do onlyfans that makes it okay to ogle at them and fantasize about them and generally sexualize them in day to day life

[cannibalchicken]

[isnt-it-lonely]

Loophole: the racoon is technically also contained so it doesn't matter, go as awol as you want

[isnt-it-lonely]

Your first Kate Bush song was Running Up That Hill because of Stranger Things, my first Kate Bush song was Wuthering Heights because of high school, we're different.

[isnt-it-lonely]

I like not being involved in any celebrity Fandoms but following ppl who are bc I can read all the discourse and get all the juicy details without stressing about it

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Are there any lists that tell you how you know you don’t have ADHD (or tell you at what point a normal behavior is considered adhd) because I relate to a lot of the ADHD posts talking about the symptoms/effects of or living with it but I’m not sure if the posts are talking about like normal things that are only heightened by ADHD and I’m not understanding the difference, or if these are actual things I need to be looking into and maybe go to the doctor for.

I don’t want to like jump the gun and assume I have it and pay the copay just for the doc to be like “You’re normal get off the bandwagon”, but I don’t want to assume I don’t and just keep relating to all these things I see like “oh okay that is an adhd only thing, except for me though im different.”

[li-binauje-artisse]

I hope you don’t mind my comment and i hope i will help :

I do not think, imo, that there are any serious list that can tell you *for sure* that you don’t have ADHD…just like the official (and non official) list of symptoms can not tell you without a single shade of doubt that you have it. (But personally, i am not sure how a “negative” list would work, in that context.)

I do not want to assume anything about your researches, but tumblr posts can be….random. Or at least, not very precise. (Like, i am not throwing it under the bus, but well…there is a reason that we can agree that tumblr should not be anyone’s only source)

Mostly, people will talk about their experience (which is cool, and its the point of a personal blog). Sometimes, people will conflate symptoms, or like you said, talk about things that are relatable for everyone but from the mouth of someone with ADHD it can mean something else. Etc etc.

Another thing is : as someone with ADHD, I don’t always relate to other people who have it either. For example, some people with ADHD forgets about important meetings. I have anxiety and it makes sure that i worry about it more than i should, so i rarely forget them. There are also various “presentations”, not everyone has the same symptoms. And if they have them, not always the same intensity (which do not mean that anyone is “less valid”, thats bs) . Or it can manifest in different situation, etc etc…

But there is also another point i would like to make : ADHD is not a “private club”. Everyone has the right to question themselve. A serious, well educated self diagnosis is also understandable (especially in a world where proffessionals can have bias due to, for example, sexism or racism.).

If you are able (and want) to get an official test, it could be interresting because even if it turns out its not ADHD, it could be something else.

Imo though, relating to many people with it like you said is a good start. Tumblr is not the start and the end of everything, but for some things it can be a good base.

You probably can’t fake symptoms that you personally experience, and you can’t fake relating to symptoms.

Another thing, you see, not a lot of ADHD symptoms are unique only to ADHD. I am not totally knowledgeable, but you can have :

1 : Various, different disorders (or other things) with symptoms that overlap. So two people with different things can relate to each others, even if it comes from a different source.

2 : Comorbidity. I was talking about my anxiety earlier, a good amount of people with ADHD have anxiety too. Or other disorders/neurodivergencies/etc, not just anxiety (And some symptoms can also overlap.). Apparently, it can “mask” some part of ADHD in the sense that you or other people can throw everything under that carpet and ignore or miss other ADHD symptoms.

It was a bit of a confusing answer, i apologise. Hope my english was fine. I intended for my blog to be silent, but i can understand your questionning.

PS : to be clear, i am not telling you that you have or not ADHD, i dont know that, but i hope that it clarified some things? I hope that you can figure something satisfying for you.

[isnt-it-lonely]

Hi yes thank you that does help, thank you so much. I am diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder so I'm definitely sure that those would affect the presentation of ADHD if I have it.

I will start doing some research like you said, and hopefully find enough information to present to a doctor to get tested. Because you're right, even if it isn't ADHD it could be something else, I hadnt even thought about that.

Thank you for such a thorough and broken down response for me, I really appreciate it 😊

[dankmemeuniversity]

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Meanwhile where I live it hailed today

[peoplegettingkindamadatfood]

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Thought this said India at first and I was like haha funny big weird India food and then I realized it said Indiana and I gotta keep my mouth shut bc that is actually on brand for us,,,,

[isnt-it-lonely]

Are there any lists that tell you how you know you don't have ADHD (or tell you at what point a normal behavior is considered adhd) because I relate to a lot of the ADHD posts talking about the symptoms/effects of or living with it but I'm not sure if the posts are talking about like normal things that are only heightened by ADHD and I'm not understanding the difference, or if these are actual things I need to be looking into and maybe go to the doctor for.

I don't want to like jump the gun and assume I have it and pay the copay just for the doc to be like "You're normal get off the bandwagon", but I don't want to assume I don't and just keep relating to all these things I see like "oh okay that is an adhd only thing, except for me though im different."

[isnt-it-lonely]

Oh you listen to songs and make plots for stories you'll never write? Yeah well not to brag but I listen to songs and imagine trailers to movies based off of stories I'll never write

[isnt-it-lonely]

Now here me out: modern Bridgeton kinda thing idk but the two characters were lovers and got into this whole big drama thing and broke up despite being being hopelessly devoted to one another. the first verses are the guy getting ready for the ball/dance whatever, then the chorus is him entering the ballroom ready to scope her out and see if she's really doing good without as people are saying she is.

