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Gentle reminder that the human eye is naturally drawn by noise and movement, so the next time you walk into a crowd or a bit late into a lecture or something like that, they’re not staring at you or judging; it’s just an instinctive reaction that has nothing to do with you doing anything wrong.

amymaymusings

This really helps my anxiety.

hinohde-deactivated20180613

oh.

systlin

It’s literally a threat assessment/food gathering instinct. The steps your brain is doing, subconsciously.

-Check to see if movement is lion in grass.

-Also check to see if possible game animal and edible.

-No it’s just Dave getting into lecture hall a few minutes late.

-That’s boring.

-Lose interest.

copperbadge

Well, now I’m worried that when I walk in late, I’ll be considered prey.

gravitren

We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives. Raise. Awareness.

pokemonprofessor

For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.

There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively - they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.

Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.

frustratedwaffle

I’ve never even heard of this??

shadowkat678

Me neither. :(

backpackfullofplums

Thank you for sharing bc I think I might actually have this but I thought it was just me. I can barely handle so much as a tampon. Will have to bring this up at my next doctor’s appointment.

saathiray

So, there is a website dedicated to vaginismus which I suffered from for years and had no idea how to talk about it. I found this website ten or twelve years ago and bought some of their products which helped immensely. I know nothing about the medications, but the dilator set is probably the best you can do because it is a way to help widen the vagina on your own terms. I still have mine even though I haven’t needed it for years because it could come back later.

One thing I appreciated about this website is that it emphasized that this is not your fault. Another thing I learned was that one cause could just be, you know, being part of a culture that gives women extreme anxiety about sex. This resource helped me when I was a lot younger and terrified that I was broken.

Anyways, here’s the website. Please share it with everyone you know: x

bando--grand-scamyon

I’ve heard of this just never knew the name of it smh

theambassadorposts

Love, support & wisdom

neverthere12345

dr0wnedperfectionist

wow i love this

neutralangel

One of the truest things I’ve ever heard is that people who say they’re “brutally honest” are more interested in the brutality than the honesty.

renjihowlsatthemoon-deactivated

I think this is important , and I hate when people think they need to speak their mind about anything at other peoples expense.

samyazart

Happy Muslim Women’s Day!!

frontpagewoman

Representation matters

thathighguy

#blackout2k18

bob-belcher

donnajosh

@letamericavote: Get ready: #TheWestWing cast reunites for Let America Vote! 🎥 🗳🇺🇸

a-spoon-is-born

one of the ways i know this culture has a massive issue with consent

is the sheer amount of people I’ve known that just lie & tell people they’re deathly allergic to foods they dislike

because otherwise people will hound them, mock them, coax them, harass them, try to force them to eat it, or even trick them into eating it, and they will never hear the end of it

your coworkers will bake it into a fucking pie, call it something else, and wait til your birthday, gather everyone and their first cousins to sit around in a circle waiting for you to put a forkful into your mouth and then point rhythmically at you in a chanting, glaring, sweating, unholy circle like SWISS CHARD SWISS CHARD YOU JUST ATE SWISS CHARD HA HA HA SWISS CHARD NOW YOU LIKE SWISS CHARD

Because forcing someone into a situation where they don’t feel safe declining putting something into their body they’d rather not be there is totes 100% wholesome American fun

And this is something so known that it’s infinitely easier to just lie and tell people that you’ll die if you eat that food…which actually doesn’t always stop it from happening

kayke-k

Blehhhhhh… i cannot do raw tomatoes. I will vomit. Even if the juice soaks into other parts of my food i will still taste it and vomit. I don’t know how to explain this to people so they don’t put tomatoes on my food (if they are not friends or family). I’m not going to go into a spiel over the Taco Bell intercom that raw tomatoes make me vomit. I just tell them I’m allergic. And if that means they change their gloves, GOOD i dont want that nasty tomato juice on my taco salad. Fast food workers are not paid enough to give a shit if I just say “no tomato”. Half the fuckin time they hide tomatoes in the salad just to be dicks anyway. >:( And yes, i will still use ketchup with my tomato-less burger because i looked it up and you can be allergic to raw tomatoes and be perfectly ok with cooked tomatoes. I got my alibi straight.

msowleye

My sister is a super picky eater and people can be really nasty and judgemental to her about it.

andersonsallpurpose

You really need to let people be the boss of what they put inside their own body.

dollsonmain

Yeah this is why that toddler with the wasabi made me so angry and sad. She said no more than once and they made her eat it anyway. It’s one thing to urge a child to try a new food, and another all together to force her to eat fucking wasabi paste for their amusement.

My mom always tries to do things like that, and she’d get really angry when I didn’t fall for it or thwarted her attempts at doing it to other people. Like she’d put alum in the potato salad to prank my step-dad, onions in a casserole after my ex-husband admitted he can’t stand to eat them, mushrooms in a dish she made for Husband who hates mushrooms and when I warned him, she got mad at me. And she’d get mad at me when I would tell her how mean it was to do that.

I don’t understand that way of thinking.

ramblingandpie

And, of course, there are people who won’t even respect the allergy issue. “Oh, it was just a dash of chili powder. That’s ok, right?.” And ok maybe that’s not enough to make my throat close but I’m gonna be itchy for daaaaaaays now, kthx.

I can sometimes be a bit aggressive when offering my picky toddler foods and I am working on that but like. I’d never straight up shove wasabi in his mouth because that is just Fucked Up.

psychms

Yep, here’s a story of a mother sending her son’s girlfriend to the ER because she wanted to “prove the allergy was fake” https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-a-poisoned-relationship/2018/03/04/139de87a-1e3e-11e8-b2d9-08e748f892c0_story.html?utm_term=.67c0065241c0

statueofsirens

And the less common the allergy, the more aggressive people are about it.

