shia labeouf DIE. brad pitt DIE. chris brown DIE. johnny depp DIE. cristiano ronaldo DIE. conor mcgregor DIE. die die die die die die die DIE. every single abuser DIE. if you support them DIE TWICE!
I know you said on your other blog that you avoid interacting with certain types of people, how do you disengage with weird people? I feel like I have a beacon that attracts them to me and my older brother is autistic so my friends assume that I’m willing to give men similar to him a chance when in reality, I’m not, and it gets to be too much for me.
I tell people to their faces.
I don’t have endless patience; I’m not caring or maternal towards those that drain me; I don’t want atypical people to think that I’m some sort of soft landing for them; I don’t think everyone needs to be handled with immense care; and I advocate for myself. My boundaries aren’t going to be overstepped; I won’t be opening my life or inconveniencing myself for people who can’t reciprocate, and I have nothing in common with people who have no social lives, minimal social intelligence, and draining personalities.
People who grew up in environments where they were allowed and encouraged to advocate for themselves aren’t afraid to say no. I’m an adult; if I don’t want to be friends with someone, I can tell them. I don’t let myself be roped into hangouts, conversations, or anything more than the most basic of pleasantries because I know who I want to know and interact with at this point in my life, and that doesn’t involve people with social limitations or difficulties. There’s a way to be polite about it, and I would always recommend being polite to people, but you don’t need to be overly kind or fake for the sake of still seeming sweet. Clearly say no, disengage, and remove yourself from the conversation.
I also think that you need to prioritize yourself, your own desires, and your own mental health. No one should be tolerating abuse for the sake of satiating someone else’s needs, and it’s possible to sympathize with people and recognize their struggles but have firm boundaries around interacting with them. Tolerating dysfunction and/or abuse, trauma dumping, being expected to act as a caretaker, or being made uncomfortable doesn’t serve you. Nor does pretending you are some sort of empath and taking on roles you can’t handle or want to deal with or that burden you.
Part of becoming an adult is getting comfortable with telling people harsh truths. There’s obviously a way to go about this nicely, and I’d always encourage taking a nice stance instead of being cruel or hateful, but some people need to be told that they are burdening you, that what they’re telling you is inappropriate, or that you just don’t want to be friendly with them. You do have to have a certain level of tact, but if you know something isn’t sustainable, it’s better to say something at the very beginning than to wonder why you didn’t when you find yourself in way too deep.
You need to speak up for yourself, get better friends, and start prioritizing your mental health and safety.
wouldn’t it be so nice to wash your sheets and your blanket and to take a sumptuous bath or a refreshing shower whilst they dry and go to bed perfectly clean in a perfectly clean bed?
EDIT: THIS IS A CARRD NOW! it's updated and organized!!
EDIT EDIT: this is on my website now! this is the version that will be somewhat regularly updated. the carrd will remain, but will no longer be updated.
use overdrive, libby, hoopla, cloudlibrary, and kanopy instead of amazon and audible.
use firefox or librewolf (open-source fork of firefox) instead of chrome or opera (both are made with chromium, which blocks functionality for ad-blockers. firefox isn't based on chromium).
use mega instead of google drive
get rid of bloatware
use libreoffice instead of microsoft office suite
get free stuff with the help of r/FREEMEDIAHECKYEAH, r/piracy and r/roms
use trakt (for shows and movies), letterboxd (just movies), or TMB instead of IMDB (owned by amazon).
use storygraph instead of goodreads (owned by amazon).
use darkpatterns to find mobile game with no ads or microtransactions
use mediahuman or cobalt to download music, or support your favorite artists directly through bandcamp
make youtube bearable by using mtube, newpipe, or the unhook extension on chrome, firefox, or microsoft edge
use search for a cause, ecosia, or ocean hero to support the environment instead of google
use thriftbooks to buy new or used books (they also have manga, textbooks, home goods, CDs, DVDs, and blurays)
use flashpoint to play archived online flash games
find books, movies, games, etc. on the internet archive! for starters, here's a bunch of David Attenborough documentaries and all of the Animorphs books
burn your music onto cds
use pdf24 (available online or as a desktop app) instead of adobe
use thunderbird, mailfence, countermail, edison mail, or tuta instead of gmail
remove bloatware on windows PC, macOS, and iOS X
remove bloatware on samsung X
use pixelfed instead of instagram or meta
use project gutenberg for free public domain books, and librivox for public domain books and audiobooks
use the seal app (android only) to download video and audio
use ellipsus instead of microsoft word or google docs
use mastodon instead of twitter
use peertube to create a network of small video hosting providers (disclaimer: not a 1:1 alternative to youtube)
use threema and signal for encrypted communication, on mobile and desktop
use qwant and startpage for secure internet browsers
use syncthing to securely transfer files between devices
learn how to jailbreak your kindle/ereader if you have one (wiki and video walkthrough)
use riseup’s email and VPN for secure communication (aimed towards activists)
use cryptpad and collabora instead of the microsoft office suite
use google takeout to export the data on your google account
use library extension to look for books on online stores and find them at your library
remove paywalls with removepaywalls
install the open-source adblocker ublock origin
install sponsorblock to skip sponsored segments on youtube videos
use bookfinder to look for the cheapest available listings of books, including textbooks
learn a language through mango (duolingo laid off some of its employees and now relies on AI translations) for free with a library card or through your school
edit photos with photopea
edit pdfs with foxit and sumatrapdf
download music with doubledouble
take notes offline and collaborate securely with obsidian
for android tv, use smarttube and cloudstream (ad-free, open-source)
change your OS to linux
changelog:
removed ground news (uses AI to summarize articles)
removed unroll.me (sells your data)
removed proton mail and drive (AI assistant feature, claims of CEO Andy Yen supporting Trump, please DM if you have proof I can add here)
removed NCH suite (only has very basic free features, puts watermark on anything saved)
notes:
this post blew up while I wasn’t looking (the end of my semester was hellish, and i recently came back from a 3-week family vacation). thanks so much for all the suggestions! <3
i included Ecosia because of their financial transparency. It’s physically impossible that they plant a tree for every search, but their profits still go towards projects including reforestation and solar energy. i view their actions as a net-positive
feel free to add more alternatives, resources or advice in the reblogs or replies, and i'll add them to the main post <3
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