Hi, I'm Leaf | 18+ | they/them | I love cartoons and the occasional anime | currently obsessed with rottmnt | I don't like Tcest or any kind of incest/underage stuff for that matter
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Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.
NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.
I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.
The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.
Because it's so hard to exist in this world.
My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:
Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)
Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.
Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.
Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.
Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.
Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s
I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.
So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".
Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)
Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.
If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.
NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD
Stigma in the DSM
Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)
"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."
(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)
listen i know turtles is turtles is turtles believe me i love them all
but i just think no raph will ever be quite like him
hes such a beacon of positive masculinity in childrens media (using his strength and size to be protective, being openly emotional and unashamed of crying, and confident in his soft side) and i just want to celebrate that ❤️
ya know, it amazes me when ppl write donnie as this mean , careless, rude turtle when donnie a sweet and socially awkaward people pleaser. any chance he has to fit in with a crowd , he will take it, and his depsration to fix things esepcilly when it comes to the fault of himself due to his tech so no one is mad at him. you think thats the bad boy mean face?
donnie might actually pill bug at the slight idea someone doesnt like him or what he does rather than shrug it of and say something mean.
i really feel like his emotions arent considered when hes super considerate to what he does wrong. and sure he may not say it out right, but his actions show more than his words could.
i cant stop thinking about how fast he bonded with tummy tello and didnt at all shun him when he was there like. the guy was all smiles at him.
"but what about todd" you ask.
he was under the impression of being hard as nails to get a job done so he couldnt crack under pressure. they had a goal, they had a plan. that plan somewhat back fired.
that still doesnt mean hes a heartless blank slate. give donnie any chance to make a friend and he will take it. i love his openly ready he is to be so open when it comes to making friends.
donnie is just as sweet and kind as his brothers , just takes a certain button to get him to be that way and i love him for it.
Transcript (thank you to @witchstone for sending me the missed and/or unknown words/places)
Hello! I'm back to show you how to make one fashion blunder after another starting with these pyjama pants. Which are so big each can be used as a sleeping bag. And then, from the children's department, I got this tiny little vest. Please have a look at my pecs, I went to the gym today. Look how tight that one is.
Okay, too tight around my big pecs. I then went and got this vest that came from Dolly magazine 1970's Christmas Edition. Fix my hair, clap clap for that.
Nope, I'm not going out in pyjamas anymore. I decided I would just put on these plain ordinary jeans. Doodgewone jeans for any occasion and just have a look at that. That's not too bad. And then bring out the slippers, because I'm still quite keen on the nightwear thing.
And then check if I can dance, yes I can as long as I don't move my feet. And back to 1970s where I got this jacket from the old man down the road. He said I could use it, but I said no not today, I don't wanna wear it out too soon. Found a little bag from the girl down the road again and now look at me!
one day you think: I want to die. and then you think, very quietly: actually. actually. I think I want a coffee. a nap. a sandwich. a book. and I want to die turns day by day into want to go home, I want to walk in the woods, I want to see my friend, I want to sit in the sun, I want a cleaner kitchen, I want a better job, I want to live somewhere else. I want to live.
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