kettle with coffee

solaris, she/they, 20 y.o. ★ ru/eng ★ did system ★ creative acc ★ tg channel: https://t.me/kettleWithCoffee

[grac3yn]

eva stratt they could never make me hate you

[aro-ace-culture-is]

aroace culture is constantly thinking about how you'll always be second to your friends partners and the constant fear of all your friends leaving you for romantic relationships

🫂

[dridwine]

Andrew : be gay, do crimes.

Neil : do gays, be crime.

[avpdvoidspace]

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

[kettle-with-coffee]

this is almost the feeling i felt when my thoughts on being aroace in russia (where i, the author behind this blog, live) were tagged as vent in the aroace blog (i submitted an ask there, i don't remember the exact username)

and it, in fact, have not been intended to be a vent

[avpdvoidspace]

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

[savouryduck]

when I was in high school, I overheard two older students talking about a friend of theirs.

One of them said something like, "it doesn't bother me that [Friend] was in residential mental health treatment, I just wish they wouldn't talk about it ALL the time".

The other replied, "Well, that was all of last year for them. So when they say 'when I was in treatment,' it's like when you say 'last year'."

I try to remember that any time someone says something that sounds Shocking to me. sometimes one person's scary special crisis is another person's last year.

[wherethewildcatsare]

If you want to be accepting of mental illness, you need to accept the fact that some people's everyday lives are going to be terrifying to you. That doesn't mean they don't get to talk about it. Stop forcing hurt, isolated people to become even MORE hurt and isolated because you can't fathom toughening up a bit.

[aro-ace-culture-is]

aroace culture is the constant cycle of being like "everyone is going to leave me for their exclusive partnered relationships and I'll be alone" and "I am the best person ever, I am free and radiate so much swag"

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[kettle-with-coffee]

writing an introduction/pinned post and wondering if i need to write a dni list... it's mostly basic for me plus gen ai stuff but like... idk if tumblr just attracts cool people or there is a chance i have been extremely lucky for not meeting here anyone i would have to block (not counting scammers they are everywhere)

[racketghost]

every time i start to feel cringe for being too deep in the hyperfixation i remember the intense depression i have waded through and have to remind myself that enjoyment is fleeting (so grab it with both hands), and life is for loving (so hold that love close), and if anyone thinks i’m cringe they must not be having a very good time (and i hope they can find a good time soon).

[racketghost]

[tags via : @heavenly-havoc]

[kettle-with-coffee]

wymack: I can't afford to lose any more players. deny everything

FBI: sit on the chair

neil: it's not a chair

wymack:

[solflowers-and-solace]

The foxes favourite games:

- did Andrew and Neil leave early because of trauma or because they’re horny

- is the heavy breathing behind the closed door people making out or is someone having a panic attack

- can we get Neil to admit to literally anything

- is this fox asking me to have a sleepover because trauma or because friendship

[yum-cranberries]

Pondering if I am aroacespec just naturally or because of my circumstances

[batooni]

BLOODYMARY & SIMON

I'll just leave it here

[elise-the-blind]

Ive seen the idea of swapping the scenarios theyre in, so instead i swapped their vibes. Simon having the best time in that blood ocean, making friends with mutant fish that can speak telepathically, while Grace is fighting for his life against an alien rock that generates hazardous atmosphere.

idk if anyone else has done this and given a name to it. i googled what the opposite of a 'bloody mary' drink is and it came up with a 'bloody caesar'. i dont know about that one chief. Iron hail? please tell me someone else has thought this through

im gonna get back to my jnd comic now, so close to skyheed finally showing up thank god, i just needed to make this last thing

[bowlifecomics]

It makes me happy when they listen

[cheap-pink-mints]

[bowlifecomics]

YES. YES YES YES THANK YOU

[kettle-with-coffee]

wow i was banned for nothing without any warning or message and then i wrote a letter to the support service (there was a line about contacting me via email to discuss my problem) about it and i got unbanned ALSO WITHOUT ANY MESSAGES

honestly tumblr what's going on. where is my mail. where are the letters or warnings OR ANYTHING

[kettle-with-coffee]

lol i got a message and it says basically "we see no problems with your blog here are tips on how to not get hacked"

(i am light-hearted and half joking mostly, thank you the help service people, but what the fuck was happening. i discovered i have my account back after i had got a notification ABOUT LIKES ON MY POST)

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is getting annoyed when people kissed in movies as a kid

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[kettle-with-coffee]

wow i was banned for nothing without any warning or message and then i wrote a letter to the support service (there was a line about contacting me via email to discuss my problem) about it and i got unbanned ALSO WITHOUT ANY MESSAGES

honestly tumblr what's going on. where is my mail. where are the letters or warnings OR ANYTHING