intersexxy

lee × intersex + intergender (no pronouns) I like piercings, tattoos, taking care of my sister, Anna, cooking, and the color maroon. big fan of leather and diy body mods. I'm eighteen. I'm not your wet dream. radfems and TERFs will catch my block ASAP.

[yourbigsisnissi]

A part of being an adult is living with regret and not allowing it to consume you. The older you get, the more mistakes you’ve made, opportunities you’ve missed, people you’ve disappointed. And every day you have to remind yourself to be kind and forgiving of yourself. You accept and love the you from the past and understand that it’s all a part of the process. Then you move on and live your best life, knowing now as old as you feel today, you’ll never be this young again.

[studyandstorms-deactivated20250]

Okay, you messed up, whatever it is didn’t go to plan. Maybe you didn’t study today. Maybe you procrastinated all day. Maybe you gave up on that essay you need to write. Maybe you didn’t write that lab report. Maybe you had to sit a test without being prepared and are pretty sure you failed. So what? Mistakes happen, they’re a part of life and there’s nothing you can do now. Where do you go from here? Give up entirely or learn from this experience and do the best you can from now on? You can come back from this, it’ll be okay.

[omegaverse]

reading a poem a recipe author wrote about her mother who passed and tearing up………. thank you bread recipe for the small dose of heart and tenderness 🥺💖

[omegaverse]

@illness​

[gingerteaonthetardis]

[image ID: a poem called “Cold Solace” by Anna Belle Kaufman.

When my mother died,

one of her honey cakes remained in the freezer.

I couldn’t bear to see it vanish,

so it waited, pardoned,

in its ice cave behind the metal trays

for two more years.

On my forty-first birthday

I chipped it out,

a rectangular resurrection,

hefted the dead weight in my palm.

Before it thawed,

I sawed, with serrated knife,

the thinnest of slices —

Jewish Eucharist.

The amber squares

with their translucent panes of walnuts

tasted — even toasted — of freezer,

of frost,

a raisined delicacy delivered up

from a deli in the underworld.

I yearned to recall life, not death,

the still body in her pink nightgown on the bed,

how I lay in the shallow cradle of the scattered sheets

after they took it away,

inhaling her scent one last time.

I close my eyes, savor a wafer of

sacred cake on my tongue and

try to taste my mother, to discern

the message she baked in these loaves

when she was too ill to eat them:

I love you.

It will end.

Leave something of sweetness

and substance

in the mouth of the world.

end image ID.]

[jokeboy-deactivated20260221]

we've been brainwashed into thinking people who go to college deserve a better quality of life than people who don't and once you realize that that's a capitalist trick to get you to go to college/accept that your life will never be good if you didn't, oh it all gets better from here

[d0lma]

I always wonder if it would help making a general post about dental care tips so here goes. (For reference, I am able to provide this guidance under supervision usually in a hospital setting, so this information is correct and expected of me when treating patients).

Brushing 2x day is important, even once a day if you can, do it before you sleep because that's when you're not swallowing and flushing out your mouth so plaque stays stagnant and causes trouble.

Use a fluoride toothpaste - it is the single most impactful component in our modern hygiene ritual from the past 40y that has reduced the amount of caries we see in patients.

Spit, do NOT rinse after brushing. Not even with mouthwash. Just spit the excess toothpaste out. Trust me. You'll get used to it after 2 days!

Please floss. Find the best way for you - use floss, flossettes or the tepe brushes. 1x a day is the optimal amount, before you sleep. 40% of plaque is between the teeth!

A Waterpik cannot replace floss, it can feel nice but you need to mechanically scrape away plaque and bits of food stuck in there.

If you can, use an electric toothbrush cause it can be helpful with timing and pressure sensing.

2 minutes of brushing is a lot longer than you'd think. Have a go at timing it and see what you find :).

Make sure you're replacing your brushes/brush heads every 3 months or once the bristles fray.

Keep in mind the amount of pressure you're placing when you brush - you don't need a lot otherwise you'll traumatise your gums.

