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I really do think that it’s good for the soul to be unironically pretentious about something. Not in a gatekeeping kind of way but in a “yes, it really is that deep and I would love to enthusiastically and passionately explain why” kind of way.

#finally. a post for Me.

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ihatenearlyeverything

its ok theyre Gods lil helpers

oatmealbrain

And boy are they clumsy

hydrangeafae

Hi, these bees are babies! They’re not clumsy at all, this is what is called orientation flights. After birth and before beginning their careers as foragers (as all Honey bees cycle through all the jobs in the Hive throughout their lifespan), Honey bees take short flights back and forth, to and from the Hive, to orient themselves with their wings and their home so they can learn its location and how to get back home after foraging! Everyone has to learn, these are just smol little baby turkeys. Bees use the angle of the sun for location so adults have a better and more direct sense of location than any human

polar-solstice

IM SO PLEASED TO LEARN THIS!!!

They are just!!! Student drivers!!! 😭

sindri42

BONK!

jungwildeandfree

(gentle piano riff) my command seal, phony lancer

jungwildeandfree

bringing this back because my mastery of basic elton john puns is unappreciated by the UBW fandom

#fate series

emeraldspiral

#me briefly thrust into a confusing but intriguing alternate universe because i thought this was about the Lady Jessica of House Atreides

overthinkinglotr

Another hilarious thing I feel we should talk about more is the fact that *film* Aragorn and Arwen break up right before Aragorn leaves Rivendell……. meaning that film!Aragorn spends most of the quest in an “oh my god my relationship of 50 years just ended what do I even do with myself????” depression haze.

It explains so much…..

Like. Externally Aragorn is on an epic quest to save Middle Earth, internally he’s crying on the couch in his sweatpants eating a tub of the Middle-Earth equivalent of Ben and Jerry’s

overthinkinglotr

Legolas: Aragorn?

Aragorn: Arwen used to call me Aragorn…..

Legolas: Because it’s your fucking name

overthinkinglotr

To be clear I actually love the film’s version of Aragorn/Arwen’s relationship, there’s a lot of Dramatic Potential/ angsty meta you could write on it, but–.

BUT

It’s also like– you think Aragorn has to put up with Legolas and Gimli’s annoying romance antics? Legolas and Gimli have to deal with Aragorn spending half the quest staring wistfully into the distance and sighing dramatically about What Can Never Be™…with how often he sings the Lay of Luthien, basically the Middle Earth equivalent of Adele’s Someone Like You….

overthinkinglotr

Gimli: You haven’t washed your hair in MONTHS. We’re staging an intervention.

Aragorn (lying flat on the ground with his face in the dirt): aweralwkerjwae

Legolas: You’re only 87– you’ve got your whole life ahead of you. You can find love a second time!

Aragorn: I did. Boromir died.

Legolas: Maybe three is your lucky number!

teddy-after-all

#for me film Legolas’ main character trait#is that he’s incapable of reading the room (tags via @overthinkinglotr)

sweetiepie08

Aragorn, any time he gets a moment to himself during the quest:

starr-bryte

Gimli: This lovely Rhohirrim woman is clearly into you. She’s a fighter. You’re a fighter. She loves horses. You love horses (also you smell like one). Give her a chance!

Aragorn: *flashbacks to him and Arwen making out in Imladris while the elvish version of “when somebody loved me” plays in the background.

ruffboi-mags

He literally did this. (and then imagined Arwen kissing him before getting woken up by his horse)

trickster-archangel

At least he managed to wash himself AND his hair

#Legolas (taking a wild ass guess at how long humans live) 'it's ok buddy young love is always rough!'

estrogenesis-vaporeongelion

hey girl. you can call me taylor farms lettuce. cause i'm trying to blow that ass out from coast to coast

estrogenesis-vaporeongelion

hey girl. you can call me taylor farms lettuce. cause i wanna make you squirt in all 50 states

estrogenesis-vaporeongelion

hey girl. you can call me taylor farms lettuce. because literally everybody has heard by now that i'm not allowed back at taco bell

#hello beloved mutuals. you must also see this now because i had to #much like taylor farms i am spreading the love

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derinthescarletpescatarian

Two animals who appreciate the Warm Lamp

mikkeneko

mickey's fully automated luxury dick smasher

depsidase

bowditch

one way to combat this is to be confidently proactive and no-shame reactive. they're still little enough that they think the world of you as a parent or an adult. the key is being casual instead of shocked and upset.

