{♡| Heyo! I'm Jay, an artist who has social anxiety. I'm in various fandoms, but I'm mainly in Welcome Home ARG, Undertale, Steven Universe and Gem Galaxies, Eddsworld, HLVRAI, and much more. | Also HIIII! I forgot to mention I'm Trans and Pan! Everyone is welcome here, except prosh1ppers and those who are z00ph1las... Get off my page if you're any of that. |♡}
This last year has been a deeply interesting but extremely taxing on me and my family, you'd likely remember that issue with my father from the LAST new years.
Things have been in legal contention for this entire year, including lawyers fees, and all manner of stress. We've all been working, trying to keep up, and prepare for any angle. but it was all practically ambiguous what would happen.
THAT SAID. GOOD NEWS BAD NEWS
Good news first, We've finally reached a settlement with my father.
Bad news, it's not a great settlement, but will allow us to actually recover at the end of all of this.
This has been genuinely so draining that each of us has taken this financial hit. despite working constantly.
(Heck I even Monetized my hobbies to try and help with this all.)
That said we're finally getting to the point where we're barely scrapping by.
We've still got lawyers fees to pay before this is all settled.
It's gotten to the point my mother has made a gofundme for this,
IF you can spare even a dollar, any assistance is deeply appreciated.
You can find my other's post, and the general story of what the hell happened here.
My mother and my sister took on the brunt of the work, and I'm currently looking for basically a third job to try and help pay off all of these damned fees.
We need help to dig out of lawyers' fees to save our years-long… Sondra Carr needs your support for Daughter's Father Tried to Take Home - H
If you haven't heard, the em dash has been getting a lot of attention lately…
Because it was trained on pirated work—including freely accessible online writing (like fanfic, academic texts)—ChatGPT picked up patterns and quirks native to human writing.
Including (sigh) the em dash.
There are other victims here (RIP tapestry and delve 🫠), but the appropriation of the em dash—a punctuation mark beloved by writers everywhere—feels especially personal.
A kind of low-grade panic is ensuing. Writers who once memed their own em dash overuse—the greatest punctuation mark ever to grace the control-freak’s lexicon, frankly—are suddenly backing away to avoid accusations.
No. More. We have centuries of dash-abusing writers behind us. We will not sit quietly while AI repurposes our beloved stilted aside—or the just-one-more clarification the sentence demands—or the dramatic pause your comma could never—etc.
You don’t write like AI—AI writes like you.
Defend the em dash.
(Feel free to download/share/stick it where it matters!)
this is solely me rambling about social anxiety, adhd and König. nothing exciting sorry folks!
König’s social anxiety - my thoughts
okay so firstly my qualifications here; I am diagnosed with social anxiety, generalized anxiety and ADHD. (I didn’t end up getting into his adhd at all oops)
i just want to speak to like the experience of being a grown man with mainly social anxiety, because idk I see some posts that just feel upsetting to read? like people complaining about certain ways König is written?
like I do agree that he is not some blushing little uwu babygirl kitten (bc you know he is in fact an adult and in the fucking military), but I’ve never actually seen anyone write him as that. I think what gets me are the complaints about people actually writing him with traits of social anxiety, which he canonically has, and kind of treating it like writing him that way makes him seem weaker? Or less dominant? Or like uhh less of a man? There’s a chance I’m just taking this super personally for no reason but I’m gonna ramble about it anyway.
Just because someone has a stutter due to anxiety, or blushes due to anxiety, or gets embarrassed easily due to anxiety, that’s not a sign of weakness? Or of submissiveness?
Personally for me a huge thing with my social anxiety is getting embarrassed and feeling embarrassed. I will go to extreme lengths to avoid being embarrassed. I turn bright fucking red and I will stumble over my words and I will shut down if I feel like I’m embarrassing myself or have been humiliated by something. That’s not because I’m a soft uwu little subby bottom, that’s not because I’m a weak guy, my traits of anxiety are not anything to do with strength or dominance or that shit. It’s just because I have a fuckin disorder that has me react intensely to certain social situations. Does that make sense? I’m losing the plot a bit here. I know there’s a point I’m trying to make but I can’t seem to make it.
Treating social anxiety traits like a shameful thing to have, especially acting like it’s unattractive in a grown man or pathetic for a grown man to exhibit traits of their disorder is fucked up.
It’s hurtful. It sucks to read that. No, König is not going to show traits of his anxiety 100% of the time. Yes, people with social anxiety can be confident in some scenarios. But let’s just quickly remember this part of his cod wiki;
Severe social anxiety throughout his life. As in ongoing. Not just in childhood. He didn’t just “get over it” and suddenly become confident. Throughout his life he suffered from severe social anxiety. That means yes. He likely is pretty quiet. He likely does blush. He likely does get embarrassed easily. He likely does stumble over his words. There are things that he probably doesn’t do often (if at all) because of his anxiety. He probably still is anxious even around his partners. Hell dude sometimes I get so anxious around my boyfriend of about a year that I physically cannot speak.
Anyway idk. This shit just been rubbing me the wrong way lately and I wanted to give my two cents lol. This might not stay up long unless it hella resonates w people but yeah!!
TLDR;
Don’t be a dick. Don’t shame people with disorders for exhibiting symptoms. Even if you think those symptoms are unfitting for a 6’10” military man. It’s fucking rude.
If social anxiety symptoms are a turn off for you don’t simp after people who canonically suffer from severe social anxiety.
One more thing! I am happy to announce that the Welcome Home website will reopen on: April 11 !!
We are decorating this Home to the best of our ability and hope it will be fun to peruse once our spring cleaning is through! (Spring drawing, spring typing, spring website maintenance, etc!)
One more more thing!- We are also happy to announce... We are getting our very own array of merchandise! (Julie and Frank... Julie and Frank...) Designed by both Huck and Myself! It's been a labor of love we've been working on behind-the-scenes and I am so, so pleased with how they look thanks to those who are helping us- I hope you folks will really like what comes out too!
Welp! Until all of this is revealed in a month or so, I will be gone! So I will see you then! (Or Wally will, I should say- You know how it goes, haha)
But have a good day! Remember to wave up high! Even if it's raining!
