it is so sinister how ambiguity and multiplicity are viewed as immature, underdeveloped, as a stepping-stone to "real" (binarized, static) identity. whether with bisexuality, nonbinariness, polyamory, or identities seen as more "out there" like plurality / alterhumanity.
taken together these approaches to relationality/self&selveshood are a reminder that there is no such thing as fate, and that there are aspects of our lives opaque and unknown to ourselves and to others. it's "childish", isn't it? living in ambiguity and mystery, refusing to be just one thing? this element of supposed "childishness" is actually part of a powerful relational politic in a bioessentialist world.