When someone all but says you shouldnāt be a parent. šš»
āYou shouldnāt have kids if you donāt want to do things with them,ā
My boy is turning two soon, he knows his left hand from his right, heās known his colours since around 19 months old. He can count to ten and is starting his sentences. Just because I donāt want to take my child to a park day in and day out or because I like to catch my breathe more often than others doesnāt make me any less qualified to be a parent.
Iāve breastfeed for near 2 whole years, my boy is always clean and fed. He is off the charts in height and weight and constantly outstands anyone he meets. But go ahead tell me I should parent, why? Because I donāt like being in public; my anxiety, my depression holds me back. Oh you managed to cope with toddler tantrums in public? Good for you, I canāt stand the pain in my childās screams as we go up and down in elevators, I donāt have the energy to chase him in parks. My back hurts a thousand times over when I have to lift him to the change table let alone carry his 16+kg ass around because he refuses to hold my hand or listen when I say stop.
Go ahead and tell me I shouldnāt parent because I do it differently to you, I could make many judgments on the way you would choose to raise my son. But itās not enough to not drink or smoke or to have never touched drugs. Itās not enough to give every ounce of your body for years to give them a fighting chance. Itās not enough to lose every ounce of sanity trying to make his father happy when he only wanted to lie and cheat. Go ahead and put me down cause Iāll just never be good enough for you. But at the point I couldnāt care less. šš»