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Diwali 2020 at Mom's Place - (Hyderabad Calling)

Diwali a festival of lights, rangolis, sweets and crackers. Many such fun and happiness are there in this festivals. This diwali we thought of celebrating with our family after a 10 long months of the outbreak of covid-19., offcourse by taking necessitiy precautions. Thank You Stay Safe and stay healthy.

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SUPPORT

MUMBAI - A City of Dreams. I heard that this city loves you more than they way you start loving to this city. The people of Mumbai are amazing, always ready to help one another. They are truly a Yaaron ke Yaar means they never ever live you alone in any circumstances. well, when I start socializing with people in Mumbai, I met some of the beautiful souls over here. who are the real gems in uplifting the other woman's.

When I was in complete darkness, I always seeks for a light of hope and try to communicate with different people to know and to get the knowledge to be a happy person with the life’s circumstances., and these "Hope which is being able to see that there is a light despite of all the darkness. 

Meanwhile, I met some amazing women's who helped me a lot to know my self worth., they always make me realized that how important I am as a person,  as a daughter, as a sister, as a friend, as a wife, as a mother and as a woman. These amazing women's in my life were enhanced my confidence back, my self worth, and more important how to be strong in every situation. I have always been so vocal about my problems. I used to discuss with different people regarding the same. Some of them had listened it carefully and also guided me in a positive way. They always tried to motivate me in each and every way to deal and cope up with every crucial situation in life. I have always been expecting this type of moral support from many of my dear one's.

No one likes criticism, everyone needs a motivation for the betterment. Criticism always have a negative impact on one's mind and which makes them to loose their confidence and the ability to do any task, whether personally or professionally. Most of the MNC’s worked on this concept of Motivation and Emotional quotient. 

I met some of the beautiful woman's through some of the well-know Mumbai social media forums. where we met and discuss about the struggles and achievements of all. Many of such social groups are handled by well-known and successful women's who has created this platform to other woman’s who are struggling and trying to establish herself in this world. In this Social forums, where all the women entrepreneur's uplifts one another. Which is really astonishing. These thing I learned in Mumbai to appreciate one another's hard working., celebrate their success and achievements together., support in their failures., uplifts them to get them know their own-self. 

The purpose of this blog is to only encourage to those people who are in need of a support and to those who are in a dilemma to support a genuine person. A genuine one only needs a moral support which boost her to relive the life, because words of wisdom works as a magic to one's life and can changes everything in their life. 

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Celebrations of victory of Good over Evil - Dussehra

Hi there, welcome to Sejarts world. During nine days of Navratri, we worshipped Maa Durga in Nine different forms. What I believe is that, these are the different phases of a girl life. Every girl is Maa gauri, laxmi, saraswati, kali and durga. I truly admire the stories behind the celebrating Navratris and the Tenth day is the celebrations of the victory of good over the evil. I request everyone should kill the mahisasur within self. Live a peaceful life without the evils thoughts and inferiorities with others. Happy Dusshra to All.

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Our Navratri celebrations 2020

I always believe to cherish each and every moment. Whether you are in crowd or you are alone at home. We , family of two, celebrated Navratri 2020. Some of the glimpse of our celebrations uploaded over here and yeah we  really missed the dandiya nights in our locality. Because of this pandemic we stayed indoors, but yet perform some dandiya raas with our neighbors kids. Hope everyone liked. Love & Peace from Us. During these day Sej wore the outfits from #Hopscotch #littlemuffet #babyhug. They have some of the amazing stuff for kids.

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Its a quarantine celebrations. Sej turns 6 on 4th sept 2020

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OH! GIRL YOU WERE BORN TO TOLERATE?!

Every man wants an educated women as his life partner. Their expectations for getting a good looking and educated girl, who can take care of the family, contribute in family finances, moreover with lots of tolerance power. Yes girl should have more tolerance power, because you were born to tolerate. Oh! girl you were born to tolerate! These words are pretty much familiar in our Indian societies and heard by every other girl. If you are suffering from any mental and physical abuse, since you are a girl, you should have more tolerance power, like a super hero.

Yeah! We are have more tolerance power, that's the reason we gave birth to this type of creature in this planet, who says, oh! girl you were born to tolerate. But, It doesn't mean that we are born to tolerate the abuse. If anything happen with a women - Sexual abuse, Physical abuse, Mental abuse, Social abuse, Economical abuse - some says "that girl should have provoked to them for such crime" by wearing a provocative clothing, low tolerance to cope up with the family issues, doesn't know how to perform household chores, and most important she is mentally not stabled, uncontrollable anger, argumentative person and so on. That's it!  Nah....the list goes on and on to blame a women. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.

