Everything and the Kitch'n Sync

USAmerican, 33, white, transsexual woman, she/her, TMA, happily married to @unholyhymns for OVER TEN YEARS 🥰

[natalieironside]

The city of Monterey, California has more Weird Guys per capita than most towns b/c their extant local supply of Weird Guys is constantly being augmented by the endless truckloads of Weird Guys relocated there by the government

[bear-girl-haunches]

[cat-mermaid]

ok i gotta hard disagree, you have to be thinking of directly across the bay, in weird fucker central: Santa Cruz

Monterey is full of normies and old people who will fight tooth and nail to stop old hotels from being turned into homeless shelters >:/

[natalieironside]

Defense Language Institute - Wikipedia

"Weird guy" is here meant as "Peculiar and unsavory man"

[juicetrump2]

Chick-fil-A mounts PR campaign to push back against its anti-LGBTQ+ reputation - LGBTQ Nation

The chicken chain was told to "cluck off" the last time it tried to move into the UK. This time, it hired bigger guns.

[tehjleck]

me: "have they tried not being fucking ignorant religious bigots?"

article: “I suspect that a bit of the steam has gone out of the LGBT thing,” Backman told the right-wing outlet, staying ahead of the issue. “There may be the odd protester, but if they have got armies of PR people laser-focused on that then I suspect it may be OK.”

me: no surprises there... fuck them

sandwich recipe

[warriorsmurf]

We go through a lot of pickles here and this recipe is a good way to use leftover brine.

[jfk-blown-away-blog]

The thing that pisses me off the most though is the fact I know so many LGBTQ+ individuals that still go there, and they are surprised when I actually don't. It's literally like that tweet.

[sforzzz]

i agree that kids deserve and need more access to HRT earlier in life should they desire to transition but i really hate that the main argument in favor of it is "we need to have people transition earlier before PERMANENT IRREVERSIBLE DAMAGE makes it so they can NEVER EVER look like their desired gender and they'll be FOREVER UGLY AND CLOCKY"

[sforzzz]

like i just want more bodily autonomy for everyone why do we gotta frame it like this

[danielkahndyke]

sorry it’s actually so fucking crazy thinking abt how certain places have banned burqinis like literally making a woman take her clothes off in public like that shit is so fascist

[danielkahndyke]

genuinely horrific like that’s law mandated sexual assault & we just let it happen. hello. can anyone hear me.

[ilynpilled]

ah.

[subplotsideshow]

A trans person will simply exist in the same building as a child, and conservatives will make a scene about how "inappropriate" and "indecent" it is. But a children's author will upskirt a trans woman and post said photo to her 14 million followers on social media, a significant number of whom are most likely children, and suddenly conservatives don't seem to care about appropriateness and decency. It's almost like they never cared about the children in the first place. Weird...

[nateconnolly]

These days, lots of public libraries have a "library of things" collection where you can check out kitchen appliances or yard tools or toys, and, as a children's library assistant, the most popular library of things item that I handle regularly is a plastic scepter thingy called like "unicorn princess magic wand". And whenever I check it out I make a big show of looking at the little kid and being like "do you solemnly swear to use your unicorn princess magic powers only for good and never for evil?"

And pretty much without fail, the little kid will get the world's most mischievous grin and go "I'm gonna use it for EVIL!!!"

[free-my-mindd]

[dodykeahedron]

Like come the fuck on.

[sicknastyjr]

So true it's awesome to have a game that basically forces you to be creative to fully engage with it's been so much fun to see

[bearliquids]

[appapasta]

i am a physical touch girlie til i d i e !!!

let me hold your hand. let me grab your arm when we’re walking together. let me hold your head in my lap. let me run my nails across your back. let me kiss your forehead or whatever body part is closest to me. let me rest my head on your shoulder. let me absentmindedly trace shapes on your arm. let me play in your hair.

i need it

[atrusovaartist]

I always thought Reddit was a place where people could share things they created.A few days ago I posted one of my original paintings. People loved it. We had wonderful conversations about art, emotions, and how everyone saw something different in the same sunset.

