KC

[ellisnightingale]

“Take me to the flowers, to the place where petals rest, when the nights are dark and the air is cold and there's nothing gentle left. I want to wake up in a meadow warmed by golden light, and see the butterflies again, and know I'll be alright.”

— Ellis Nightingale

[dogteefh]

“

you can dip your words in honey 
and sugarcoat your wicked tongue, 
but nothing can change your rotten heart
or change what you have done.


”

― poetry doesn’t make what you did pretty

[the-anxiety-man]

What’s the difference between negative and intrusive thoughts?

Examples of negative thoughts:

They are ignoring me because they are mad at me.

I should have gone to the gym today.

I am not going to get this job. I just know I’m going to mess up and be too nervous.

They have everything going for them, what do I have?

If only I would have…, this wouldn’t have happened. It’s my fault.

Examples of intrusive thoughts:

I could just put that knife through my hand. 

If I walk into that room I could see a dead body.  

Do I really love my partner?

I should put my hand on the hot stove.

If I leave the taps on it could cause a flood.

Could I have or contract a deadly disease?

What if I’m actually gay/straight?

What if I hurt or have hurt another person without knowing?

As you can see from the examples above, intrusive thoughts are often questions, as if to deliberately provoke rumination and obsessing (in which the initial question is never truly answered). Intrusive thoughts can come about randomly, are graphic/disturbing in nature, and have no connection to the person’s usual behaviour or even the situation at hand. They are difficult to ignore because they either imply a catastrophic consequence or give the person an increasing sense of discomfort. Intrusive thoughts can also come in the form of false memories in which it’s difficult to tell if it’s an intrusive thought or a memory.

Anyone can have intrusive thoughts from time to time. However when the thoughts are more frequent and/or distressing it often indicates mental illness. Conditions that have intrusive thoughts as symptoms include: OCD, social/general anxiety disorder, depression, eating disorders, ADHD, personality disorders, PTSD, bipolar disorder, brain injuries, dementia, Parkinson’s disease.

Negative thoughts are more likely to be an emotional response to an event, relationship, or situation and are the result of a person’s low self esteem or past trauma. 

Sometimes negative thoughts can lead to or come after intrusive thoughts; e.g believing you’re being ignored and then having intrusive thoughts questioning/listing odd reasons why the other person is doing so, or having a specific intrusive thought about a loved one and believing yourself to be an awful person.

With negative thoughts treatment usually consists of re-framing them, and seeing the situation from a different, more positive perspective in order to adjust your thinking patterns and behaviour in the future. “If they’re ignoring me, that’s their problem. While I don’t understand why I won’t hold it against them. They might be busy, as people often are.”

With intrusive thoughts treatment can focus on the person allowing the thoughts to pass through the mind, reminding themselves that the thoughts are involuntary, and to not fear these thoughts or react emotionally to them (cognitive diffusion). Often a way to do this is through exposure, in which the person builds up to confronting their intrusive thoughts/object of fear and sitting with the uncomfortable feeling until it no longer bothers them and being able to do daily activities despite the anxiety.

[we-the-dreamers]

“I loved you in the morning; Our kisses deep and warm. Your hair upon the pillow Like a sleepy, golden storm.”

— Leonard Cohen (1934 - 2016)

[contechristino]

All the Cameos in “FEELS LIKE SUMMER” Music Video by Childish Gambino.

[90s-rnb-with-a-pinch-of-salt]

Playlist Pt. 3

Since some of y’all liked my first two playlists. I thought imma drop another one.

Ari Lennox

Kweeeeennnnnn✨ I think she’s getting a lot more attention now bc of the creed soundtrack… yaasss

Shea Butter Baby ft. J. Cole

40 Shades of Choke

No one

Night Drive

Whipped cream

Backseat

Etc.

UMI

She’s young, she’s new and exactly what I need lol.

Midnight blues

Remember me

T-Shirt

River

KAIIT

Yoooo lil mama in red killing it🔥

OG Luv Kush p.2

Natural Woman

2000 n SOMETHIN

Duffman

Summer Walker

Smooth…

Deep

Session 32

Girls need love

Shame

Smartwater

Just like me

Karma

Im there

Abhi//Dijon

Butter.

Skin

Often

Like a bird

Jon B (love❤️)

Ayyy

Wait

Single stuff

Pink Sweat$ - honesty

Daniel Caesar - Beauty and essex

Daniel Caesar - Who hurt you?