Now woman are more vocal about the abuse, she was suffering in her relationships, because now women are really educated and knew her rights to live a peaceful life. Yes, she is educated not egoistic, now she knows to fight and stand strong to lead a happy life. Yes, she is also a human like you. Because of her existence your are alive.

So respect the women in your life, don't categorize her. Stop this discrimination, its not an ego, its an education, its not an electronic media effect, its an awareness of crime against women. No worship will work if you hurt your women. Humanity is the greatest worship to God. 

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS MORE HEINOUS CRIME THAN A MURDER.

In our society and beliefs, we are taught not to speak about the domestic violence, or else tolerate it to protect the name of the family and for the sake of our child upbringing, whether it cost your own life. That's the belief we are following from generation to generation. Either we are not comfortable to express our thoughts about domestic violence or the people are not interested to listen and help the victim, because it's meant as civil matter according to the law. No police officer is instructed to take the FIR until and unless the victim has to shown the bruises in her body with proper Government certification that it is a genuine one. No one realizes the psychological bruises she is going through, no one wants to feel the pain she actually feels with the mind games they played. 

Even I kept quite for a long period of 7 years. I kept quite my estranged husband educational and employment status. I kept quite when I got to know they misrepresented each and everything since from the day one. I kept quite when they evicted me from their home for more than thrice a time. I ignored many shameful allegations of my in-laws.  I tolerated the death threats from my father-in-law. Until one day they burnt my daughter's left leg (shown the picture of the accidentally burnt not a intentional act) and aborted my second pregnancy by giving psycho medicine without proper consultation with the doctor.

Then I decided to make a complaint against them. I went everywhere to get a justice, to set my married life on track. Since from 2 years I am trying to made everything in order. But our system and the beliefs always give a less priority to a domestic victim, as it was meant to be a civil case, until and unless that person gives up and declares now she is tired of fighting. Now she wants to end up with her life. Because she is has been killed on regular basis, each day she faces the humiliation, abuse, defamation about her personality, characterization and many other such things faced by a single women in the society. The society and the system kills the women each day. That's the reason I said "DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS THE MORE HEINOUS CRIME THAN A MURDER.”

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SHADES OF LIFE - STORY 2

On my last blog I have shared different shades of life. We have to move forward to see the bright Sun outside the window. Every phases teaches you something new, this is a journey of life. Each new day you end up to learn something new. To get prepare for our finals - that's is the end of our day. Sounds spiritual, but I believe in this.

Have you observed, Why? Now a days many of them are going through a depression, especially this generation... In our childhood we never heard this term 'Depression'. We usually think this in our childhood, if our demand is not fulfilled to get a brand new toy, we get upset, or depressed. That's all I know. when I got married, joined my husband's place along with my in-laws. I got to know the actual meaning of depression. My mother in law was a depression patient. This thing was not disclosed to us before marriage. But after marriage I got know, what was her sufferings and more over the challenges to deal with depression. Still, I am unaware the reason behind her depression, but now I can relate with my broken marriage journey with my husband. I can relate that she might have also suffered they way I suffered from past 8 years. May be she was also treated, likewise they use to treat me. Moreover, may be she was not get that support from her close one's like I got.  May be She believes on what others said to her, and started trusting on their words. May be she doesn't allow her inner self to believe on herself to know the inner strength, which leads to be dependent on high doses of psychiatric medicines. During my stay in that period, I observed no one is bothered to make her a medicine free person but rather than interested in increasing her doses in every six months. Well, I am not protesting on any medical procedure, but sometimes people take undue advantage of medical facilities. Only I observed is that she was alone, she was never allowed to open up with others, she was instructed to be quiet., or speaks whenever they allow and instructs. Sometimes I felt that she had tried to speak to me regarding her thoughts of depression. But it never happens and at that time I am also struggling to build-up my relationships with my husband. 

I saw  that most of the time she sleeps. She was confined to her bedroom, bed and sleep. She was accepted her life as people shown to her. She never ever got the chance to change and to relive her life once again. She was dragged to depression and the thoughts of negativity created by her surroundings. In this case, no one of her close one's helped her to come out from this phase. They were just dragging her more and more with the high doses. In 2018, she left this world with some unforeseen circumstances created by her close one's., they created a panic in depressed mind. They make her feel guilty with the fake news, which shattered her completely and its results to damaged her brain.

