Locked4Beautiful

NSFW. This blog is a collection of photos and thoughts of interest to us. I'm a 53-year-old male, and most of the time I'm locked in chastity. I am sexually submissive to my 45-year-old wife who is also my chastity key holder; she has me call her Beautiful, and even when I'm not locked in chastity, she prefers that I wear a cock ring; she likes the look. This is a diary of our interests and adventures in the male chastity lifestyle. — L4B

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How to Properly "Edge"  Him

The real art with  "Edging"   is to learn exactly how to get him as close as possible to an explosion without actually Allowing him to erupt. If you pay close attention while you fondle and play, you’ll learn precisely the clear warning signs of an imminent ejaculation. There’s nothing quite like habitual and routine  "edging"  for subliminally building a guys libido and desire. Not only will he cherish you more, thanks to neurochemistry, but within a short timeframe his vulnerable and exploitable mind will be totally under your feminine control…

Here are some tips:

1 - Make him always tell you exactly how close he is. Kind of obvious, but Insist that he tells you when to slow down and when to stop. Especially in the beginning while you’re learning how to read his body language. Keep talking to him, ask him how it feels, what is best. You’ll soon get the feel of it and he’ll love you even more for it…

2 - Feel for his body and muscles tensing, him holding his breath, arching his back or even tensing, all are signs he’s getting very close. Learn to read and understand the signs and don’t worry if you go over, you’re learning. Just be sure it’s a libido-building ruined orgasm…

3 - Move from strong to soft strokes, from his vein filled shaft up to his tip constantly. Change it up, take your time and make sure you get him ultra rock hard for maximum dopamine production in his vulnerable brain… I personally like lots of lube and oil and fast but not too tight of strokes, and then as he gets closer and closer, move to a looser grip and then focus on his hypersensitive head and frenulem (the strip underneath the head at the top where guys are most sensitive). Also take breaks frequently. It’s better to stop one second too early than one second too late, stroke - edge - deny - repeat…

4 - Make it ultimately his fault if he erupts. So again, if he does explode make sure you properly ruin it. Stop all rubbing and stimulation as soon as he starts to climax. Or if he’s tied down, you turn it into a post orgasm torture, after the ruined orgasm, where you use his slippery cum as lube to keep rubbing his hypersensitive Joystick, scolding him by saying: you’re so naughty, I didn’t give you permission to cum…

5 - When you do want to enjoy his pent up explosions, make that part of the tease too. When you’re planning to make him climax and erupt, this is a great time to also practice your edging techniques. Use it as an opportunity to see just how crazy you can make him, where you’re not worrying about accidently taking him over the edge…

6 - Oh and you can add a wonderfully sadistic element with this line: If you can hold on for just five minutes more my love, I won’t ruin it when you do cum, okay baby…

Thanks to FemdomDoneRight (on tumblr) for this effective mindfuck and programming tool.

Extra notes by: HerIntoxicatingBodyOnMyMind

1 - Routine is critical.  Edge Him Every Day.  For best results: One short session (15 minutes) every other morning; one medium-length session (20-30 minutes) every evening before bed; and at least one long session (40+ minutes) every weekend.  If this seems like a lot of time, consider how much time you spend alone doing things you wish he was interested in (like watching your favorite shows on Netflix).  This is one activity he will eagerly join.  Edging is addictive to male neurochemistry, and it very specifically addicts him to you, as long as you do it regularly.  The more you do it, the more deeply he bonds to you, and the more he will crave spending time with you throughout the day.  This feeds on itself, and before long, your nightly “quality time” together becomes perfectly natural for both of you.  Even if you’re already in love, married, and devoted to each other, your connection can still go deeper - and the fire of wilder days can be rekindled.  No more going to bed alone!  Also, any time spent having sex or pleasuring you can count toward his edge time. (at your discretion) Daily orgasms for you, his heat beside you as you drift to sleep, and an eager, attentive lover totally addicted to your touch - what’s not to love?  No matter how busy or tired you are, you both have the time for this, I promise.  Do it for a week, and you will start making time for it.

2 - Edge him more than once.  For most, this is obvious. But for some new to edging, it needs to be said.  Don’t just edge him once and assume you’re done.  Depending on his stamina (and how long it’s been since his last orgasm) it can take a while to build him up to his first edge of the night.  It’s important to think of it that way: “first edge of the night.”  Because once you’ve guided him to his edge - and stopped - he is still highly aroused, and edging him again becomes easy.  All that build-up was time invested to get him to his most blissful state.  Now “cash in” your investment and keep him there, by edging him over and over again.  It should be easy.  A single, slow, tight pump is sometimes enough.  Watch his reaction and enjoy the show! (Women report that this is usually their favorite part - guiding their loved one from edge to edge with subtle touches, watching him, and knowing the exquisite gift he trusts only her to give.)

3 - Keep him guessing.  Every single time you touch his cock, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give him a full orgasm.  Lie to him.  Tell him you’re going to stop, then don’t.  Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full orgasm.  Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then “change your mind” and stop for the night.  This only works if you also sometimes tell the truth.  Once he learns you are unpredictable, his body will naturally prepare for orgasm, (every time!) giving him the rush he craves - while his mind reels in fear of the alternatives.  You are fucking his mind, in addition to his body - in a very good way! Watch how he reacts - from the curl of his toes to the flare in his eyes.  It’s incredibly hot.

4 - A “ruined” orgasm is when you let go and cease all stimulation, a split second before he climaxes.  His cum will sort of just leak out, and it’s not as satisfying as a full orgasm.  “Ruined” is a misnomer, though, because he still gets some small pleasure from it, so don’t be afraid to ruin him regularly.  He might thrash, beg, or try to finish it himself, so this is a good time to playfully experiment with restraints - something as simple as tying his wrists together behind his back with a belt or necktie will do the trick.  The important difference between a ruined and regular orgasm is that the male libido does not diminish after a ruined orgasm.  He will stay horny, eager, erect, and attentive, as though he had no orgasm at all, and you can continue playing, if you wish, after a short break.  You can even ruin him twice in one night - the second one is usually harder to achieve, though.

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Edging and ruined are the keys to my devotion. That is, when I’m allowed out of my cage.

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Just Listen Darling My husbands words that made me a hotwife

I am really surprised to be writing this story. A month ago, I would have never believed I could have sex with a man other than my husband, especially not at his suggestion and with his encouragement. Most of all, I am astounded what a totally amazing erotic experience it turned out to be and how wantonly, willingly and shamelessly I threw myself into the adventure, to the delight of both my husband Rob, and myself.  

My name is Jillian and I am a successful professional woman of thirty-one years. I am a little taller than average and by all accounts I am attractive and have a good body. Men seem to think so. Like all women I can point out a dozen faults that I would love to change. However, the things that matter are all good: I have long well shaped legs, medium-large full breasts which still hold up pretty well, my bum is rounded and in good shape (it should be after endless work in the gym) and my face is pretty enough with the advantage of a great smile and full slightly pouting lips which look stunning with bright red lipstick. According to Rob, my pussy is muscular and tight. You will have to take his word for it. He certainly seems to love her!  

So there I am - respectable, married to a successful man and enjoying an intimate loving marriage with a good serving of regular sex. Not surprising, when my husband asked me if I had ever thought of having sex with another man, I was furious. My interpretation of the question was him challenging my fidelity, which was impeccable in our four years married together.  

“No way!” I snapped back angrily, turning away from him as we lay in bed, “You know I love you and I’ve been completely faithful. I can’t believe you even asking me”.  

I really hadn’t even thought of having sex with another man, despite the approaches and opportunities, which were available in my job as a conference organizer, since I was often away from home and there was an almost unending supply of total strangers, staying in the same hotel as me.  

“I’m sorry Jillian”, said Rob, his tone very repentant, “I really didn’t mean it like that. I know it’s just been us. I trust you and I love you very much”.  

I was still angry so I didn’t answer and now I was confused too. I just lay there in silence for a long while, listening to Rob breathing. I could tell he was awake too.  

“Then why did you ask me?” I said eventually.  

Rob turned to spoon me and wrapped his arm around me pulling our bodies together. I was glad to feel him close to me again. It’s never good to end the day on a sour note.  

Rob nuzzled my neck and kissed me gently, his hand tenderly cupped one of my breasts.  

“You remember a few nights ago when I woke you up in the middle of the night and we made love like crazy?”  

“Yes, you horny bastard, I was tired all the next day!”  

Rob had been so hot and excited that night; it was just like when we were first married and I had no complaints if my husband wanted to be that passionate with me!  

“Did you wonder what made me so horny?” Rob asked.  

I hadn’t. Now it intrigued me. “No? Are you going to tell me?”  

“Maybe I’ll just make love to you again”, whispered Rob, kissing my neck and now beginning to run his hand down my body and across my thighs. I could feel the unmistakable twitch of his cock as it stiffened against my bum. Now my breathing was starting to quicken too.  

“I want to know. Tell me what made you so horny?”  

Rob’s hand started to explore between my legs and I eased them open to let him touch my pussy. Ever so gently he drew his finger between the lips, finding my moisture and using it to tease my clit. The electric tingle shot through my whole body and I melted into his strong arms.  

“Just listen darling and please don’t be angry. I had a dream that you fucked another guy when you were away at a conference and then came home and told me all about it. I woke up with a massive hard on, just like the one I’m getting now!”  

Rob was getting hard very quickly and I could feel the heat of his growing cock as it started to explore between my legs from behind.  

“Weren’t you jealous and angry?” I asked.  

“Yes, I felt both at first when I woke up. Then I realized it was just a dream and I was so turned on that I had to have you right there and then. It was like a naughty fantasy. I was surprised how hot it made me.”  

I was shocked. My husband was turned on thinking I had fucked another man! By now Rob’s cock was completely rigid and he was rubbing it along the length of my pussy from behind so I arched my back to make it easier for him. All the while his finger still teased my clit and I was now just as turned on as him.  

“Are you thinking about it again?” I asked.  

“Yes Jillian. I can’t get it out of my head. Please don’t be mad”.  

Just at that moment Rob’s cock found my pussy and he pushed a few inches into me. It felt like heaven and I was so excited that I couldn’t be mad.  

“I’m not mad if it makes you want me like this. There’s no harm in having dirty fantasies”.  

“I’m so glad you’re not upset darling”.  

Rob’s thrusts were becoming longer and he was driving deeper inside me now. His cock felt amazing and with his finger still teasing my clit I was fast approaching an orgasm. My mind began to wander to some of the men who had made passes to me at conferences. Somehow I was trying to imagine which one it would have been in Rob’s fantasy.  

“Oh Jillian, imagining you with another guy is so fucking hot!”  

I was still confused by Rob’s confession but it was turning me on too and I started to play along.  

“I’m sorry darling, I couldn’t help myself. I know I shouldn’t have done it”, I moaned as Rob’s thrusts quickened. By now my pussy was so wet and I was just about to come.  

“Was it good Jillian? Did he fuck you well?”  

“His cock was so hard, just like yours darling. He made me come twice before he came inside me. I loved it!”  

Rob drove his full length into me and I went wild, moaning with the best orgasm I can remember for ages.  

Rob rolled me onto my stomach and pulled me up onto my knees so he could take me properly from behind.  

“I can feel his hot come inside you. You are so wet”.  

“Yes, he came so much”, I played along, surprised how much this dirty talk was exciting me too.  

“I just love fucking your used pussy!”  

“Good, because I loved being fucked by another man”.  

“Oh Jillian, you are such a sexy slut. I love you. I want you to fuck as many men as you want. Just bring me home their cum in your hot pussy”.

I couldn’t believe Rob’s filthy talk! He was really into this and I was even more shocked that I didn’t mind a bit. Another orgasm was nearly on me.  

“I will, Rob. I will bring you home a dirty cum filled pussy”.  

“I’m coming…I’m going to add my come to his!”  

I felt Rob’s cock spasm and that was enough to send me over the top too and my second amazing come of the night tore through me as my mind was full of images of strange cocks unloading into my pussy.  

I slumped onto the bed, gasping. To my surprise, Rob turned me over, pushing my knees up and opening my legs wide, his face dove immediately between my legs.  

My pussy was already tingling, so the sensation of his tongue and mouth sucking on me sent me right up on a high immediately and fresh orgasms started to roll in waves, almost painful they were so good. Rob had never done this to me before after he came and I realized it must be part of his fantasy too.  

