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affirmations:

- it’s fun to be awake & in an upright position

- consciousness is a gift

- i CAN do this anymore

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this is my impression of what it would look like if the toddlers at my job could make traumacore edits about me

[lowpawly]

alright by popular demand here is more toddler traumacore

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Emerging dragonfly at 1am

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wheee! swims in circles around u

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to pass through my gate u must answer my riddles three...

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The Sparkler of the West lights my way!

[gregor-samsa-daily]

livin' the dream

today's gregor samsa is: really livin' the dream!

[ image id: a picture of the mii creation screen from tomodachi life living the dream, showing a mii with a white face that has gregor samsa as a bug drawn on it. the mii's clothing is the default outfit in gray and white. ]

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little snakes sips | source

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[apenitentialprayer]

Baltimore Catechism comes in handy again; have you ever been in a situation where you know someone is doing something wrong, but you're not sure to what extent you are obligated to express your concern about that action? Some guy at a party casually mentioning he takes stuff from work, a friend of a friend asks if you want a tarot reading done, etc? Well, the commentary for Q. 222 says:

We are obliged to [admonish the sinner] in the following circumstances: First. When his fault is a mortal sin. Second. When we have some authority or influence over him. Third. When there is reason to believe that our warning will make him better instead of worse.

So you're probably not obligated to tell tell a friend of a friend that you have just met that they shouldn't do tarot, but you probably are obligated to, say, express your concern to a good friend about their amount of alcohol intake. I think the third criterion is interesting, because while it can be read as a 'get get out jail' free card ("I shouldn't say anything, because they'll just double down on their pet sin"), I think it is more useful as a challenge to ask ourselves: "Is there a way that I can brooch this topic in a way in a way that is loving, and in a way that the other person can really hear what I am trying to say?"

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talking to certain trans people is so sad sometimes, it's almost like talking to an addict. all they care about is the next hrt shot, or the next surgery, or how they look or how they present, and they don't care at all how they're affecting other people in their life, and how they're hurting them.

i've heard multiple trans-identified females say that their parents told them "you killed my daughter." and it's heart-wrenching, and I used to really feel for this woman. but now, I can't help but feel for the parents. Imagine having a daughter who's perfectly normal until her life is overtaken by heroin. Imagine having a daughter who was fine until she joined a new religious group that turned out to be a cult, and now she's not the same anymore and has been completely brainwashed and there's nothing you can do or say to snap her out of it. Imagine begging her to get help but she's so deep in the addiction that she can't.

[hexagon-club]

I'm not joking when I say that transgender identity should be understood first and foremost as an addiction. There is a literal chemical element to this that I think is underdiscussed. Testosterone and estrogen are both mind-altering substances after all. But the real high is the feeling of disassociation, or what trans people euphemistically refer to as "gender euphoria." A lot of addiction is about disassociation, it's not just that the focus of the addiction makes you feel good, it's that it makes you forget about the things about yourself that make you feel bad.

This is why trans identified people get mad when you say things like "what's wrong with just being a non gender conforming woman?" or "what's wrong with just being an effeminate man?" They need to believe that they have become a different person because they need that hit of disassociation. It's also why they rely on sexist stereotypes so heavily, they need to believe that the opposite sex are basically a different species. If they admit that their sources of gender euphoria are just things that a person of their birth sex could do anyway without changing their identity, then they are admitting that they are still just themselves. It's also why they get so irrationally angry at "misgendering", no other marginalised group loses their cool this much at not having their identity recognised. No other group goes out of their way to police language the way the trans community does. But when you misgender a trans person, you are doing the equivalent of giving a shot of narcan to an opiod addict. You are bringing them back down to Earth and reminding them that they are still themselves. No wonder they fight so hard to not let people do this.

This also explains the escalating nature of trans identity. Addiction by its very nature tends to escalate. You get accustomed to your current state of addiction, and it no longer gives the same high it once did, so you need to intensify it. You might just start out cutting your hair short and wearing a binder and that might satisfy you in the short term. But sooner or later that's not enough, soon you will need hormones, then top surgery, then facial masculinization surgery and then eventually bottom surgery. Then the many revisions of those surgeries. But you're chasing a dragon, you're never going to catch it. You can't satisfy an addict, it's just not possible. No matter how much they have, they will always want a little bit more.

The frustrating thing is that like most addicts they tend to be very good at subjective rationalization. Addicts are often very intelligent people, and they are very good at explaining to themselves and to others why their addiction is actually rational and healthy. This makes it very difficult to reason with them. Addicts don't perceive their next fix as a want but as a need. It can be very frustrating hearing trans people act is if you are literally trying to murder them, when all you want is to get them to admit that they are still just their birth sex. But in their eyes these two things might as well be the same thing. The ego death of not being able to disassociate is just as scary to them as an actual literal death.

[inhaledpie4]

I've never heard this take on it before. Interesting to think about.

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