My only motive to present this story is that, if someone is really going through a depression from a long-run. Please help them to improve in their mental health rather than trying to drag them in depression by giving high doses. Medicine cannot cure depression, but the 'time' you spend with them, the 'love' you show to them, the 'care' to them. These three things are more than enough to recover a person, build-up his/her self worth again. Try to make them special, try to do Yoga and meditation with them. Just try to be with them.

My message to the patients of depression is only that, if your depress of one darkness, rethink about the light behind it. Just remember you are born to impress yourself not to others. Live it on your terms of happiness, know strengths, listen to your inner voice, because it tell you the truth.

Love & Peace.

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10 posts!

Wow, Its really lovely graphic. I completed my 10 post on tumblr.

Soon, I will sharing my new bog on depression part 2.

Thanks tumblr.

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Shades of Life

Shades of life, we all have different shades in our lives. Yes, I am talking about the phases we went through out our lives. Each will give you a good/bad experience. But every experience is a learning lesson to an individual to improve., to progress, and sometime to move on. Currently, we all human are became machines, we don't have time for anything, Right! Every relation became fake in today's scenario. Wait is that so, is that the life we lived earlier - in our childhood, or our parents has teaches us how to be selfish, and self-centered person. Have they ever taught us, how to cope up with the life challenges. How to deal with failure, are they told us failure is not important, YOU are important. Its YOU, its your LIFE, which really matters.

Well, about my childhood days I lived in a world of fantasy, I live in a dream world, obviously the reality is completely different. Yeah, I have a unwavering faith on my beliefs. When I entered to adulthood I realized many such things, which are different from my fantasy world, or those world are only for the lucky one's - likewise,  born with silver spoon. But this was merely my perception towards things was happening with me at that time. I was so disheartened with the struggles in my life, with my abusive marriage, things becoming depressive. I started isolating myself. I was disconnecting with the people who I love and who loves me unconditionally. 

Today, my blog is related to 'Depression'. Recently I was coming across a news related to a suicide of well established personality from Entertainment Industry. I thought to write my experience about the depression. How to know a person is 'depressed', does it show any symptoms like a Cancer patient, or like any other physical illness. NO! Its a mental illness, please try to differentiate it. its a emotional imbalance, we cannot see with bare eyes but we can feel it, whom we truly cares. A person in depression needs little more love, little more care, little more support, he/she needs reassurance that you will support them. They want someone to stand with them, without mentioning his/her mistakes, without any humiliation like that you are not worth it for anything, don't make them a failure person in life, because the ramifications are awful. They need more moral support from their close ones to cope up with failures. Communication plays a major role to overcome from depression, but the fear of society they confined to themselves. 

In the year 2016, I was evicted from my estranged husband home by my father in law. I have been sent to my maternal home with my 1.6 year old baby girl. My father in law alleges so many things to prove me a bad daughter in law, a bad wife. In that duration I lived with my parents in their home for 15 months with my little daughter. My parents wants me to reunite with my estranged husband and even my wish was the same to reunite at any cost they want, because I want my daughter will get all the love and care from both the parents. At that time, my only thought to reunite with my husband, for my daughter betterment, for her future. I have no communication with my estranged husband, he has blocked my number, I used to sent the pictures of my little daughter on his WhatsApp Handle, but as usual he ignored. I used to call his Aunt, I request her to do something, actually I beg her to save my marriage. My only motive was to be with him. My only dream to live a happy married life like others, but some marriage are not meant to be happy, when terms and conditions are applied. With all such things I started becoming depressed, I was not taking care of my little daughter, I was living in my world, disconnected with all, I was not doing my daily prayers, suddenly everything became hefty and  I was becoming a irritated person, Adversely, some of my close ones started treated me a failure person, blamed me a reason behind my complicated marriage. This things really breaks me a lot, I started hiding with people. Actually, I stopped living my life, like I use to live it earlier. I was fed up of proving myself again and again. At that time I was not me, I became what my estranged husband father made theories on me.

But, I overcome from this phase of my life, when my mom showed a faith on me. She stood for me against all. She fought for me, she takes care of my little daughter. She helped me at that time, when no one is trusting me. Though I reunite with my estranged husband in 2017 with their terms and conditions applied, and I agreed it for my daughter's future. But as earlier I posted in my blog that marriage with 'terms and conditions has a validity period. Now, I am a happily single mom, does all my household chores, I start my day with yoga, I play with my girl, we dance, we sings, and mostly we dress-up and take pictures, that's our favorite thing to pass the time. I am reliving it. Depression can be curable without any medicine. If you trusts them, supports them and moreover stands with them. They just needs a confidence, a reassurance that you are with them. Love them, because only Love and Care can heal a wounded person, then only they became invincible. 

