how to improve your self concept
𖤐 hello, my lovelies! in this post, i wanted to go over how to improve your self concept, as i find it to be one of, if not the most, important concepts in manifestation. there are infinite ways to go about this, but here is what works for me!
⟢ negative self talk, i must admit, is a tough habit to break out of at first. something i’ll see so many people do is claim that “ugh, i can’t manifest my sp” or “im so bad at manifesting” or “im so ugly”, blah blah blah, the list goes on. now, im sure you’re aware of affirmations. i’m sure you use them. so tell me how saying “im so beautiful” is any different to saying “im so ugly”? trick question, they’re the same. they both show the assumption you hold about yourself. if you’re constantly talking down on yourself, how do you ever expect to change those negative assumptions?
⟢ whenever you catch yourself thinking or saying something bad about yourself, catch it, and replace it with something good. yes, this also applies when you’re with people. eg, stop joking about “haha, i’m so broke!”. just don’t say anything girl.
⟢ also, for self concept specifically, i am the biggest advocate ever for mirror work. i will say positive affirmations to myself as i do my makeup, my hair, my skincare, ect. it’s so insanely effective, you wouldn’t believe it.
2. think ‘what would my ideal self do?’
⟢ this is basically just embodying your dream self. pick whoever you want to be, wether that’s an aesthetic you want to be percieved as or something you want to have, and just think ‘if i was that version of myself, what would i do right now?’. here’s a few examples.
⟢ if i wanted people to see me as a seductive, dark feminine, vampire baddie in public, i would walk confidently, with my lips slightly parted and a subtle glare, keeping a stoic expression and my chin held high. if i wanted people to see me as a soft, babydoll, lizzie grant esque princess, i’d smile softly at people, compliment strangers, bat my eyelashes, and be curious.
⟢ now, if i wanted to embody someone who was rich, i’d go window shopping. i’d look at everything and think “yeah, i can easily afford that”. i’d use my fancy perfume to go to the supermarket and i’d always look clean and polished.
⟢ if i wanted to embody someone who was with sp, i’d see a couple in public and think “awww, they’re cute! but me and sp are cuter”. i wouldn’t be checking my phone for their text or stalking their social media because why would i? they love me.
3. put effort into your appearance
⟢ this isn’t to say you aren’t naturally beautiful, of course you are. but getting dolled up and feeling like a baddie certainly never hurt anybody. overdress slightly wherever you’re going, wether it’s to a formal event, or just down the street to pick up your depop package.
⟢ there are so many ways to feel more beautiful. wearing an outfit that makes you feel confident. doing your makeup all pretty and experimenting with it. wearing your favourite peices of jewellery (bonus points if you enchant them). style your hair or wear cute hairstyles (i love me some vintage hairstyles). put on your favourite perfume.
⟢ you have to let yourself feel loved by yourself in order to have a high self concept. how do you expect to hold yourself at a high regard if you don’t even like the person you are?
⟢ there are endless forms of selfcare. physical, such as going for a walk or taking a bath. spiritual, such as meditation or journalling. social, such as hanging out with a loved one or complimenting a stranger. emotional, such as playing an instrument or painting. intellectual, such as reading or learning a new skill. sensory, such as eating your favourite food or listening to music. the list is truly endless.
5. prioritise your health
⟢ i think it is important to show your body you respect it. this doesn’t mean hitting the gym every day and cutting out carbs and sugar.
⟢ move your body however you can, even if it’s just a 5 minute stretch. eat balanced, don’t cut out the foods you love. make sure you have good hygiene. the basics.
𖤐 i hope this was atleast somewhat helpful. i know when you first get into manifesting, self concept can feel like a waste of time, but it really is very beneficial and for me, has been the difference between getting and not getting my desires.