About two hours later I was permanently banned from r/MadeMeSmile for “self-promotion.”

I accepted that different communities have different rules.But then something even stranger happened.Soon afterward, a moderator from r/pics started going through my account. Not just the new post—many of my older painting posts disappeared as well. One after another. Then I was permanently banned there too.

Maybe it was the same moderator. Maybe it wasn’t. I honestly don’t know.

What surprised me wasn’t even the ban itself. It was realizing how much power individual moderators have over what millions of people are allowed to see. One decision can erase years of posts from a community and instantly cut off your ability to participate, even if those posts had been happily sitting there for months or years.I’m not saying moderators shouldn’t have rules. Communities need moderation.But it does make you wonder where the line is between protecting a community and allowing a single interpretation of the rules to completely reshape what people can share.

The funny part?

I wasn’t advertising anything in those posts. I wasn’t posting prices or asking anyone to buy anything. I was simply sharing my original paintings because I enjoy discussing art with strangers from around the world.

Anyway…

Here’s the painting that apparently caused all the trouble. 🎨

[skoople]

another heavy handed symbolism moment: my mom has a potted sunflower in the kitchen. because it is a sunflower, it keeps turning towards the light from the window. my mother keeps rotating it so it faces inward because she wants "to see its beautiful petals and have it really brighten up the space!" . the sunflower is visibly wilting .

[imperialinquisition]

are you going to tell her or

[skoople]

her masters degree is in biology

[closet-keys]

I think a lot about this kind of thing.

we need to take the time to have these conversations with very young people. we need to be willing to earnestly ask what they've observed that is leading them to ask the question, to get a better sense of where and how these valuations are being socially reproduced in their life.

when adults avoid teaching kids about systems of power (misogyny, racism, etc.) kids still absorb these social lessons, they just do so without the context they need to not internalize socially constructed hierarchies (i.e. sexgender, race) as natural facts about the world.

you cannot protect someone by denying them information about these topics. but you can give someone tools to navigate these systems thoughtfully by offering more context and helping them understand their observations of social interactions.

[tepkunset]

I feel like simply calling JK Rowling a transphobe isn't strong enough anymore. Like. This is not your grandpa calling you by your deadname at a restaurant kind of transphobic. This is her wanting to eradicate all trans people (with an extra special hatred towards trans women specifically). This is her trying just that by personally funding transphobic hate groups with millions to push around laws in the UK. It is not hyperbolic to call her a dangerous, genocidal maniac.

It's not about cancelling a problematic writer. It's about literally trying to save lives by denying her as much money and power as possible.

[phinarei]

A lot of cis people are treating her like an actress who pushes diet culture or a singer who is too sex forward for their tastes. Like she's an inconvenience to their moral comfort instead of the existential threat she is.

She is not that.

She is Elon Musk. She is Trump. She is a powerful monster with the money to end lives.

Giving her money and creating a demand for her books by engaging in fandom should be seen the same way owning a cybertruck is seen. Harry Potter gear is in the same category as MAGA gear.

I need to see the same disgust and outright hatred of her that I see about all the evil men in her category. I don't know if people see her as less dangerous because she's a woman or if people are worried that hating on a woman will get their feminist card revoked, but she needs to be taken more seriously by a lot of people. She's a big name heavy hitter with more money than anyone should be allowed to have.

This isn't a scandal, it's a genocide.

[demilypyro]

You fool, assuming I'm a dog girl just because I'm trans. I'm a cat girl, the classic, the original. If you tell me what to do I'm gonna lay down and stare at you. If you tell me I'm a good girl my claws are going in your face

[demilypyro]

You may leave it near me and I'll deign to investigate when it pleases me.

[demilypyro]

This is allowed. Perhaps I'll let you brush me later.

[demilypyro]

Shit hang on I gotta look into this

[warceline]

[born2love]

yo i made rhis into a sweater