sweaters n hot chocolate, oh my!

(note: this blog contains occasional swearing!!) "Oakley" \ it/its, ze/hir \ i hope we can have fun! child-like tween-regressing system middle (pro endo -- anti radqueer -- anti harassment)

[kitty-playpalace]

hello! welcome to my play palace! [userbox by @/patchessymbols on Tumblr]

💜 > my name is "Oakley" (technically a fake name bc i share the body's name)! i am a middle headmate (15 - 17) & one of the co-hosts in a very large multi-origins polyfrag collective. i typically regress to around 11 - 13, but tend to act younger (closer to toddler - younger child)! we are bodily an adult (20+).

you know how copilots on planes don't do very much unless something goes wrong with the main pilot? okay, so imagine there is a SECOND copilot who is there for if something goes REALLY CATASTROPHICALLY WRONG with BOTH pilots. that's me! except i also get s'mores milkshakes :3

🐈‍⬛ > i use it/its and ze/hir, and am bigender! we are also bodily & collectively intersex and transfem (we like intertransfem and trinsfem as terms!) :> i like calling myself a transfem boy (although i'm more neutral than masculine) and occasionally a girlboy. pink, purple, and blue are my favorite colors!! (also green :3) i am also an anthropomorphic black cat

💜 > no real dni (i block freely), but we are pro-endo (hopefully obviously lol), anti-harassment, and anti-rq and will block appropriately! it is also none of my business what kinds of fiction you like to read so long as you aren't hurting REAL people. we don't like people who make other people's weird-but-harmless fiction tastes their problem instead of just blocking and moving on.

(i may block for other reasons! i am very block-happy! if i don't like you for any reason i will block! this is how i keep my spaces safe and comfortable for me)

🐈‍⬛ > this blog is SFW! i will block any and all sexual interactions with this blog! this blog is also discourse-free! i won't post discourse here, and i will not argue about my stances or beliefs! you will be blocked if you try!

My syblings (🌫️ & 🌄) help monitor and protect this blog! If you're mean to me, they will be mean right back!

💜 > minor disclaimer: we are autistic, dyslexic, and variously mentally ill! particularly, we are schizospec and i am a paranoia holder! i am very prone to misunderstanding things and having unfounded fears about others. please do not take it personally or assume i am doing it on purpose! i promise i'm not!

🐈‍⬛ > additionally, we have various cognitive deficits and use AAC! on account of both, usage of "proper"/"correct" grammar is very inconsistent! we also have moderate support needs due to our autism and talk about it! this blog doubles as both an agere AND autism/AAC blog!

#meowmeow - original posts!! #playtime - reblogs!! #purrpurr - asks!! (i love asks :3) #wailing - vent posts, will HOPEFULLY be very rare!

#syblings speak - posts from 🌫️ or 🌄!! will probably be very rare #intro - this post! #upkeep - blog upkeep posts ("changed the intro post!" "changed the URL!" etc)! #01. || / #02. || / etc - separators between tag sets!

[kitty-playpalace]

went to reptile expo!!!! met someone there while look at spiky rollers (& got 4 new ones!!! one of them is also nice visual stim because is really really really bright orange and that color really happy-making, and another has button that really quiet and super buttery smooth to press, not grind against sides like other button-having spiky rollers, and plastic feel nice and soft texture, think is different kind of plastic from other ones. AND ONE OF THEM HAVE WRIST STRAP!!! so can bring it places and use it not hide it away in pocket where forget about it), and did not mask so much of talking problems. let self do more stutter & pause and "bad" grammar instead of try to be Perfect At Talking (which always fail at anyway). and conversation went really really well!! she was super nice :3 think in part because of not mask talk problems, she could tell had more cognitive difficulty than others (including own family......) assume. felt nice to not be scared of say wrong/"weird" thing or be obviously confused, felt nice not have to be perfect at conversation and not get scolded or scoffed at for it. was nice to be talk to in simpler slower words and not have to spend forever try to understand big fast word (and get out own good words at same time)

