Kate de Medici

World traveler, vegan, radical feminist, writer, reader, animal rights advocate, wine/coffee/tea aficionado, spa enthusiast, cat person, yoga snob, child free, permanent RBF.

[sapphsorrows]

talking feminism with radfems

talking feminism with libfems

talking feminism with men

[incel-rights-advocate-deactivat]

[whittneydoll]

This generation will say gender’s a social construct then make posts like this

[kiefbowl]

am I crazy wtf is masc about these outfits lmao

[lulus-delivery-service]

no petticoats

[kiefbowl]

without their bonnets!

[qwertyu858]

[rooftops-are-for-towels]

actually, fuck you people, it's likely that those outfits are at least much more masculine than those people's usual wear, and whether or not they are it's just fucking assholish to act holier than though because they aren't masc enough for YOU. but hey, it's the internet. folks will act like this no matter what. i hate this place.

[radgirl-spray]

OR you could stop pushing some HYPERFEMININE standards disguised as wokeness. There is absolutely nothing progressive about "is masculine to wear pants."

[piqued-curiosity]

As a cis woman, scum like you make me sick. I hope your stupid transphobic ass gets taught a lesson

Kissing the feet of the trans community is only harming yourself and other women in the long run. You may think sending these kinds of asks make you safe and position you as a Good Cis Woman…but they don’t. One day you’ll do something they don’t like. Maybe you’ll defend a victim of SA who doesn’t want to be around males. Maybe you’ll defend a lesbian who’s being pressured to like penis. Maybe you’ll refer to periods or pregnancy as a women’s issue. Maybe you’ll talk about women’s rights a little too much.

Speaking from experience, literally all it takes for you to be branded as a “terf” is to step out of line once. And the line is so thin, it’s so easy to step out of. You’re a woman, so you’re going to be judged for every tiny thing you do. You’re always at risk of being called a “terf” unless you carefully watch your every move and word to make sure you’re properly obeying the demands of the trans community.

So put down your fellow women as much as you want. Just know that one day, you’ll probably be on the receiving end simply because you’re a woman. Good luck.

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

Anyone remember that post that's like

"cis women need to shut up"

"as a cis woman I couldn't agree more"

"You need to shut up especially"

All this to say they still fucking hate you, anon 💀 your solidarity means nothing when it's one-sided

[throneofbrokenglass]

I hate gender and gender conditioning so much. I work at a daycare and everyday I hear the kids referring to things as “girl colors” “boy colors” or “girl toys” and “boy toys”. Some of them refuse to touch and play with anything that is associated with the opposite sex. Everyday I have to remind them that there there is no such thing as boy things and girl things. You can play with whatever you want, color with whatever colored crayon you want. It’s so angering because I know that no matter how much I try to undo all of that conditioning it just gets reinforced again when they go home. Thankfully, I have not yet noticed any misogyny from the boys toward the girls or any boys trying to form “boys clubs”, but as soon as I do see anything like that, it’s getting shut down. In a way, I am involved in the social conditioning of these children, and I will be dammed if I don’t do my part to teach the boys to respect the girls and to teach the girls that they can do anything they set their minds’ to.

[misandresther]

[edonee]

Things typically made for women (ex. high heels, bikinis, mini skirts) are designed to be impractical and humiliating btw. I don't think most people realize how demeaning they look, because we are so used to seeing them on women. We are so used to seeing women in the tiny micro thongs at the beach, having to be careful not to move around too much so that they don't accidentally flash everyone. All while men get to wear the comfortable, covering shorts, that allow them to move as much as they want, climb up rocks, and run without having to double-check whether their fucking balls are hanging out. The comparison looks ridiculous. Just another example of women having to perform in every aspect of their life, even when doing activities as innocent as swimming.

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

as someone who wants to transition , all i can say in hopes you understand my pov is:

i feel like i dont belong in my body , i look at the mirror and dont see myself , i just see... someone i dont want to be. when my friend lent me one of their skirts it was eye opening, i felt comfortable! for once in my life i felt genuine unrestrained happiness that i cant put into words

the fact people use a term only used for animals to distance themselves from us trans folks it feels humiliating and disrespectful towards that happiness i felt

those people would rather do ANYTHING before accepting me for who i am and its just sad

i know you'll probably just call me a million insults like the radfems i tried to reason with before you but... at least i tried. if you want to genuenly understand my experience and have doubts though , im open to hearing your response

why can't you wear a skirt without identifying as a different gender? if the skirt is what made you happy, why do you have to change your gender? are you saying that gender is based on clothes?

humans are also animals. male and female are still biological realities of humans. your medical sheets still say male or female, no matter whether you address people as male or female in day to day conversations.

why would I call you insults? who did?

if you genuinely hate your body, you need therapy.

[modified-vegan]

Ya’ll ask to be called out on your problematic behavior until that problematic behavior is you exploiting animals. And then you’re all defense

[tzov]

tip for women: do fewer things "out of love" and more things that directly advantage you

[tzov]

Nope. This is terrible advice for men. In general they need to learn to do more things for other people. I only advise women to act more in self interest.

[girlschasinggirls]

If men hadn't oppressed, restricted, raped and enslaved women for the last 5000 years all the ugly, short, balding in their 20s men would have died out by now and I'll never forgive them for that

[girlschasinggirls]

This actually isn't even a joke, men entirely distorted the path of human evolution by restricting women's sexual selection, and not just about looks either but important internal characteristics as well

[mommyhorror]

[samgerinee-s-deactivated2024020]

I saw someone say that the reason why modern body positivity has failed us so miserably is because they introduced the idea that every woman’s body is beautiful instead of eliminating the need for beauty in the first place, and that the reason why men don’t understand is because we let them be something they will never let us be, which is ugly and loved.

[juniperhillpatient]

the way some of y'all speak so condescendingly to & about vegans & vegetarians or just people trying to recycle or do a little better for the world is sick actually. sorry corporations are the real problem & everything is hopeless but I'm a receptionist lmao I won't fix that in my lifetime but I can minimize the animal products I buy & recyle & try not to buy aersol products & be nice to people. sorry the idea of doing the bare minimum infuriates some of u guys to ur cores but like. get fucked

[floradfem]

the more i've thought about it Femininity is literally against nature. if you look at other animal species the male impresses the female (ex: male peacocks are the ones with beautiful feathers, male birds sing a song for female birds, other animals have males fight for the attention of a female) Patriarchy, femininity, plastic surgery, make up etc are unnatural. Women are supposed to be the ones who choose, and men impress women, this is what happens in other species.

Adding onto that another thing is heterosexuality in humans is so warped by porn, plastic surgery and femininity where men are more attracted to essentially a fetish, femininity, and not women in their natural state.

[pinkfairiesteaparty]

[fleur-aesthetic]

instagram | darcys_dahlias

[imeverywoman420]

also reject any type of womens empowerment thats like “yeah girls give birth to the whole world we’re mothers respect us we gave birth to you we clean up after you women do everything for you!”That is a right wing trojan horse lol tying your worth to childrearing and you’re also letting yourself fall into the role of someone that automatically does those things (cleaning up after men) and wanting praise for it. Rather than to be removed from the role of mother/maid/wench. Reminds me of when a right wing post criticizing drag queens for “mocking femininity” got a lot of traction in “feminist” circles on here a while back.

women dont need to be more morally upright, cleaner, better at domestic stuff and nurturing, or give birth to a single baby to have the same rights and dignities that men do.

[pickle-and-beans]

Such a dapper boy 🥹