My message with this blog is, Don't end your life, it's just a phase, sooner or later it will change. Just believe your life is more valuable, more precious. Just believe "Each day is a learning day and at the end of the day it always teaches us something new."

Love & Peace

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Rakhsha Bandhan

Rakhsha Bandhan - A thread of bonding, love, care and hope of protection from our loved ones. Our India has a huge history on Raksha Bandhan. They are many such stories, beliefs for this tradition, wecelebrate this festivals from decades. If you are an Indian, you might have known the importance of tying this auspicious thread on brother wrist. Our India is such a colorful country, we celebrate life through this festivals. Rakshan Bandhan is a bond between our siblings, cousin, or to any such person to whom we love. As always I try to express my way of thinking and my personal experiences in blogging. We girls, tie a rakhi's to our brother's on Raksha Bandhan because we expect a love, a care, and a protection from our siblings and from our loved ones. Well, that why its defines as Rakhsha Bandhan (Protection). I have a elder brother, when he shifted to aboard for further studies., from that year to every year I was tying a Rakhi to Lord Ganesha (A Hindu God) and on my wrist too. Yeah! I truly believe that God will protect me from all evils., he will be always with me. 

Well, at that time I have no idea that tying a 'rakhi' on my own wrist, proven my belief about Raksha Bandhan is true. After times, I have became vigilant of my own self, I realize my self-worth.  I stopped expecting from others - like I did it earlier. I stopped to be a dependent person on others, I stopped thinking about someone will always there for me to protect me from bad. Still I continue to tie a Rakhi on my wrist - it always encourages me to be self dependent, protective for my own self and also more compassionate. Honestly, I realize that a simple thread of faith makes me self-reliant person, and now its became my strength. It makes me Happy with my own self.

This Raksha Bandhan, I wish every girl should tie a rakhi on their wrists. Trust me this makes you more confident person, self-sufficient, self-supporting, self-sustaining, self-standing. You are more worth it, you have more strength to cope up with any difficulty in life. Always Love yourself. 

Love & Peace.

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Self-Love/Selfish

Self Love is today's Mantra for our mental wellness. Many people and wellness experts suggest the importance of loving our own self. But, what exactly the self-love mean to us?

Is it spending all the savings on luxurious life style, skipping the social responsibilities, or to be self-centered person, who doesn't bothered about anything and anyone. Well, my view point in this, a self-centered person doesn't love with his/her own self but they pretend to be. Self centered or selfish person always wants all the luxurious with materialistic things, which comes with a validity period. This type of persons always inclined to compare with others. Unlike, a self-love is only for your own well- being, respecting your own self, your inner peace, happiness. Often people indulges self-love as an excuse to get out of social responsibility, which they ended up with hurting the people. These people are usually known as pseudos. They believe that their path is more important than relationships. Here, Self-love becomes selfish., because they never introspect themselves and expects others to be more accountable, but they won't hold the same standards.

Self-love is just to be yourself, be proud of who your are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you, this how you can teach others to love you, respecting our own self by maintaining healthy boundaries with people who hurts you.

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Is women’s are insecure with another women? 

Being a women, I feel a little weird to say that women’s are insecure with another women. But yes its true…!

An insecure women always seeks constant reassurance that she is beautiful, valued and lovable. In other way an attention seekers. They always looking for validation that they are acceptable and more superior than the women they know. well, my blogs are generally meant for a realistic experiences of my life. So I began with my story of meeting such insecure women’s in my life. I never thought I will be experiencing this type of women’s in my life who had drastically changed my life, shattered everything in few years. I know two such women’s in my life who has changed everything in my life, still their impacts exists in my life. My close one’s started believing their perspectives about my personality. This insecurities leads to destroy a perfect relationship with my close one’s. A bond between us was completely broke down, we stop talking to each other for years and now we talk but we lost that bond we share earlier, the freedom in our relationship has been changed. Which still hurts me, sometimes annoy me but all I can say to myself now is that Life goes on……

Insecurities changes everything in a negative way. As your insecurity becomes nourished the relationship becomes poisoned. My view in this and certainly I follow it….when you neither feel superior or inferior while meeting anyone, respect your uniqueness. Every person is unique, and that make them different. Enjoy your life with less comparison and competitions with others. We all are different human with same emotions.

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Is women's are insecure with another women? 

