Leigh Alanna

It’s human trafficking… it literally says that it’s human trafficking in the article.

In related news, if you write “bad person” on your bullets, everyone you shoot with them is a bad person.

No, I don’t believe prostituted women should be punished, I think they’re in serious need of help. To be against sex work isn’t against the sex worker, just like being anti child labor doesn’t make you anti child. I think these women need to be saved from johns and pimps.

tiredstripper

yes please save me from my nonexistent pimp also who the fuck calls clients john’s anymore other then dumb terfs

the-wandering-vagina-deactivate

I do do my research (tagged/prostitution, look at my tag before you reblog). Please don’t call me a terf (I’m not a TERF or SWERF) or call me a b*tch. It doesn’t make people want to open up for meaningful discussion. Do you hear yourself? I literally said I wanted women to be protected from the industry.

Why are prostitutes supporting sex trafficking????

fairypage-deactivated20190421

the 90% who are unsafe in prostitution should always be prioritised over the 10% who are privileged enough to draw personal benefit (this is a good example of liberal feminism, btw; throwing women WHO NEED TO ESCAPE FROM HUMAN TRAFFICKING under the bus so you can continue to feel some illusion of empowerment up in your ‘ethical’ ‘feminist’ ivory tower)

No, sorry, you can’t pretend you care for safety in the industry you profit from and defend, thus belonging to a minority in said industry, when you see “dressed inappropriately for age” or “claims of being an adult though appearance suggests adolescent features” and make it out to be “the government is trying to bust us, enthusiastic adult sex workers”, and say shit like “under cover of suspicion of human trafficking”. It’s just really fucking transparent, okay. These are really, really basic safety measures that can and do save trafficked individuals’ lives (and imo should be reinforced in all businesses):

“Shelia Fedrick, 49, said she rescued a victim of human trafficking on a flight from Seattle to San Francisco. The Alaska Airlines flight attendant saw the disheveled teen sitting next to a well-dressed man.” / “[…] when she noticed a teen, believed to be 14 or 15 years old, sitting in the window seat next to a well-dressed older man, NBC reported. Fedrick said the victim had greasy blond hair and looked like she ‘had been through pure hell’. It was the contrast between the two that raised a red flag.” (Source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4194128/Flight-attendant-saves-girl-human-trafficking.html)

since i’m particularly mad about the whining over tumblr’s restrictions right now! let’s recall this really isn’t the first time tumblr’s ~sex workers~ mourn policies that could prevent child sexual abuse because it harms their business.

rad-and-i-dont-stop

I’ve seen it several times. They don’t want sex trafficking cracked down on because it might get in their way. They are truly selfish women who couldn’t give a fuck about victims.

taramaclaywasaterf

Actual feminists: “this could save lives and help end sex trafficking”

Selfish, overprivleged pieces of shit who think the world revolves around their ~*choice*~: “but…but what about ME and my job?”

tetraterezi

Harsh but happening.

you know what’s dumb about all the swerfs on this post? aside form all of the many things that have been said about the ways in which they’re wrong, let’s pretend for *one second* that they’re right: namely, that they’re right in that a) homeland security is somehow capable of helping victims of trafficking and b) that the particular methods outlined above are themselves effective and positive.

it’s not true, but let’s just pretend.

all of the sex workers on this post are *helping* – if we’re *not* victims of trafficking, then *surely* figuring out how to avoid tripping the Pig Alarm is beneficial to all the real people in trouble? ****Surely**** you’d all want us to leave all those sweet, sweet cop resources for the people that really need them?

…unless you know just as well as we do that cops are scum that harm women, and you’d just rather they harm us.

genderidentitty

^for a lot of words you’ve managed to say absolutely nothing of value.

I see over and over against how prostitution should be either decriminalized or legalized to protect them better that way if their johns step out of line then cops can swoop in and help the poor women!!!

Then suddenly, law enforcement are the worst thing for sex trafficking victims and never any good for any women.

