Caregiver 101: Rewards and Punishments (NonSexual Ver)
I am still debating whether I should do something that adds sexual stuff to it as I am a safe place for all littles. Maybe you guys can reply to this and tell me if you think that is acceptable.
Welcome to my new CG 101. I am TonberryKitten and while I am not a CG I do research things. I do talk to other people and get what they have to say too. This will be a list of rewards and punishments along with some things that might be rewarded or punished for. These will be nonsexual! If you would like to add to this you can reblog, send an ask, reply, or message me and I can make edits.
Honestly, I am a big fan of earning points and chore charts/wheels for prizes or extra privileges. Positive reinforcement and incentives always help me to do better. However you can also reward your little for just being especially good one day…or maybe they did something like getting good grades…the possibilities are endless.
- Accomplished a good deed
- Accomplished a goal or milestone
-Good habits (eating healthy, drinking water, ect)
- Healthy hobbies (Gardening, art, ect but in moderation)
- Limiting unhealthy habits (Obsessive things, too many sweets, ECT)
- Sometimes it is good to just give rewards just cause!
Here are various ideas that you can use to keep track of good and bad behaviors. These are really good if you are using a point like awards system.
-Bullet Journals, Diaries, ECT- I personally have a bullet journal that I track my good and bad habits in and also my moods. I also have a points tracker in it so that I can keep track of my rewards
- Chore Charts, Sticker charts, Chore wheels - All good ways of keeping track of what they do. Let your little do the filling in and praise them after they do and they will quickly fall into a good routine.
- Monies! or as big people might call them…fake money, real money, or coupons. You can make your own Little Bucks that they can trade for various reward prizes.
- Fill the Jar - Use Marbles, Beads, candy, fake coins, ect to fill a jar. Kind of like a swear jar only for good things instead of bad. This is good double as a punishment too as you can take things out when they are bad.
Small - small toys, stickers, hugs, kisses, praises, trips to the park or ice cream shop. Something that isn’t going to break your bank and will be a quick reward for your little. Maybe have a few bought already and in a drawer or box and let them pick from it. Maybe even give them a set time that they can pick what you guys do together, pens and paper/notebook, coloring book, markers, crayons, blind bags or boxes
Medium - These will be a little bit more pricey and hard to get. Small stuffies, gift cards, Sets of things (Coloring book and crayons, new movie and popcorn), I am going to add more sweets in here while they won’t cost much you want to make sure they work for them since it not good for them to have too many sweets. Let them pick an activity like going to the movies or restaurant, a new game. Nice priced toys.
Large: Stuffies, new outfits, new play gear (if they are a pet), more expensive priced toys, something they want badly (Like I want a camera)
Of course, there are still things like extending privileges, adding time to a bedtime. Adding more time on the phone, ect.
Bleh! Nobody likes these :( however if you talk about the good you have to talk about the bad. Let’s give some ideas of reasons to punish, punishments, and what to not punish for and what shouldn’t be used as punishment.
I know I know some of these are obvious but I am trying to give ideas here. So here are some common reasons I think Littles are punished for.
- Bratty behavior or bad behavior
-Failing to do a chore several times or not doing it when asked
-Too much of a bad thing (Sweet sneaking)
-Failing to do self care out of laziness
- Depression, anxiety, self-harm, illness: if they don’t get a homework assignment or chore done because they were too depressed to get out of bed. Punishing them will only make it worse!
- Not accomplishing something due to conflict with time. If that final paper is half of their grade and they have to stay up and finish it that is fine. Not having time to accomplish a chore due to work or school is also fine but they should provide proof of this. Weigh what is more important.
- Taking away a privilage (Phone, internet, ect)
- Taking away reward tracker
- Limiting time with CG (never ever remove time completely this is a really harsh punishment)
- Taking away of toys (Never their saftey item)
- Time out, Corner sitting
- Hand sitting, kneeling on rice, ect (These can be a bit painful)
- Soap, Hot sauce, Yuckies in mouth
For a few more details of a list you can visit my post here: [LINK]
DO NOT USE AS PUNISHMENT:
- Do not take away a security item (blanket, stuffy, paci, toy)
- Do not threaten to leave
- Do not hit them anywhere but the butt and only open hand on butt
- Do not remove yourself for an extended period of time.
- Insulting or Cussing at a little is no way to get your point across. No mental abuse.
- Cutting or physical abuse in any way
- Doing anything that can cause a phobia. EX: Locking them in a tight space, dunking them under water, ect
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS remember the importance of aftercare.
This is about all I can think of for right now. If you want to add to the list of have suggestions I am always open to hearing them! Send them in messages, asks, or replies to this post! I use the tag TonberryKitten101s for any of these that I do.
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