I had no complaints and by now I was completely immersed in the fantasy too.  

“Can you taste his come?”  

“Mmmmm”, was all Rob could answer as he lapped at me, sending me over the edge again.  

Eventually, I had to push Rob away because I was too sensitive. To my surprise he immediately pulled himself up over me and his cock was hard again brushing my opening.  

“I want you again”, is all he said, as he locked me in a kiss and I tasted my juices and his come combined. He entered me again and I let out a long slow moan.  

Rob’s pace was slower now and he looked lovingly into my eyes.  

“Thank you for not being angry at my fantasy”.  

How could I be - it was so hot for me too!  

“Thank you for not being angry that I fucked another guy!”  

“Oh Jillian, I will never be angry if you do!”  

“Then I will Rob. I’ll fuck another man if you’d like it”, I don’t know what made me say it but at that moment I really meant it.  

“Yes, I would”, groaned Rob and I felt his come gush into me.  

Exhausted and panting, we lay there in each other’s arms, neither of us saying a word. It had all been so intense and unexpected. Eventually Rob spoke.  

“I suppose it’s OK to bring fantasies into the bedroom?”  

“Yes darling, it is and I really do love you”. I said, feeling more in love at that moment than I can describe, I added, “and if you think you can handle it, we may even turn a few fantasies into reality one day”.  

“I think I could handle that, lover”, said Rob kissing me tenderly.  

That night, we slept like the dead.  

CHAPTER TWO  

The next morning when we awoke we lay in bed holding hands. There was an uneasy silence at first. Perhaps we had gone too far in one go last night and neither of us quite knew what to say. I was nervous because I had to admit that I was now contemplating the meaning of what I had said the night before and I was hot between my legs just wondering what it would be like to fuck another man and if that is what Rob really wanted of me. Eventually, I broke the silence.  

“That was a hot fuck last night darling. I can’t believe I was so turned on by all the dirty talk”.  

“Feel my cock now”, said Rob.  

My hand found the stiffest cock I had ever held.  

“You turned me on so much last night when you played along with my fantasy”.  

“Is it just a fantasy Rob, or is it what you really want?”  

“I don’t know darling. Somehow the jealousy is part of the turn on”.  

“Well let’s just think about it for a while and keep it as a fantasy”, I said climbing on top of Rob and placing his gorgeous hard cock into my pussy and pushing back on the full length. Neither of use spoke. We just fucked and came quickly. We were both absorbed in out own dirty thoughts.  

The next few weeks went by uneventfully although we did revisit Rob’s fantasy quite often, which always led to great sex. I was becoming more comfortable talking dirty and I had gotten over my initial shock that my husband could contemplate me fucking another man. The idea of it had begun to permeate my own thoughts and I found myself looking at other men differently, wondering if it could ever happen.  

Then it was time for me to go away again to organize a conference. Despite being only just over an hours drive away, I would stay over because with all the long days and drinks and dinners in the evenings it was too much to drive home each night.  

The night before I was due to leave, Rob and I lay in bed and inevitably the conversation turned to his fantasy, since the circumstances now meant I would be in the situation to make it a reality.  

“What if I really did find another man at the conference and decide to fuck him?” I expected Rob would back down, faced by the true prospect of his wife with another man. His answer was pretty intense!  

“I would like it to happen if we could agree some rules and it was a mutual decision. I don’t want to lose you darling. At the same time, deep down, I know I want you to enjoy other men as part of our sex life”.  

There was a long silence while I gathered my thoughts. I turned to Rob and kissed him tenderly. Then I looked into the eyes of the man I adore and asked him simply, “What are the rules?”  

“You let me know in advance if it is going to happen. You must tell me where you are so I can come and get you if you need me to. If it does happen, you share all the details with me and let me ask anything I want to know. And finally, if it is possible, you make love to me next with his come still inside you”. Rob kissed me back and mouthed the words “I love you”.  

“I like the rules and I agree. No promises that it will happen, darling, so don’t get your hopes up. Also, I don’t want to feel any pressure or do it for the wrong reason. If it happens, it will be because I want it to and we have spoken and agreed it’s OK”.  

“Yes darling, let’s add the rule that there is no obligation and it is only by mutual consent between us: nothing hidden or behind the back”.  

“OK, my love, you have a deal”, I smiled at Rob, kissing him again as my pussy sent a shiver of excitement through my body. The anticipation of leaving the next day, knowing I had ‘permission’ to fuck another man was turning me on.  

“Now fuck your wife Rob, because the next time you do, I may have a pussy full of someone else’s come!”  

Rob literally jumped on me a fucked my brains out! It was a hot, desperate fuck and we both came hard and quickly.  

CHAPTER THREE  

I left early the next day and drove down to the conference venue. The first day was always set up and so I just worked hard and got prepared for the delegates who started to arrive in the evening. Nothing eventful happened except the usual stuff ups with flight connections and late arrivals.  

By 10:45PM I was in my room and called Rob. We chatted for a while and I gave him all the news of the day. We didn’t discuss our naughty agreement and I was soon asleep without another thought of it.  

The conference next day was rather boring for me. The topics were all engineering and scientific, so I excused myself from the speeches and hung around outside by the coffee station. From time to time, delegates would come out to visit the rest rooms or stop off for a coffee. They were predominantly men and I suppose 90% of the 300 or so attendees were men.  

I was dressed smartly in a dark blue skirt, above the knee and a silver grey blouse that opened enough to give a hint of cleavage. I have good breasts, so I like to offer a glimpse of their soft valley, which always seems to draw men’s eyes! My legs are long and I know they look good too, although my heels were not extreme so I could walk around all day comfortably.  

One delegate came out a few times and several times he came over and engaged me in small talk. He was quite nice and I wondered if he liked the way I looked.  

The rest of the day was uneventful and I organized things, helped a few delegates with problems and sorted out a mix up in the program for two of the breakout rooms; all very ordinary stuff.  

That evening, there was a cocktail reception and I mingled with the delegates. Soon I found myself talking to the man I had met in the morning who introduced himself as John. He was polite and funny and soon I was relaxing in his company and becoming far more familiar with him than I would normally with a delegate.  

John found out that I was married and he was too. At first he didn’t flirt with me or give any indication he found me attractive but as the evening wore on and the drinks took effect, it was obvious that he was interested in me.  

“You must see all sorts of things happen at conferences”, John remarked.  

“I suppose so”, I said, wondering where this was leading.  

“I mean; don’t you see a lot of people getting up to mischief because they are away from home”.  

“Oh yes, of course. That’s always happening”.  

“Has it ever happened to you?” Asked John directly, now looking deeply into my eyes. I felt myself flush. I took a sip of my drink.  

“No”, I paused, “not so far”.  

“Well maybe it will one day?” quizzed John.  

I felt a flutter in my stomach knowing that he was testing me out. I looked at him differently now, wondering if he could be the one to let me indulge Rob’s fantasy, which was fast becoming my own.  

“It won’t be tonight, that’s for sure. I have some preparation for tomorrow still to finish”, I said, protecting myself from the randy thoughts gathering in my mind.  

“Let’s see what tomorrow brings”, said John with a provocative twinkle in his eye, “hopefully you will let me enjoy your company after the last night dinner?”  

“I’m sure I will see you at the bar John”, I said in a non-committal way. “The last night is always easier for me to relax”.  

“To relaxation”, said John and we clinked glasses, “I look forward to tomorrow evening Jillian.”  

“I do too, John”, I smiled, just enough to let him know I liked him. “Good night”.  

With that we parted company and I did a quick check of the guests before excusing myself and rushing up to my room to call Rob.  

First I took a shower and then slid into bed, warm and naked. I called Rob.  

“Hello darling”, he said, “how is the conference going?”  

“Very well Rob and I have some news for you. Would you like to hear it?” I teased.  

“Of course! Tell me all!”  

“It’s not very exciting I suppose, compared to your dirty fantasy, so don’t be disappointed”. I wanted to ruffle Rob a bit.  

“I don’t mind, just tell me your news”.  

I paused a bit.  

“Well…I…met a man who I like!”  

I could hear Rob inhale quickly.  

“And I know he likes me because he suggested that he would like to meet up for a drink tomorrow night”.  

Rob sounded like he was trembling. “Did you agree to have a drink with him?”  

“Not exactly but I could if you would like me to. He’s very attractive and good company. The problem is that I think he wants more than just a drink Rob!”  

By now I could definitely hear Rob breathing faster.  

“That is so exciting Jillian. What are you going to do?”  

“I don’t know Rob. What do you think I should do?” By now I was getting horny and my hand had found my dampening pussy. “I’m just worried that if I go for a drink with John, it might go a bit further”.  

“Would you like it to go further with him?”  

“I’m playing with myself trying to imagine what would happen!”  

There was a short silence from Rob.  

“I’ve got my cock out now. You are turning me on!”  

“How much would it turn you on if I went out with John?”  

“It will send me wild! Just talking about it is sending me crazy! Do you think you could have sex with him?”  

“You know the rules Rob. If I let you know in advance and we agree, then its OK for me to fuck another man”, I said, now beginning to groan a little myself as I picked up the pace fingering myself. “I promise to let you know in advance!”  

“Oh god that is so hot. I love you teasing me! If you carry on much more, I’m going to come!”  

“Hold on a bit”, I said, “I have an idea which I think you will like, on one condition that you don’t come until I have finished explaining it to you and then we come together on the phone!”  

“I agree darling. Please tell me your idea!”  

I could sense Rob was really hot now and I started to explain my wicked idea.  

“I want you to drive down here tomorrow evening. I will leave a key to my room for you at reception. At around 9:00PM go to the bar and wait there. I will come to the bar with John, or if he’s not interested, I will hang around there in case any of the other guys want to pick me up. The most important thing is for you not to let anyone know that you’re my husband. I would love you to be here and see me talking with a man who I might choose to fuck. That way, if I want him, you’ll be able to agree. We can text each other or find a way to talk”. By now Rob was moaning almost constantly and I was getting very high.  

“Then, when I go off with whoever I select, you can go up to the room and wait for me. That way, I can bring a freshly fucked pussy back to you and we can enjoy my first stranger experience together. You can even eat out his come from me if you want to”.  

“Oh darling, I love it. I will be down there tomorrow night!”  

“Good Rob. And now you can come if you like, imagining me going off with another man who you have agreed to let me fuck!”  

“Oh yes please, I want you to fuck him…” Rob’s voice trailed off and I heard him grunt as he came, which was enough to make me come too. That was our first ever phone sex and it was amazing!  

After we had calmed down, I gave Rob my room number and we arranged a few more details of how we would enact the evening.  

“I can’t believe we are going to do this Rob!” I finally said. “I am so excited now I know its going to happen”.  

“You’re amazing Jillian. I love you so much for agreeing to do this”.  

“It’s for both of us darling. I want it too. Just promise me not to jerk off too much tonight. I want you to have some come left so you can fuck me with another man’s cum inside me!”  

We said goodnight. I had to make myself come three more times before I could go to sleep. I’m sure Rob pretty well rubbed himself raw!  

CHAPTER FOUR   The next day was the last of the conference. Throughout the day, I kept seeing John and he always seemed to be looking at me. I tried to keep my calm and not stare back or give him any indication that I was interested. I wanted him to work for it. If this was going to happen I wanted John to be enthusiastic!  

On the other hand, I was a nervous wreck! My tummy was in knots and my pussy gushing with love juices - so much that mid afternoon I had to go back to my room and change my panties. It gave me the chance to finger myself to a couple of orgasms and that helped me get through until the formal dinner in the evening, for which I changed into a tight, short black dress and tall black heels.  

I caught up with John at the pre-dinner drinks and he told me how good I looked, which was true. I could feel dozens of the men looking at me and wanting me. There were a few moments when I could have almost let it happen, I was that hot! I managed to select a table away from John, (since I was in charge of the seating it wasn’t hard), yet I was still close enough that I could check him out occasionally and make sure our eyes met. By the time dinner and the dreary speeches had finished, the glances between us were conveying suggestions of what might transpire later that night. I knew I had John just where I wanted him. I was now in the driving seat.  

By around 9:20PM we were entering the bar and John had made his way alongside me. I could see Rob sitting casually at the far end of the bar and we exchanged knowing glances. This was it. I now had to decide if tonight I was going to become a hot wife and ask Rob to agree to it, which I knew he would.  