Quit being so melodramatic, we hate your industry and that women bend over backwards to defend patriarchal violence for money, that doesn’t mean we want you dead.

#sexwork #fssw #fetish work #pro-domme

Your feelings are wholly irrelevant here — I don’t care if you want me or people like me dead. It matters very precisely zero if you want me or women generally to be happy, healthy and well.

Because despite what you may want, what you do (when you put marginalized people in the path of LE) is harm women. My apologies if there was any confusion — what you think is not under discussion here. Cops are, stastically speaking, the source of far more harm to ppl in the sex trades (however they got there) then anyone else (see my statistics tag for citations).

Because they think we're all escorts

Why the fuck would anyone even trying to freelance at this shithole. The owners shouldn’t flatter themselves.

i'm a current fssw looking to transition into non-full service domme work. would you be able to point me to a few resources about transitioning to a different area of sw? there aren't a lot of dungeons in my area where i can start. all my domme skills would be from fssw and lifestyle experience.

to be totally frank, you already have pretty much all the skills you’ll need. A dungeon that hires shift staff is extremely likely to take too much of your money and push you around – there are learning-to-manage-clients benefits that may make the tradeoff worth it when you’re just starting out, but those don’t apply to you, an experienced sex worker. anyone who tells you you need to be virtuoso rope top or able to circus-crack a whip in order to make money spanking dudes is lying, probably to inflate their own ego (i mean, it’s always nice to have a party trick or two up your sleeve, but you’ll be disappointed at how rarely you’ll get to use it).

fetish clients are not materially different from fs clients, other than the general rule of clients which is: the less physical contact is baked into a session, the whinier, pushier, and cheaper the average client gets. the rules of the session are essentially the same – you’re providing a service to their fantasy, which in the case happens not to involve your genitals, rather than say, actually exchanging any power the way you might with a partner, if that’s the sort of thing you’re into.

all you really have to do is figure out where to advertise. and maybe (only maybe) invest in a couple of new outfits.

i hope you get exactly what you want.

the comments on that article about hotel staff endangering s*x workers are so horrid, ppl really think s*x workers being collateral damage is ok

yeah, it’s almost like radical feminists are only concerned with the well-being of the people who fit their model of acceptable womanhood or something. wacky.

(and oh so *radical*)

#radfem #radical feminism #radical feminist theory

Frequent minibar-restock requests and refusal of maid service for several days also listed among "red flags" for human trafficking.

Heads up to sex workers who work in hotels, especially those who run incalls from them.

Included amongst “warning signs” that hotels are being urged to report are:

garbage cans containing many used condoms

frequent use of “Do Not Disturb” sign on room door

excessive foot traffic in and out of a room

“excessive sex paraphernalia” in room

an “overly smelly room” that reeks of “cigarette, marijuana, sweat, bodily fluids, and musk”

a guest who “averts eyes or does not make eye contact”

individuals “dressed inappropriate for age” or with “lower quality clothing than companions”

guests with “suspicious tattoos”

the presence of multiple computers, cell phones, pagers, credit card swipes, or other technology

the presence of photography equipment

minibar in need of frequent restocking

guests with too many personal hygiene products, especially “lubrication, douches”

guests with too few personal possessions

rooms paid for with cash or a rechargeable credit card

“individuals loitering and soliciting male customers”

“claims of being an adult though appearance suggests adolescent features”

refusal of room cleaning services for multiple days

Remember, the DHS seems to be taking a very large interest in busting sex workers of late, not just under cover of suspicion of human trafficking – it was Homeland Security that led the bust against RentBoy and MyRedBook.

diaryofchylatte

Reblogging again bc this is important

It’s human trafficking… it literally says that it’s human trafficking in the article.

In related news, if you write “bad person” on your bullets, everyone you shoot with them is a bad person.