If you wish to use a mouthrinse, you can at any time other than brushing (unless the rinse is prescribed). The reasoning for this is the fluoride content is significantly lower and will essentially wash away the toothpaste fluoride you've just applied, rendering it meaningless and your teeth are unprotected. You can have a look at the packaging- most toothpastes are around 1400ppm whereas mouthrinse is 350ppm.

Avoid charcoal and whitening toothpastes. They're too abrasive and will wear away your teeth if you use them. If you really want to use a whitening toothpaste, do it 1/week and avoid foods/drinks that stain e.g. coffee, wine etc once you've used it.

Charcoal blocks fluoride uptake in the teeth so seriously avoid it. It's not going to help.

Don't forget your tongue! Scrape it with your brush or you can get tongue scrapers. The tongue is a reservoir of bacteria and can replenish unfavourable bacteria species population after brushing, leading to some bad breath.

If you find your mouth is quite dry, you may have xerostomia which could be caused by a number of things. It is a common side effect of many medications so keep this in mind and drink water :). Saliva is really helpful in maintaining the health of your mouth so we want to make sure we're maintaining that role!

[leesions]

EmKay is a pretty great Reddit channel. Very funny.

[jookyunltd]

Uncle Phil had time today.

[intersexcutie]

to all of the annoying assholes that claim intersex isn’t a gender

who fuck are you to tell people that were born intersex that they can’t say their gender is intersex, if they prefer to say that their gender is intersex instead of saying their gender is intergender thats their business not yours so shut the fuck up and mind your own fucking business because it is fucking frustrating.

sincerely, an extremely pissed off intergender

[asepride-archive]

intergender

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[tapet-wallpapers]

Intergender wallpapers/backgrounds

[leesions]

I'm back online folks.

[wizardpotions]

kinda fed up with perisex people telling me my identity for me, no i dont identify with my agab, no i dont identify as trans. i dont identify as trans because i feel like ive had my biological sex taken away from me when a doctor decided i wasnt quite male enough at birth. its not the same as being born with a body that doesnt match your identity as much as its that my body wasnt considered normal enough for me to be allowed to actually identify with my biological sex, and that that somehow needed fixing surgically, and now im missing parts of my body i will never have back, and thats genuinly not the same as being a perisex trans person at all. 

[intersexfairy]

dyads really like to talk about intersex bodies but dont understand intersex bodies. and i want every dyad trying to be an ally to shut up about our bodies until they learn about us as people. understanding our bodies is something you should do very very slowly, and isnt high on the beginner-ally's priority list.

if you want to be an ally, first you need to work on understanding our experiences. you need to listen to our voices. you need to learn about the oppression we face - not just IGM, but other forms of institutional medical abuse, bullying, the abuse and neglect we face from our parents, the body image issues we have, how eurocentric beauty standards and eurocentric sciences have lead to our othering and how that harms intersex poc especially...

because without that, any "research" you try to put into learning about our bodies will likely be intersexist, fetishistic, overly medical, and/or inaccurate.

while our bodies are the part of ourselves that has been othered, intersex experience is filled with a lot more than that. we dont need you to look up all the intersex variations to learn what kind of genitals we have (thats gross!).

we need you to understand our identities. we need you to understand how varied we all are. we need you to understand our experiences as individuals, and our experiences as a group. we need you to understand the root of our oppression and the kinds of oppression & discrimination we face, both in our daily lives and at the institutional level.

we need you to learn about all this because without that, you cant support us or our fight for bodily autonomy, body neutrality & positivity, the depatholigization of our bodies, the normalization of our bodies... which the support of which by dyads will, over time, set us free.

because whether you like it or not, you are dyadic, and your ignorance is an essential tool in the perpetuation or our oppression. you probably are intersexist, no matter what marginalized group(s) you're a part of. and it's on you to fix that.

free to reblog but dyads dont clown

[intersexfairy]

I want to support intersex ppl and be a good ally but I don’t understand why it’s bad to want to be intersex/have a more androgynous body... would you be willing to explain please? Sorry if this pisses you off

It's fine to want an androgynous body, but it isn't fine to want an "intersex" body.