John touched me by the arm and we found a space half way along the bar. His touch was electric and it was all I could do not to jump. Rob would have us in full view if we sat here and I was able to position myself so I could watch Rob’s reactions without it being obvious.  

John ordered drinks and we settled into conversation. We talked about the conference, our interests, his job and we joked about things. We were becoming quite relaxed and John used every opportunity to touch my arm or hand. I did the same to him in return and the sexual tension between us was rising fast.  

John could sense I was getting interested, so he complemented me again on my looks and this time told me I looked hot. If only he knew how hot I was between my legs!  

“So is tonight the night Jillian?” John asked.  

“The night for what John?” I played dumb, looking him deep in the eyes.  

“The night you let being away from home lead you into a little mischief. You said it happens all the time at conferences.”  

“I’m shocked John. Are you making a pass at a married woman?”  

“I’m making a pass at you Jillian because you are beautiful, sexy and hot. I can’t think of anything better than making love to you tonight. If you will let me.”  

Of course he had me at “Hello” but I still wanted to play this out a little longer. I could see Rob along the bar shifting on his stool and I knew that meant he was already sporting a massive hard on watching his wife flirting with another man.  

“I’ve never done anything like that before John. You know I find you attractive but I shouldn’t go to bed with you. I’m a married and it’s just not right.”  

“So can I take that as a maybe?” said John, now taking my hand in his and pulling me ever so slightly closer. I let a coy smile slip and looked down for a moment. Then, biting my lower lip, I looked up at him with my best sexy ‘fuck me’ look.  

“I want you too. However I will need to be very discreet. I have colleagues here and they can see me talking to you. We can’t leave together.”  

“I’ll go to my room first and you can come up in about 20 minutes if you like. I’ll order some champagne. How does that sound?”  

“I don’t know”, I feigned, “I’m still really nervous. What if I get scared and want to back out?”  

“Then all its cost me is my dented pride, a bottle of champagne and a wonderful evening with a sexy woman who I’ll think about all night”.  

Quite smooth, I thought. I let his words sink in silently for as long as I dared.  

“What’s your room number John?”  

“1411”  

“Go up and wait for me lover and don’t worry, the champagne won’t go to waste! I’ll be up as quick as I can”.  

John left and I watched him go to make sure it was safe to go over to Rob.  

“What happened?” said Rob, “Why did he leave?”  

“He’s gone up to his room to wait for me, darling. So now is the moment you have been waiting for. You have to decide if you agree to your wife fucking another man!”  

Rob looked at me with eyes hooded with lust. He was shaking with excitement.  

“Oh yes, I want you to my love, but is it what you want Jillian?”  

“More than anything. This is so hot, especially knowing we’re doing this willingly together! Besides, I can’t wait to bring my used pussy back to you because I know that’s what you really want”.  

I leant forward and kissed Rob. The sweetest sexiest kiss I can remember and breathed, “I love you” into his mouth. He did the same.  

Rob held me close and whispered in my ear.  

“Now go and be a dirty girl and have fun with your lover’s cock. I’ll wait for you in bed with my tongue and a hard-on ready for you”.  

I kissed his cheek, winked with a dirty smile and set off for my room first to freshen up a little.  

I took off my sodden panties and left a note for Rob placing them both on the pillow.  

“When you read this note, your wife is somewhere in this hotel being fucked. I hope you like the idea because I do. Just save me some of your come for when I get back. I’ll be very disappointed if you can’t fuck me while I tell you all about what I did tonight with my other lover.  

Here are my wet panties, since I won’t need them. Why don’t you sniff them and then you can compare the smell of my cunt before and after John fucks me! Enjoy!  

Your sexy slut wife, who loves you totally,  

Jillian”  

I kissed the paper, leaving a corny lipstick kiss mark. I thought Rob would like that slutty touch.  

Then I headed off to room 1411 and my first cheating with the full blessing of my husband!  

CHAPTER FIVE  

By the time I reached John’s room I could hardly walk. I was trembling with fear and excitement. My mind was full of questions and doubts. How did I let this go so far? Is this going to ruin my marriage? Why do Rob and I both want this so much?  

John opened the door quickly to my knock, wearing the white hotel robe and I literally fell into his arms. Instantly we were kissing with hungry mouths. We kissed passionately for what seemed like ages until I had to break for lack of breath.  

John offered me champagne, which I gladly took and sat on the edge of the bed.  

“I’m so glad you came Jillian. Thank you”, was his simple statement.  

“I don’t know why I am here. It’s so wicked. For some reason, I just have to do this”. Poor John. If only he knew.  

John joined me on the bed and pushed me back, lying next to me. We started kissing again and after a while I felt his hand running up my inner thigh. Soon enough his fingers found my uncovered pussy and he would have instantly noticed how wet I was.  

“Seems like you came prepared,” said John. Then, holding up a condom pack he added, “and so did I!”  

“You won’t need that, lover. I want to feel you come inside me”.  

For one horrible second I thought I would fail in my mission to get my pussy nice and dirty with his hot come. I needn’t have worried as John tossed the condom aside and resumed his dexterous exploration of my open gash.  

“Oh yes John”, I moaned as his fingers sent shock waves through me, “I came here so you can fuck me. I really want you”. My hand found John’s cock and I started to massage and stroke it. The size felt about the same as Rob’s, maybe a little fatter.  

I couldn’t resist seeing it so I pulled open John’s robe and saw the first new cock since before I was married. It looked wonderful and quickly I took the tip in my mouth and washed it round and round with my tongue drawing it in and out of my lips. John moaned loudly. I didn’t want him to come in my mouth so I stopped the sucking quickly, probably to his disappointment.  

I was just aching to be fucked. I can’t explain it. It was so animal. I was just desperate for his cock to stuff me and come inside me. I was also thinking about Rob lying there waiting for me. I wanted to get back to him with a trophy of John’s come as soon as I could.  

John must have thought I was a total slut. I yanked up my dress to fully expose my pussy and lay on my back, submitting to him.  

“Fuck me now John. Please just fuck me. I want you so much!” I begged, completely without shame!  

John wasn’t about to turn me down either and he quickly threw off the robe and was on top of me, his mouth locked on mine in a passionate kiss and the head of his lovely cock brushing my open willing vulva.  

Reaching down, I positioned his beautiful meat perfectly and he just pushed into me all the way in a single deliberate thrust. I was off in heaven immediately. The anticipation all day had made me so high I was practically coming already. Running my hands over his powerful back and buttocks, I locked my calves behind him and pulled him into me.  

John was a strong man and I was being fucked well and hard, our pelvic bones smashing together and sending shocks into my clit. In no time I was moaning and coming in body splitting waves. John kept pounding me and I never really came down from my high. This was so good I could have almost cried!  

I could feel John building up to come. I wasn’t quite ready and I wanted his come as deep in me as possible.  

“Turn me over. I want you to fuck me deep from behind”. I have never known a man who doesn’t like a good doggy fuck and John quickly flipped me over and pulled me to the edge of the bed with my knees tucked under me, positioning my pussy perfectly at the edge of the bed. My face was on the bed. I arched my back like the slut I was and begged him again for his cock.  

John was in me immediately with his amazing hard cock. Now he could really pound into me and I could feel his tip all the way up to my cervix.  

“Oh yes, that’s it. That’s what I want! Fuck me hard until you come!”  

Which is exactly what he did, making me scream out with another massive orgasm as I felt him load me up with his hot come. I was so sensitive that I felt every turgid squirt and that was the sexiest part, knowing he was giving me the gift I wanted most of all.  

I flopped forward on the bed, still wearing my dress and one high heel, my bum and pussy exposed. John joined me and lay back beside me.  

“That was amazing Jillian. You’re SO hot!”  

“Thank you John, I really needed that and you fucked me to perfection!”  

John leaned over and we exchanged a long passionate kiss, which I broke, turning over and sitting up.  

“I am sorry lover but I have to go before the guilt sets in”.  

Poor John looked really disappointed, his cock hanging there still half hard. I am sure he was waiting for another less frantic session.  

“Are you sure you don’t want to stay the night? Please at least help me finish the champagne”.  

I pulled on my other sexy pump and stood up brushing down my skirt as the first drips of come started to leak onto my inner thigh.  

“I’d love to stay the night John but that would make it too intimate and I know I’d feel so guilty tomorrow. This was wonderful, believe me, but I have to go!” And I really did have to go because I could feel the come beginning to drip.  

“Please, if you change your mind you will come back? You’re so sexy I don’t think I could ever get enough of you”.  

“I know where you are if I need you!” I said with a sexy wink.  

John stood up and I took this lovely naked man, who had just fucked me so masterfully in my arms, his cock leaving little cum slicks on the lap of my dress. We kissed again and whispered a few more thanks to each other. John repeated his request for me to stay but I managed to get away.  

Then suddenly I was out in the corridor teetering toward the elevator, heading back to Rob. As nobody was around I stuck my hand up my dress and cupped my naked pussy to catch as much come as possible. Not very ladylike, even for a slut like me!  

Down two floors, I was at my room in a few seconds.  

CHAPTER SIX  

As I let myself in to my room, I could see Rob spread out on the bed, lit only by one bedside lamp, my discarded panties in one hand and a truly raging hard cock in the other. “I wasn’t expecting you back so soon,” he said smiling.  

“Lie back darling. I have a present for you,” I announced as I kicked off my shoes and clambered onto the bed, standing astride John and pulling up my dress off over my head. I flicked off my bra and presented myself naked for my husband.  

“Would you like to see your wife’s dirty fresh fucked pussy, full of another man’s come?”  

“Oh yes,” gasped Rob, staring intently at my puffy lips, from which a long filament of come was hanging, “bring that pussy here so I can smell and taste her”.  

So I straddled Rob’s face and slowly lowered my pussy down, stopping about six inches above his mouth.  

“Would you like me to describe how I got fucked by John?”  

“You know I would!”  

“OK then, you can suck on this while I tell you”. With that I lowered myself onto his mouth, thrilled by the filthy idea that my husband wanted to eat another man’s come out of my pussy.  

As soon Rob’s expert tongue and mouth were on my pussy, I was racing up towards another orgasm. It wasn’t just the sensation, which was delightful; it was also the naughtiness of the conspiracy that had brought us both to this depraved scenario. I was a good wife by being a bad wife. Go figure!  

Rob couldn’t get enough of my pussy and I gasped out the story of my short hard fuck with John. It was pretty hard to talk as I had a whole string of beautiful orgasms on Rob’s mouth.  

After I was satisfied that Rob had enjoyed as much of John’s come as possible, I slid myself back down his body and onto his sweet cock. He slipped in easily and I settled back on him with a sensual rocking motion.  

“How did my pussy taste?”  

“The best ever.”  

“So you like eating another man’s come from me do you?”  

“Oh yes darling, I love it”.  

Rob was looking dreamily up into my eyes and I could tell he was already on the verge of coming.  

“How does your wife’s used pussy feel darling?”  

“Soooo good! You’re so fucking sexy, I’m going to come really soon!”  

I quickened my pace just a fraction and leant forwards and started kissing Rob.  

“I want to taste myself and John too”, I said between kisses. That was enough to send Rob over the top. He just started to unload a huge hot flood into me and we had both achieved our wish of me taking loads from two men in my pussy one after the other.  

I collapsed into Rob’s arms and he just kept saying, “I love you darling, thank you, thank you”.  

Lying there in the after glow we talked about how we felt and both agreed it was beyond our wildest expectations and a total success. We laughed and giggled about our naughty sexy game.  

“I feel a bit sorry for John”, I said eventually, “I just used him to fuck me and he was hoping for a whole night with me. He looked so sad when I left”.  

“Would you like to go back to his room now?”  

Rob’s question surprised me. I hadn’t thought about it, although now I began to wonder if it would be nice to take more time with John. I felt a flutter in my tummy and my pussy. I don’t know how I could be getting excited after all this sex!  

“Can I - are you sure that’s OK with you darling?”  

“On one condition”, said Rob with an evil grin on his face, “You don’t clean my come out of your pussy”.  

“That’s so fucking naughty”, I exclaimed, instantly turned on by the idea.  

“I like the idea of that! Are you sure you’ll be OK until the morning?”  

“Yes, it will turn me on imagining you with him again. I probably won’t sleep and likely I will nearly pull my cock off my body!”  

