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21 things black men don’t hear often enough

1. I love you bro. We don’t tell each other as men how much we mean to each other. There is no weakness in that. Only strength, solidarity, and power.

2. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to commit to getting better.

3. Someone is depending on you, to be exactly who you are.

4. Read more. You have time to read 12 books a year (which is more than the average American). We also aren’t average.

5. Showing and sharing your emotions isn’t a sign of weakness. Paying attention to how we feel helps us become more in tune with what’s actually going on.

6. Your mental health matters. You can’t “work yourself” out of your mind. Emotional trauma is very real and worthy of our time. We’ve been through a lot recently.

7. Living is an act of resistance. You are going to live, get out all these dreams, and thrive – despite the odds.

8. You are a descendent of kings. Seriously, don’t bow your head to life. You were built for this.

9. Their opinion won’t pay your bills, or build your dreams. They won’t always see your vision. Not everyone is supposed to.

10. Failure isn’t a tattoo. Learn how to take the Ls and move on. Adapt and overcome.

11. Getting this money, and doing good, aren’t mutually exclusive. You just have to be clear on your non-negotiables and stand by them.

12. You don’t have to ask for permission to be excellent. Go for it.

13. “Everybody eat’s b” – Ace Boogie. Seriously, we can all get what we want to out here. Helping people doesn’t make you a sucker. Do have boundaries though.

14. There is absolutely nothing wrong with working for someone else (even if you’re from Harlem), but it pays to think like an owner. Signing the front of a check is very different than the back.

15. #BLACKLIVESMATTER

16. If someone knocks you for your 9-5, they (1) aren’t your friends and (2) they don’t know about your 6-10. Keep going.

17. Start owning when you can. Pay yourself first. These loans ain’t loyal.

18. We don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You’re excellent and it’s perfectly okay to still be warming up.

19. Try to take care of yourself. I love Popeyes, but what we put in ourselves can actually kill us. Exercise, eat well, and get active. Put some $$ on your jumper, and invite your team out!

20. Learning how to cook is a great look. Seriously. Watch a couple Youtube videos, hit Home Goods, and start cheffing.

21. “Someday” is never going to show up on the calendar. Write that book, send that tweet, record podcast. Don’t opt out, especially not right now.

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icewaterzay

Y’all Don’t Care About Black Men. Stop It 🛑

prettyandmean

This is ignorant af. Ur head must be up your ass. Thats just like saying “yall dont really believe black lives matter. Stop it” u just sound so dumb

jay24ks

I agree with the initial post 🤷🏽‍♂️ those of us that are good people with decent moral standings have been looked over for ages as men both by the good and the bad. Black women’s love of the bad men sadly outweighs the love of good dudes. The biggest thing I have received in any black environment is that “hes cute”. I def see the femenist in the world but black lives matter and frats are as far as I’ve seen black men be appreciated by black women and the frat aspect is so idealistic. You can say someone is talking stupid but obviously they didn’t pull it out they ass cause I feel it as a man. As a woman you try to deny and belittle the man that calls it out. Do your thing babe but in a black man’s opinion nobody crying wolf it’s TRUE. What black man do you appreciate or value that’s not given that because they have a specific relationship to you(like father,bro,childhoodfriend)?

prettyandmean

I tried to belittle him because he speaking wrongly on the majority??? ALL WE DO AND ENDURE FOR YALL BLACK ASS!! Who fighting for yall? IS YOUR HOMIE FIGHTING FOR YOU?? ARE OTHER BLACK MEN FIGHTING FOR YOU? Shit we go to bat for quite a few groups of people but i digress. Then u said name a black man i appreciate that isnt father bro or childhood friend. (You think the women dont value black men unless they family or we fucking them? Is that what you getting at??🤔) Ok so that leaves male friends i met in my adult life bc im guessing u tryna disqualify black males of familial relationships. There are plenty of black men i appreciate (and quite a few from here alone) and not for any other reason besides who they are. Not for anything that they have. I love creating safe spaces for people especially men bc women see right through that tough facade yall put up (just fyi). for yall to say we dont care about yall is asinine. 🙄

jay24ks

State again! For the MAJORITY!!!!!!!!! OUR CULTURE does not support the decent black man with good moral standing!!!! We are absolutely not the front runners of any race as black men besides sports, music and that!!!!..... you see how the world takes advantage of that!!! You said alot of crap that is exactly what it is. Crap. You mumbled alot of nothing to prove no point. You dont have to understand that the idea of good black men are mocked on the daily by the majority ! Especially by black women. You dont even value them as I make that assumption from your bio. You have the right to be who you are but you are dead ass wrong to sit here and act like you value what a black man is when clearly your bio alone comes off in a way I would think you would find anybody that shows interest in you to be repulsive. That maybe the case but if you act this "mean" and fed up with us or what we have to say you thought it was best instead of clear that stigma with something positive you belittle it. Berate him. That's very delusional to think you got love for us when really it seems like tolerance. Like we have hope in yall and yall dont have it in us. That's what I'm getting at. Yea you may speak for yourself but if you come to speak for the majority then you trippin and you wrong the post stands. Dont digress cause the issue is still at hand please state and give clarification cause you went on a little with nothing actually stated but the idea of things. Yes like the man who posted the initial post. He addressed some shit I go through everyday with every fold of woman who mostly thinks the way you reply. What is all yall do and endure. Again I said good men not bad I would assume that in the initial post too. The cry for decades has been that good/bad black women value bad black men. So I definitely see where women endure but it's for the wrong type of black man and me and almost every man I know is proof of that for those of use who have bad fathers! that was so historic! Other than what I stated I dont really see no fighting going on unless its police brutality!!!! You know what I see everyday on the internet and in front of me!!! Women and men both state shit like "not women and kids even the old people!!!!!" People value old people who gone die soon over men then imagine being black! I seen a video of a dude punch a dude out then hit the female then hit a old lady and the who post was flooded with women saying you dont hit no woman you dont hit no old person! While the dude gets no heart he all knocked out on the floor. There is no value on a black man we are free game out here. Everybody feel like a boy/man is gone be alright but as black women yall wrong that shit is cold so dont brush that off you better off not replying less you tryna help

icewaterzay

Y’all Don’t Care About Black Men. Stop It 🛑

prettyandmean

This is ignorant af. Ur head must be up your ass. Thats just like saying “yall dont really believe black lives matter. Stop it” u just sound so dumb

jay24ks

I agree with the initial post 🤷🏽‍♂️ those of us that are good people with decent moral standings have been looked over for ages as men both by the good and the bad. Black women's love of the bad men sadly outweighs the love of good dudes. The biggest thing I have received in any black environment is that "hes cute". I def see the femenist in the world but black lives matter and frats are as far as I've seen black men be appreciated by black women and the frat aspect is so idealistic. You can say someone is talking stupid but obviously they didn't pull it out they ass cause I feel it as a man. As a woman you try to deny and belittle the man that calls it out. Do your thing babe but in a black man's opinion nobody crying wolf it's TRUE. What black man do you appreciate or value that's not given that because they have a specific relationship to you(like father,bro,childhoodfriend)?