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Kars4Kids being in the news again has reminded me that Oorah is one of those research rabbit holes that will drive you insane because it's impossible to describe without sounding at least a little anti-Semitic.
"ok so you know those really annoying Kars4Kids ads? You know the ones that are like '1-877-KARS-4-KIDS' yeah those? Ok so all of the money from that charity goes to this organization called Oorah which is this non-profit dedicated to supporting the Haredi Jewish community in New York and New Jersey. Yes they advertise nationwide, no they do not mention their religious affiliation in the ads. What are Haredi Jews? They're like the Duggar family of Jews we don't have time to get into it. What kind of services does Oorah provide? Mostly free trips to Israel for teenagers where they can listen to settler propaganda and hook up with IDF soldiers. Do they do anything else? They invest in real estate, they run some upstate New York summer camps that are famous in the area for labor and safety violations and they also do adult matchmaking. Why would a charity need to run a matchmaking service? Because the Haredim do arranged marriages look I told you we can't get into this right now. Oh also they run an annual 'charity auction' that is probably an illegal raffle and their mascot is an anthropomorphic $5 bill named Fiveish. No I'm not kidding bro I fucking WISH I was kidding rn"
Now you might be saying "hey Minerva I recognize that mascot, isn't that Yapdollar???" Yes and no. When he's promoting Oorah he's Fiveish and when he's narrating over bad Chinese lifehack videos he's Yapdollar it's sort of a Jeckyll and Hyde situation.
But i have to ask for time i can't have, i have to make people go out of their way to try and accommodate me.
I have to keep asking for the impossible.
I don't know how to ask for anything less.
They have their real lives to get back to. Training courses, moving, in person partners, chores. Real things. I can't compete with that. It's selfish of me to try.
And i can't stop.
I don't know how.
And they still try. And i don't understand it. So much effort on something so objectively unimportant. They go out of their way and it just isn't worth it. They deal with shitty connection, and rushed times, and promises neither of us can keep, and i dont understand why.
My partners, my friends, they jabe loves to get back to, a million better things to do. I know they don't have time to sate my appetite. Because i know it can't be. It can't ever be enough. It's pathetic.
They make my life bearable. And what do i give them in return? Demands for time, to overcome impossible obstacles, to do things i want when they want something else. I guess ive been getting better at that last one. Just let them tell me what were doing. Just like old times i guess. At least theres no screaming this time around.
I wonder how long itll be before they realise how much theyre putting in compared to what theyre getting out..
It would be entirely fair.
Maybe id finally find that disgusting mass at the core of my bring and finally kill it for good. Each one who leaves gives me a slightly clearer picture of what it is. Not by much, but by enough. I dont want to think about how many people would have to figure out my deficiencies and leave before i finally get a good picture
But i have to ask for time i can't have, i have to make people go out of their way to try and accommodate me.
I have to keep asking for the impossible.
I don't know how to ask for anything less.
They have their real lives to get back to. Training courses, moving, in person partners, chores. Real things. I can't compete with that. It's selfish of me to try.
And i can't stop.
I don't know how.
And they still try. And i don't understand it. So much effort on something so objectively unimportant. They go out of their way and it just isn't worth it. They deal with shitty connection, and rushed times, and promises neither of us can keep, and i dont understand why.
My partners, my friends, they jabe loves to get back to, a million better things to do. I know they don't have time to sate my appetite. Because i know it can't be. It can't ever be enough. It's pathetic.
They make my life bearable. And what do i give them in return? Demands for time, to overcome impossible obstacles, to do things i want when they want something else. I guess ive been getting better at that last one. Just let them tell me what were doing. Just like old times i guess. At least theres no screaming this time around.
I wonder how long itll be before they realise how much theyre putting in compared to what theyre getting out..
It would be entirely fair.
Maybe id finally find that disgusting mass at the core of my bring and finally kill it for good. Each one who leaves gives me a slightly clearer picture of what it is. Not by much, but by enough. I dont want to think about how many people would have to figure out my deficiencies and leave before i finally get a good picture
But i have to ask for time i can't have, i have to make people go out of their way to try and accommodate me.
I have to keep asking for the impossible.
I don't know how to ask for anything less.
They have their real lives to get back to. Training courses, moving, in person partners, chores. Real things. I can't compete with that. It's selfish of me to try.
And i can't stop.
I don't know how.
And they still try. And i don't understand it. So much effort on something so objectively unimportant. They go out of their way and it just isn't worth it. They deal with shitty connection, and rushed times, and promises neither of us can keep, and i dont understand why.
My partners, my friends, they jabe loves to get back to, a million better things to do. I know they don't have time to sate my appetite. Because i know it can't be. It can't ever be enough. It's pathetic.
They make my life bearable. And what do i give them in return? Demands for time, to overcome impossible obstacles, to do things i want when they want something else. I guess ive been getting better at that last one. Just let them tell me what were doing. Just like old times i guess. At least theres no screaming this time around.
But i have to ask for time i can't have, i have to make people go out of their way to try and accommodate me.
I have to keep asking for the impossible.
I don't know how to ask for anything less.
They have their real lives to get back to. Training courses, moving, in person partners, chores. Real things. I can't compete with that. It's selfish of me to try.
And i can't stop.
I don't know how.
And they still try. And i don't understand it. So much effort on something so objectively unimportant. They go out of their way and it just isn't worth it. They deal with shitty connection, and rushed times, and promises neither of us can keep, and i dont understand why.
My partners, my friends, they jabe loves to get back to, a million better things to do. I know they don't have time to sate my appetite. Because i know it can't be. It can't ever be enough. It's pathetic.
gays, home of sexuals, lgbtqs, help me redesign my bedroom because i cant live like this anymore. make suggestions & i will move items accordingly (everything in purple is stuff i can move). only requirement is that my bed is in some corner bc if it doesn’t touch two walls ill die
I think my main takeaway from that hateful screed is that i will forever feel extra shame about forgetting to rinse out my tea mugs and watching my gf do it for me
any point that might've been buried in there was so completely obscured by palpable seething hatred for a specific ex projected onto disabled trans women (called "puppygirls" to invoke the spectre of the degenerate) as a class as to be irrelevant to the text.
to say that she is conflating the terms "weaponized incompetence" and "learned helplessness" is overly charitable in my view. she is not misusing the term weaponized incompetence. she is very deliberately accusing disabled trans women of just pretending and incredibly directly relating them to employed abled men manipulating their female partners.