“Just save some for me!”  

“Go on. Call him. He may already be asleep. I want to hear you call him and seduce him”.  

I picked up the phone, sharing it between Rob’s ear and mine so he could hear the call and dialed John’s room trembling with renewed excitement. He only took three rings to answer.  

“Is there any champagne left?” I asked in my sexiest voice, “that hot fuck has left me a bit thirsty!”  

“I was hoping you’d call. We still have half a bottle - do you think that will last us for the rest of the night?”  

“Probably, since we are going to be making love most of the time. That is if you let me come back?” I said teasingly.  

“I will leave the door ajar and wait for you in bed. All I ask is that you take your dress off this time. I want to enjoy you naked”.  

“I promise, but I have to warn you that I haven’t had a shower yet. Is that OK? I feel a bit dirty”.  

“I like dirty girls. Anyway, perhaps I can clean you up a little myself”. My pussy shivered at the thought!  

“I’m on my way John. I want whatever you want tonight”. I clicked the receiver down and looked at Rob who was beaming a smile up at me and already had nearly achieved another full erection.  

“Fuck we’re so dirty”, I said to him triumphantly, “This is so fucking horny darling. I’m glad you had your dirty dream and now we can make it real together”.  

“This is way better than any dream I’ve ever had”, said Rob and we kissed one last time. I thanked him for being the best sexy husband in the world. After all, I was the one getting double and triple portions!

I slipped on my dress, naked underneath and headed back up to 1411. I felt like a total whore and I just couldn’t stop smiling to myself. “Jillian”, I said to myself, “you are a sexy dirty slut! Go and enjoy yourself girl!”  

CHAPTER SEVEN  

I let myself into John’s room, locked the door behind me, pulled my dress over my head and stood there naked beside the bed. I extended a hand which he took and said quietly, “I am yours tonight John. Whatever you want, I am yours”.  

John flipped back the sheet and I slid in beside him, into his arms. The feeling was instantly different. I had come here to take my time; to make love. Suddenly, I was his lover and I was prepared to want him unconditionally the same way I wanted my husband Rob. This was the most erotic moment of the whole night when I decided to put Rob out of my thoughts and submit all of my feelings to enjoying John.  

For the first time I started to notice the differences between my two men. John smelled different, his body was an unfamiliar shape and the way he touched me was new. Although before we had a great fuck, I really didn’t pay any attention to him as a man or as a lover. Now I wanted to indulge that pleasure!  

I started to lovingly kiss John’s chest and teased his nipples with my tongue and teeth. At the same time, my hand reached down and cupped his lovely strong balls, which were big and filled my whole hand. His cock, now freshly erect, had thick soft skin, which flexed up and down across its hard inner core as I pulled up and down. Looking at his beautiful member I realized that he was uncircumcised, unlike Rob and I was fascinated with the way the hood could be pulled back to reveal his purple tip which was deliciously smooth and tight as if it was straining to be pleasured.  

With tenderness and equal measure of lust, I turned and took John in my mouth, holding his cock by the base and combining my mouth with my fingers as I worked him in and out of my salivating mouth. His cock was hot on my tongue and on every downward stroke, my teeth tugged gently on his foreskin, drawing it back across his taut-skinned glans so it could nudge the back of my throat. I was giving him the best head I know how and I became one with his cock, sensing every change in his response to my touch.  

As I lost myself in adoring his manhood, John gently lifted my leg over his head so I straddled him in a sixty-nine position. I could feel his hot breath on my pussy and he just stayed there for several minutes breathing on me, inhaling the smell of my pussy. Knowing it was Rob’s fresh load he was inspecting made me tingle all over with expectation that he would soon be unknowingly be drinking my husband’s come.  

When the moment came and his mouth encircled my puffy used vulva, I cried out with the exquisite intensity of the feeling, my innards in knots as an orgasm started to rise. Tears of pure sexual joy rolled from my eyes and I was completely connected to John, sobbing as I came. I could feel my inner contractions and I am sure that pushed Rob’s come from my pussy. John responded by running his tongue from my clit up to my open hole and drinking down my husband’s mess. Nothing had prepared me for this intensity and I sobbed and came continuously, unable to control my emotions.  

Soon, I could sense John’s cock tightening and his balls were contracting up in preparation for his come. His breathing into my pussy was in short hot gasps and his concentration was slipping. I pulled his foreskin right down from his sensitive tip and worked it with my tongue and teeth, lightly scraping them over its dome. Beneath me, John’s muscles contracted and his balls began to clamp into a tight ball in my hand, my fingernails scraping his soft scrotum. His mouth left my pussy and he let out a yelp of exquisite pain as his cock disgorged, pumping with such intense squirts, that I didn’t even need to swallow for his come to flood down my throat. John’s come spasms went on for ages and I luxuriated in several mouthfuls of his sweet come, some of which I held in my mouth to savor its taste and because I knew it would excite him if I swallowed slowly and cleaned his cock down to the last drop.  

Once I was sure that John was empty, I spent another few minutes kissing my lover’s cock and all around it until his size had diminished and his cockhead had disappeared back into its cute little cover.  

Turning round, I lay back in John’s arms and we kissed gently and tenderly. In my mouth were the remnants of two beautiful men’s come and at that moment I was sexually and emotionally complete. I don’t know if I will ever feel so fulfilled again, either as a woman, lover or wife.  

“You’re amazing Jillian”, whispered John between our kisses, “I’ve never enjoyed a woman as much as you. You are so beautiful and sexy. Thank you for coming back to me tonight”.  

“Thank you for cleaning my pussy so nicely”, I said, smiling inside as I reveled in the furtive thrill that he had consumed all of my husband’s come.  

“I loved the way you cleaned my cock after I came”, added John.  

“Well since we are both so clean and beautiful”, I said, looking lovingly into John’s eyes, “do you think it would be a problem if we got dirty again?”  

“I’m amazed to say, I think that is going to happen very soon”, said John, a naughty twinkle in his eyes. “There is something about you Jillian which is more sexy than I can even describe”.  

“I have no idea why”, I said, putting on my best innocent girl pout and dipping my head like a naughty child. “I don’t know what has gotten into me tonight - I’ve never behaved like this before!” OH JOHN, if only you knew!  

We kissed and talked and giggled like teenagers for a while and I got John to set the alarm for early, because I said I had to clean up from the conference. When we realized that only left a few hours together, the intensity of our kissing increased and eventually we were ready to make love for earnest.  

This time, I lay John down on his back, clicked out the bedside light and in the grey half light, slowly slid my pussy down onto his gorgeous cock, pressing my breasts on his warm chest and wrapping my arms around his neck. In this sweet embrace we rocked for what must have been hours. I was constantly teetering on the edge of an orgasm and occasionally let myself fall over the precipice, our mouths nibbling, our breaths entwined.  

“Tonight John, for just one night, I love you!” I confessed, consumed by these amazing feelings. I was crying just a little when I added. “This can only be one night my darling. I’m sorry. I can’t see you again. This is our special act of mischief. I will always remember loving you like this John”.  

“I love you tonight Jillian and always will in my memories. You are perfect and this is heavenly. Nothing can take this away from my heart now”.  

I could see the time on the bedside clock and realized we only had minutes left.  

“Can you come in me again, my lover?” I asked.  

“Yes”.  

I lifted myself up and ground my sensitive mound on John’s cock, rocking back so his base drew hard across my pussy bone. Inside me I could drive his cock into the sensitive g-spot of my box. I could feel him building again with me.  

“Come in me John. I want your come deep inside me!”  

This time, I could tell he had less come but my orgasm was just as intense as we reached our finale together screaming out our moment of joy.  

“I love you, I love you, I love you,” we both repeated over and over as the waves washed over us. And in that moment I did love him.  

We lay there in silent embrace for no more than a few minutes before the alarm brought us crashing down to reality and suddenly I was myself again.  

We kissed and touched and looked into each other’s eyes but my thoughts were now back with Rob. Sweet Rob, who had given me a night almost no woman could imagine possible. Now I just wanted to hurry back to him to say “thank you”.  

John’s plane was leaving early, so I knew I was safe and would not see him again this morning. As I slipped on my dress he begged me for my number although I knew he could find me through my work if he really wanted to.  

“Let’s not spoil this John. No numbers. No calling. No regrets. This was the first time for me being unfaithful and I cannot imagine it ever happening again, (that wasn’t quite true!). Go home to your wife and make love to her as beautifully as you did to me. I have a wonderful husband who wants me home too”.  

“You’re right, Jillian”. And with a simple kiss I let myself out of his room and headed back to my room. It was five fifteen.  

An early departing conference delegate looked at my disheveled state as I joined him for only two floors in the elevator. I am sure I reeked of sex but I just didn’t care.  

I couldn’t help laughing out loud as I covered the last few steps to my room.  

Rob greeted me at the door, naked with a hard cock. Happy as I was to see him, I was satiated and exhausted.  

“It was wonderful darling. Thank you for letting me go to John”, I said as he covered my face with kisses, “can I just sleep for two hours and then you can wake me up with kisses and I will tell you all about it?”  

“How about I put you to sleep with kisses between your legs? Otherwise you might leak all over the sheets”.  

I loved Rob so much. He was just like a naughty little boy at that moment. I melted and couldn’t resist his offer.  

Lying naked in bed, I lay on my back as Rob slowly lapped John’s last load of come from my now weary pussy. I did come again - not with the same ferocity as the night before. After that I must have blacked out.  

The next thing I knew was Rob gently kissing my face and neck to wake me. In my half consciousness I was in an erotic dream, raised on an upholstered table, like a whore-offering as several naked men surrounded me kissing and licking my body, running their hands into every crevice at will. Rob’s hands were gently stoking me and as I slowly woke to reality. I promised myself I would revisit that dream one day as a fantasy to describe to Rob!  

Needless to say, the whole experience has changed our lives and we now have plans to repeat the experience whenever the opportunity arises. That could be as early as next week, when I have another conference.  

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This just made me CUM into my hand which I licked up as I imagined it was my wife in the story.

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Sara becomes a hotwife

The center bar in the restaurant was about half capacity. There were a few tables available but we prefer to sit at the bar for more interesting people watching and faster service. I sipped my margarita while holding onto Bert’s freshly sprouted hardon. His cock, stiff in my hand, was an unexpected event. As we sat at the bar a couple facing us on the other side got up to leave, and the man waved bye at me so I flipped him a quick wave and gracious smile. Bert asked if I knew them and I replied I knew him but not her. He asked if that was a co worker. I had to smile and be honest in saying, no, I but I did suck his cock once.  

Bert’s eyes about bugged out and simultaneously spewed his beer, then his head snapped to the left to look at me. He wiped the beer from his smiling but shocked face, as this may have been slightly out of character on my behalf. “Oh, wow, Sara, so you blew him” he said. I replied yes I had gone down on him at a party back when I was single. We continued eating our meal until Bert, my husband, eventually asked if I had swallowed the mans cum. I told him yes, of course. He then asked if the guy had came a lot. I told Bert yes, he shot sizable load if recalled correctly. He then asked if the guy had a big cock. I found his curiosity a tad out of character as well, but I did not mind answering his questions as it seemed fun curiosity. I told Bert yes, the guy, David, was blessed with about seven inches and I remembered it being very hard. I watched my husband re arrange his cock through his pants. “Bert, are you getting a boner” I laughed and placed my hand in his lap to find he indeed had a full boner right there at the bar.  

“Oh, so you are one of those, guys huh, I did not know that about you” I laughed a small chuckle. He asked me what kind of guy was that. I told him, obviously, one of the guys that get turned on thinking about their wives doing dirty girl things with other men. Bert said he didn’t know if he was one of those guys or not,  but he certainly just grew a steel hard erection. He said he knew I’d had sex with other men before we got married, but he’d never really thought of it until I just told him about sucking off the man that sat across from us for twenty minutes. He said “Hell Sara, I even nodded at the lucky bastard, lol. Well, at least I know I can be proud you did a good job, because your awesome at it”.  I thanked Bert for his compliment. He followed up by asking if David’s cock or balls were shaved, did he fuck my mouth or just let me do all the work, I answered all his questions honestly and factually, all the while his cock throbbing in my hand.  

