Neglected children will sometimes go âokay time to dangerously deteriorate to see if anyone cares about meâ and then if nobody does, they donât know how to stop deteriorating on their own, theyâll need help to pick themselves back up.
 And if that help doesnât arrive, theyâll conclude âI was right to destroy myself in a world where nobody cares for me anyway, why should I live at allâ and it sets them on a miserable life path where all they see is chances for self destruction and proof of nobody caring, and from the very start itâs not their fault at all.
Because someone should notice when a kid starts losing themselves and step up and help. Children are not meant to know how to take care of themselves in an environment where theyâre neglected, ignored and uncared for. Putting them in such an environment then blaming them for deteriorating is absolutely ridiculous. It takes paying attention and realizing when something is wrong and pulling a kid out of the black hole theyâre falling into, before they can no longer crawl their way out on their own.Â
Itâs not acceptable to let children deal with abandonment and neglect all on their own, and expect them to not grow up miserable, resentful, struggling, and doing harm to themselves. Itâs the same harm we never stopped them from doing when they were kids, when they needed to know that someone would care if theyâre hurt. If we want functional and healthy adults in the society, we have to notice what is going on with the kids and make sure theyâre helped in time.Â
People are letting me know this happens to adults too, and, yeah. It does. If youâre an adult and youâre still dealing with this, and failing to find your way out of it, youâre not alone. You shouldnât be forced to deal with it alone either.
