Nanite y'all and sweet dreams when the time comes. Namaste ^^ ♡☆♡
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Nanite y'all and sweet dreams when the time comes. Namaste ^^ ♡☆♡
Stay safe everyone and remember to wash your hands more frequently!
And don’t touch ur face
don’t touch me
Don’t touch that
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Anna Zweig
Don't buy a pig in a bag
I'm going to step on my soapbox for a bit and vent about the thoughts I've had lately about power exchange relationships in a Leader/Follower or D/S setting. For a lot of folks (including me) the deep seated desire or drive to serve/please or serve/lead is inherent. It's just there. Kind of like your heartbeat or the blood circulating in your veins.
It has a significant impact on your decisions, your feelings, your self image, your way of relating to situations and other people. It can be a beautiful and empowering drive woven into your life, both sides of the slash. Equally it can be a destructive and diminishing force in your life.
So how do you navigate the instincts you have in a positive way? Here's a few questions I came up with to help with distinguishing the wheat from the chaff for both parties... Feel free to add to this if you come up with your own ideas, I'd love to hear them!
Is what you are participating in and/or cocreating life enhancing?
Is your partner/partners aware/or want to find out and respect your limits (hard and soft)?
Do they respect them?
Are you afraid to voice concers or issues with them?
Do they welcome or shun your feedback?
Are they able to take personal responsibility in times when they were wrong (or is it always your or someone or something else's fault)?
Do they care enough to get to know you better as a person?
Do they take into account and respect you as an individual person and want to know the myriad of ways this and your unique circumstances affect or may affect your dynamic?
Do you feel like you can approach them honestly and perhaps at times in a vulnerable state to discuss something relevant?
Do they answer relevant questions you may have or shut them down?
If you have a concern which you voice do you end up feeling like you were "in the wrong" for bringing it up in the first place?
Are they honest, upright, clear and forthright with their expectations, must-haves and limits?
Is the communication between you reciprocal, consistent and open?
Do you feel respected and valued?
Are they interested in and committed to providing you with the type of aftercare you stated you need?
Do they withold attention, affection, care or communication as a punishment or after a disagreement?
Do they talk about you behind your back rather than solving issues or disagreements directly with you?
Do they treat you different in private than in public?
Do you feel like they are ashamed to be associated with you in front of others?
Do they voice their grievances in a passive aggressive, aggressive or blaming way or do you feel like they present them in a us together vs the problem?
Do they afford you the same respect, care, support and consideration as you are giving or what they expect from you towards them? Is it equal or one sided?
Do they make time for you?
Do they appreciate and acknowledge your efforts?
Do you feel seen, heard and understood?
Namaste ^^ ♡☆♡
P.S. Trust your gut ! (unless you have GAD or the like, in which case don't, instead observe patterns of behaviour.)
If you're feeling like you don't matter, I get it.
If you're feeling like people misunderstand you, I get it.
If you're feeling like you put on a brave face while you are crumbling inside, I get it.
I want you to know.
You're not alone.
You care.
You matter.
The people meant for you will get it.
Please don't give up.
I believe in you.
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Nanite y'all and sweet dreams when the time comes. Namaste ^^ ♡☆♡
One Summer’s Day (Array Mbira) by xuan xuan
29/3/20
Quick update my lovelies.
The site for my second job I got has been closed due to Covid reg's laid out by the government until further notice. I applied for benefits under the pressure and uncertainty that was happening due to the situation. I'm continuing to take all precautions to minimise the risk of getting infected and more importantly the risk of infecting someone else unknowingly. I and my loved ones are still symptoms free and well. I'm grateful.
I've gotten a place on a IT skills L2 course I applied for. For free! I've struck some good tidings on the job front too. I'm starting a new temp lenght gig next week that's 10hr per day, mon-fri. I'm chuffed even though it's a time limited position. How could I not be elated. Considering everything...
To all you, my lovely mutuals and followers, stay safe and well. Take care of yourself and one another. Don't lose hope. Stay strong. Keep on shining ☆ :*
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To that one person that reaches out to check in with you. ILY. ^^ ♡☆♡
19/03/2020
Quick update my lovelies. I've gotten my medical exemption certificate sorted. This is a relief as I'm now able to get my medicine and dental covered without having to worry about the expense. They've doubled my dosage which I adjusted to pretty well, (minus some dry mouth issues). The GP has recommended I stay on this medication for a period of six months and then we'll review. I'm continuing seeing the MH nurse. She advised I can consider therapy (for processing my more recent trauma) and would be referred, but reckons that it would be advisable to postpone that undertaking until I'm feeling a bit more stronger to cope with it. She's supplied me with some good resources online in the meantime. I've got my brand spanking new ID in the post which proves my right to work until the EU settlement scheme comes in effect. I've applied for settled status. I've been in touch with my family overseas regularly to check in with them during this stressful time. Everyone is CV19 free so far. I've secured a second job and had my first training day. What work will be available will be subject to whatever decisions the government makes next and both my gigs are dependent on me being present so the financial worry is obviously there, at least I know that I'm not alone in this. I'm sorting out my debts and creditors situation to the best of my ability. I've got enough food for a couple weeks should I need to isolate. I'm not panic buying. I think it's disturbing to see this trend in shops and supermarkets. People should try to exercise calm so there's enough for everyone, especially those most vulnerable. My wishes is with everyone and especially those who can't just work from home, the people laid off during this time, the workers on zero hours contracts, disabled, elderly and vulnerable people, everyone struggling to keep their heads over water and the families and loved ones of those who have lost their lives during this crisis. Stay safe and well everyone. With love ^^ ♡☆♡
Nanite y'all and sweet dreams when the time comes. Namaste ^^ ♡☆♡