Gay boi

Tom 22 he/him | I like Kingdom Hearts and men.

[nflstreet-deactivated20180710]

[fuckheadwitha]

this best thing about this is the meme format conditions you to expect a follow up statement and it’s absence contributes to a sense of stillness, simulating the experience of just sitting in your truck

[zebra11235]

I love AO3 and all its wonderful, generous, gorgeous, hilarious writers.

[redstonedust]

unfortunately i dont think its queerbaiting if the creator is just so terminally heterosexual that they never remotely considered the same gender relationship their show is centered around could be read as romantic. it is deeply painful however.

[melanqueerly]

Maybe accidental queer baiting? The way someone may not mean to say something rude, but it may come off rude, so it's rude. Frustrating either way.

[phinarei]

Not being a dick, just a friendly clarification.

By definition you can't accidentally queerbait. Queerbaiting is specifically using a same sex pair from the show to market the show to queer audiences with no intention of ever following through on a romantic relationship.

There is officially licensed Destiel merch signed off on by Kripke. Teen Wolf had a commercial with the actors for Derek and Stiles draped over each other talking about being "on a ship." Both shows actively used scenes between them as marketing while actively mocking fans for wanting them together. Sherlock has multiple characters refer to Johnlock as a couple, including characters we're supposed to believe are never wrong about human behavior and pushed those scenes in marketing. Then they acted insulted when fans saw them as a couple.

That's queerbaiting.

Done on accident it would just be queer subtext. Done because they had no other choice due to censorship is queer coding.

The specific meaning of the word is really starting to get lost and it's a pretty important one to keep accurate. It describes a very specific phenomenon that was done repeatedly and maliciously for decades and is meant to examine that specifically.

Doing it on accident sucks, but it isn't a tactic of capitalism intentionally intended to suppress queer representation while making money from queer fans.

[gaytanic-panic]

[memorycycle]

their scared cus they never saw a sandwich that big. but the dad has to look brave for his son

[weirdly-specific-but-ok]

yes, India made legal gender change impossible but the doctor down the street who gives me my T shots in a clinic so small that it's just two rooms was excited for me when she said my voice had dropped yes, India made legal gender change impossible but the receptionist who could see that I was a man didn't bat an eyelash when I asked to see the gynecologist and called me sir when he asked how I wanted to pay yes, India made legal gender change impossible but the barber cuts my hair exactly how I want it and never gave me strange looks for being in a men's salon not even back when I didn't pass as one

yes, India made legal gender change impossible but my friends have always gendered me correctly and stick to it even when it confuses other people and my friend's little sibling calls me older brother in Kannada yes, India made legal gender change impossible but my dog learned my new name quicker than the humans and she runs to give me a kiss when she's told to without being confused about who's being referred to

yes, India made legal gender change impossible but I can feel the Adam's apple growing in my throat and my muscles getting stronger, and my smile more real and I'm growing a beard, and I talk more freely

yes, India made legal gender change impossible but I'm here, and I'm alive, and so are you and there are good people, people who care and don't let them make you forget that-- you are not alone.

[gaytommykinard]

"you don't like mpreg?" i don't even like fpreg

[imjunebitch]

if you assume a trans woman is going to top because of her genitalia start running. I am coming to get you.

[imjunebitch]

if you assume a trans man is going to bottom because of his genitalia start running. I am coming to get you.

[imjunebitch]

if you assume a nonbinary person is going to fill some sexual role because of their genitalia start running. I am coming to get you.

[pjharvey-moved-deactivated20250]

tumblr is so funny within my mutual circle ppl will be like cannibalism as a metaphor for sex is honestly so overdone 🙄 like it’s not even transgressive anymore it’s just vanilla atp 🙄 and then you go a little too far outside that circle and people are trigger tagging memes about infidelity

[estrogenized-valerie]

me, to my roommates: cnc is vanilla, practically everyone i've ever fucked has been into cnc. incest is also just something that everyone is into, it's basically the #1 porn search category. i'm a little embarrassed about how normal my kinks are, since the weirdest shit i'm into is basically knifeplay and bloodplay and intox...

my roommates:

[roxiethecat]

[caprart1]

i DO believe that a good writer can make mischaracterization work. oh there's a character who doesn't normally cry? figure it out!! disect the character. make the situation cryable for them. make that character cry ugly tears even if it goes against their very nature. YOU CAN MAKE IT WORK!!!

[amyrosedefensesquad]

A great piece of advice I've seen is "Don't fixate about what the character would never do. Think about the circumstances that would drive them to do this, even if they wouldn't normally."