Armed with this new revelation about my husbands curiosity I decided to try something new at bedtime that night. Bert and I sleep naked, so when I crawled into bed with him and snuggled close to make skin on skin contact, I made sure my lips were near his ear. “Did I shock you tonight” I asked softly into Bert’s ear. He laughed and said I sure did. “You asked a lot of questions during dinner” I added, nibbling his ear lobe. Bert said yes, it was sort of weird yet erotic at the same time.   “I met David at a party and we talked a while. We seemed to have some sexual attraction as well, so when he stepped out into the garden area. I followed him. I was sitting on a bench in a darkened section of the lawn when he noticed me and approached. He started to make more small talk but I simply reached out and took his cock in my hand. He looked around and made sure no one was looking then moved closer to me, cupping my left breast in his hand. I could feel his dick quickly stiffen in his tailored slacks. I could tell he wore boxers because his cock was free to move with my hand as I stroked his growing manhood.  He was fully hard in just seconds and I simply wanted to suck his thick cock. As I unzipped his pants he again checked for privacy. I remember reaching into his slacks and grasping his warm handful of cock, the air was cool and is dick was so warm, so hard. I fished his dick out and looked up at him as I took it’s thick head into my lips”. As I described the interlude to my husband, I reached out to find his cock, and it was hard as I’d ever felt it, swollen and throbbing in my grasp. “My oh my, I think someone is getting turned on” I teased. “Damn Sara, it is quite hard isn’t it baby” he said. “I think someone likes my naughty story, well according to this” I squeezed his dick with a firm grasp. “Who are you” he asked pushing my hair back so he could see me. “Just a woman who likes her man turned on, and clearly you are”.  

I then rolled over and got between Bert’s legs and held his stiff cock up. He looked down at me and I licked his cock from balls to head as we looked into each others eyes. “David’s cock was hard, like yours is now” I said then ran my tongue along the sensitive area just below the head of his dick. He throbbed a nice pulse in my grasp. “He liked it when I slowly sucked his dick fully into my mouth like this” then showed Bert how I ever so slowly worked my lips and tongue over David’s cock until I’d inched him fully into my throat. “He had to of loved that” Bert moaned. “He did” I replied. I pumped Bert’s fine erection with my fist and licked his cocks head in a circular motion. “David’s cock was so hard in my mouth. I stroked his thick meat with my hand, like this,, while sucking his dick’s head and letting him slip his hand into my blouse”, I continued my story, doing everything to Bert’s cock that I told him I did to David’s. My little test was passed as positive, my husband got hard from my being bad. Bert was getting close to cumming, I know his cock well and knew his orgasm was very close. His cock was fully in my mouth and his breathing was rapid when Bert asked “Did David’s cum taste good”.  

I spit Bert’s cock out just long enough to tease him with more details about David, it was obvious fuel to his desires. “Yes, he got so hard in my mouth and gripped my breast a little firmer, he liked my tits. I knew he was about to cum even before he told me how good my mouth felt, then all too soon David said “oh fuck, I’m about to cum”. I stroked his fat cock with my hand,, like this, and sucked him with a slow soft action. Then I took all of him into my mouth and he grunted out loud and I felt his dick swell a bit, then strongly pulse as he shot his tasty hot load of cum to the back of my throat” I described how it went, then did the exact same thing to my husband’s cock. Bert moaned and jerked as he erupted hard, blasting a huge load out with force to the back of my mouth. He spasm and quivered as he came and I knew it was a powerful one by the way his body was violently taken over.  I kept him in my mouth as he softened and his entire body relaxed into post orgasmic contentment. I felt proud of my skills. I just got my man up hard and fast and satisfied him physically and mentally. “Damn” Bert exclaimed, “That was one intense blow job, Sara”.  

Over the next few weeks I described several encounters I had sucking off the occasional man. There were not that many really but I gave Bert an honest account for each one, all the dirty details and each time more elaborate and detailed. The more information he got the harder he got. If I felt horny, all I had to do is say, you know that reminds of the time I sucked off this one guy, and Bert would soon be sporting a good hardon for me.  

Bert sat in his easy chair while I knelt between his knees, his very active cock of the last couple of weeks stuffed inside my mouth, he looked down watching intently as my lips slowly worked his stiffness from head to base. “God you got skills” he complimented. “I hope we run into someone you blew so they know I’m getting the most awesome bj’s on earth. I love watching you suck cock”. I smiled up a him and flicked his cocks head with the tip of my tongue and said baby I hate to correct your English, but more accurately you mean watch me suck Your cock. I tongued the sensitive spot just under the head of his dick adding “you haven’t watched me suck A cock, but it would look similar to this”, taking his dick fully into my mouth then backing off enough to grip his meat in my fist and pump the hard shaft as I sucked the head.  

“Damn that is hot. Well then Sara, I stand corrected, I’d love to watch you suck a cock” he said, still staring at me working his shaft with slow precision. I crawled into his recliner with him and settled my pussy over his dick. I was wet and his cock slid in easily. My hips slowly rocked back and forth fucking him with slow smooth strokes.  

“Want to watch me suck a cock, eh baby. Suck another man’s dick until he cums in my mouth, right in front you” I teased. He took my ass in his grip and lengthened the strokes inside my snug pussy. “I’d love that. Love watching you suck another man’s cock” he answered. “Do it, I said, find a man you’d like to see me blow, and I will look you right in the eye as I swallow his cum, just because I know you’d like it” I told my husband.  

My sentence was no more in the air when he moaned “oh shit” and thrust his hips up into me a few hard pumps then flooded my pussy with his welcome load. I stayed on him, feeling his cock shrink inside me, his cum draining from my hole and coating his spent junk. “I can’t wait to see you in action” he said. Bert held onto me and lowered me to the floor. His mouth found my clit and he began to tongue beat me with a hard fast flicking action. It took me less than a minute to be pulling him harder into my sperm filled slit and cum with a violent shutter. Bert rolled onto his back on the carpet and sighed, “I’m a pervert, aren’t I”. I said no, your just a man following his cock, like most men. And as always, I have your back.  

At forty two I’m not bad, if I may say so myself. I am five foot five, thin with a descent handful of breast that still stand on their own, tipped with petite pink nipples which l love sucked and lightly pinched. My ass is, according to Bert to die for. My short light brown hair is crisp and bouncy and when I dress down and dirty the men still stare that look that says you are indeed a piece of meat. Occasionally I enjoy being looked at with nothing but sexual desire. So when Bert and I went out on our weekly dinner night out at the bar and he asked if I would wear my little red dress, I was confident he’d be proud of me on his arm. The red dress is Bert’s favorite. It clings to me in all the right places, compliments my ass with minimal coverage, showing off maximum leg, and braless it shows off my natural form and you do not need imagination to find my nipples.  

Dinner at the bar was nice. We had a few drinks and feeling no pain by the time we left for home. Bert complimented me several times at the bar and on the way home saying how sexy I was in the red dress. When we pulled into the drive a black sedan was parked in our drive. “We seem to have company” I said as we came to a halt. We got out of the car and as we approached the sedan the drivers door opened up and out stepped David.  

I looked at my husband and smiled asking “Bert, are you being evil”.  He said he was hoping I’d be evil. I greeted David with a short hug saying what a surprise it was to see him. We did some small talk as we entered the house but I was a tad nervous in knowing exactly what I’d soon be doing. There could only be one reason, of all people, David was walking into my home.  

It turns out that Bert went to the the bar with a co worker for a beer and noticed David sitting alone at the bar as well. Bert approached him after a while and during their conversation, Bert told him he know what Id done to him and he found it arousing knowing I’d sucked his cock, at which point David said how good it was and would love to do it again. So Bert asked him over tonight, and I had no doubt why.  

I served us a glass of red wine and we small talked a few minutes, I could feel my juices flowing. I was getting aroused in knowing I’d soon have another man’s cock in my mouth as my husband watched. My oral skills had already become a topic between two men agreeing on my technique and ability. “So how do we start” I asked. David suggested since he was positive he’d be enjoying my skills, and since Bert wanted to watch, perhaps he could direct how it would go down. We laughed at his choice of words. Bert was good with that and suggested “how about him laying back in our bed, everyone just relaxed and comfortable”.  

David and I said sure, sounds okay and within minutes I was at the foot of my queen sized bed unfastening David’s slacks while my husband sat on the foot of the bed watching. I looked at Bert as David’s pants fell around his ankles, his nice sized already hard cock springing forth as he stepped free. He seemed bigger than I remembered, but I did not forget how hard his dick was. “Wow, he’s big. I thought you said seven inches baby” Bert said. “Eight and a half” David said peeling off his shirt, now standing naked in front of me. I again looked at my husband as I took David’s thick cock into my hand and guided it onto my mouth. David moaned out loud as I sought the base of his shaft, working my tongue firm but gently against the sensitive underside. After taking him fully into my mouth for a moment. Giving him a taste of what was in store for him. I stood up to allow him to take his position in the bed. “Did you like that” I asked Bert. “That was awesome” he replied. “No wonder you are proud of her skills Bert, damn she is good” David commented. As I turned my back to David, bending to kiss my husbands lips. David stepped in behind me, his hands on the hem of my red dress and began lifting it up and over my ass. His efforts were welcomed by my husbands hands finding my dresses hem at my waist, then tugging it over my head. I stood up, a tad shocked at how quickly I’d been undressed, and did not realize my nakedness was a part of my husband watching me blow our new friend.  My red bra and matching thong left little to imagination, and they looked at me with obvious want.  

I stood facing my husband as David pressed his cock against my ass cheeks, reaching around my body and taking both breast into his hands, inches in front of Bert’s eyes. “May as well be comfortable” Bert said, as he took my thong in hooked thumbs to drag them slowly to the floor. David’s hands fished under my bra and took my naked breast into his grasp for a few seconds before finally undoing the strap, allowing it to fall into the cloths pile at the foot of the bed. David had not seen me naked, but commented as he crawled into the bed, laying back onto my pillow. “Damn, you are beautiful”. Bert said how proud of my body he was and loved showing me off.  

I bent over and kissed Bert on the lips and without breaking away said “I think he’s ready”.  Bert’s hand ran across my ass cheek, trailing it down to find my shaved wetness. His finger sank into me from behind and was drowned in pool of readiness. “Ho, baby, fuck you are so wet and hot down there” he softly spoke with a sense of strong passion. “Your right, his cock looks very hard, he want’s you, again” Bert said. With that I crept in between David’s legs and held his stone hard cock straight up. Bert moved up to head of he bed for optimum viewing. I took a second to look into my husbands eyes as I took all of another man’s cock fully into my mouth, feeling it pulse strongly as my lips touched base. It was effective in making both men moan.  

David reached out and took a breast into his hand as I delivered my best skills to his cock, making sure my husband would never forget the sight. “Damn, Bert, holy shit you get this all time, you lucky bastard” he spoke with envy. “I know, she’s awesome,  but I get a lot more that that” Bert replied. Instantly I felt David’s cock throb in my mouth, pulse with desire and I loved how hard his sizable cock tasted. I was getting turned on performing this lewd act in front of my husband and could not wait to get his dick inside me. I knew he’d be insatiable for his “dirty girl” tonight.  

I took David’s heavy balls into my hand and stroked his cock with the other, looking at my husband as I slow jacked David’s hardon with full length slow fist pumps. “Damn, that’s hot baby” Bert said. Bert got off the bed and began to undress. He was stone hard and excited as he got back into the bed. He took his shaft into his grasp and masturbated while I ate David’s cock like candy. “Holy shit, wow, damn girl you are a natural born cock sucker” David moaned out. “Skills mostly” I said, adding a tease line for my husband, “I’ve sucked a lot cock”. “Well thank god for that” David said while laying a hand on the back of my head, “because you learned some awesome skills”.  

“Oh she’s been fucked too” Bert added. “Oh really” David moaned, the began to face fuck me slowly and I let him pump his meaty cock in and out of my mouth. I looked up and Bert was tugging on his very hard cock, staring at another man’s cock slipping back and forth between my lips. “You like me fucked, don’t you baby” I asked my husband.  “Yea,, I like you fucked, baby” Bert replied. I raised up slightly, fisting David’s cock with a steady pump and checked Bert’s eyes for more information, the answer was in there. “You want this cock in me don’t you baby, you want to see David’s long fat cock in my pussy don’t you” I asked, knowing his answer already. “Hell yes I do Sara,  fuck it, fuck that cock, baby” he panted. David was quick to say “I want to fuck your wife, Bert, I want to see how she feels inside”.  