No, I don’t believe prostituted women should be punished, I think they’re in serious need of help. To be against sex work isn’t against the sex worker, just like being anti child labor doesn’t make you anti child. I think these women need to be saved from johns and pimps.

tiredstripper

yes please save me from my nonexistent pimp also who the fuck calls clients john’s anymore other then dumb terfs

the-wandering-vagina-deactivate

I do do my research (tagged/prostitution, look at my tag before you reblog). Please don’t call me a terf (I’m not a TERF or SWERF) or call me a b*tch. It doesn’t make people want to open up for meaningful discussion. Do you hear yourself? I literally said I wanted women to be protected from the industry.

Why are prostitutes supporting sex trafficking????

fairypage-deactivated20190421

the 90% who are unsafe in prostitution should always be prioritised over the 10% who are privileged enough to draw personal benefit (this is a good example of liberal feminism, btw; throwing women WHO NEED TO ESCAPE FROM HUMAN TRAFFICKING under the bus so you can continue to feel some illusion of empowerment up in your ‘ethical’ ‘feminist’ ivory tower)

No, sorry, you can’t pretend you care for safety in the industry you profit from and defend, thus belonging to a minority in said industry, when you see “dressed inappropriately for age” or “claims of being an adult though appearance suggests adolescent features” and make it out to be “the government is trying to bust us, enthusiastic adult sex workers”, and say shit like “under cover of suspicion of human trafficking”. It’s just really fucking transparent, okay. These are really, really basic safety measures that can and do save trafficked individuals’ lives (and imo should be reinforced in all businesses):

“Shelia Fedrick, 49, said she rescued a victim of human trafficking on a flight from Seattle to San Francisco. The Alaska Airlines flight attendant saw the disheveled teen sitting next to a well-dressed man.” / “[…] when she noticed a teen, believed to be 14 or 15 years old, sitting in the window seat next to a well-dressed older man, NBC reported. Fedrick said the victim had greasy blond hair and looked like she ‘had been through pure hell’. It was the contrast between the two that raised a red flag.” (Source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4194128/Flight-attendant-saves-girl-human-trafficking.html)

since i’m particularly mad about the whining over tumblr’s restrictions right now! let’s recall this really isn’t the first time tumblr’s ~sex workers~ mourn policies that could prevent child sexual abuse because it harms their business.

rad-and-i-dont-stop

I’ve seen it several times. They don’t want sex trafficking cracked down on because it might get in their way. They are truly selfish women who couldn’t give a fuck about victims.

taramaclaywasaterf

Actual feminists: “this could save lives and help end sex trafficking”

Selfish, overprivleged pieces of shit who think the world revolves around their ~*choice*~: “but…but what about ME and my job?”

tetraterezi

Harsh but happening.

you know what’s dumb about all the swerfs on this post? aside form all of the many things that have been said about the ways in which they’re wrong, let’s pretend for *one second* that they’re right: namely, that they’re right in that a) homeland security is somehow capable of helping victims of trafficking and b) that the particular methods outlined above are themselves effective and positive.

it’s not true, but let’s just pretend.

all of the sex workers on this post are *helping* -- if we’re *not* victims of trafficking, then *surely* figuring out how to avoid tripping the Pig Alarm is beneficial to all the real people in trouble? ****Surely**** you’d all want us to leave all those sweet, sweet cop resources for the people that really need them?

...unless you know just as well as we do that cops are scum that harm women, and you’d just rather they harm us.

#swerfs

How often do you have virgins as clients? And if not would you turn them down? I'm a virgin myself...

I want you to ask yourself: _why_ would a sex work give any fucks about the level of prior sexual experience a client has had or not had?

Also, there’s no such thing as virginity.

loki-zen

not to defend the sad little clovers but have you ever had had one of those instructors/facilitators in a leisure activity (horseriding, ziplining etc) who seems viscerally offended by having to deal with a total beginner?