Being a women, I feel a little weird to say that women's are insecure with another women. But yes its true...!

An insecure women always seeks constant reassurance that she is beautiful, valued and lovable. In other way an attention seekers. They always looking for validation that they are acceptable and more superior than the women they know. well, my blogs are generally meant for a realistic experiences of my life. So I began with my story of meeting such insecure women's in my life. I never thought I will be experiencing this type of women's in my life who had drastically changed my life, shattered everything in few years. I know two such women's in my life who has changed everything in my life, still their impacts exists in my life. My close one's started believing their perspectives about my personality. This insecurities leads to destroy a perfect relationship with my close one's. A bond between us was completely broke down, we stop talking to each other for years and now we talk but we lost that bond we share earlier, the freedom in our relationship has been changed. Which still hurts me, sometimes annoy me but all I can say to myself now is that Life goes on......

Insecurities changes everything in a negative way. As your insecurity becomes nourished the relationship becomes poisoned. My view in this and certainly I follow it....when you neither feel superior or inferior while meeting anyone, respect your uniqueness. Every person is unique, and that make them different. Enjoy your life with less comparison and competitions with others. We all are different human with same emotions.

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Being a Mom of a Daughter. Why Indian girls always being blamed for their complicated married life. ? Why her mom always being blamed for the broken marriages of her girl.? Fact or Myth Well, its merely a myth what I truly believe. In a conservative Indian societies. Yeah, this is really a common thing to blame a woman and her mother for the broken marriages. I belong too such conservative family, though we have highly  educated people in my family but yeah me and my mom has been blamed for my complicated married life. In fact at some point, I have been ordered to stop talking to my mom on phone or any medium of communication with her to secure my marriage. Yes sounds pathetic. But I really obeyed their orders to secure my broken marriage. I haven't communicated with my own parents for more than a year. But I was unable to control my emotions and my frustration towards this, because I have been questioned time to time by my husband, whenever my mobile networks doesn't reaches. So he had started instigated whether I was talking to my mom or not., or I am violating the terms and conditions of the marriage settlement agreement. Certainly, I obeyed and signed the T&C to saved my Marriage. Well, this conditions I haven't followed much. Because I am very close to my mom, so I use to talk to her on Whats App calls so that it doesn't show any call history on my phone network....laughs.... May be this question will not get the answer that why Indian mom’s always being blamed for their daughter’s broken marriage, because of rigid thinking of a middle class family, where Name is more important than one’s Life. As I believe being a mother of a daughter, no mother wants to spoil their daughter marriages. Moreover, girls should stop agreeing a terms and conditions to maintain their married life happy. No marriages survive on T&C., because they come from validity period., so this marriage are not meant for forever. I did a mistake to agree all the irrelevant theories of others....I was living in their theories. 

Love your Mom, Love your parents. Every child or every human being needs their parents. They are the comfort zone for all human beings., to share, to cheer, to learn, sometimes just to talk, whether it was relevant or irrelevant.

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Body Shamming.

Well, its a old topic or a trending one on internet, I have no idea. But I would like to share my experience on this. Yes, I also went through body shamming, bullying, and also humiliation not from others, but from my very own one’s. I always have a healthy body. Yeah I wrote it right, its a healthy body, not a size zero, small or a not even a medium size...I consider it as a healthy body.

Well, I was very optimistic with myself at that time. But for all of being optimistic, still i had being bullied, body shammed with my close one’s Mostly a comparison with others. Say someone from a  new addition to our family. Many a times I ignored and in fact I too laughed with them. But at times I started deceiving that remarks on me. I started believing on them, who always says and still they say we are your well-wishers., we criticize you for your well-being - nothing personal. Criticism is good in some extent but do not make them guilty for their own body. Don’t demotivate them that they are not appealing in terms of their body shapes and sizes.  

Every Person is unique and different in their own way. With this criticism, my body weight has beefed-up. After my delivery and mostly in 2016-2017, that was a crucial period of my life, in that period but my Mom helped me. She is the only person who has taken the responsibility of my 2 year old. My weight is still increasing not because of the appetite, but the stressed I was going through in that duration. 

Well, Now I realized and learned to love your own self. I understand the actual happiness in love with your own self. 

I Love My Appearance, I Love everything about myself, I started doing yoga, but I still need to make it as a routine....laughs.......

Yes, I created a positive and peaceful environment around me. I started listening to my inner self. Trust me it really works. Be optimistic to yourself, believe in yourself. Give damn to the critics.

Love and Peace.

Let’s Sunshine the Life

Reliving it.