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My dad has a little gag he loves doing that involves me being trans (it’s fun- don’t worry).

So, my dead name is also the name of a food item (spelled different but sounds the same). We sometimes eat that food item- it’s a nice treat. His little joke is that he will only call that food “Dead Names”- which leads to hilarious instances of hearing my 70 year old father call out “Hey, I’m going to go grab some Dead Names while we’re here!” while he’s half way down the isle in the grocery store, or him coming home and saying “hey, I picked up a box of Dead Names while I was out! :)”

It just makes me so overwhelmingly happy that my old name is not something wrapped in grief. It doesn’t represent a loss. It is something we can smile about and remember even if it doesn’t fit me anymore.

cryingyouariver

Your dad sounds so cool

pears-palette

He is! Sometimes he uses the wrong pronouns, but he consistently does that to cis people too, so I’m p sure that’s just him never thinking about pronouns in general. No thought, head empty/ his ADHD thought process goes too fast to register them.

Also the First Thing he said to me after I came out as trans was “Is it ok if I call you Sam? Samuel is just kinda formal for an every day thing.”

(The second thing he said to me was that he loved me no matter what.)

the-haiku-bot

(The second thing he

said to me was that he loved

me no matter what.)

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

tattoosingarishhues

oneswordstyle

Level of respect a class of teens I have to teach art to have for me when I walk in: 0%

Level of respect after I draw sasuke from memory on the whiteboard: beyond anything you could possibly imagine

oneswordstyle

the true reason i rarely teach classes is to keep my ego at bay

sometiktoksarevalid

puparomi

WHAT'S SHE GONNA DO, MAKE ME AN [Ice Cream]?!

catchymemes

screamydreamy

this is so funny

kesslersymbolic

"He gave me my mail and said 'Are you expecting anything from Germany?' and I said 'I might be - we've got friends over there'," said Mr Biggs.

"He said 'Have a look at this letter' - so I had a look and turned it over and our friends' address was on the back of it and on the front it just said England."

Mr Biggs said the card had been sent from a sorting office in Germany close to Gloucester's twin town of Trier and had not been opened.

"I said 'How on earth did you know it was for me?' and he said 'I didn't, I've been wandering around with this', said Mr Biggs.

"My wife and I are absolutely shocked but this puts posties at five or six stars and top of the tree for me this Christmas."

The card, it is believed, may have originally been addressed correctly and so was sent to the right area of England - but with an address label that fell off at some point.

A Royal Mail spokesman said: "Royal Mail's team of 'address detectives' are renowned for their ability to ensure poorly addressed items of mail reach their intended recipients however, even by their standards, this is pretty impressive."

the royal mail detectives are a weird bunch, and like if it was addressed right it would get right but i love the idea they went "well it's from Trier so send it to the twinned town first"

futureevilscientist

Terry Pratchett would have loved this

lansia viva

this is your gentle reminder to stop fighting against your adhd and instead structure your life around it

buy a pack of chapsticks and put one in the pocket of all of your coats and jackets because you always forget to bring one and chapped lips is sensory hell

leave important things where you can see them. if they go in a box or a drawer you will forget they exist

put any appointments or deadlines in your phone calendar As Soon As you get them. set a reminder for a week before, a day before, an hour before, as many as you need as often as you need them.

when that little voice in your head says "i dont need to write that down, ill remember it" that is the devil talking!!! write it down anyway!!

plan for down time. have a few hours at the end of every day to just do fun stuff like engage in your hyperfixations. even if you didnt get all of your work done that day, have the rest anyway. you probably spent the whole day beating yourself up for not doing what you Should be doing, so you still need the break.

if you never eat vegetables because its too much effort to chop and cook them, get the frozen or canned shit. it doesnt go off for ages and you just have to microwave it. theres no point buying fresh vegetables if they just keep going off and being left to rot in the bottom of your fridge

if you struggle to decide what to have for dinner every day, take the decision out of it. choose a set of meals and eat those on rotation until you get sick of them, then choose some new ones and do it again.

its not stupid if it works! our brains literally have a chemical deficiency. you are allowed to accommodate yourself. go forth and stop making your life more difficult than it has to be because "this shouldn't be this hard". it is hard, so make it easier.

critterchaos

i do this instinctively but thanks for reminding me im allowed to be a gremlin :3

wolfythewitch

How does this keep happening to me

lautakwah

warning for discord users

If you're on the app, immediately go to your dms and then "add friends". After the latest update they allow your contacts to find you and have that option turned on by default, so make sure it's unchecked!

This is very obviously not great for a multitude of reasons, but especially for people in vulnerable positions who do not want people in their contacts to see who they are on discord and/or know they have discord in the first place. I've also tried finding out if this is a thing on desktop but haven't been able to find any mention of it, so either it's not a "feature" (yet) or they've hidden it. Either way, stay safe, and turn off finding friends via contacts!

[ID: three screenshots from the discord app with circles around the buttons to press to get to this "feature". 1: the messages/DM button, 2: the "add friends button", 3: in the add friends page, the "allow contacts to add me" checkbox. /END ID]

lautakwah

Other options I honestly assumed everybody already had turned off but just in case they hadn't for any reason:

privacy settings inside discord itself: "you" > settings > privacy and safety > scroll down and turn off "sync contacts", "phone", "e-mail", and optionally "use data to improve discord"

[ID: screenshots with the above mentioned buttons circled. /END ID]

App permissions via phone settings (my phone is a Samsung Android, this might look different for iOS and different Android brands!)

Settings > scroll down to apps > scroll down to discord > permissions > make sure contacts is under "not allowed"

[ID: screenshots with the above mentioned buttons circled and directions written down. /END ID]

lautakwah

Multiple others have also said this in the notes and tags, but apparently it's just really bad UI design, where the ticked box is specifically for when you click on "find friends". Apologies for the misleading OP, several servers I was in started talking about this and I hadn't seen anyone on tumblr post about it, which is why I made the post in the first place.

You should still definitely double check your permissions and whether or not your contacts are synced within discord, though, because that would still enable others to find you through your contacts.

can everyone please reblog this version