Actually, beginner’s classes often cost more because the teaching is included, I know that’s unlikely to be practical for you guys but it’s a thought

Realistically, I’ve had virgin clients who’ve told me so, virgin clients who have not but whom I’ve been pretty sure about, and clients who said they were but who I thought were fooling. Since sex isn’t a skill in the same way that ziplining is, it doesn’t really make a difference — they’re as likely to be good or bad clients as anyone else (excepting the lattermost category who tend to be dicks).

Hey! How are you and your cat doing?

I HAVE TWO CATS NOW LIFE IS GOOD

rainbowobsidianbutterfly

heads up, heteronormative was coined by a biphobic terf

I’m gonna need to see your badge, officer.

rainbowobsidianbutterfly

Seriously, PSA time: If anyone sees an anon like this – no context, no details, just a claim – don’t respond to it. Don’t even listen to it. Especially not without googling.

It’s not even a question of whether or not they are RIGHT (though I’ll address that too). It’s about the behavior pattern. What are they asking you to do when they send you an ask like this? Apologize, basically, and avoid the term. They want you to feel guilty, because they know if you feel guilty then you’ll probably seek to “purify” yourself by disclaiming the term, or deleting any recent post you might’ve reblogged. No discussion of whether the word “heternormative” has any utility – it’s a Bad Word and a Bad Person coined it so you should stop using it or you’re Bad.

Indulging that is NOT HEALTHY. Not for you, and not for any communities you’re a part of.

(Also, I wasn’t kidding when I said “officer”, there’s every chance the person who sent this is works for the FBI or some similar body, they’ve certainly sown shit in social movements before, and we make it so easy for them these days.)

–

Regarding the specific claim:

“Heteronormativity” was coined by Michael Warner, a gay man and one of the founding figures of queer theory, in 1991. He’s not really known as a feminist writer/activist, AFAIK, let alone a radfem, so he probably isn’t a TERF. (Which stands for, say it with me now: Trans-Exclusionary/Exterminationist Radical Feminist). Anon’s either using that term wrong to begin with, or hoping that I won’t know the fucking difference.

Is he transmisogynist, though? Or biphobic, for that matter? Like, beyond that way in which most people are already both, including a lot of bisexuals and trans women who have internalized biphobia and transmisogyny?

Fucked if I know – I haven’t exactly been keeping tabs on the guy. I was a child when he wrote is most famous stuff, and I stay pretty far from academic queer theory for the most part. Googling around a bit for his name, attached to words like “bisexual”, “bisexuality”, “biphobia”, “biphobic” and anything with “Trans” in it doesn’t yield much in the way of receipts.

Like. There’s some academic literature from bisexual theorists critiquing one aspect or another of academic queer theory, and they mention him in places, but it’s like. Pretty sedate on the topic. It’s not a takedown or a callout (I can’t find a goddamn thing like that in the first coupla pages of search results either). They’ve just… read him, and they have stuff to say about his work. Some of it they take issue with, but it’s not like. Accusations of biphobia or transmisogyny.

It’s not even a particularly vitriolic theory fight! I wish it was exciting but I want to go to sleep now just having read this shit. It’s boring, plodding stuff. I tried reading deeper and I just don’t fucking CARE. It’s nothing relevant or interesting to the question, and I can’t find anything more damning than that.

So unless by “biphobic terf” anon meant “dated academic”, I think we can say “probably not???”

If anyone wants to make a substantive claim, I’m willing to hear it. Maybe Michael Warner said some shit, IDK. Even if he did we can debate whether that would be sufficient to rule out the use of the term “heteronormative.” What would we be giving up by just… acting as if that word is Bad now? And what reasons would be good enough to make us want to do that?

Meantime, I stand by what I said: This shit isn’t cool, it’s bad for you to just treat these kinds of communication as if they were sensible, and some pretty nasty people take advantage of our tendency to get all uselessly self-effacing because we’re scared of being seen fucking up. We’re already marginalized, we don’t gotta help ‘em do their shit.

And if it’s just some bad actor within our own communities? Cut it out. There’s better ways to get your needs met then browbeating a buncha traumatized queers who’ve all learned that we are disposable and also have nowhere to go except The Movement.

