[itsmuhar]

My friend stayed at my house the last couple days, yesterday I got out of work early so we could go adventure. When I returned home at noon she says 'I made you lunch it's on the stove'. Suddenly, I sort of understand why people keep significant others around..

[showerthoughtsofficial]

“The camera adds 10 pounds” is a phrase of the past. Now people look better in their pictures than they do in person

[kichengunnet]

When people say that the camera adds ten pounds it’s because cameras used in filmmaking/TV production have a wider focal length and therefore subjects look wider or bigger. Whereas cellphone cameras have a short focal length that makes subjects appear thinner or smaller.

Nowadays, with DSLR’s and a variety of lenses, we are able to depict a wide range of focal lengths by using one kind of camera.

So that is why most people on social media may seem to look thinner than they do in person (especially in selfies because the front facing camera on phones especially have short focal lengths).

And that is also how the phrase “the camera adds ten pounds” came about.

[grayskyluna-art]

this is actually so interesting I had no idea

[finelythreadedsky]

the myth of persephone is about the trauma of the separation of mothers and daughters by marriage and this is the hill i will die on

[finelythreadedsky]

To be clear I’m not against retellings that reinterpret the relationship between Hades and Persephone and present it as consensual and healthy– I do think there’s something incredibly powerful about looking at a story that’s been passed down to us through millennia about a girl being kidnapped and raped and saying “no. No, that’s not the kind of story I want to hear, that’s not the kind of story I want to tell, and that’s certainly not the kind of story I want my daughters to grow up on.” (Although I think it’s disappointing that these are now the only sorts of Persephone retellings we get, and at this point it’s really not a particularly revolutionary take, given how often it’s been done.)

But I also think we do a great disservice to the women of the ancient world by not remembering how this story, in that form, mirrored their very real pain. I’ve been thinking recently about how we can tell that women participated in the formation of their culture’s folklore because women’s trauma is embedded in it. (In Greek terms, the stories of Leto and Alcmene very clearly come out of women’s traumatic experiences with childbirth, and there are elements of women’s traumatic experiences of sexual assault embedded in, for example, the stories of Daphne or Callisto or Artemis and Actaeon) And the story of Persephone comes out of women’s experiences of being permanently separated from their mothers and daughters at marriage. (See also this post from @gardenvarietycrime.​)

For an ancient woman sending her daughter off to be married, knowing that she will see her only rarely and that the odds of death in childbirth were high, Persephone meant something. For an ancient girl leaving her mother and her entire world for a man she may never have met knowing the same, Persephone meant something. I do think a lot of the conflation of death and marriage in the ancient world comes out of this: that a girl is dead to her mother and her family whether she leaves them to go to a husband’s house or the house of Hades. Maybe it’s a consolation to know that someone else has done this before you, to know that a goddess once lost her daughter and a goddess once lost her mother the same way you are losing yours. And that they survived it.

Essentially I think we need to remember that this myth (like all myths and all folklore) is not necessarily entirely the product of men, that women’s voices and women’s trauma remain embedded in it despite all of our written sources being men’s tellings of the story. And when we retell it we risk losing those voices if we are not careful and if we dismiss the myth as it survives today as solely men’s version of the story.

[itsmuhar]

This guy I been seeing brought up the John Waters quote, 'If you go home with somebody, and they don't have books, don't fuck 'em!' on one of our dates. And I laughed cause it's totally something I believe/agree with.. But I've been to his place twice now and still have yet to see a single book, so like, I feel like things aren't shaping up too well for him..

[itsmuhar]

I plan to do a whorish things tonight

[anxietyproblem]

Follow us @anxietyproblem​

[itsmuhar]

I got contacts for the first time the other day

Everytime I look far and can see something I keep bursting out in hilarious giggling because what the fuck dude.. Like is this how people see?!?! I'm not really jealous just more flabbergasted. Like what the fuck dude?!? Like people just wake up in the morning and can see shit like this?!?

[sisterofiris]

One of the most powerful moments I experienced as an ancient history student was when I was teaching cuneiform to visitors at a fair. A father and his two little children came up to the table where I was working. I recognised them from an interfaith ceremony I’d attended several months before: the father had said a prayer for his homeland, Syria, and for his hometown, Aleppo.

All three of them were soft-spoken, kind and curious. I taught the little girl how to press wedges into the clay, and I taught the little boy that his name meant “sun” and that there was an ancient Mesopotamian God with the same name. I told them they were about the same age as scribes were when they started their training. As they worked, their father said to them gently: “See, this is how your ancestors used to write.”

And I thought of how the Ancient City of Aleppo is almost entirely destroyed now, and how the Citadel was shelled and used as a military base, and how Palmyran temples were blown up and such a wealth of culture and history has been lost forever. And there I was with these children, two small pieces of the future of a broken country, and I was teaching them cuneiform. They were smiling and chatting to each other about Mesopotamia and “can you imagine, our great-great-great-grandparents used to write like this four thousand years ago!” For them and their father, it was more than a fun weekend activity. It was a way of connecting, despite everything and thousands of kilometres away from home, with their own history.

This moment showed me, in a concrete way, why ancient studies matter. They may not seem important now, not to many people at least. But history represents so much of our cultural identity: it teaches us where we come from, explains who we are, and guides us as we go forward. Lose it, and we lose a part of ourselves. As historians, our role is to preserve this knowledge as best we can and pass it on to future generations who will need it. I helped pass it on to two little Syrian children that day. They learnt that their country isn’t just blood and bombs, it’s also scribes and powerful kings and Sun-Gods and stories about immortality and tablets that make your hands sticky. And that matters.

[itsmuhar]

Most nights I really like that I'm single. But every once in awhile I have a really shit day and kind of just wish I had someone I could snuggle my head into..

[thecommonchick]

I don’t want a sugar daddy but maybe like a sugar buddy. 

I just hit him up like “Hey how are you today?” 

and he replies “Doing great thanks for asking here’s $7,000.” 

[itsmuhar]

I'm sure it's just cause I'm high

I'm really happy, or like excited. I don't really know about what tho. But I'm sitting here in the glow of my brand new lamp, watching Ancient Aliens, after I have just rearranged my entire house and like I feel good. Like with my life, I don't have a fucking clue what I'm doing with it but that doesn't bother me right now. I haven't felt this good in a long time.

[itsmuhar]

Right before leaving work I asked the bartender if I could get a cup with a couple of olives and some olive juice in it so I could make Martini when I got home. I don't think he was listening to everything that I had said, because he gave me enough olives that I could drink this entire bottle of gin and probably still have a few left over 😂🤣😂

[itsmuhar]

'You look really good!' 'Thanks, I feel really good'

[jahminican]

Praying for the woman I’ll be in 5+yrs I hope she’s happy, and loved, living life unapologetically, doing what she loves.

[hallucin8]

Dirty talk but you both use your customer service voice

[lo-kaia]

Thanks I hate it

[fifty-shadesofgay]

partner: *cums*

me: great! will you be needing anything else today?

[ruffboi-mags]

Customer service but you use your dirty talk voice

[taviacw]

You’re a nasty little bitch aren’t you? Trying to return these shoes after 30 days.

[itsmuhar]

Ya know, when I'm not depressed I'm pretty sure I'm immortal..

[pikestaff-deactivated20200113]

Me, throwing em dashes, semicolons, commas, and ellipses into a jumbo-sized trash bag and then shaking it vigorously: hang on I gotta season my fic before I upload it

[jagoandlitefoot]