[kitty-playpalace]

changed AAC grid to 72 buttons per page and not 50 per page, but now have to redo so much stuff. do resorting (overwhelm, meltdown-inducing), or completely remake page (frustrate, afraid will forget important buttons). have more buttons is good because can have more words available, but process to remake everything is bad bad bad 3:

[t0ys-t0ys-t0ys]

[stingchronicity]

i always see “tag fav fruit” posts but i’ve never seen a fav veg post so rb & tag your favourite vegetable

[arlyonit]

typingtalk aac UPDATED!!! and its really cool!!!!!!!!

When I say I ran to the app store!!!

"I like the new update!".

it's so cool i like it so much!

The borders are very useful for additional info & I like the "images in textbox" - I'd say it's a good way to have ppl not know what you're tying. And the option to have the buttons click when are pressed!!! To show you're typing and fill the space! Very good.

I need to go and update my board fully (and I need to reorganise things anyway) but idk if I have time... hopefully soon! I did update my more common folders though :).

[selfindulgentmoodboards]

Primary colors Kidcore moodboard

[pupsicksilly]

pools

[t0ys-t0ys-t0ys]

playground cats

❤️💛💚💙

[kitty-playpalace]

this is our happy place... not just my happy place but all of us. 🌫️ get really sad and angry over discourse, so come here to feel happy safe. love love love 🌫️, feel sad that its own blog not happy place, not safe place for it. feel sad that 🌫️ has to ask me scroll my blog feel less angry sad, feel more happy safe. happy help 🌫️ feel happy, sad 🌫️ need help feel happy.

[puddingcup-heart]

i wanna play in the sand 🏖️🪏

[germcore]

we are a Level 2 MSN autistic system. shoutout to the autistics that :

• can't clean themselves correctly (+ too scared to ask for help)

• can't wipe correctly (+ too scared to ask for help)

• have a hard time getting dressed (+ too scared to ask for help)

• have to be reminded to bathe

• have to be reminded to wash your hair

• have to be reminded to eat

• have to be reminded to brush your teeth

• have accidents / issues with incontinence

• wet the bed

• wear pads /daipers to help with it

• struggle with hygiene in general

[cassiessafespace]

on today's episode of Things I Want as pngs, those stuffies with the teethers attached <3

[themogaidragon]

Autism Support Needs Pride Flags

PT: Autism Support Needs Pride Flags /end PT

Descriptions are based on this post (link). These are accessible versions of those flags (link).

Please do not use those flags if you are not autistic, these flags are related to autism support needs only.

Disclaimer: support needs aren't monoliths, they do not have clear ends and starts, the definitions presented in this post are just attempts at defining what support needs labels means.

These terms doesn't refer to the ASD support levels currently present in the DSM-5.

More information and ressources about support needs on @birdofmay on this post (link).

High Support Needs

PT: High Support Needs /end PT

High Support Needs: Anyone who isn’t able to live independently and needs help with globally all their basic activities of daily living (BADLs) and instrumental activities of daily living (IADLs) such as self-feeding, bathing, functional mobility, basic grooming, putting on makeup, getting dressed and completing tasks. Can be abbreviated online or in writing as HSN(A) for High Support Needs Autist/Autism or HS(A)P for High Support (Autistic) Person.

Usage in speech: Clarissa is a high support needs autistic person and needs assistance with getting dressed and taking a shower. Abbreviated usage online: I’m HSN and I’m really into physics, so the poor sucker who signs me on is gonna hear a lot about it when they hand me my iPad!

Description originally by @autistic-answers. Updated definition and flag designed by @themogaidragon.

