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The media and content you consume is a direct reflection of your intellectual depth as a person. In order to advance in life you should always aim to give your attention to the higher caliber and more sophisticated forms of art.

Read about philosophy, world politics, scientific journals. Consume folklore music of different cultures around the world, become proficient in understanding the cultural values behind them. Consume independent films and series with acclaimed direction and story lines. Refine your taste in fashion by studying the clothing and paired looks from haute couture shows, especially from the 90s, emulate the way the models walk and the demeanor they portray.

If you want a sophisticated life, you must learn to become sophisticated. Life becomes so much more sweet and enjoyable when you fill it with content that edifies your spirit and makes you become a better version of yourself. Ditch everything else that conditions you to behave in an erratic manner, you may have been lured into "liking" certain things because that's what the culture around you promotes, but more often than not, those are not the things that truly resonate with you and your inner being.

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Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from and don't take the advice from someone you don't look up to.

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The art of being wanted and yet unavailable, unreachable.

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People like to talk about pretty privilege but can we discuss pretty envy? Often times girls who are very attractive, smart, and reserved make those around them who think they don't match up to her feel threatened by who she is, so they begin to make her life hell and bring her down because they see her as a threat.

Physical beauty is subjective, but internal beauty is universal and anyone who goes out of their way to harm someone because of their looks or the way they carry themselves is rotten inside, karma always handles this people in due time.

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Your femininity is sacred, don't run from it, don't suppress it. Being a woman is a BLESSING, indulge and appreciate it. Our society has conditioned us to believe that being dainty, soft, girly, delicate etc. Is some how an expression of weakness or something to look down upon, do not listen to this. Being in tune with your femininity will bring you peace, and femininity can and does look different depending on the person, we all have different approaches to it, but that's also part of the beauty and the magic in it.

Wear that pink dress, put on that floral perfume, speak softly, have a delicate demeanor, take ballet classes, do whatever makes YOU feel good as a woman. If you stand out as a result just know you're standing out for all the right reasons.

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I love being quiet, reserved and composed.

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"Beauty sleep" really is a thing. Don't underestimate how much your skin and body will rejuvenate and maintain itself with proper sleeping and relaxation. Incorporating a good sleeping routine combined with proper dieting and a skin regiment are crucial to maintaining a healthy appearance.

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Celibacy is so powerful. Liberal feminism doesn't want you to know this because it's men pulling the strings behind the curtain, but it's so powerful.

Having EXTREMELY high standards and being a perfectionist when it comes to partners is one of the most self empowering things you can do. Our bodily autonomy is threatened on a daily basis, you can take control back by not allowing anyone who is not up to your extreme standards to touch you.

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Repeat after me:

I am the woman of my own dreams. I require no validation. My wish is my command. My life is my own, I build it. My voice is my own, I let it be heard. I am relentless in my dedication to trusting myself. I am insatiable in my thirst for the extraordinary, and I do not settle for the mediocre.

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Being grateful for the opportunity gets you the outcome

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How to Support a Friend who’s Depressed

1) Encourage them to talk; ask them what’s on their mind - If you think your friend’s depressed or has something on their mind then ask if you can help, or something’s bothering them. And unless you get the feeling that they don’t want to talk, be persistent and keep asking in a gentle, caring way. This communicates the message that you genuinely care.

2) Give your full attention and listen carefully – If they’re brave enough to share what is on their mind, then give them the respect of listening carefully – without interrupting or offering them advice. Pay attention, focus on them, and try to understand the way they see their problems, and how that makes them feel. The only time you should speak is to clarify a point, or to ask open questions that will help them share some more.

3) Unless specifically requested, don’t offer them advice - Once you’ve got the general gist of what is happening with your friend, resist the temptation to offer them advice. This is often very hard as we usually want to help … but most people resent it as they just want to be heard.

4) Remember it’s all about them; it’s not about you – Often people want to somehow turn the conversation round to talking about them, and their own experiences. This is so annoying; it’s the worst thing you could do.

5) Be sensitive, respectful and non judgmental – Don’t react or seem shocked when they tell you something bad (like saying “OMG – I can’t believe you did that!”). And be tactful if you feel you must share something tough - as you honestly believe it would help to hear the truth. You don’t have to destroy them in your efforts to get real.

6) Nothing changes if we don’t do anything – Although it’s often helpful to unburden yourself if you just dump on others then nothing much will change. Thus, it’s important to encourage them to take some active steps. Don’t only be a crutch or a short-term dumping ground.