The girl's verse part is of her being at ball, having not seen him but knowing he's there, thinking she's totally Hot and Bad Bitch that can't even be touched by him— then the final chorus is when they make eye contact and everything comes back to them, the burning passion of hate, of lust, of love. They're too proud to speak to each other, so instead they're engaging in almost-but-never-quite-direct contact

And then when it ends it's bc one of them fucked up, of gave up, or something happened that made come into direct contact

OR Alternatively

They're dancing, with separate partners who aren't important rn bc its one of those switching partners dances. Its the first time they've seen each other after the break up, and emotions are high bc they're feeling everything again tenfold just at the sight of each other, but neither of them are trying to be too revealing about it. The first verse is him going off, then the break in the verse is them switching partners and getting farther away, but then switching again and getting closer again. He continues on with it when they're close again and thats the second verse.

When the chorus starts, its because he's starting to lose his cool seeing her getting close with that other guy. Then the break in music again is them switching again until her verse comes on and now it's time for her to give her piece. Emotions are super super high now, but she is still clinging on to playing "better now without you" and as her piece gets louder they're getting closer until they switch into being each other's partners and that's then the second chorus comes and now they're dancing with each other and its equally sad and romantic bc they're both still hurt but they both still love each other so much.

[isnt-it-lonely]

Oh you listen to songs and make plots for stories you'll never write? Yeah well not to brag but I listen to songs and imagine trailers to movies based off of stories I'll never write

[iguessweallcrazyithinktho]

I find it funny that people think someone is going to come up to them and ask when the Boston tea party started and why. shit is hella irrelevant

[iguessweallcrazyithinktho]

They taught us some very irrelevant things in school

[isnt-it-lonely]

Powerhouse of the cell final answer

[isnt-it-lonely]

The most on-brand thing I've ever done is not take Spanish in high school bc I didn't think I'd ever really need it and then I ended up with a man whom when we met only spoke Spanish

[writing-prompts-re]

The witch grew angry as she stared at the baby in your wife's hands that she had birthed only hours prior. "I wanted *your* firstborn! This is a trick!" You looked at the witch in confusion. Your wife panics. This was quite an exceptional way to learn about cheating.

[isnt-it-lonely]

After many turns of events, though the baby is not your first born, the baby becomes your first child and you both live happily with your new wife, whom you once called witch.

[isnt-it-lonely]

Does anyone else do this thing where sometimes after they say something, especially if it got a good reaction, they repeat it very quietly to themselves? It's like my brain is like "thing got a reaction??" and has no idea how to act

[isnt-it-lonely]

I admire people who actually stick to their theme. Like you are all about Tulips and don't get pulled into the void to harmonize with the other agonized voices that are crying out their innermost woes and you don't reblog a tweet that says if profanity is so bad why is it not called confanity. That is dedication to its fullest

[isnt-it-lonely]

Following pretty girls on Instagram makes me really sad but following pretty girls on Tumblr makes me undefineably happy. I don't know what the difference is but Tumblr girls keep being beautiful I love you ♡

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A few days ago I was calculating how many calories were in the whole container of deli pastrami and the numbers were like "calories per serving: 70" and then "servings per container 4.5." And I'm looking back on how I did it and this is probably why I was always the last one to turn in math tests. I don't think in numbers, I think in words. So the whole thought processes was this:

Alright so starting out I have 4 70s. So 70 plus 70 would be 7 plus 7 then 0 plus 0. 7 plus 7 is 14 and 0 plus 0 is 0. So connect them and it becomes 140. 140 is 2 70s.

So that's 2 70s, and 2 70s + 2 70s would be 4 70s, as in 4.5. So really it's 140 + 140 right? Yes? Because 70 plus 70 plus 70 plus 70 would be the same as 70 plus 70.... plus.... 70 plus 70.... and that's 4 70s.

Right so I have my 2 70s on the left, and those are 140. And then I have my 2 70s on the right, and those are 140. So now I have 140 plus 140 which is 14 plus 14 and 0 plus 0. 14 plus 14 is 28 and 0 plus 0 is still 0. So all 4 70s is 280. Okay. Noted.

Umm so now I have .5 left, which means half of a serving. And a serving is 1 70, but I need .5 70. So I need half of 70 so half of 70 is uhh. Well, 7 isn't even, so the ones place has to be a 5. And 6 is the even number before 7. And 3 plus 3 equals 6. So it would be 3 and 5 to make 70. So 35 is half of 70. So now I have to add 35 to all 4 70s which was 280

Umm alright so, the 0 and 5 would be added together. And that's just 5. So I'm going to set that aside. Then I have 8 and 3 and that's- uh- that's- 8... 9, 10, 11... that's 11. So I have the 1 stay, and then the other 1 goes up to the 2. So I have 2 plus 1 and then 1 and 5. Right? Yeah. Yeah that's it. So 2 plus 1 is 3 so now I have 3 and 1 and 5 which is 3 1 5. And 3 1 5 is 315. So there's 315 calories in this whole thing. Yes. Yes that's correct.

I'm going to check that on my phone which I've had available to me the whole time and just didn't think to use.

Omg it was right! I did that! In my head! I did a decimal! Hell yeah! I'm so good at this! And it didn't even take me that long! Like... I don't know just a few minutes! I'm not dumb as hell!! I did that!!

Anyway, yeah, that's probably why I always took so long on math tests. And why shoeing my work was so hard. For some reason I don't think in just numbers and mathematical symbols so when I show my work I have to keep translating the words in my head into mathematics and then I get confused and it's a mess.

And shout out to the teachers I've had who have kinda understood that I struggle with this and have helped me try to simplify it for myself, you guys are the real ones.