They wanted it, and so did I, so I straddled David and felt his thick hot meat, wet with my slobber, lay the length of my slit, balls meeting my ass, shaft pressing against my clit. I felt the pulse of his urges run the length of my slit, it’s desire to penetrate me. I pumped my hips back and forth a few times, leaving his rod wet with my juices. I leaned back and Bert stared at the head of David’s cock peeking out between the spread lips of my pussy as I scooted back and forth along this mans dick. I was gladly about to become a hotwife. Raising up on one knee I hovered over David’s eight and a half inch man beast, then found my husbands eyes fixated on my outer lips spreading wide over the thick head of another man’s cock,  and it felt good. I was so wet and ready for sex. Once the head of David’s cock had inched past my wet outer muscles, I looked at David and lowered my body fully onto his cock. His eyes closed and his expression said a book of information, every word bliss.  

David immediately began to thrust into me, pistoning his cock in and out like sewing machine, he fucked me. I knew I’d leave my own cum on this man’s cock. Bert could not take it anymore and I gladly accepted his dick into my mouth while David fucked me. David sucked my left nipple into his lips and I was in system overload, with a cock in my mouth, a cock in my wet cunt, and hands all over me, on my ass, my breast, back. Bert slow fucking my mouth while I rode David for all I was worth. I could hear my pussy juices making noise as I was being slam fucked from beneath and knew my orgasm was approaching  

I was close. David knew how to fuck a woman and I was glad I’d sucked his cock a few years ago now. “Son of a bitch you have a snug wet pussy” David gasped. “Oh she can fuck” Bert stammered. “No shit she can” David agreed. His cock filled me slightly more than my husbands, just enough to know I had a strange dick in me, and I was going to cum on it. I spit Bert’s cock out and pulled his face to me and began kissing him hard while David slammed his meat into me like I was a paid whore. I was close, I remember biting onto my husband’s ear while saying “I’m going to cum on him. David’s cock feels so good inside me, filling me up, so hard,,, he’s fucking me so good baby,,I’m going to leave my cum on his fat cock”.    

My husband said “Do it baby, make me proud, cum on that cock” urging me on. David was likewise getting close to his own orgasm as he’d announced, “Damn, I can’t hold out much longer,, she’s too damn tight and wet, fucking hell she feels so damn good on my cock”.  

My orgasm started,, the tingling, the pulse of  juices now flowing onto this strangers wonderful cock. My fuckers spoken words pushing my own orgasm closer, “Shit, I’m going to cum,,,, where do you want it” David called out. Bert looked at me, his answer was in his excited eyes and in his dick as he jerked off at a rabid pace. I answered for my husband, “Cum inside me, fill my pussy with your cum” I snapped out just as my orgasm started to take over, melting me from the inside out. “Awww Fuck, I’m cumming, I’m fucking  cumming inside you’ David moaned out and suddenly I felt his hot sperm blast deep inside me, meeting my own juices head on as I climaxed on another man’s cock. My shutter and spasm had removed me from the universe all but the faint sound of Bert’s grunt, followed by his cum splattering against my face and breast. I had the sense of mind to lean back, still quivering in orgasmic shutters and grinding my flooding cunt against David, to allow my husband shoot his load all over my flesh. I instinctively rubbed my husbands cum across my breast and body as David’s cock relaxed inside me.  

Panting, gasping for air, and cum soaked, I rolled off top David. Bert eased his softening dick into my mouth and I sucked the last few drips from his shrinking hardon.  “Holy shit, that was awesome” David gasped. “Man you must be proud of her, lord she can work a cock” he added.  

We did not waste much time in getting our wits about us and saying goodbye to our guest. Bert and I now needed some “us” time. We managed to crawl into bed and snuggle up together and pause the day. After a short while I finally spoke, “Guess I’m a hotwife now” I said to Bert. “You were hot tonight that’s for damn sure” he laughed. “It was really supposed of been just a BJ, but things just seemed to go in another direction” he said. “Did you like the direction it took” I asked him. Bert eased his newly awakening hardon into my hand. “What do you think” he laughed. I squeezed his awakening meat with a firm grip and told my husband, “I afraid I’m going to be in another three way real soon”.  

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30 Days to Female Dominance.

Female Dominance in 30 days.

Let’s face it.  You need this.  Dominant women get what they want, and people get out of the way of them when they go after it.  Either that, or they help them achieve it.  Dominance is a beautiful word, and you are a beautiful dominant inner goddess waiting to be released.

In the past, you let people walk all over you, including your husband.  You let friends, family, and others take advantage of your good nature.

In this article, we are going to teach you how to become a powerful, assertive, dominant woman that gets what she wants, when and how she wants its.

Sounds good right?

You bet it is.

However, this isn’t going to happen by reading this article once.

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You have years of patterns, behaviours, and reactions that all have formed part of you.

In this training session, we are going to unravel the pieces that do not work for you, and replace them with a strong, dominant woman who gets what she wants….

So listen to me very carefully right now.  This is an absolute must.  If you are going to learn how to become dominant, one of your first lessons is that you must learn self discipline.

The first discipline that is imperative for you to follow, is that you need to read this article every day for the next 30 days.

You have taken decades of your life to get to where you are right now and I am not about to be able to change you in 1 day.  However, if you give me 30 days in a row WITHOUT MISSING 1 DAY of reading this, you will change dramatically.  You can expect to find:

New found confidence and self discipline.

A 100% compliant obedient husband.

An incredible feeling of self worth and peace.

So let’s get started.

The dominant nature inside of you has always been there.  Every woman has it.  Few tap into it.

You and you alone are responsible for the way people treat you.  So, you will be re-training the people in your life to make sure that you are treated as the dominant goddess you are.

If you are to train people on how to treat you, it is not their say in what you do to train them.  It is yours, and yours alone.

Here are some proven methods to train your man so that he is 100% compliant and obedient to your will.  Always start with your man in training, because when you train him, others will follow.  To be dominant, one just needs to break another dominant person to their will, and everything else just starts to fall in place.

Pull your man aside at your earliest convenience, and have this discussion with him.

Let him know that for the next 30 days you will be training to be a dominant woman, and that his assistance in this is absolutely vital for your success.

You will require a few things of him.

Here is a list of things that you will require of him.

For the next 30 days while you are training, your husband is not allowed to cum.  There are no exceptions, and no feeling sorry for him, no matter how much he begs or pleads. NO orgasms for your man.  Period.

He is to do everything he is asked without hesitation, questions, or talking back on all matters inside and out of the bedroom.  Failure to comply will result in an extreme spanking.

He is to wear a chastity device of some kind for the full 30 days.  It will be taken off only for tease and deny sessions or penetrating sex, without any release for him.

Let him know too, that at the end of your dominance training for you to be a successful dominant, that you will require him to eat his own cum.  You will require him to shoot his load on you, and lick it off your body, and then profess to you that he surrenders his will, decisions, cock, mind, body and soul to you as his loving dominant wife.

These are your requirements for him.

Here is what you need to do over the course of these next 30 days.

1. Read this article everyday.

2.  Make him do things that he does not like to do in and out of the bedroom to push his understanding of what true submission is.

3.  Cum as often as you can by his hands, mouth, tongue, or toys.

As you start to do these things on a daily basis, your dominance will grow.

This is a REAL BOOTCAMP for your man, and it should not be pleasant for him, except for the new bedroom games you will be playing with him this month.

Aside from him doing ALL AND ANYTHING you ask for this entire month in the way of chores, in the bedroom, he will do anything you ask.  This is your chance to learn what true domination is.  This is how you awaken your desires, and unleash your inner goddess.

Your man has become your complete boy toy, with no restrictions on how you use him.

To complete training in the next 30 days, the end goal of this 30 days is to make your man eat his own cum.

Most men will gag, or hate the thought of eating their own cum, and your husband is likely no exception.  At the end of the 30 days, you are going to make him lick up every drop of his massive load off of your body, and profess to you, that he is yours eternally as your slave in and out of the bedroom.

He will do this out of sheer lust of not cumming for 30 days, and the training you will be doing all month long.

Each day, you will make him need to cum even more with teasing.  You will hint to him at times when he is very close to cuming, and desperate to cum, that the time is not right now.  Let him know that when the 30 days is up, he will be allowed to cum, but only if he eats his cum off of your body.  Constantly bring this up over the next 30 days.  You are planting suggestions in his head, so he will be able to follow through with what you ask.

Trust me when I say, that if you have him locked up for 30 days, he will do anything you want for him to cum, so this is what you want him to do.  The reasons you want him to do this, is so that you truly do dominate him.  It is all pretend until you make him do things he simply does not want to do under any circumstances.  Well, you are bending the circumstances so that YOU can make him do anything.  That is the purpose of domination.

IN this 30 days you will also fuck him regularly in the ass with a strap on, when you please.  If he protests, or is not in the mood, all the better.  This is when you do it the most.  Fuck him hard, and long until he begs for you to stop, and then a little longer after that.

This is an important part of submission training.  Each time you fuck him in the ass, he will feel humility, submission, and it works great coupled with orgasm denial to make him listen and respond to anything you say.

Make him do very degrading things during the month.

Here are some suggestions.

He should have a buttplug in as often as possible.  In fact, the only time he should have it out is when you are fucking his ass.  Somewhere in between always plugged and

sometimes plugged is likely the right place to be.  I am just a more dominant woman, and believe that my man should be plugged virtually 24/7.  It serves as a reminder to him that I am his boss.  If you try this, have 0 compassion when he begs you to take it out.  Say no.  Eventually, he will get used to it.  Use a metal one.  They are better for longterm use.

You should always make him get on his knees and suck your strap on for lube before you fuck him.

He will hate this, and you will feel very powerful with his inability to argue with you, or protest.

If he does, of course you know what happens.  He gets spanked extremely hard.

When he is in the kneeling position, and you enter your strap on into his mouth, grab the back of his head and slowly start fucking his face.  Think of the times when you were doing this for him.   Realize now, that you want him to feel true submission.

Start fucking his face hard. Make him gag on it.  Plug his nose with one hand, and fuck hard with your body and watch him gag.  This is great humility training.  It should be your goal to do this EVERYTIME you put on the strap on.  It goes hand in hand.  You need lube, and he is to provide it.

If all this humiliation becomes too much for him, and he wants to quit.  PERFECT.  You are doing a great job. If he doesn’t protest, find more humiliating things for him to do.  You are not doing your job right, if you he doesn’t want to quit at some point.  When he does  you tell him, that if he fails to do what you ask, that you will forget about all this femdom stuff, and he is to never bring it up again.

The part that most women do not understand in female dominance when they first get started, is that it is as real as you want to make it.  If you are just indulging in your husbands fantasies, and not really taking control by pushing your man into doing uncomfortable things, then you are really again, just being controlled by him.

In order for female dominance to become real, you must make it real, by forcing him to do things that he does not want to do.  You will either be done with all of this, or you will have the breakthrough, where you truly have brought your man to his knees in full servitude to you for the rest of your life.

Consider it like breaking a horse in.  Or training a dog.  Men are no different.  They can be trained to submit to your will on all matters but you do have to “break him in”.

What sounds better to you?

Indulging your mans fantasies….. or taking control of your man, your life, and your reality.

I know what I choose.  Join me, and make your man your bitch.

Take him, break him, mold him, and have a relationship with him, that few ever get to experience.

A relationship that puts you on a pedestal, with him serving you as you wish.

A relationship, where chores are the mans job, (unless you want to help), orgasms are an obligation for the men to give, and a privilege for him to be granted rarely for exceptional servitude.

This is your world now.  You are dominant, and your man is your submissive.  He asked for this, but he didn’t realize what it meant.  Too bad.  Either you take him now, or your window of opportunity will pass you by.

Do you want to be the passive, obligatory, serving wife, indulging your man’s fantasies, or do you want to be the dominant goddess that has all of her own fantasies fulfilled.

Make your man your bitch.  That is the secret to life for all womankind.

Now, that this article is almost over, you want to remember everything that we have discussed here.

You are now the dominant goddess of the house.

What you say goes, is what goes.

There are no exceptions.  What you want is what you get.

Be disciplined with yourself, and do not do things that contradict your dominance.