When you see a message like this, don’t answer it right away. Stop. Think.

And if you’ll pardon the expression, spread this like wildfire.

the other thing is, language and and theory isn’t like art -- it doesn’t *belong* to people in the same way (notably in part because using it doesn’t enrich the inventor).

so you have to ask yourself also: what if that’s the case? it heteronormativity a useful concept? does having it named and defined benefit marginalized communities?

it’s not a simple case of “An Unclean Person Touched This, Cancel, Burn and Purify.”

I mean, for pete’s sake, think about the early theorizing of reproductive rights -- most of the coiners of terms were racist nightmare monsters. But our ability to organize and protect bodily autonomy is pretty dependent on a lot of the ideas which they originated or popularized, and so we keep them.

Ominous

An emotionally needy regular of mine has, in the past few weeks gotten uncharacteristically erratic with scheduling, and yesterday asked to extend his booking for this afternoon by a half hour, because he “ has something he needs to tell me about and wants to get advice from me on the subject.”

I do not know what the matter is, but of the several possibilities that occur as probable, I like exactly none of them.

#sad little clovers #virginity #advice for civilians #sw

Oh man did I ever update people on this one? It turned out to be that he had been diagnosed with Parkinson’s and didn’t know how to tell his wife or his rabbi.

(Still seeing him today though)

How often do you have virgins as clients? And if not would you turn them down? I'm a virgin myself...

I want you to ask yourself: _why_ would a sex work give any fucks about the level of prior sexual experience a client has had or not had?

Also, there’s no such thing as virginity.

if I were to look into getting SD, how soon would u think I should disclose to them that im an inexperienced virgin? im scared that’ll cost me multiple opportunities

i think you should work harder at your descriptive language if you want to write letters for Penthouse.

#newbie #advice

A client here. Who would you consider a good client? Besides, are all of us sad little clovers?

A good client shows up on time, leaves on time, is hygienic and pays without whining. A good client knows what they want in session and has done enough research to know that I am willing/able to give them what they want. The *best* client isn’t seeing me as a substitute for some other kind of interaction (like say, having a girlfriend), but instead enjoys the advantages and limits of a session for what they are.

A good client treats sex work like going to a magic show, and doesn’t hop up on stage trying to find the trap door (do you LIKE me? do you REALLY like me tho?), but instead allows a reasonable suspension of disbelief (in my performance of liking you) to carry them through a pleasant experience (and while we’re at it, increase the odds of my actually liking them).

#sad little clovers #advice for clients #advice

hi hi, i plan on coming back to sw, but, i see that sesta/fosta has taken cl and bp offline. where are sw like yourself currently advertising? thanks! :)

i don’t.

i wasn’t advertising online for several years before sesta/fosta, and so i’m unlikely to start anytime soon.

if i were financially reliant on reaching new clientele, i would be pretty fucked. wish i had better advice for you, comrade.

#advertising #sexwork #sesta-fosta #repeal sesta

gothicstripper

I need you all to be careful with this fentanyl/carfentanil shit going on. Especially in our industries, we all know drug use is very common be it personal use or on the job with customers. Many people think that they only mix it with opioids like heroin or benzos like pressed Xanax but they mix it with everything they can and that includes cocaine and other uppers. I know lots of customers regularly pay to “party” with dancers and other sex workers but maybe we need to think twice about that nowadays. You don’t know what’s in Regular John’s coke and even if it was fine the last time it could kill you the next.

And if you don’t do drugs but you have friends/coworkers who do you should remind them as well. Shit is scary out there but being aware and educated can save lives.

Everybody should get Naloxone and know how and when to use it. Tell your friends.

hey someone tell an old lady who’s been inactive for ages what tags all the workers are hanging out in?

blackwoolncrown

yeahh….about that. Tumblr got FOSTA/SESTA’d. Welcome back, btw.