"oh, i don't think that's just for girls. it's pink, but anybody can like pink."

"oh yeah, purple is a great color! colors are for everybody."

"you're right-- i am a girl. that means i have a strong body just like a boy, and i can [climb/use a drill/take out the trash] with my arms."

"hm i don't think we're letting private parts make a decision about this toy."

"if other kids give you a hard time, you can just say you like this toy (or this color) and that's why. if anyone is rude to you, it might hurt, but they're the ones being wrong."

"i think it's cool that we both have eyes that can cry if we're feeling overwhelmed or sad. it helps us communicate how we feel."

"some kids might tell you this is for girls, but it's really just for people. we can have fun and play with anything safe that's interesting. it's sad that some kids don't have adults that teach them that."

"it's important to play and learn all kinds of skills. what if you find out you like to cook? what if someday you have a friend who needs help?"

"you know who buys the MOST glitter? people who make paint for boats. guys who go fishing spend more time with glitter than anyone else."

"it's divided into girls and boys because some grownups maybe care more than they should about colors. but that's not a real rule."

like. you gotta prepare them to stand up for themselves and you gotta normalize *recognizing* and dismissing those comments, or they WILL start to win out. walk your toddler sons or nephews down all the toy aisles. let them hold a baby doll. take your girls through the hot wheels and nerf sections.

and don't make the mistake of swinging to the other extreme. trying to talk a four year old boy into the pink version, or trying to talk a four year old girl out of wanting a frilly dress are JUST as gendering. you're sending signals that they should ignore their own preferences to appease an adult's preferred worldview, and they're going to equally cave when it's in support of an ideology you don't like. let them gravitate toward what they like and give them the language to recognize it as personal preference-- to identify and disregard comments, or defend others-- even if their preference is 100% mainstream.

the goal isn't to make sure little boys have pink toys and play house, or that little girls get construction tools and wear blue.

the secondary goal is to strip away the gender-signaling in toys and prepare kids to stand up for OTHER HUMANS.

the primary goal is to equip kids to play and wear what they like without shame or fear.

and it's so fucking sad it starts so early, but it can work both ways-- you can have kids going home from the same daycare suddenly equipped by peers to say, NO I DO WANT THE TOOLBOX FOR MY BIRTHDAY, NOAH SAYS HIS MOM FIXES EVERYTHING IN HER HOUSE and I LIKE THE ONE WITH FLOWERS, SOPHIE SAYS HER DAD LOVES FLOWERS.

maybe this means liam in kindergarten spends most of his playtime with baby dolls and glitter stickers. or maybe it means liam plays with monster trucks and wears red shirts with basketballs, but will tell a peer, "oh it's cool that you like pink. is that your favorite color? i like red but pink icing is my favorite on cake." and it's because a beloved uncle or big brother or parent said, "oh strawberry icing is MY favorite, too! i always want pink icing on my cake. the cake doesn't care if i'm a boy or a girl."

or maybe liam had an experience like my five year old, where he was going across a construction store parking lot in his bright pink crocs and a man tumbled out of his SUV fifty feet away to stick a leg in the air and yell, "HEY, WE BOTH HAVE PINK CROCS!" just to be nice. because pink is for humans.

tl;dr -- i get the grief here. i've felt it, too. but the way we change this isn't with shock or dread. it's with intention and grace and being involved. in modeling conversation and comments without spite or criticism.

galileosballs

There was a kid in my class the other day who asked me "why do you sound like a boy?" to which my response - after a startled pause - was "well, why do you?"

He of course answered "because I am a boy"

(I was prepared for this)

I then replied "well, do you sound like a boy because you are a boy, or are you a boy because you sound like one"

This perplexed the child, hopefully complicating his understanding of gender forever. When in doubt, the Euthyphro dilemma is yours to deploy.

pankendev

i like to order a lot of various evil import shit online and then spend the next week eating various evil import shit

pankendev

currently trying

pankendev

i think more things should be illegal

toskarin

just saw a re-run of band shirts I was interested in sold out while I wasn't looking and went "aww I wanted one" then looked down and remembered I not only had one from the first run, but am literally presently wearing it