Look it's Louisa!

Louisa, 24, Canada, deaf/hoh, she/her ... kinda nerdy, plant momma, reader, adventures, advocate.

[rumade]

I’d divorce him too lmao

[sustainableseparatists]

[sisyphereantask]

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

[probablyasocialecologist]

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness

Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together.

[justlouisabeinglouisa]

Neurodiversity!!!

LONG QUESTION BUT EXAMPLE IS IMPORTANT..

Hi, so I just started a job as a social worker at an autism support agency. I do mental health therapy, financial support, and young adult support through one to one meetings, group workshops, etc... Many of my training materials present the goal of supporting people with autism to be motivated/justified as assimilation and creating "more comfortable situations for the dominant society".

EXAMPLE: one book (meant for parents of females on the spectrum) described teaching the social skill of keeping legs closed while wearing dresses/skirts with the logic of "sitting with your exposed underwear makes those around you uncomfortable". . . There was no mention anywhere in the whole book of teaching personal social safety these situations bring (which yes, would be harder to discuss, and it's sad this is a reality to begin with). . . This is only one example of many.

Do you have ideas of how I can create a practice environment that opposes this method of "support" while not risking my job security by going too far from the companies perspective? Whether it be reflexive practice tips, office environment, or better training materials?

[thenatsdorf]

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[justlouisabeinglouisa]

Exploring for food amid the last snow of the season. Sask Canada. 

[justlouisabeinglouisa]

There’s so much nature “spring-ing” back to life around me. I’m not much a photographer but here we have: 

Top: Bear Berries (red), and Juniper Berries (blue)

Middle 2 Rows: Wild strawberries and wild sage, 

Bottom: Last year’s Sage (left), and beginning of this year’s Wild Sage (right)

[justlouisabeinglouisa]

The new D&D group is going awesome and this game is such a worthwhile way to spend my vacation 😅❤

[hope4gem]

[justlouisabeinglouisa]

Anyone else casually hear an acquaintance refer to you as their friend and just have a little moment thinking "omg they think of me as a friend!"??

As a socially anxious introvert this is one of the nicest most reassuring things ever ❤

[dakotajonson]

This is my fight song Take back my life song Prove I’m alright song My power’s turned on Starting right now I’ll be strong I’ll play my fight song And I don’t really care if nobody else believes ‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me

DEAF WEST THEATRE in ZOEY’S EXTRAORDINARY PLAYLIST Season 1, Episode 9 — Zoey’s Extraordinary Silence

[thesadghostclub]

You’ve survived 100% of your bad days so far - you can handle this. You are strong and you can make it through <3

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[justlouisabeinglouisa]

MAKEUP FAILS ALERT!

So, I've never really been a makeup person, adattpd I'm not good at it 🙈😰 I far from know how to do anything fancy, but I've been watching a LOT of Rupaul during isolation, so decided this is the best time to have some fun and improve my skills... TIPS AND TRICKS?! 😁😅🤷‍♀️ I always keep the eyes on a much smaller area of my lids.

I this is an eyebrow balm and I definitely would stick with my usual powder. . . and the eyeshadow looks more blended in real life, but here's some fun!! ☺️

This lipstick is also not one I'd get again. It clumps badly no matter what I do. I LOVE the coloured though. Also, my foundation and neck are NOT at all blendable. . . That area has always been SO differently coloured. . It's better when it tans in the summer though Tips? 🙈

Here's some funky playing around today and two of what I usually do for my makeup! and my hair is usually curly and presentable. . . But social isolation, right?! Also, I only have these colors because of free makeup samples 😅🤷‍♀️😁

[amavris]

“Badr al-Dine. Badr is moon, it means something like moon of faithfulness”

“When I see a full moon, it’s like he’s telling me not to look back or feel sad about things”

kofi | instagram

[l0velyyb0nezz]

[isappho-deactivated20240418]

since april is coming up, here is your reminder to not support light it up blue and autism $peaks but to instead support autistic self-advocacy, such as #RedInstead, and support autism acceptance

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since april is coming up, here is your reminder to not support light it up blue and autism $peaks but to instead support autistic self-advocacy, such as #RedInstead, and support autism acceptance

[lesbian-ed]

So, as promised, here’s my list of lesbian movies for all of our lovely followers and the people you want to share it with. I hope I haven’t forgotten any good ones, but if you feel like that is the case, feel free to add movies to the list! 

