If you've read "Milk & Honey" by Rupi Kaur, you probably know how beautifully she has expressed the four phases of life through her poetry. //
'The Breaking', 'The Hurting', "The Healing' & 'The Loving' aren't just four pages from her book, these are the four fundamental chapters which our storylines are based upon; the four major phases that our life encompasses around. Our stories and our reasons might not be the same but we are all travelling down the same road where we must break & hurt before we can heal & love again.
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There's always a breaking point in each of our lives, whether it is the loss of a loved one, failure in professional life, betrayal from a friend/ the person you thought was the love of your life, societal pressure, the trauma that comes from growing up in a broken family, years of financial struggle, the unreachability of what you desire for or any of the possible reasons that causes it; you at some stage of life will & must reach the breaking point. At this phase of life, you feel broken beyond repair, life begins to lose its meaning and you feel like nothing will ever make sense again. You feel too tired to move forward in life or even take one step forward beyond that point. You feel like all the strength, energy and goodness in you has been consumed to the fullest by this misery. The hardships seems to have overshadowed any hopes for the future.
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Once you've reached the breaking point, you spend days/weeks/months or even years in the pain that comes with it. At first, you spend days in a room full of darkness, you might find it hard to get out of bed, you might smoke your lungs black, spend days drinking and listening to music that crumbles the shards of your broken heart even more. You hurt till it doesn't hurt anymore just like you bleed till there's no more blood left for bleeding. But no matter how much you think and tell yourself that there's no life left beyond this pain, beyond the breaking point, you will eventually begin to accept and digest the brutal reality that no matter how hard the time is, it just won't stop; the clock keeps ticking, the days keep passing, the universe keeps moving at the same pace as it did all this time. So, you're forced to feel// even if pain is all that you feel, you begin to feel again, even if it's only the negative thoughts that goes through your head, you're forced to think again and in this way, you're moving forward without even realising.
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Like a child that finds purpose to smile after he's done crying; you carry the backpack of your emotions and finally begin to pave your way out of the darkness, you set off on the journey to find the light at the end of the tunnel because you weren't able to defy your instincts; the nature has designed you so beautifully that no matter how vulnerable you feel at some point in life, you eventually begin to move forward. At this point, you're getting back to normal routine, you're healing, you're fixing yourself. You are under 'reconstruction' like a building that was destroyed to be recreated even into something stronger and better. You begin to bloom again; like a flower that grows out of dirt.
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"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
-Â Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love; with its ability to overcome and defeat any and every evil in this world, begins to take over your emotions and mind too. It overshadows the pain, holds the pieces together and reshapes you into this brighter, stronger and happier version of yourself. You're now someone with experience and the courage to fight in any battlefield life drives you to. Once you've experienced your true and full potential, you begin to fall in love with your abilities. You pour love like sunshine everywhere you go. This positive and happy energy surrounds you at all times. đŞđťâĄđđđźđą