Most of my siblings and I have random fruit allergies. My sister is allergic to strawberries. My brother is allergic to mango. I’m, weirdly enough, allergic to pears.The inside of my mouth and throat will swell and blister if I even have pear juice, so it’s a no go for me at all times. I have to read labels on anything made from fruit or fruit concentrate because a lot of juice blends and gummy snacks will actually have pear juice concentrate. I can’t even eat Gushers.

A couple years ago at work a girl brought in a beautiful fruit tart on her birthday to share with the office. It had pears slices, and I had to decline. She got offended that I try it, and I had to explain I was allergic. This lead to a lot of passive aggression, and wheedling that I should just take the pear slices off if I ‘didn’t like them’.

It turned into such a thing that I had to approach the manager about it, and the manager’s response was that I was being rude and should have just tried some of the tart.

Seriously, allergy or not, don’t guilt trip or trick people into eating something they don’t want, and could possibly hurt them.

roseate-rein

I hate that this whole issue extends into food service people thinking “oh, so many people are into the [whatever] food trend” to the point people will assume an allergy is fake.

And ya know, as much as fad diets annoy me why should it fucking matter if someone doesn’t want to eat something? Why does it piss you off that someone wants a gluten free pizza, or nonfat milk, or soy milk, or diet coke if where you work offers those options???? (I can understand if someone is being rude about their food in general like people who get mad that you put 4 and a half pumps of caramel in their latte instead of 5, that can piss you off haha) but I just don’t understand why some people get so offended that you want something they can easily give you????

And I’ve been guilty of urging picky eaters to eat certain things (but that’s really only if they’ve never eaten it) so i admit even I have to be mindful of this

chrisnerdwick

rootbeergoddess

Best answer

finndeservesbetter

This guy is on a whole other level

procrastinationasperformanceart

Let me tell you about my panda mini-washer

As an apartment dweller, this is a game changer. My current apartment doesn’t have a laundry facility and the closest Laundromat about a 30 min bus ride which is just not practical. The mini-washer is a life saver

The panda mini washer hooks up to the sink, is incredibly lightweight (about 28 pounds, so light even I can lift it) and easy to use.

It has a surprisingly large capacity. The basket from the first picture represents about one and a half loads. The jeans took up a whole load while the rest filled the bin only half way.

Here’s the inside. The left is the washer the right is the spin dryer. Yes, it even drys.

Basically you shove your cloths into the washer, fill it up with water and let it go. I use my shower head to fill it up so it goes faster, the sink hook up took about five minutes to fill the whole tub, with the shower head is is down to a minute an a half. I do it in three wash cycles, a five minute rinse with baking soda, a five minute wash with soap and a three minute rinse with water. You have to drain and refill between each cycle so it’s a little more labor intensive than a traditional washer.

That’s the spin dryer. It’s about half the capacity of the washer so one wash takes about two loads to dry. The spinner is much more effective than I was expecting. A three minute spin gets my cloths about 90% dry. I hang them up to air dry for that last 10%.

The machine cost me about 150$. When you factor in two dollars for the bus, five for the machines (per week), the mini-washer pays for its self after only about six months worth of laundry.

I’m not great at expressing emotion, but I’m hoping you can tell how excited I am. Let me just say that the panda mini-washer is great and I highly recommend it to anyone currently using a Laundromat.

ihatethebitchwhorunsthisblog-de

Read this and immediately bought it on Amazon for $180. I spend $15 a week to have my laundry done so this pays for itself in 3 months for me. THANK YOU JESUS.

thepushyqueenofsluttown

OMG

wasjopara

@ all my nyc pendejas

onlyblackgirl

pseudocoding

Oh by the way, they have table top dishwashers that are pretty much the same thing:

breelandwalker

This is one of the biggest technological breakthroughs for the everyday homeowner in the current decade: the realization that refrigerators aren’t the only things that can be miniaturized for better affordability and minimal space requirements.

Can you IMAGINE how this is going to change the lives of college students and apartment-dwellers? Or anyone with a lower income who can’t afford a place with “luxury” appliances like dishwashers and laundry machines?

There’s an even cheaper option called the Wonder Wash where you tumble the thing yourself and you’ll have to line-dry the clothes, but it apparently works very well.

foodffs

As an apartment dweller, I want to spread this.

historicblackmark

Save a life

jumpingjacktrash

i wish i’d had something like this when i lived in apartments. there were times when i spent the grocery money on laundry because i was more afraid of getting fired than going hungry. apartment buildings were charging a buck twenty five per load for their shitty brokedown basement machines back in 1990, i don’t even know what they’re gouging you for now.

(northfield nakama are still welcome to come use our full size machines, pls don’t think that by reblogging this i’m dropping hints.)

natalia-james-deactivated201807

😍

atheologist

I love children.

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

Chapters: 6/? Fandom: Star Wars Episode VII: The Force Awakens (2015) Rating: Mature Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings Relationships: Kylo Ren/Rey Characters: Kylo Ren, Rey (Star Wars), Luke Skywalker, Obi-Wan Kenobi, Armitage Hux, Snoke (Star Wars) Additional Tags: Rey Kenobi, Reylo - Freeform, Star Wars AU, Alternate Universe - The Little Mermaid Fusion, mermaid au, mer kylo Summary:

Balanced will be found in two With births eclipsed by moon and sun Apart they will not remain Together they shall reign Bride and groom King and queen Sorcerer and Sorceress Silver and Gold their Crowns With the ocean at their will

#rey #reylo #reylo au #reylo mermaid au #star wars #tfa