Hello and welcome to my blog. This is mostly a Helluva Boss blog, I will draw Blitzo and Stolitz most of the time and I'll write them too if inspiration strikes.
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This is all GREAT. I turned 40 last week, so permit me to add what I learned in my 30s:
keep on not working for startups
sometimes there comes a point where the thing (fandom, hobby, friendship, romantic relationship) you loved no longer brings you joy. And that's okay. Try to mourn the loss, take joy in the memories, and don't burn any bridges in case ten years go by and you find yourself back in that fandom/hobby/relationship again
it turns out that (ugh) moderate regular exercise is (spit) good for you. The sooner you make it part of your life, the easier it'll be
related: if you throw yourself into a new exercise regime too hard and too fast, without stopping to rest or consider whether a particular move is good for you ... well, shoulder injuries are painful and consults with orthopedic surgeons are expensive
knees are bastards too
don't even get me started on ankles
there may come a time when your digestive system is too fragile for ibuprofin. I'm sorry
one day you're gonna wake up and realise you no longer give any fucks about some things that used to bother you
on the other hand, you might be alarmed to realise what you still give a fuck about
never get down on the floor without an exit strategy for getting back up
I turn 50 this year. what I have learned in my 40s:
"loving yourself" is less of a feeling and more of an action. you can start doing it any time and it will make your life better and better as you go on
this will happen incrementally - be patient
along those lines, if you haven't started making an active effort to quit shit-talking yourself, suck it up and do it
no, shut up. do it. "but it's haaaaard!" don't care. do it.
whether you like it or not, you are mortal and you need to go to the doctor for an annual checkup
stretch regularly - your future self will thank you
at some point you will encounter people much younger than you arguing passionately and incorrectly about history you personally remember and experienced
this will be infuriating and annoying
otoh, most other things just... will not matter to you as much
at some point you will shift from wanting to go out to being like "eh" and deciding to stay in. this is okay.
you will have absolutely no idea what The Youth are talking about and you will not care
but if you keep your mind open to new ideas you'll never be irrelevant
your company still doesn't love you - don't give them more than they pay you for
get a fucking hobby, especially a hobby that involves physically creating/handling something and/or moving your body in physical space. it will do you more good than you can imagine
I'm talking that massive, never-ending Discord chat with your bestie? The one that makes you giggle through the day? It's not a "waste of time," it's what time was made for
If that's fanfic for your favorite characters who never even met on screen celebrate that!
If that's building a tiny fleet of snake villagers for your snake town and they just cover your mantel hell yes!
If that's collecting pillows and making a fort of them every weekend I'll be right over
My resolution last year was to do one thing before bed that would make my morning feel easier, and that’s become a daily habit that I’m carrying into this new year.
Some nights even filling up the kettle and setting an empty mug out for my morning tea felt hard. But I was always thankful for it in the morning.
Other nights, one thing would lead to another, and I’d wake up in a clean house with everything ready to go.
And, on a rare few nights, the one thing that I could do to make my morning easier was going straight to bed and allowing myself to rest.
What stayed the same each day is that I would take a moment to think of what I could do for my future self and do it, even after a hard day. And I would wake up knowing that I had done my best and any effort—no matter how small—was a kindness to myself.
I ended up writing a really long comment on a video essay someone wrote about the differences between Alastor and Vox (it's pretty good, I recommend), and thought that might as well edit it a bit and repost it here, as a little piece of analysis.
There’s a difference between Alastor and Vox that I think is really interesting in the context of what the show says about bonds between people.
Namely, Vox is capable of forming genuine relationships with people - Alastor is not. Now, I want to stress that I said FORMING, not really maintaining them. It makes them both more interesting, I think, because while Alastor overally holds a moral high ground over Vox (Alastor has a moral code – Vox is willing to do anything to further his agenda), that's the one good quality Vox has over him, the capacity for vulnerability.
It isn't shown super well in the show just by itself, but if you were also following the promo materials, like the original IG in character accounts and the recent promo in the form of the VoxTech site with Valentino's drawing stream on it, you’d see that the Vees aren't just business partners. They're roommates. A friend group. Not the BEST friend group, god, no, but a friend group nonetheless. They enjoy each other's company, they care about each other. Vox sincerely likes Velvette and Valentino - (in the promo) he makes sure that Val is eating, (in the show) he jumps in front of them when they might be in danger (when Vaggie is pointing a spear at Velvette and in the fight with Alastor). That's why I think his offer of partnership to Alastor was sincere, and the rejection hurt him on a very human level. It had since twisted into something obsessive and ugly, but it wasn't always like this. Vox craves human connections. He doesn't come into every relationship with the goal of using other people as stepping stones - but then he does it anyway, he just can't help himself. Because he's a pathetic, needy void of insecurities he's trying to fill by any means necessary.
Alastor, on the other hand, is NOT capable of vulnerability. Moreover, he sees it as a weakness. All of his relationships are about control, either strictly based on give and take or have him holding all of the cards. Alastor doesn't have a single friend with whom he stands on equal footing - he seemed to be close with Rosie, but it has since been revealed that it's a relationship that he intended to be a give and take one (that unfortunately backfired for him), Mimzy seems to only ever use him for favors, he obviously owns Husk's soul. He seems to genuinely like and care for Nifty - he kept the crown she gave him - but he's still the one in control in this relationship. His "not"friendship with Vox seemed to be the only exception to this rule - he says he considered them to be almost equals. And it looks like he really liked Vox in the past - his smile is relaxed, so are his ears, a rare occurrence, he was comfortable around him enough to allow taking that photo, something he nowadays NEVER does. He doesn't protest to Vox saying that they've been close, to the "people love us", he takes in stride Vox touching him, despite not liking it, while still staying relaxed. But he rejects the partnerships. And, sure, a part of it can be because Alastor understand what Vox ultimately IS, a parasite, who will inevitably try to use and replace him. But a part of it is fear of vulnerability. Because no matter how Vox might screw him over in the future, then he was sincerely looking for a connection. And that distresses Alastor. His reaction seems fake, too overblown and he's tugging at his hair, something we've seen him do previously in moments when he's especially upset. To me, it reads as Alastor purposefully pushing Vox away because he realizes he got to close to something genuine, vulnerable - weak.
And that's why when Vox was being his worst, most destructive, delusional self, he still had the other Vees stopping and essentially saving him. Because, let's be real, brutal as it was to tear his head of, this was NOT a betrayal. It was an intervention.
Alastor, on the other hand? Nobody is looking for him in the ruins of the Hotel after the 1st season's finale. Nobody is trying to save him from being imprisoned by Vox. When he nearly dies, there's no one who would check on him.
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