Brown and Bougie

[luxuryandbrown]

Maximize your pretty before getting surgery or life changing procedures.

Get facials and facial massages. Do your skin care. Stay hydrated. Get lymphatic body massages. Keep your brows done. Exfoliate your lips. Try different hair styles. Commit to a workout routine for 9-months. Depuff your face. Get Invisalign. Wear your damn retainer. Get 7-9 hours of sleep. Eat your collagen. Avoid sugar. Do mirror work.

Sometimes, you’re not ugly. You just haven’t discovered what the best version of you looks like yet.

[hermajestyimher]

This is so true. Preserving your youth and beauty holistically will always look better than Botox and other invasive procedures down the line.

[theambitiouswoman]

If you’re desperate for love, you’ll convince yourself to overlook red flags. You’ll excuse bad behavior & minimize your own needs just to have someone. When deep down, you know you’re settling. That’s what desperation does, it tricks you into believing crumbs are a feast

But when you’ve built a life you actually like & you’ve invested in yourself, created routines, friendships, passions and a sense of self worth, you’re no longer choosing out of lack. You’re choosing from a place of strength and clarity. You can actually look at a partner and ask yourself if they add peace, happiness and depth to the life you already love or if they take away from it

If you’re not afraid of being alone, you’re not rushing into situations that drain you. It means you won’t tolerate people who can’t meet you where you are. And it means the love you do accept will be real not just a bandage for loneliness

Build your life first. Make it so good that anyone who wants to be with you has to be a true addition, not a replacement for your own happiness

[hermajestyimher]

If you give people the power to make you, you also give them the power to break you. This is why I don't chase after or crave admiration or accolades from others. I understand that I don't need external validation to feel at ease and comfortable with myself and my life choices. I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and whatever they think of me is none of my business. What truly matters is what I think of myself and my self-concept, because whatever I harbor inside will dictate the trajectory of my life and the things that come to pass.

[csuitebitches]

Traits I’ve Noticed in Confident People 

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it. 

Have a strong sense of self identity. Can be opinionated but open to challenges. 

[moodsandmatters]

ig: @mattersofb

[rainekeiko]

[jamienojaem]

"Relying on validation from other people for our sense of self-worth puts us in a codependent relationship with the entire world. I know that within me is the potential for greed, hatred, and ignorance, as well as the option to be selfless, kind, and compassionate. No longer depending on others for my sense of self-worth is freedom. It's up to me to maintain this serenity by aligning what I think, say, and do. Living congruently, it turns out, is more reassuring and sustainable than constantly looking for validation from others."

— Timber Hawkeye | The Opposite of Namaste

[aidashakur]

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[sk-lumen]

Reminder that you don't need to get people's approval to go for something. All you need is ownership over your choices.

Want to go on a weekend spa solo and you have the finances for it? Go for it, you don't need your friends' approval to validate your decisions. Want to get a dog because you've always wanted one? Just do it, you don't need your family's approval to make a decision as an adult. Want to reconnect with an old friend or travel to another country? Just do it. Always had dreams of becoming an influencer? Just start posting fancy stories on social media.

Understand that this is your life, and you can do as you please without someone confirming you're allowed to do it. The only person who needs to agree is you.

[hermajestyimher]

Repeat after me:

I am the woman of my own dreams. I require no validation. My wish is my command. My life is my own, I build it. My voice is my own, I let it be heard. I am relentless in my dedication to trusting myself. I am insatiable in my thirst for the extraordinary, and I do not settle for the mediocre.

[thesnobbyartsyblog]

P+H

[leveledupmindset]

On this leveling up journey you will learn to move in silence

[wetheurban]

Say it with me:

This year, I’m unlocking profound levels of peace and joy I didn’t even know possible, by any and all means necessary.

[thoughtstherapy]

[theambitiouswoman]

[theambitiouswoman]

If someone hurts you, it's okay to let them go. It's not about love, but more about feeling stuck or needing them. It's important to think about why you feel this way and do what's best for you. Always put your well being first. Letting go of someone who causes you pain or harm is an act of self preservation and self love. It's important to differentiate between love and attachment. Love is a selfless emotion that wishes the best for the other person, even if it means parting ways. Attachment, on the other hand, can be rooted in fear, insecurity, codependency, or the need for validation. It's crucial to introspect and understand the nature of your feelings to make the best decision for yourself.