Ex-girlfriends never change
Today just by curiosity i asked my ex-girlfriend aka A if she thinks about me, if she misses me or something.
Why? Well, since we broke up we hardly speak. Then, she started dating a guy aka G (never seen him, thank God) and everyone says that she looks unhappy but always states that "she cannot be happier". On the other hand, i'm dating this girl, she's cute and awesome in many ways but i still don't feel anything for her and maybe i wont, so... i decided to ask those simple questions and then maybe ask if she has the same problem.
What was i expecting? Nothing really, i saw A like 2 weeks ago and i didn't felt anything for her, she looked normal to me (more Fat, i have to say. anxiety maybe?, do sports instead!), she spoked to me about some random-senseless stuff while she was being narcissistic looking herself at the mirror 4 times per second, same old - same old, some things never change.
This was her answer (the original message was written in spanish):
If you are not ready for this, DELETE IT NOW
Sometimes I want to know how are you? how are you moving on? and sometimes i stalk you on twitter without too much success... But no, no Stockholm syndrome. When you find someone where you can see in him the face of your unborn child, everything changes, good or bad the past becomes a memory that causes no sensation, is just a memory. Also every time I try to look back, just remember bad things. I wish you to Find That person.
My first thought was, the message could have been rewritten like this:
Sometimes I want to know how are you? how are you moving on? and sometimes i stalk you on twitter without too much success... But no, no Stockholm syndrome. When you find someone were you can see in him the face of your unborn child, everything changes, good or bad the past becomes a memory that causes no sensation, is just a memory. Also every time I try to look back, just remember bad things. I wish you to Find That person.
First, there was no need for the "extra" info, and now that i think about it, she always tried to tell me something about G when she actually don't have to convince me that this new guy is great, if he isn't what's the point of being with him? And i obviously don't want to know anything about him, perfectly normal. You don't say anything to your ex-partner that might hurt him if you still care specially when everything ended "peacefully". I did that courtesy to her, why cant i have it back?
Second, i was thinking that maybe and just maybe she learned something from her past mistakes, she's always forcing everything so hard that you hardly can keep up.
When we were together we had discussions because i didn't agreed/wanted to talk about the expected marriage date, number of kids and gender, where to live, who is going to do what in the house and i let it all pass because its not right, some stuff simply cannot be "designed" and i was just 21 years old, cool down. Instead, and this part just states the obvious, she has simply not improved, she has 3 months dating this guy and says: When you find someone where you can see in him the face of your unborn child, everything changes.
Yes, indeed. Everything changes, but does not imply that it changes for the best. I wonder if G knows this hahaha Now i'm the one remembering the bad stuff, suicidal notes, panic attacks...
Third, stockholm syndrome? Hahaha this is ironic, i'm the one that should be wondering about it, and maybe, at some extent i did suffered such thing. Anyway a nice combination of time, work, exercise, alcohol, partying, girls and music wipes it out.
To finish this post, the following pic came to my mind when i ended reading her reply. And then i decided to respond with a lie, "i did not read it, i deleted it, i was just too drunk yesterday hahaha have a nice day".
And just to clarify, i love myself and i wrote this post just to remember that i should never write to her again, at least to keep my mental health.
people hardly change, specially ex-girlfriends.
