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Religion and Violence Against Women and Girls (10)

Today, December 10th, is day 16 of 16 Days of Activism ; International Human Rights day, an annual reminder of the Declaration of Human Rights and a time to reflect on rights upheld in our communities, and rights that have been breached.

The World Health Organisation has declared a longstanding epidemic of violence against women and girls, which makes International Human Rights Day a…

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Religion and Violence Against Women and Girls (9)

Instead of asking the question ‘Why doesn’t she leave?’, please recognise this: It is incredibly dangerous to leave an abusive partner. 55% of the women killed by their ex-partner or ex-spouse in 2017 in UK were killed within the first month of separation and 87% in the first year (Femicide Census, 2018).

Women’s Aid offers the following advice if you are worried about someone experiencing…

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Religion and Violence Against Women and Girls (8)

No one gets married expecting their marriage to fail, and most people try their best to keep their marriage and family together. If you have no direct experience of living with an abuser it can be difficult to understand why women stay; it can be even more difficult to understand why it can take several attempts at leaving before women leave for good. Leaving requires believing it will be…

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Religion and Violence Against Women (7)

Pregnancy and being a mother of young children increases the risk of abuse when you have an abusive partner. All parents of young children know how demanding and exhausting it is looking after young children; it’s the bargain we make when we decide to become parents. If you are experiencing domestic violence you have an additional layer of demands and exhaustion that is often overlooked,…

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#chronic fatigue #Family #fibromyalgia #migraine #sexually transmitted disease

Religion and Violence Against Women and Girls (6)

Pregnancy, Miscarriage, Violence and Infidelity

Pregnancy is thought of as a time of anticipation and solidifying a relationship, bringing increased commitment and, despite morning sickness and body discomfort, joy. For women in relationships where they are being abused, pregnancy is a time of greater risk and vulnerability – and feeling there is no longer a way out.

Growing up Catholic Sarah…

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#Coercive Control #family conflict #infadelity #isolation #miscarriage #pregnancy #violence

Religion and Violence Against Women (5)

There is a lot going on in this chapter of WITNESS; it talks in more detail about the influence of religion on Sarah’s situation. Rather than discuss it in great detail, I’d like you to view this Power and Control Wheel link and use this Power and Control graphic to identify Jamie’s abusive tactics.

Does the advice from Mhairi and her minister help Sarah understand the abuse she is…

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Religion and Violence Against Women and Girls (4)

Image from The Freedom Programme by Pat Craven

We may not give much consideration to what a normal, healthy relationship looks like; we generally default to our own experience and think our relationship is fine. We may have come from a family with happy parents, but as children we have no idea what goes on in their private moments, and we don’t know what goes on in their sexual relationship.…

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Religion and Violence Against Women and Girls (3)

For those who have no experience of intimate partner violence, one aspect of Gender Based Violence , a scourge the world is asked to think about every year between 25th November and 10th December, it can be extremely difficult to understand why women stay in partnerships where they are regularly abused. This third chapter of WITNESS will, hopefully, help shed light on this.

WITNESS by Kitty…

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Religion and Violence Against Women and Girls (2)

For this year’s 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Based Violence I am publishing my book WITNESS in instalments. This is Chapter Two and shows some of the dynamics at play that set the scene for coercive control which doesn’t always involve violence, though in Sarah’s case it did.

You will notice that the meditations at the end of each chapter address God as Mother. If human beings are made…

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#Domestic Violence #God as Mother

Religion and Violence Against Women and Girls

Gender Based Violence has been studied and discussed for decades, but little is said about this abuse in the context of religion – how religious frameworks and beliefs can keep women stuck. I was involved in Scottish Women’s Aid Faith Groups Forum between 2011 and 2013, which included several Christian denominations; Muslims; Sikhs and Jews, and the same themes kept occurring, the most…

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#Abuse #Church #Domestic Violence #Family

Words and the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Based Violence

The 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Based Violence began yesterday (25th November) with the International Day to Eliminate Violence Against Women and Girls and ends 10th December with Human Rights Day. Currently there is some controversy regarding the phrase ‘gender based violence’ (GBV), because of the word gender seeming to be more related to the idea of gender identity. Here is the Eur…

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#GBV #Gender #gender identity #meaning of words #transgender #Violence Against Women and Girls

The Time Has Come To Say Goodbye

I started this blog around 18 months ago when I self published my book WITNESS. For those who follow me here and on Twitter & Facebook you will know WITNESS relates Sarah’s account of being violently abused at the hands of her husband Jamie. I particularly wanted to focus on how being a woman of faith the teachings of Sarah’s faith traditions added another layer to keeping her stuck in Jamie’s…

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A woman's place is in the revolution!

A woman’s place is in the revolution!

It’s been a momentous week for women campaigners with the indictment of Harvey Weinstein and the success of Repeal the 8th, which, once the legislation is completed, will make abortion legal in Ireland. I’ve had a little to do with both issues.

In reaction to the revelations about Weinstein, #MeToo began to trend on Twitter as a way of exposing the number of sexual assaults women across the…

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#MeToo #A Woman&039;s Place Is In The Revolution #Equality for Women #Harvey Weinstein #Repeal the 8th #Reproductive Rights #Respect #Social Media

Change

I haven’t posted anything since before Christmas 2017 partly because I’ve been really ill, and partly because I’ve been finding interactions on social media quite draining. While the posts I follow here on WordPress are all respectful and considered, I can’t say the same for Twitter and Facebook. Twitter and Facebook operate more like conversations, whereas WordPress tends toward articles. I’ve…

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#Abuse #Being mindful #Four Agreements #Gender #Gender Based Violence #Social Media #WITNESS by Kitty Nolan

Is Religion Our Sacred Cow? by Esther Nelson

Couldn’t agree more….

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A practice to ease suffering

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