Venting Machine

I’m not actually a machine. Just an English major. Reblogs important issues, Moby Dick (i am obsessed) Mob Psycho, Saiki k, aslfua, TGCF, shitposts in general, and if you’re lucky you’ll catch Original Content (usually me gushing about one of said fandoms)

[yurious-george]

I keep saying “separating men and women’s spaces is anti-feminist at its root and all competitions, bathrooms, etc., should be mixed-gender” and people keep saying “trans people should be allowed in their respective gendered spaces.” Which I agree with, but is only a step on the path, and I take issue with people treating it like an end goal. In fact, we COULD eliminate that step entirely by simply having mixed gender spaces.

I remember the fight for mixed gender sports, but now we’re fighting for trans people’s rights to be included in gendered sports. The only justification for gendered sports that exists is Those Men Will Crush Our Weak Little Women. It’s sexist. Segregation is always a means of oppression.

I’m not a fan of that goalpost shift, and I’m not sure why it’s so popular as of late.

[saltwaterembolism]

Humans of all the great apes are remarkably sexually non-dimorphic. The (mean) difference between men and women tends to be ~15%. For reference, other apes like gorillas, orangutans, tend to have about 50% dimorphism. 15% is comparable level of dimorphism to dogs and horses.

Both of which, if youll note, are species that we race in non-sexgender-segregated sports. There's not one derby for boy horses and another one for girl ones.

The majority of the dimorphism that we *see* is social and cultural. Women are discouraged from sports from a much earlier age than men. Women who are naturally tall and muscular may choose not to pursue body building because of social pressures for women to be small and dainty. Women who have broad shoulders, double jointed ankles and webbed toes (the things that make Michael Phelps such a good swimmer) may never touch a swimming pool in their life because of similar stigma surrounding women's bodies that men are not subject to.

Instead of looking to abolish the conditions that create these sexgender differences, trans-exclusionists attempt to reinforce the binary by asserting that women are naturally weak and there is no possible way to overcome this difference except by segregation. Ask yourself: who benefits from that train of thought?

[oldguardians]

once again thinking about "the lottery" by shirley jackson.

imagine there was a man in the story who went around giving speeches about the importance of the lottery as a tradition. He said the casualties were unfortunate, but also an inevitable price of freedom. Imagine he treated those who sought to end the senseless cycle of violence with condescension and derision, calling them idiotic, naïve, and diseased.

yet when that man was selected for the lottery and stoned to death, everyone mourned him and said how unfair it was that a bright young family man should die so soon. And when people pointed out that this man was killed by a system he adamantly defended and worked to perpetuate, they lost their jobs and were shunned from the community as insensitive and monstrous.

Imagine. Hypothetically. For no particular reason.

[goldenasirpa]

Yall sleeping on this Sam L. Jackson interview about trump lmfao.

[soapaipillas]

It’s your uncle, Sam.

[arathergrimreaper]

Also…do people not know how Samuel Jackson got into acting in the first place? Like, the FBI literally were gunning for his ass when he had enough and joined the Black Panther movement. “Shouldn’t wade into politics…” fucking embarrassing.

[rhube]

Imagine interviewing Samuel L Jackson and then censoring his swear words. Like, I know that’s not the most important takeaway, but talk about ridiculous.

[znj]

[hetchdrive]

@so-i-did-this-thing

[zilmart]

Vashwood sketches for the soul

[johncopleyisavillain]

A resurfaced video of a 1989 sketch from the British satirical puppet show “Spitting Image”, satirically mocking Israel’s occupation of Palestine, its expansionist goals and inhumane treatment of Palestinians more than 30 years ago.

[sunriseseance]

Right now my thoughts are with the family of Melissa Hortman, a democrat from Minnesota who was assassinated along with her husband and her dog in the dead of night. Senator Mike Lee (from Utah) made a joke about it. There was no moment of silence, no national response. MAGA extremism kills people.

[yamino]

Here’s a picture of her and her dog. Sometimes it’s hard to really conceptualize these things without faces to go with the names. I wonder why no major news outlets have focused on this story, or posted this photo of her with her golden retriever. Her dog looks just like mine. My heart is shattered every time I look at this.