Justine Skye - Build

Dounia&Kehlani - Rich Girl Mood

Anderson.Paak - Trippy (ft. J.Cole)

The Roots - You got me (ft. Erykah Badu)

Lianne La Havas - Tokyo

Khalid & H.E.R - This Way

Childish Gambino - Feels Like Summer

Tracy Chapman - Fast Car (also I like khalid’s cover)

DRAMA - Barely Friends

Knox Brown - Reignite (ft. Gallant)

Marvin Dark - OMW

ELHAE - Fantasy

Jessie Reyez - Imported

Frank Ocean - White Ferrari

Boogie - Violence (ft. Masego)

Cassidy - Taken

Khalid - Location (Remix) ft. Kehlani, Lil wayne

Trevor jackson - Right now

Whatever

This is all over the place tf. Nevermind.

Nonetheless imma post it🤷🏽‍♀️

Yoo hit me up if you got some dope songs bc I definitely need to upgrade my playlists.

[blackgirlmagic123]

Need to remember when trying to find good songs to listen too

[i-breakchains]

There's so much R&B to be found, no excuses (pt. 2):

Sampha

Bibi Bourelly

Guordan Banks

Ari Lennox

Vanessa White

Justine Skye

NAO

Noname

Roy Woods

June’s Diary

PJ

Eryn Allen Kane

Jamila Woods

Kehlani

Gallant

H.E.R.

Anderson .Paak

Gabriel Garzon-Montano

D.R.A.M.

Raury

Ambre Perkins

Samaria

Sinead Harnett

Ella Mai

Paloma Ford

[glamorousmelanin]

the fact that i fw 90% of them made me hella excited, to see their names on this list. imma just add DVSN as well as Mic Lowry & imma b on my way.

[littlegreen]

my favorite album releases of 2018

[brittybat93-deactivated20190208]

Ideal relationship for me would include:

- 1 a.m. Taco Bell runs

- Sing duets together

- Cuddles

- Cooking together

- Making crafts together

- Late night chats about conspiracy theories and politics

- More cuddles

[depresseddisneyprincess]

[erosedits]

･.•° please, like or reblog if you save and don’t repost as your own ° •. ･

[carlisles-compassion]

No joke I was a manager at Hot Topic during peak Twilight craze and let me tell you it was ~ w y l d ~

Headquarters told us to stop putting size stickers or sensors on the new shirts that would come in, just put them out as fast as we could and literally people would rip piles from our arms!!!

like we had a midnight release “party” for ppl who preordered their copy of Twilight but like it got out of hand and 1200 ppl showed up. we had to assign someone to be security for the Edward cardboard cutout because ppl were biting it

[sharkbaitwhohahaa]

90s men in entertainment And currently men in entertainment

All so fine… TO ME lol

[accgoo]

Prince

[promisesofamazing]

“And if you’re going to love me, you need to know that I am a complete mess. I cry whenever someone raises their voice and I always think that I’m never good enough because in the past that’s been the case. I cry whenever I start to even remotely think about my future because I don’t know who I am without this sadness and I don’t think I’m ever going to get better. I love animals way too much so I’m always bringing strays home. I get attached way too easily and I don’t know how to keep a conversation going. There’s days when everything is too much and I won’t speak to a single soul so please don’t take offense when I don’t return your calls. I come with a lot of baggage so you should know that I am no ray of sunshine and I am not made of fairy dust and everything pink and sunny. I am made of heartache, tears and sadness. If you’re going to love me, you should know that I open up way to easily and it leaves me with nothing for myself and that hurts. I let people take pieces of me whenever they decide to leave so I’m hoping that you won’t do that. As much of a realist that I am, I love romance. I don’t believe in a prince saving me, but I do believe in unicorns and ghosts. I always say my favorite color is blue, but if you ask me why I don’t have a happy meaning for it. I haven’t been to my father’s grave since the day we put him in the ground and that eats away at me. Holidays are always hard even though I always have a smile on my face. If you ask me what’s wrong more than likely I’ll say that nothing is wrong and that I am in fact fine. This is far from the truth. I am never fine, but there are days when I’m okay and if you can’t understand that then you should not be telling me you love me. I’m scared of love and what it does to people so if at times I push you away I am sorry. So I guess what I’m trying to say if that I am no picnic in the park and I hope that you can still say you love me. I am not for everyone, but I hope I am for you.”

— Deeply Feeling Series // via promisesofamazing

[eyebrow-incident]

Tag Yourself Meme- RHPS Edition

[darkspaces666]

how i feel every singleday 🐥🖤