My Random Shit

33. Transmasc Nonbinary Demiman. Pansexual and Polyamorous with one official partner. In love with way too many fandoms. Always feel free to hit me up.

[themarrax]

Missed opportunity to play mission impossible

[chaoticace2005]

[sidsinning]

Bro legit thinks he just got tortured for no reason

Like no one ever told him wtf was happening the entire time

[shaizeerose]

Poor Lucifer😫😫😫

My baby is in so much pain

And at this part they are just so happy that sir pentiuos just broadcast himself and they forgot the suffering of lucifer

Poor Baby😭😭😭😭

[victusinveritas]

[liminalweirdo]

i'm not sure why this was posted without the link to the actual GFM but here it is

[victusinveritas]

[liminalweirdo]

i'm not sure why this was posted without the link to the actual GFM but here it is

[dragon-in-a-fez]

I think more media should narratively punish parents for not listening to their kids and specifically I think it should punish them in cruel and terrifying ways. I want real life parents to go through life with a healthy fear that if they ignore their children's boundaries a witch might cook and eat them

[dumbpuppyfag]

you'll be hanging out with the sweetest person ever and they'll randomly tell you a childhood experience that would have vaporised you and you're like oh we should find your parents and murder them irl

[infectiouspiss]

kids deserve so much more respect and it turns out that saying that is a great way to locate the horrible people in any community <3

[infectiouspiss]

you'll say something as simple as "no child deserves to be hit" and people will crawl out of the woodwork to explain why they should be allowed to beat a 6 year old for spilling some water

[infectiouspiss]

you'll say "i think it's weird that adults literally have control over when children are allowed to use the bathroom" and up pops a teacher to say that when they're not shouting at the kids they teach, they're trying to stop them from hiding in the bathrooms

you'll say "i think children shouldn't be forced to eat food they hate" and here comes someone who feeds their kids plain rice and boiled chicken (while eating a nicely seasoned stirfry) claiming that it's okay actually and kids shouldn't be allowed to taste things

you'll say "i think kids should have bodily autonomy" and in comes someone who pierced their babies ears before it was even 24 hours old, frothing at the mouth because their kid wanted a haircut and thats somehow an insult

[infectiouspiss]

children are an oppressed class and everyone should be looking back at their own childhoods and making sure they don't ever make a child feel the same way they felt.

[aleatoryw]

i’ve started looking at weight and health the way i look at class and income and it really puts a lot of things into a new perspective.

let me explain: in america at least, the lower class have significantly worse health outcomes, even when accounting for other factors. just being poor is enough to make your overall health worse. we don’t know that being fat makes your health directly worse, like the data just isn’t there, but for a moment, pretend it does.

imagine going to the doctor with a health problem and the doctor looking at your chart and saying well, this problem will be less severe if you go up an income bracket. have you thought about becoming rich? it would really help. start by saving a little money every month.

ridiculous, right?? very few people successfully go from working class to rich, it just doesn’t happen on a large scale in society. maybe for a time you pick up some overtime hours, spend a little beyond your means, and appear rich. but eventually you burn out, your car needs to be repaired, and you return to being working class.

we do have this data: only some people can successfully lose large amounts of weight, and only a tiny fraction of people who lose that weight actually keep it off for more than a year. telling people to lose weight for their health is just absurd because they almost certainly can’t do it any more than they can double their income for their health.

and yet i see it everywhere. a little poster in my work breakroom tells me to improve my blood pressure by losing weight! a psa on the radio says you need to take care of your heart by losing weight! we can’t even conclusively prove that weight is the cause rather than just correlated with a lot of these problems but here it is offered anyway: have you tried being rich?

[bumbledeefumble]

You hit the nail on the head. A lot of people tend to try and invalidate fatphobia as a form of oppression by saying its not an immutible quality like race or sexuality or gender. The old “you can lose weight, i can’t become white/straight/cis” argument.

That’s because fatphobia is a lot more like classism; i.e. it’s a form of bigotry that is only TECHNICALLY changeable. They’re both seen as a lot more changeable than they actually are, for all the reasons you’ve listed.

[the-moon-loves-the-sea]

I have a lot of neurodivergent kids in my family. And I’ve worked with a lot professionally. And I often see their parents think the kids don’t want to connect, when they would love to — they just want to do it differently.

If they don’t like jokes and teasing, they might like silly noises or yes-and improv.