Your temple is your body and mind.  You and you alone can take your body and mind to places it has never been without the aid of alcohol or drugs.

Dominant women get a buzz off of dominating their men.  This is a high for you. You are now addicted to dominating your man.  You control him in every facet of your life and are free to explore boundaries limited only by consent, in which you can bend and manipulate to your favour.

Now, be a sweetheart, or a good sissy, and share this with as many women as you can.  The world needs more of us sweetie.  Help the cause.

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Orgasm Control: A List of Benefits

I get a lot of questions about the benefits for me and for my husband about the benefits of structured orgasm control as part of addressing the issue of “mismatched libidos” in heterosexual relationships. For many people, as soon as they make a start on this journey, a range of benefits become clear pretty quickly. So, in this case, I believe the requests for providing a list benefits are for people who are still in the process of deciding if this approach is for them.

The short answer is - yes, your life (and sex life) will change for the better. Give it a try.

The second short answer - yes, use a chastity cage. While it is possible to practise orgasm control without one, the benefits for you, but especially for him, of using a chastity cage are exponential. Perhaps the list of benefits below will elucidate why:

Control vs Neglect

In most heterosexual, long-term relationships, women have a significantly lower sex drive than their male partners. Men have less sex than they would ideally like. In this sense, marriage means that females control the allocation of sex. Already. However, without a deliberate structure and communication around the element of this control, the mismatched libido is interpreted by the male as ‘neglect’ or the feeling of not being desired. This can drive the male to pornography, masturbation or ‘nagging for sex’, which puts unwanted pressure on you, and is a serious turn-off.

When orgasm control is discussed and structured as part of the couple’s sexual dynamic, the male’s perception moves from being ‘neglected’ to ‘controlled’. The latter is highly arousing, and the sexual dynamics flips on its head. By controlling his sexual release, you as a couple are indicating that it has a ‘value’ far greater than when he is simply free to masturbate at will. His greatest physical reward, and the oxytocin, bonding, dopamine rush that follows becomes linked to you, not to Pornhub.

More Sex, More Orgasms (For YOU)

Orgasm control is about controlling the MALE orgasm, not yours. The worst thing you can do is be sexually inactive between release windows. Rather just call the whole thing off now - it will not work.

Rather, you can and should have frequent orgasms - and he will love giving them to you. My partner and I have sex frequently outside of his release window. I unlock him and we have standard sex - the only difference is that he is not allowed to cum. He goes slower, uses toys, users his hands and tongue - whatever he needs to do to follow the rules - and I can deliciously and *selfishly* enjoy it. Once we're done, he is locked back up until next time.

This is what he expects and desires - don't feel bad for one second. Stop thinking in the old school "Sex is about the male being satisfied" mindset. It is mindblowing for him in every way - both mentally and physically.

Reigniting the Desire

As has been said on this blog before, males are programmed to ‘move on’ emotionally after ejaculating. Orgasm leads to a spike in prolactin which is a ‘shut off valve’ for intimacy and sexual desire. Frequent masturbation is therefore a total intimacy killer. Controlling the male orgasm leads to increases in oxytocin focused on you as his key objects of desire. He is heavily sexually aroused and his desire for you will skyrocket. Now, he is fully aware that he can’t do anything about it until his scheduled release, so it translates as increased intimacy, and increased energy for other things.

No Pressure for Sex

Modern marriages are defined by women ‘feeling bad’ every time they are not up for sex. The perception of old-world society is that it is the women’s duty to provide sex whenever the male desires. With chastity and orgasm control, this is completely reversed. Sex is not the goal, and the ongoing sexual rush of the denial is what the male will savor the most.

We have PIV (penis in vagina) sex frequently. Most often this is outside of his release window, so he knows that he is not allowed to orgasm, and after I am finished, he is re-locked. It's a mind-screw and a challenge for him, but he absolutely LOVES it!

Chastity is Effortless

With him in chastity, I can do all of this without really having to do much. A bit of attention here and there, a bit of teasing and he is at a constant, positive simmer. It is about communication, structure and commitment.

Release Days are Effortless

When I do allow him an orgasm, this too can be as effortless as you could possibly imagine. On release days, his excitement is so high that bringing him to climax can take as little as a few seconds. This is about “release” - after weeks locked up he will not be able to last very long. Sometimes he will cum just by taking the cage off... In which case, job done 😂.

I usually start by having him bring me to orgasm as usual - with his tongue, hands or a toy. Now it's his turn (for once!).

First decision - do you want him to have his release while in the cage or unlocked?

Caged: it's about balls and nipples. I recommend one hand plays with his nips while the other pulls, squeezes and strokes his balls. Then begin tapping his balls at a regular rhythm, building intensity slowly. Tell him he has permission to cum... Keep tapping and in a few minutes he will come to the edge. He is to ask permission one more time before he about to cum. As he is coming, tap / slap harder until he is finished.

Unlocked: Take off the cage, grip his balls tightly and pull them away from his body, back and forth. Try to touch his nub as little as possible. At most, use a slow, infrequent stroke with a single finger from the base of his nub up the shaft to the tip. He must ask permission just as he is about to cum. At this point, tighten your grip and pull his balls away from his body and hold them there until he is finished.

Tip 1: If you do unlock him for release, always relock directly after he orgasms. This significantly reduces the "drop" he will experience after orgasm and will push him through the 2-3 grouchiness period much smoother. He loves it if I put the cage on him, but if you prefer he locks himself, straight after his release, firmly tell him that it's time to go back in the cage.

Tip 2: Feed it to him! Tell him to clean up with his tongue or at least lick it off your hand. Recycling is important 😂.

Cages Look Sexy

I think of chastity cages as jewellery which is very aesthetically pleasing. Unlocked penises flop about, lean to one side, grow and shrink unpredictably and are often pretty badly manicured. When locked in a cage, everything is so neat. Males will need to do a bit of gardening down there to make it as comfortable as possible. Everything is held in place. His nub is encased and immobilized. His balls are held tight and presented forward. He will want to wear tight underwear or swimwear for comfort purposes, which presents such a neat little package. Every time I see the cage I am reminded that he is doing this for me, and I get a little shiver down my spine. It just looks better, and I love it!

Arousal on Demand

Males think about sex all the time. The vast majority of sexual thoughts and corresponding erections go completely ignored. When locked in chastity, these sexual thoughts (and erections) are contained, and are linked to you as the keyholder. This is highly arousing for the male, and will feel like direct attention from you - even though you may not even be in the same postcode. The cage works for you full-time, and is there whenever the male is aroused. Extremely powerful!

Discipline

The chastity cage helps males to stick to the rules. Most males masturbate significantly more than you will ever imagine. For the vast majority, they will NEVER have gone 21 days or more without masturbating since they first discovered it in their teens. With a cage, masturbation is simply off the table. They must direct this energy elsewhere. Which leads to :

Weight Loss and Conditioning

All of this extra energy must go somewhere, and in most cases, this is directed to physical exercise and conditioning. Many women report that time in chastity has lead to significant weight loss and body sculpting in their males. Motivation and drive are seriously tangible chastity benefits that you will notice as little as 7 days in.

Service

Oxytocin is the courting hormone. Increases in this wonder drug caused by orgasm control will often lead to a far more focused, attentive and service-oriented mentality. Whether conscious on his part or not, I notice a happier, more helpful male, with a higher attention-to-detail and eagerness to please. Use this as you see fit!

A Better Sex Life

Most importantly, chastity and orgasm denial will improve your sex life. Sex does not equate to penetration anymore, although it certainly can if you wish. Unlock him at any point in the schedule for sex of you're keen for it - it's just that outside of the release window, he will have to find a way not to orgasm. You are the focus until his release date!

Most importantly, "sex" in long-term marriages is about sexual interaction - intimacy, honesty, communication and care. This is why you are doing this in the first place. Rewire your thinking as a couple, and become a highly engaged, balanced and aligned sexual partnership.

Conclusions

These are just some of the many benefits that are associated with the exciting journey of male orgasm control. Drop some more in the comments and I can add to this ever-growing list.

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Femdom experiences, ideas, and suggestions

I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.

Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.

Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!

I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.

DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION 

This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.

Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:

High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.

Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.

Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.

Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.

Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.

French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I’ll go into later.

Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.

Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you’ve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.

Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.

Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!

Women’s bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.

Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!

Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there’s some physical to it as well, but just being forced to “deal” with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:

Deepthroat training. Let’s eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he’s not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Don’t be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he’ll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don’t be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he’ll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn’t fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he’s going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he’s going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That’s OK. Don’t be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (“yeah, show me your tongue” “hands behind your back and open wide bitch” “give me that throat” “that’s a good little cocksucker”)

EDIT: I’ve received several questions about this point. I’ll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I’m not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it’s meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he’s on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don’t let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won’t get there without proper training.

Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn’t have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.

Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.

Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I’ve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,

Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I’ll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he’s completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.

Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I’ll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I’ll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)

Spitting. We’re getting a little more extreme here. Don’t be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he’s making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He’ll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you’re criticizing his performance to spit in his face.

Golden showers. We haven’t worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.

Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you’re worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.

You degrading him.

Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.

Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.

Combine insults. Example: “You’re a little limp dick cocksucker.” “You’re a little cum eating bitch, aren’t you?”

Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying “get on your knees and suck my dick”, say “Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.” Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, “Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.” Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say “get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit”.

Tell him what you’re going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you’re going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.

Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn’t licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.

Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.

Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn’t even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don’t believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.

Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn’t take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn’t get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn’t).

Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.

Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he’s never told anyone before. (He’ll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)

Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn’t involve violating other people boundaries.

Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn’t anyone around, I’ll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.

Wearing plugs or other toys in public.

And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do……

Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he’s eating it or its going on his face. I don’t care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn’t want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he’s absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:

Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.

Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn’t a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.

If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.

While he’s wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.

Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.

Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.

However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I’ll have him “play” with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.

EDIT: Ladies, he’s going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I’ll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If you’ve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He’ll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn’t feel it! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!

ADDED HUMILIATION BONUS!

For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini top….well that’s just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.

PAIN AND CONTROL

DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriend’s limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.

There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.

Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking his face or he’s licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”

Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while he’s giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.

Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.

Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Here’s a list of techniques I use.

Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.

Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.

Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)

Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.

Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.

Chemical Play. Ok, we’re getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people’s bodies react differently. Here’s a list of things we’ve tried.

Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I’ve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesn’t like that lol.

Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.

Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your man’s experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Let’s just say he didn’t have a great night.

Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.

Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don’t enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. I’m sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).

Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he’s told. This is where the “forced” aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he’s going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and there’s a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually he’ll do it. This is an area where we’ve both agreed that he doesn’t get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.

Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, that’s his job to do. If he doesn’t, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if he’s disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn’t work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can’t make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.

This doesn’t mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we’re playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he’s getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe I’ll kick his little blue balls afterwards while he’s still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.

FRUSTRATION/TEASING

This is really quite simple. When we’re playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he’s allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.

Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically “The Vice” (available at  www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I don’t want my man’s dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else’s) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days, but we’ve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.

There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:

Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasn’t been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he’ll get there. (Another great video opportunity)

Coin flip. If he’s been locked up for several days, I’ll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device. Then I’ll start stroking his dick until he’s very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he’s soft again. Better luck next time honey.

Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that’s the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.

Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I don’t take the cage off. For example, he doesn’t need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, I’ll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.

One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.

The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.

I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.

Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.

Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he can’t try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.

SERVICE

So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my man’s fetish, and that’s ok. I do love him, and I don’t have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I’m going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I’ll detail how that all works for us now.

Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that’s what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, that’s what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. That’s just how it goes. I typically don’t orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but I’ll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)

Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times I’ll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever I’m using, its important that I’m only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Don’t worry about whether or not he’s able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. He’ll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.

As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, we’ve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesn’t decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. That’s up to me now. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesn’t get to complain, and he doesn’t get to turn me down when I want it either.

The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.

But this isn’t limited to sexual service only.

Domestic Service. Basics. When we’re in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he’s ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I’ve told him to do while I relax. After he’s done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some “punishment” he wants.

This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know there’s a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.

Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples: 

Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.

Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. He’s also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. 

Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I’ll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It’s really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied. 

Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically he’s making out with my asshole. It’s a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

I’ve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now I’ll give an example on how I’ve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesn’t necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.

I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.

For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he’d been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, he’d never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasn’t clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.

I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.

I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.

Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I’d ever had and told him to “go clean my fucking bathroom”. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.