For one, we arent all androgynous. Most of us arent, at least not in the idealized way people who say they want and "intersex body" think of. For two, intersex people are more than our bodies and saying you want an "intersex body" reduces us to our body parts, primarily our genitals. Which, is disgusting.

There is no "intersex body" or "intersex genitalia," there's a bunch of intersex people with varied bodies and genitalia which aren't yours to want, especially because our bodies are the part of ourselves we're oppressed for. We get mutilated and forcibly medicated and bullied and abused and neglected because of our bodies. Our bodies are not yours to romanticize, and dysphoria cannot excuse any of this.

Dyadic people can also never have intersex bodies, because you're dyadic. Intersex is not an adjective you can use for anything but intersex people and our experiences. When we talk about our "intersex body," we're talking about our individual, unique experience with our own body.

It makes about as much sense and is objectifying/fetishizing in a similar fashion to someone who isn't transfem saying they want a "transfem body" or a white person saying they want to have "black features."

It's offensive, disrespectful, tone deaf, relies on misconceptions abt us and a dyadic view of the world, and literally just shows zero understanding of who we are as a class of people.

The word you are all looking for when you say this is androgynous or (gender) nonconforming. Just say what body parts you want/dont want too. Leave us out of it.

Also, most of the things you people call "intersex body" is literally impossible for us to have. We dont have fully functional "both" genitalia, and if you got what is actually possible for androgynous genitalia, you'd probably be disappointed because it's nothing like what you're thinking.

This is free to rb. Dyads dont clown.

[dabwax-deactivated20250410]

If you like. Only care about intersex people IF they identify themselves as trans, you are being intersexist. If you think that an intersex person who has a body that inherently does not fit into a binary definition of male or female can EVER have what y’all define as Cis Privilege, you are being intersexist AND erasing our experiences and trauma. If you specifically only raise intersex voices if the person is trans, because you lack the perspective to understand that all intersex people are suffering and are erased so heavily that you simply don’t understand, you are being intersexist. Society has worked so FUCKING hard to erase us, don’t play into that shit simply because the language you’ve always used to speak about gender has also always excluded and erased us. GROW AND LEARN.

Trans intersex voices are extremely important and carry a lot of insight and nuance! But the thing is: ALL intersex people live in the same system that forces us into binary boxes, and this comes with suffering that is unique to being intersex that doesn’t fucking go away if we don’t use perisex terms to describe our gender. I shouldn’t have to call myself nonbinary, a term that for me separates myself from my fight for my identity as a woman that I’ve faced my entire life due to being intersex, for people to take me goddamn seriously.

And if you’re an intersex person who thinks other intersex people are more privileged based SPECIFICALLY on how they personally define their gender, despite knowing that intersex people ALL face varying levels of intersexism and someone who looks blatantly outside of the binary like myself would never be treated as a fucking human much less a woman, you have some fucking internalized intersexism you need to sort the fuck out. I don’t have to redefine my gender, y’all need to LISTEN.

[intersexfairy]

Stigmatizing and mocking small dicks contributes to and supports the idea that there's something wrong with small penises.

This sentiment, which is prevalent throughout our society, ultimately gets violently pushed on intersex children, who have their small penis (or large clitoris) mutilated into an ""acceptably"" sized clitoris because the doctors decided their body wasn't natural or deserving to exist as it was. It also serves to assign them a binary sex and gender.

This traumatizes people, causes them difficulty in their sexuality and sex life, violates their bodily autonomy, harms or destroys their body image, and so many other horrible things.

And when you joke about small penises, you only reinforce these negative self concepts and experiences - for those affected by intersex infant genital mutilation in general, honestly. Because it's the same sentiment against all of us - that our bodies are ridiculous and wrong and need to be fixed.

Stigmatizing or supporting the mockery of small penises is not harmless. In the grand scheme of things, it is violence.

Intersex allies please reblog.

[dabwax-deactivated20250410]

Some day I’m gonna talk about how the lgbt community online has created a whole new binary that is “cis or trans” by defining cis as something so specific that isn’t just “identifies as their agab” and trans as “everyone else” and how much damage that does to intersex people who are not trans who have to deal with the repercussions of that all but. I have said A Lot already