This is my gift for all of you, I hope you’ll like it ♥

/ Mod W

Tipping the Velvet 

based on the book by sarah waters (she has written many lesbian books!)

it’s a bbc adapatation

technically a mini series but i like to see it as three hours of lesbian content heaven

it’s about this girl who falls in love with an actress and she goes to see her at the theatre five billion times until the actress notices her (that’s just the first part, other things happen to the main so watch the rest for more lesbian content~)

the main character (nan astley/king) is like… my fave. i love her.

the book is very good too!!!

honestly i have so much love for this movie/book i get all giddy just thinking of it

Bound

lesbian gangster/mob movie do i need to say more???

the main actresses are cute af (one of them is a butch lesbian!)

it’s awesome and very cool

(gonna trigger warn for use of lesbophobic slurs used by some characters/some lesbophobic violence)

Below Her Mouth

meh plot with amazing sex scenes basically?

a lot of sex scenes

i mean it like half the movie is graphic sex so if ur uncomfortable with that you probably shouldn’t watch it lol

all female cast

willa from wynonna earp!

The Handmaiden

also based on a book by sarah waters (called Fingersmith, there’s a bbc adaptation of it too which you should totally check out as well)

good quality movie right there

(putting a trigger warning here for sexual and psychological abuse and abuse in general)

Kyss Mig

one of few good swedish movies

basically about two step-sisters who fall in love (they’re not actually related i promise)

But I’m a Cheerleader

baby natasha lyonne is in this one! also i have a crush on clea duvall in this movie lol

a very cute love story tbh

good aesthetic

you’ve probably heard of it before but idc cause it’s great

(it’s like a satire of conversion therapy so if that’s something you can’t watch i don’t recommend this movie for you in particular)

If These Walls Could Talk 2 

a bunch of famous actresses (like chloë sevigny, michelle williams, natasha lyonne, ellen degeneres, etc. etc.)

divided in three segments from three different periods in time

one segment is set during the feminist movement in the 70s and features chloë sevigny as a butch lesbian with a motorcycle do i even need to say more??

Anatomy of a Love Seen

this is about two actresses who were a couple when they shot a movie together and now they have to go back and re-shoot some love scenes but they’re not a couple anymore and it’s sad af

i have basically never seen this movie in any rec lists but it’s actually one of my faves and i cry so much to this movie tbh

Saving Face

this is a good one

also pretty funny tbh!

it’s about a doctor who falls in love with a dancer and the doctor’s relationship with her conservative mom

it’s kind of rom-comish

Lost and Delirious

warning: very sad like super sad?

it’s about a girl who goes to a boarding school and so happens to become roommates with a lesbian couple

teen angst squared and multiplied with gay panic

The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls In Love

you may have heard of this one but if you haven’t it’s time you watch it

that woman who plays tina on the l word is a butch-ish girl in this one

VERY CUTE and chill

every time i watch this it feels like this movie is the director’s BABY like it seems like she cares about this story so much and it makes the movie feel so genuine and lovely

i want every baby lesbian to watch this, please, it’s my gift to you.

D.E.B.S.

you may have heard of this one too but if you haven’t seen it yet it’s definitely worth a watch!

lesbian spies!

the heroine falls in love with the villain (that enemies to lovers trope tho!!)

Desert Hearts

old but good!

i feel like this movie is on most of these long rec lists but people probably don’t watch it cause it’s old but it is actually pretty good!

your classic “oops i thought i was straight but that woman is hot” story

Margarita With a Straw

indian girl figures out she’s bi when she goes to uni in new york and meets a lesbian girl

cute, funny, sad, it has everything tbh

The Hours (actually one of my all-time favorite movies/books!)

The Intervention

The Kids Are All Right

The Children’s Hour

Elena Undone

Fucking Åmål