An Analysis On the-heartslabyul-hatter's Posts
tw: gaslighting, general toxic behavior
Disclaimer: If you don’t know what’s going on, I’d suggest asking someone else to recap what’s been happening because I don’t trust myself enough to accurately describe what’s happening and I don’t wanna spread misinformation. I don’t know the absolute full situation myself but I’m just sort of— thinking out loud?
Also take this with a grain of salt. This is merely me trying to study the behavior and actions of this individual. Please don't, by any means, send any hate to Hatter. This post is an analysis, not meant to spread hate.
Why I'm doing this :: Alright, so— Perhaps I don’t have a right to talk about this since I am not a good person. I know this for a fact. I have done some messed up shit and I’ve been a toxic friend/partner/etc. I’ve gaslit people, manipulated friends, and hurt people I claimed to care about. The real reason I’m taking medication right now and having therapy is because I didn’t want to hurt people. And I may not be a good person but hopefully— With enough patience, effort, therapy, and honest self reflection, I’ll be able to be an okay person.
However, I thought that it would be a learning experience for me and the people who read this if I tried to study Hatter's words and posts.
In the first screenshot above, you can see that Hatter is claiming to be concerned with Kulfi getting in trouble with the law. But in the second screenshot above, she calls her stupid and immature, then proceeds to laugh and ridicule her. This implies contradictory behavior.
Now, I did some research and found that this may also be considered gaslighting:
This seems to fall in line with how Hatter was talking about Kulfi. She's expressing concern but also ridiculing her.
I also managed to find more screenshots from a deleted callout post of hers where this seemed to have started. First she says she's concerned, then immediately insults her.
Then there was the fact that if Hatter was truly concerned, then why bring up the fangame to the official twitter if she says that Kulfi could get in ""legal trouble""? What exactly is the reasoning behind that?
The insults, the ridicule, the talking down. This is also considered gaslighting as it likely aims to lower Kulfi's self esteem or make her seem less credible in the eyes of the audience.
This is Hatter's apology post on the matter. Now, how could this seem like gaslighting exactly? Well, according to this article:
Hatter doesn't seem to address the actual matter at hand: spreading false information on a nonprofit fangame, and instead focuses on different points instead and tries to debunk them so that Kulfi will seem less credible in the eyes of the audience.
She claims to be the "bigger person" but continued to insult Kulfi (a minor, might I remind you) in later posts after the apology.
I am aware that with my past, I may not be the most credible person to talk about this topic. But personally I believe that if I truly wanted to become better, I must educate myself better on this topic. And what better way to learn than to analyse and understand the signs of gaslighting.
Putting that aside, feel free to give feedback on this post. I am not always aware if I've made an error or not since I tend to make careless mistakes. I am open to discussing this topic but please, please, be civil