[yamelcakes]

Gilbert was a service dog dropout, who flunked out because he was “too friendly.” The Hortmans, of course, were thrilled to officially adopt him. He was the second retriever the Hortmans fostered and trained through Helping Paws. Their other foster dog, Minnie, was successfully placed as a veteran’s service dog. Helping Paws is always accepting donations in Melissa and Gilbert’s memory:

https://www.helpingpaws.org/donation

Calling All Paws! Every Gift Of Any Amount Makes A Difference!  ONE-TIME DONATIONMONTHLY DONATION Choose the amount that works best for you

Melissa did so much for Minnesota, and I’m so angry that her murder was mocked by Republican legislators while the assassination of a hateful podcaster who rubbed shoulders with white nationalists and Nazis somehow receives more outrage. Trump never even reached out to Walz to express condolences for Melissa. He refused to attend her funeral. Now he wants to give Charlie Kirk The Presidential Medal of Freedom. I’m so fucking angry about it.

[hotcalamityy]

Let me cook let me cook

[hotcalamityy]

HELPPPP THE BRAINROT IS INFECTING ME

[itsaventingmachine]

YEEEESSSSSSSSS

[hurristuff]

For this Disability Pride Month, I saw a post that was shittybad and it made me angry. So have this

[seeingteacupsindragons]

Little life advice:

Everyone who says not to set your stove clock or microwave clock because you won't use them and don't look at them anyway is lying.

Set them.

Because sometimes, you will come come from a week away when no one was in your home, and see the stove and microwave clocks blinking and go, "Oh shit, the power went out while I was gone, even though it's clearly back, which means every single thing in my fridge and freezer might have gotten room temperature and refrozen, and will give me food poisoning."

And it will be the only indication whatsoever not to eat it.

Anyway, just got back from the grocery store, but at least I don't have botulism.

[pengychan]

I know this is a 'better safe than sorry' kind of scenario, but if you like me live in a place where power often goes off for a few minutes due to power grid failures in summer with all the A/C units going in the neighborhood, it's not going to help.

Put a glass full of water in the freezer. I use a shot glass to save space. Once the water is frozen, put a coin on top.

If when you're back the coin is under the ice, you know your shit has defrosted and should be thrown out.

[schizononagesimus]

also hey can we talk about violent psychosis for a sec. cause i really appreciate all the talk surrounding psychosis positivity and stuff but a lot of it is "we're not all violent! sometimes hallucinations can be positive!" like sorry mine are not. im scary psychotic.

im "cant have anything that even remotely could be used as a weapon in the house" psychotic. im "if i miss my meds one day i have to go to the hospital for homicidal and suicidal thoughts that literally aren't my own thoughts but theyre controlling my actions" psychotic. im "im seeing horrors you cant even imagine to the point where i dont exist in the same world as you anymore" psychotic.

im not going to hurt you, i just need help. when im rocking in the corner talking to myself at 3am, remember that i am in a state of terror. im afraid for my life. i either genuinely believe everything is trying to kill me, and i only know one way to deal with it; or something is telling me to be violent or else it will kill me; or i have dissociated so hard that i autopilot myself to violence to try and wake myself up.

some of us are violent, and that's okay, because it has to be, because it's the truth. just get us help.

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

I haven't been able to find the resources again, but for a while, a psychosis peer group I worked with did a lot of their work based in recognizing that with reality being inherently subjective, there is no material difference between the reactions and needs we have to shared realities versus unshared ones.

In a shared reality, if you are in danger yet everyone is treating YOU like the danger, that's going to escalate and agitate you. The same is true in an unshared reality where the other people genuinely don't understand or experience what is threatening you.

So what do you do if someone is in danger? You assure them that you will help them stay safe, and cooperate with needs related to creating protective barriers against the fear, whether physical, psychological, or otherwise. Once they acknowledge/obtain a safe space to rest or pause in, you help them calm and let them tell you what they need or what they're experiencing. You offer kindness, love, and continue to explicitly endorse a desire for their safety. You offer help you can, and clarify the goals of help you can't give so that you may be able to give an equivalently valueable aid that is more feasible. And after they've calmed and rested for a while, you debrief with them, see about long term relief needs, process anything that happened, and see how they're feeling.