[ficsinhistory]

Best advice ever!

[flopptropica]

[moveslikekeithrichards]

working with little kids is so dangerous. you get one kid who has a unique way of speaking & then spend the rest of your life with an internal monologue like “me’s go bathroom?”

[moveslikekeithrichards]

other thrilling destructions of my vocabulary:

the kid who replaced his hard G sounds with soft ones, leaving me incapable of thinking of glasses as anything other than jlasses

kid who would holler "DID" any time she finished her work no matter how many times we told her to just raise her hand

kid who began her scary stories with "once a time" and her friend who began his with "paw time"

middle schooler i had during student teaching who pronounced magritte as "mah-gritty"

the kid who said "i got boogies comin out my nose" while sobbing and the kid who said "theres his puddle of cry" while describing a drawing, both of whom i think of when im crying

kid who said that if he was 80 he would get big and turn grandpa

kid who, for no reason in particular, would just say "like a little feet" as a standalone phrase in relation to nothing

edit how could i forget. the kid who got sneezed on and angrily said "whyd you blessyou on me"

[hollowedskin]

My niece who asks people with dogs "are him big or him little?"

And every person without fail answers "uh.. him big"

[draconym]

Years later my vocabulary is still influenced by:

kid who called snakes "nakes"

kid who called calculators "cockulators"

my little cousin who referred to anything he didn't have an immediate answer to as "vewy mystewious"

"I don't yike heem"

[heywriters]

tiny neighbor who couldn't grasp the names of nouns, just the noises they made. Rocket ship was "wheesh!" Water was "wadleladdleaddle"

[orbitingrook]

[afraid-of-woodpeckers]

it looks like 'ego death' might be the new trendy phrase on this website soon which is going to drive me insane because I have yet to see anyone use it correctly.

ego death does not refer to ego in the sense of pride or self-importance. ego death is the (usually temporary) loss of individual self identity and is often described as a religious/transcendent experience

[schafpudel]

#that post about how ego death will help you get the dishes done was so weird to me#like I personally don't even. eh it's not an experience I actively seek out I'll just say that#but I laughed so hard like.#do not transcend the dishes please. they cannot transcend the sink!

[boybeetles]

The main reason I’m pushing for people to stop using the term ‘pedophile’ and instead use the term ‘child sexual abusers’, is because since all discussions of child sexual abuse focus on this idea of an evil person who is just out to get kids because they are sexual attracted to them, it makes it hard for kids who where sexually assaulted by people who don’t fit that description to realize they were sexually assaulted.

It didn’t register for me until recently that my experiences of being forced to strip naked multiple times at the mental hospital to be ‘checked’ when I was 14 was sexual assault, because the people who did it were nurses/doctors who clearly didn’t find me sexually attractive but instead used it as a form of humiliation and control towards children they deemed as ‘unruly’ and ‘uncooperative’ (ie. children who asked to be treated like people). I thought only people who fit into this idea of a child attracted pedo could be child sexual abusers, so I thought my experience didn’t count.

Stepping away from the idea that there is a pedophile boggieman and instead highlighting that anyone can be a child sexual abuser will help more people realize that their experiences are sexual assault.

[mousidy]

my stepfather would openly sexually harass me and my siblings at dinner while also loving the fantasy of killing pedophiles. whether he personally found our abuse sexually gratifying was frankly irrelevant to whether it traumatized us. whether he would be considered a pedophile or not doesn't change that he committed sexual abuse of children

I think in his mind there was a type of horrible person out there who does horrible things, and because he didn't think of himself as fitting that category, his actions could not be judged

[homunculus-argument]

Autism diagnosis questionnaires are kind of like if the only way to diagnose blindness was by having someone list all the things they don't see. Like imagine being brought into a room where you can't see shit and being told "okay list all the things in this room that you can't see or perceive in any way. No you can't feel around that'd be cheating."

"Uhhh furniture?"

"No there's no furniture in this room. If you were truly blind you would have known that."

[yesmynameisbird]

As a blind person, you'd be amazed how many people act eerily similar to this post. Some people really struggle to understand that blindness is a spectrum and does not necessarily mean no sight at all.

[homunculus-argument]

Every time I make or see some sort of a "hey wouldn't it be fucked up and stupid if some physical disability was treated the same way a neurological/psychological health issue is", there's always someone who actually is physically disabled, who reminds me that actually, people absolutely do that to physically disabled people and it's just as fucked up and stupid as I'd have assumed it is. Like having a disability is probably already hard enough without also having to deal with idiots all day.