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[spaceyam]

this is so compelling and heartbreaking and important and i wanted to share it. this is the reality of getting an abortion even with roe v wade in place and it's about to get worse.

[the-modern-typewriter]

“Did you truly believe you could avoid me forever?”

“Not forever,” the protagonist said. “Not in this war of ours.”

Not forever, but maybe - long enough? Long enough for the feelings to fade, for clarity to come, for the mere sound of the antagonist’s voice behind them not to plunge them into a dizzying array of longing and heartbreak and memory. Long enough that, when they met again, the protagonist could do what needed to be done. 

Eventually, inevitably it seemed, the two of them would have to fight. 

The protagonist had never wanted that. 

They kept their eyes on the water, on the nice little spot they had found for themselves, watching the sun sparkle against the gentle ripples of waves. It felt odd to hear the antagonist’s voice in the light of day, as if the two of them should only ever meet each other beneath the cover of night, or those other in between moments. Day was too bright. Too real. Too unforgiving. 

They felt, more than heard, the antagonist stop behind their bench. They felt the shift in the air as the antagonist leaned against its back, so close that the protagonist could lean even an inch to the left and touch them, oh so casually, like it was an accident. 

“My people aren’t far behind me,” the antagonist said, after a moment. “If you run now, you might just make it free.”

“You could have sent them ahead.” 

“This is a nice spot. Peaceful.” 

“Are you worried about ruining it with my blood or theirs?” 

The antagonist snorted. “We both know they’re no match for you, when it comes down to it.” 

The protagonist glanced to the side, then, to find the antagonist’s gaze already resting on them. Measured. Too measured, really. There were too many things beneath that careful surface, so like the water before them. “But I’ll only make it free if I run now?” 

The antagonist looked away, back to the lake, shifting that smallest fraction where their elbows rested against the bench. The protagonist felt the warmth of the antagonist brush against their shoulder, felt the rustle of the antagonist’s breath on their hair.

Now, they had no witnesses. No one who would know if the antagonist let them go. Was it mercy? Or the way a cat might release a mouse trapped beneath its paw only so it could continue its own game? The protagonist was no mouse though, they both knew that. 

The protagonist considered the antagonist’s familiar-unfamiliar profile. 

“You won’t run?” the antagonist asked, even if it was obvious, as the seconds ticked by. 

“As you say, I can’t avoid you forever.” And the antagonist, it seemed, couldn’t avoid them either. 

“Don’t be a martyr.” 

The protagonist smiled, faintly, at the flicker of tension in the antagonist’s jaw. Their hand twitched in their lap, with the foolish urge to reach out and touch. To make the point that they saw, they knew, but maybe just to touch too. “How long do we have?” 

“When they come-” the antagonist bit off. “Will you come quietly?”

The protagonist raised a brow, at that, because of course they wouldn’t. They never had.

The antagonist’s jaw clenched further, catching the gesture in their periphery vision, however intently they were not watching. Heat rushed to their face. “Please.”

“Please come quietly?”

“Please run.”

“Did you think you could avoid me forever?”

“Long enough,” the antagonist said. 

They both looked back at the water, then, and the protagonist let their head fall back. Let their cheek rest against the antagonist’s arm. 

The antagonist sucked in a sharp breath and the protagonist concentrated on keeping their own breathing measured. Too measured, really. Their lungs still felt airless.

“I’ll run,” the protagonist said. “If you run with me.” 

The antagonist’s head turned, lips brushing against the protagonist’s temple. “We have ten minutes until we’re surrounded.”

Neither of them moved. 

It really was such a nice spot on a summer’s day.

[guerrillatech]

[modernsuperhero]

[ID: Twitter user @SaintSluggo tweets,

“SNITCHES GET STITCHES

-assumes worst outcome

-focus on disunity

-leads with violence

NO ONE TALKS, EVERYONE WALKS

-comradeship and solidarity

-plans to succeed

-only requirement is to do nothing at all” 

/End ID]

[mens-rights-activia]

This is earth shattering, I can’t believe there are people, who don’t think in sentences??? What the fuck is an abstract non-verbal thot? Y’all hoes think in Pictionary???? What the fuck

[foxshaped]

You’re telling me there are people who actually think in sentences? Like full ass grammatical sentences?

[neanderthyall]

Some of yall dont think in full sentences?

[lizzibennet]

my nonverbal ass is shook bc apparently (according to the replies) people who think in sentences also read in mental sentences… like when ur reading it’s as if there is a voice inside their heads reading it as if out loud. w i l d

[theoneandonlyredrobin]

I just see words and perceive there is no voice no no no

It’s just

Thoughts

Ideas

Images

No words

Only Concepts

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

How

How do you know what you’re thinking if the Voice isn’t there to tell you

[shelbys-advice-blog]

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

Other Blog Features

Apps for Asshats

Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. [phone]

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. [phone]

Relationships Australia Tel. [phone]

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. [phone]

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

(source)

Keep me updated? xx

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