If they don’t like playing a competitive or narrative game with toys, they might like to take apart a toy, or sort/stack/line toys up, or get buried under toys.

If they don’t like biking or walking a trail in the woods ‘properly,’ they might like to walk along fallen logs, stand in the creek or look under rocks and leaves for creatures.

If they don’t like hugs and cuddles, they might like to bump shoulders, touch fingers, hand hug, spin around together, or (if they like more intense input) wrestle, push faces together, squeeze each other hard or run into you.

If they don’t like putting on kids’ music in the car or to dance to, they might want to listen to a game or show soundtrack, nature noises, a podcast, binaural beats, house music or metal.

If they don’t like animated movies where sad or scary things happen, they might like younger kids’ gentler shows, or adults’ science and history shows, or live zoo and nature cams.

And so many of them would benefit so much from the adults just slowing down. Not scheduling so much in the day, not rushing them through an activity, not stopping them playing the same song or watching the same bug for an hour, letting them absorb everything their way. Seeing it as a meditation instead of a problem. Joining them there.

And if you were one of those kids being rushed and scolded, trying to make yourself like teasing or competition or intense movies or a full social schedule — I’ve been reparenting myself and you can too. Whenever you notice something isn’t giving you joy — you can do it differently. Not everyone is forcing themselves through things they hate for “fun,” and we don’t have to.

[merry927]

I read something right here on tumblr a few years ago that basically just said, "Why do you expect kids with autism to do what you want them to do, when you refuse to ever engage in what they like to do?"

So I started joining in.

I'm a special educator and, luckily, the program I work in does not discourage stimming or try to coerce children into making eye contact or shit like that. We make sure they have time to chillax during the day and just do what they want, be by themselves, decompress, etc.

So I started sitting cross-legged on the sunny deck with one young man, while holding a playground ball or basketball in my lap, as he does. He's patting the ball, leaning his chest on it, running his fingers over the bumps, so I follow suit. I comment on how it feels, how relaxing and pleasant soaking up the sun is. I pass the ball gently back and forth in my hands. Within a few minutes, we are lightly tossing one of the balls back and forth between us.

Young man pretty much ignored me before this. Getting him to follow directions or go somewhere or do something with me was like pulling teeth. After this single session of play, given the time to process my requests, he is suddenly willing to do what I ask much of the time. (I even get very good, deep eye contact, unrequested, from time to time! I firmly believe that it should be fine for people to not give eye contact, but it makes me wonder about the actual nature of not wanting to give it. Not important, but...)

I was working with a new student this summer and the speech therapist asked early on if I was seeing reciprocity in interactions with her and I had to say, "no." But that was before I had the chance to sit in the tan bark with her and tear up leaves. Young lady started grabbing my hand and dragging me around to everything she was interested in after that.

I'm not going to lie, my job is teach, and I do this, wanting something in return. But I also want the relationships I have with students to be real; this is one of the most important aspects of my life to have real, positive connections with my students. They always have the best ideas! I'm serious. It's always a lovely time doing whatever thing it is that they like to do to chillax. (Also, I'm not gonna lie, but I find it more challenging to really get into most special interests, but I'm still doing it.)

They want to connect! Us allistics might be tempted to think it doesn't matter to them to give ourselves a pass, but it does. We need to meet them where they are and make those connections. They are mutually beneficial.

I need to say that I am so, so grateful to the autistic adults who post about their experiences, thoughts, and feelings online. I know you wish you didn't have to do this work of defending against allism 24/7. But thank you so much for doing it. We all need to be paying attention.

[yveningstarz]

i don't know how this happened

[arcanegifs]

ARCANE LEAGUE OF LEGENDS: 1x06 - "When These Walls Come Tumbling Down"

[toydreamer]

Trouble Always Follows 😘

Couple shirts would totally be their thing. Also I live for domestic jayvik sm.

[etchif]

Isn't it fucking insane that so many people think that IQs are real. Like people genuinely believe you are born with one set level of intelligence that can be measured on a scale from 1 to ~200. As if intelligence wasn't extremely nuanced and completely subjective. And the fact that the majority of scientists that have advocated for IQ tests in the past have been eugenicists doesn't seem to concern anyone either

[slasher-art]

Let's pretend it's a post-canon and they're just happily spending time together like in the old days. 💖

[mebssann]

helping bro with his tie every morning, hashtag just bro things

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