Moderate Support Needs

PT: Moderate Support Needs /end PT

Moderate Support Needs: Anyone who may or may not live independently and needs help with instrumental activities of daily living (IADLs) and some of the basic activities of daily living (BADLs) such has cooking, completing tasks, transportation and mobility, toileting, getting dressed, housekeeping, managing medication, managing money and assistance for things like grocery shopping. Can be abbreviated online or in writing as MSN(A) for Moderate Support Needs Autist/Autism or MS(A)P for Moderate Support (Autistic) Person.

Usage in speech: Kevin is a moderate support needs autistic person and needs some assistance to prepare meals and shop for the wood he uses for his carpentry projects. His boyfriend, Max, usually helps him with those. Usage online: I’m MSN and I’m looking for info about saws. Any fellow auties know what’s best for cutting oak?

Description originally by @autistic-answers. Updated definition and flag designed by @themogaidragon.

Low Support Needs

PT: Low Support Needs /end PT

Low Support Needs: Anyone who more often than not lives independently and may only need assistance with instrumental activities of daily living (IADLs) like balancing a checkbook, cooking, shopping, transportation, getting started on some tasks like organizing a garage sale or arranging to move from one house to another. Can be abbreviated online or in writing as LSN(A) for Low Support Needs Autist/Autism or LS(A)P for Low Support (Autistic) Person.

Usage in speech: Jesse is a low support needs autistic person and she only needs help keeping her checkbook balanced. Usage online: I’m a LSAP and I’m thinking about moving to Seattle. What’s the weather and traffic like there?

Flag designed by @themogaidragon. Requested by @pronouns-flags.

Flux Support Needs

PT: Flux Support Needs /end PT

Flux Support Needs: Ability to live independently fluctuating, requiring support at fluctuating intensity with basic activities of daily living (BADLs) and/or instrumental activities of daily living (IADLs), so much that it cannot be considered low, moderate or high or in between those. Fluctuations can be random, have causes, vary in length and frequency. Can be abbreviated online or in writing as FSN(A) for Flux Support Needs Autist/Autism or FS(A)P for Flux Support (Autistic) Person.

Asked by an anon (link). Flag by @themogaidragon.

Moderate to High Support Needs

PT: Moderate to High Support Needs /end PT

Moderate to High Support Needs: Anyone who can't live independently, needs help with a lot of their basic daily living skills (BADLs) but not all of them. Someone who has support needs between moderate and high. Seems like a combination of moderate and high support. Can be abbreviated online or in writing as MHSN(A) for Moderate to High Support Needs Autist/Autism or MHS(A)P for Moderate to High Support (Autistic) Person.

Asked by @the-mogai-catus in this post (link). @themogaidragon has changed the design and definition a little bit.

Low to Moderate Support Needs

PT: Low to Moderate Support Needs /end PT

Low to Moderate Support Needs: Anyone who can't live independently or has many difficulty doing such and needs a lot of support with instrumental activities of daily living (IADLs) and a few of their basic activities of daily living (BADLs). Someone who has support needs between low and moderate. Seems like a combination of low and moderate support. Can be abbreviated online or in writing as LMSN(A) for Low to Moderate Support Needs Autist/Autism or LMS(A)P for Low to Moderate Support (Autistic) Person.

Flag coined by @themogaidragon. Requested by @cutelittle-organc0llector.

[alsophila-grahami]

mutuals to sit under this thing with

[kitty-playpalace]

used to call all of own meltdowns "shutdowns" because not screaming. not make much noise at all really. but is lots of stimming (including self-injurous--do head hitting, tongue biting to point of giving self sores, lots of pull out hair, etc), often crying, stomping & throwing things. is just because no sound come out, people often not notice when have meltdown. us not always notice when have meltdown. again, always called them shutdowns. but... not really shutting down? is realizing that is not "we not have meltdowns", is "not make noise in meltdowns". still do everything else with a meltdown.

[the-kneecap-god]

Normalize not using full sentences using aac.

Normalize using small words with aac.

Normalize not bullying or making fun of someone who is verbose when able to speak but isn't when using aac.

Normalize being patient for an aac speaker to type.

Normalize aac users in general.