It turns out, that when this kind of "sharing" of our realities is available to us from non-psychotic loved ones, we become less agitated and afraid during episodes of experiential fear/threat, the same as ANYONE who is chronically or repeatedly exposed to fear/threat shows increased threshold for overwhelm when effectively supported socially.

We don't need you to actually see or hear the same things as us. But allowing yourself to see that we often call things "irrational" when they aren't making sense to outsiders, rather than acknowledging that rationality is always contextual. If our contexts are different, then perhaps so are the rationalized actions we're engaging in. Can you interact with us on that functional level during an episode of psychosis related panic?

[sabrebash]

a comic about OCD

[itsaventingmachine]

THERE IS NO ESCAPING YOUR OWN SKULL! ONLY TRYING TO MAKE PEACE WITH WHATS IN THERE!

[i-am-a-fish]

So many people in the world are cute and kind and wonderful and looking at this post and looking at this post and they're looking at this post right now they're reading this post

[ifvwasix]

Share to save someone with nut allergies a hospital trip hoooly shit

[boybeetles]

Link for information about the recall, if you bought this and have an allergy there is a chart at this link to see if your milk is part of the recall

[creaturey]

i think r/BenignExistence is my favorite subreddit 🥲 i love these pleasant little glimpses into strangers' lives

[patricia-taxxon]

the thing is, if your younger self was a bigot or an abuser, u can't make people forgive you. but you still gotta forgive yourself, like that's non-negotiable, dude. that happens before u can even ask the question of earning forgiveness from anyone lese

[patricia-taxxon]

oops, in your attempt to martyr yourself out of respect for your victims you accidentally sabotaged your own ability to conceptualize yourself as anything but a perpetual evildoer who is always one bad day away from hurting everyone you love, all but guaranteeing history to repeat itself. rookie mistake

[patricia-taxxon]

im gonna try explaining myself, cus im a gambling addict and im waiting for the day that it actually works.

"forgiveness" is personal, that's why I said in the post that you might inflict harm on people for which they can never forgive you, but that's their quest. if you abuse someone, you can't go no-contact with yourself. you actually keep living in your own head indefinitely, and ultimately you need to learn to live with yourself in order to continue living a full life without further harm. this is not necessarily an anti-carceral thought, although i am generally anti-carceral myself. I simply want people to like, fix their heart and atone for real with measured accountability & self love instead of dissociating, self-marking themselves forever and guaranteeing their recidivism.

You and a remorseful abuser would both think I'm giving the easy, coddling path. It's actually the tough pragmatic path in disguise.

[dark-fire-thoughts]

Ok. I see where you going, but I strongly disagree. The one person who can't be allowed to forgive ones crimes is oneself.

Even if everyone else has forgiven you for the abuse you did, you must never allow yourself to let what you did be forgiven. Once you've done that, you've gotten to the point where you might do it again.

Never let up. Always strive towards improvement. Never let yourself live down the horrors of the past. Only by comparing ourselves to who we were can we grow.

[patricia-taxxon]

this is called OCD

[yuyurana]

It’s so fucking frustrating to argue about this on tumblr.com. Because people might pay lip service to the idea of criminal justice reform or even prison abolition. But deep down they always come back to the Calvinism of it all: there are good people (victims) and bad people (abusers) and once someone has revealed themselves to be an abuser they can never be forgiven, never be part of society again.

And if you believe the world works like that one other thing also has to be true: You know you are a ‘good person’, so nothing you ever do could be truly abusive. You could never truly harm another person. And if you did they must have deserved it. Because you are a good person.

And wow, does that not just sound like something abusers usually say, when confronted with their own behavior?

I would leave the rest up to the reader but because we are on the piss on the poor reading comprehension site here, I’m going to spell it out: get comfortable with your own fallibility. Acknowledge that you could indeed severely harm someone else. And that means that you NEED to learn to forgive yourself.