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We all know a friend who, after getting into a relationship, started letting herself go, stopped wearing makeup, stop getting dressed up etc
Many women get into relationships and fall for theĀ ābaby i like you just the way you are, i love you with no makeup on, you donāt need the wigs and the nails and the facialsā
hereās why you should never stop taking care of yourself during a relationship
1. remember āa woman being pretty is like a man being richā, our society is superficial and your looks, wether you like it or not, are an asset in society, pretty privilege is real!
2. remember, men lie ! they might say they dont like makeup and weave and nails, but when they cheat !!! who do they cheat with?Ā girls with that exact description
in fact, no need for cheating, who do these men follow on instagram? itās always the instagram models and IG baddies who hve their maakeup and hair done at all times
Now letās roll back the tape,
when your man first approached you thereās a 100% chance you were dressed well, with makeup on and hair done
yet why do they suddenly want you to change your look when you get with them
itās a manipulation tactic
and no, itās not because they think youāre oh so beautiful without makeup
most insecure men who score a beautiful girlfriend feel the need to keep her by their side by humbling her and limiting her options
if you walk out the door looking good every day, your man knows he has to come correct, he knows you can pull other men so if he slacks on the dinner dates and flowers and romance, you can easily replace him
when you go outside looking good without your man, he has no control over what happens in his absence, maybe a man will offer to pay your groceries, maybe another will offer to help with pumping gas, maybe another with will ask for your number
your man is completely out of control, and so if he wants to keep you he can either
1. be aa good human being and treat you well and honor you so you never have to look at other men
2. the insecure approach would be to get you to change your look so your confidence is lowered and your options are limited
Your man knows nobodyās checking for you if youāre leaving the house in sweats and a bonnet, and thatās a relief for him
manipulating you into taking less care of yourself is the first step of a series of narcissistic manipulation and abuse, when youāre confidence is chipped away, and you feel like you run out of options or are undesirable, that opens the way for him to treat you in a shitty way, and he knows you wonāt leave, cause now he got you cornered and you feel so undesirable, being with someone as shitty as him feels like a privilege
see how the manipulation happens !!!
thereās a reason why women glow up so much after a breakup, they lose weigh and they look better than ever before !!!!
if your looks get progressively worse as you enter a relationships, thatās a red flag baby