So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didn’t get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)

There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once you’re satisfied he’s learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isn’t “authentic” if you’re doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesn’t really matter to me. What matters is that we’re having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.

Amazing add from one or the subscribers! Thanks for that!

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[teased365]

A list of ideas and activities for dominant women to use on their submissive male partners… to tease, humiliate, discipline, punish, and torment him.

Ways to Tease Him

Tease Your slave to get him to the point where he’ll “Do Anything to please You”

Make him strip naked while You keep Your clothes on.

Have him kneel before You and kiss Your feet.

Have him address You as ‘Mistress’

Have him kiss Your ass…make him beg to kiss Your ass.

Tie his hands and have him undress You with his mouth/teeth.

Don’t let him masturbate or touch his cock without Your permission at any time.

Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of You while You read or watch TV, occasionally nudging his balls or penis with Your shoes.

Either order him to stay erect, or don’t give him permission to have a hard on… either way, punish him if he fails!

Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever You please.

Show Your slave Your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching without permission.

Tie Your slave spread eagle to the bed and tease him for hours. Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it when he needs just a little more encouragement, don’t let him cum.

Put on his favorite lingerie and tease him with Your beauty.

Scratch him with Your finger nails.Tickle him. Pinch his nipples.

Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss Your nipple. Let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg.

Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else You might do.

Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste the crotch of Your panties…get more promises

Blindfold him and make him lick You to several orgasms. Take a break, cum back and do it all again.

Rub his face against Your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with Your panties or a gag so that he can’t lick You.

Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell Your panties or kiss Your ass…stay just out of reach.

Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator.

Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy You with it. Do it so his nose presses between Your ass cheeks. He’ll be Your little brown noser and love it.

Make him lick the dildo clean.

Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience.

Put Your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor.

Make him wear a cock ring (a watch strap or cat collar works well)

Ways to Humiliate Him

Make him wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little girl or a French maid.

Make him do housework naked or dressed in women’s clothes.

Have him pamper You, have him:

give You a foot/back/full body massage

give You a pedicure/manicure,

paint Your finger/toe nails.

bathe You/shave your legs.

cook and serve You a nice dinner.

Make him hand wash Your panties and lingerie.

Make him polish Your shoes with his tongue.

Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash, like a dog.

Attach a leash to his balls or cock ring, and lead him around with that.

Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.

Ride him around as Your pony boy…spurs? a riding crop?

Dress him up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it. fuck him. (don’t forget the fuck-me red lipstick!)

Make him wear Your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his Mistress constantly.

Make him masturbate for You, make him beg for permission to cum, don’t let him, punish him if he does.

Make him screw himself with a dildo.

Make him earn his rewards; for example:

Allow him to kiss Your ass after the dishes are done.

1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of Yours. 5 minutes of pleasure for him after he makes You cum 5 times. Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to make You cum.

If You think he’s earned an orgasm, make him cum on Your feet or Your ass and then make him lick You clean.

Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until You give him permission. When You give the command he must cum within 5 seconds or he will be punished and/or not allowed to cum at all. (keep him that way for 30 minutes, an hour…or as long as You want)

If he’s really horny and bothering You, You may want to curb his interest by ordering him to jerk off 5 or 6 times in a row. Use it as skin conditioner… 3 times on each foot, have him spread it around and lick them clean after each time.

Always make him lick You clean after sex.

When You go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed up as a girl and be kneeling at the door for when You arrive.

Lock a padlock on his balls.

Give him a golden shower.

Make him think of a new way for You to humiliate him. Punish him if You don’t think it’s good enough. Make him post it to the net (and send it to me to add to the list)

Ways to Discipline and Punish and Torment Him

Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle, riding crop, switch, cat-o-nine tails…)

Tie him in an uncomfortable position.

Tie his ankles together and attach his balls to them.

Hog tied. (wrists and ankles tied together)

Hanging from the ceiling by his wrists.

In a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders – good for spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable.

Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece, and wrap the base and balls repeatedly. Do each ball separately. Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the end off back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs.

Make him wear a chastity belt or cock cage.

Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock or wherever.

Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on.

Enema.

Double up on his domestic chores, make them more difficult: tie his hands; make him use a toothbrush to clean the toilet, tie his ankles with a short chain and make him wear extra high heels.

Deny him orgasms for a long period of time.

Have him lick You clean after you pee.

Put Ben-gay or icy-hot on his penis and nipples.

Drip candle wax on him.

Make him do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats, aerobics, yoga…)

Humiliate him in public…take him shopping for panties/lingerie

[eqjunkie000]

Again, too many good ideas to not reblog.

[hubbywifeplaytime]

Great list had to reblog it!!

[subbydarlingmanx]

Lots of these sound like so much fun!!!

[locked4beautiful]

Terrific ideas. Please…

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Strict Chastity

Here is a post from altarboy’s website. The author seems to have lots of experience with chastity. She recommends starting with a YEAR of lock up.

http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/nt080109.htm

The Wives’ View

Submitted by: Mistress Angela

Chastity is something that Mark, my husband of 12 years, and I have had an interest in for some time. It became an important part of our life five years ago. I work in the insurance industry and have to travel a lot. He often has to work long hours. We realized that our sexual life was fading away. After Mark gave me a strong nudge to consider using chastity for him, I decided it was worth looking into almost anything to put the spark back into our marriage. Since Mark was an executive at an engineering firm, I let him do the initial research on finding the right chastity device, while I put a lot of effort into researching how to make chastity work for us.

I have always felt that being well informed about something enables you to do it well. Whether you are reading this to help you do your own research on chastity or your partner gave this to you one thing is apparent, you obviously have some sort of interest or you wouldn’t be taking the time to read about the amazing concept of male chastity and its benefits. There is a lot on the internet on chastity including a wonderful commentary by Marie which I took as a starting point, and there are several internet support groups and chat rooms which seem to startup and die down as people move around. I have communicated over the years with over two dozen wives who keep their husbands chaste. I have met several of them in person and the one thing they all agreed on was that the benefits of chastity for their husbands were incredible. It may amaze you, as it did me, to find out that so many men and women use chastity as part of their relationship, really more than you could imagine. There was a newspaper article a while back that stated that well over a million of the plastic CB2000/3000 type chastity devices have been sold. This just goes to show that male chastity is less bizarre than you probably thought and there is a lot of it being practiced, probably by some of your girlfriends. This document is a summary of what I have found out talking with many other women and practicing chastity with Mark for several years. I hope that it will help other wives considering a chastity lifestyle for their husbands.

Before you embark on considering putting your man in a chastity device, you need to ask yourself the following questions. Are you unhappy with how much attention he now pays to you? Do you think that at least part of the problem is that he is paying too much attention to pornography or other women? Has he admitted to you that he masturbates too much? Would you be willing to give up intercourse, if you got a lot more attention including a lot more oral sex? Do you recognize that you too have also let your relationship dwindle over time as he has grown more distant? Are you willing to take control and put in the effort to make your relationship work in a new and exciting way? If yes, you should consider chastity for your husband.

To put this in pop psychology terms, Mars and Venus were attracted to each other, romanced each other and fell in love. Mars and Venus got married. Mars eventually retreated into his cave as men are apt to do and while there found it convenient to masturbate rather than be with Venus. All too rarely does he emerge to pay any attention to Venus. Venus thought that with marriage Mars was hers and that life would be a forever version of their fairytale courtship days. She ignored the advice of wise mothers to daughters for generations that if you want to keep your man you have to keep making him want you because it sounded sexist and not needed in the modern world. What is a wise Venus to do if she wants a happy lifelong marriage? She has to stop passively letting her marriage pass her by. The first step is that Venus needs to take control by keeping Mars from masturbating in the cave by locking him in a chastity device. The second step is for Venus to enthusiastically embrace her biological and psychological role in keeping Mars turned on. The third step is for Venus to get Mars’ problem solving nature focused on how he can please her and for her to stop thinking the answer is to their happiness is to figure out what she can do please him.

To make chastity work you need to first develop a plan and then whole heartedly put it into action. I read a lot and communicated with many others and the strong consensus was that chastity to change your marriage has to be real and not a game. It has to be a 24/7 part of your relationship. 24/7 is the foundation; it is what changes men for the positive because they shouldn’t have the opportunity to control their sexual release. This is one of the areas that the goddess, lady, mistress, keyholder or whatever you prefer to be known as must have absolute control of. Although the woman remains in control it is very important to remember that you and he are still a couple in a relationship, he is still your husband and that shouldn’t be forgotten, your relationship only changes once you close the bedroom door. Life goes on as it always has, employment, financial, family issues and decisions are all still there. Your dominance should not interfere in other areas though you will find he will react differently, often positively, as his feelings and emotions change.

Whether this is something that he initiated, the two of you mutually agreed upon or something that you requested from him – one thing is a necessity, there needs to be something for him to gain. He is giving up something that is a very important part of a male’s life, his sexual abilities – and for that you need to realize that he should be rewarded as you will be, but obviously in a much different way. You know the things that he likes, that arouse him and put a smile on his face. Often times we find that these are things that really do not interest us but considering the sacrifice that he is making you too can make sacrifices. Like marriage, chastity needs mutual rewards and often you will find those things that you reward him with will lead to an increase in his being aroused and enhancing his over all demeanor. It could be giving massages or trying sexual things that he likes but you never desired to try. You know how to dress to turn him on and you need to find out his fetishes if you don’t know them already and indulge them. All of this will heighten his happiness and arousal. He is making a permanent change in his lifestyle and you too may need to make some permanent adjustments so that he feels things are fair.

All men, given the ability, masturbate and way more often than most women think they do. This is something that is difficult for him to control and even more difficult to part with. Young men have an abundance of testosterone so masturbation doesn’t seem to interfere with their pursuit of young women. However, as men grow older masturbating usually translates into the husband ignoring his wife for at least a couple days. Chastity puts a stop to the masturbation and works in many ways; it changes his mood, demeanor and libido. Most importantly it changes his desire to please you. It is not the goal for him to do the cooking or the cleaning or the laundry but you will find that it will happen, not routinely but it will happen because as he continues to build up his sexual energy that he no longer has the ability to release as he pleases he will divert that energy towards pleasing you. Your being the source of his sexual pleasure will change his feelings, he will adore you, love you in a way that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said, the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you share.

How to do it, that is an extremely important decision. Developing the correct plan, one that would work for my husband, was the most detailed part of the research process. By taking the advice of many other women, I was able to put a well informed plan together that I was confident that would be successful. I followed this plan from day one and still, do to this day. I have found it works. At least a dozen other ladies have also utilized variations on this plan successfully. We must always remember that sexually we are always in command and that first and foremost we will always be sexually satisfied. This is the cornerstone to happiness for both you and him. Keeping you sexually satisfied is your husband’s job. Mark does so anywhere and anytime I say and by any means that I demand. His not being able to experience the pleasure of an orgasm only means that I experience many more than ever before.

You may think that this works only to your advantage and that is a common misconception. It is just as advantageous for him. He must keep you satisfied to eventually get his release and every time he satisfies you he is happy because he has made you happy. It is important to instill to him that his primary means of sexual gratification will be through yours. Eventually every time you experience an orgasm he will have a sense of sexual satisfaction. How you will accomplish this I will explain in a moment. What could be better, your being pleasured any way you like and experiencing wonderful sensations. He can not have an orgasm but he feels satisfied because you are and he will maintain a high libido. Although you’re still equals outside of the home you are the queen of the bedroom and he is your slave. To enforce that you do have a certain amount of control it is important that he is forced to do and maintain a change in his appearance, something between you and he. This must be something that would be embarrassing for him when out in the general public so it should be concealed. Generally something under his clothes; replacing his underwear with ladies panties or requiring him to wear a girdle if he is overweight are popular examples. Some of the women think that a man’s feet are best, easily covered or uncovered based on your orders and modifications could be removed when you feel it is necessary and reapplied when the time is suitable. In my case, Mark wears a gold ankle bracelet and must paint his nails with clear polish except for occasions that I instruct him to do something different. With the exception of work and exercise he must wear whatever footwear I designate. High heels are a particular favorite since he likes these on me and he looks so funny when he tries to walk in them. I find this does absolutely nothing for me sexually but it re-enforces to him the fact that I am in control.  

Achieving your desired results is easier than you might think. It is an empowering experience. Depending on your situation there will be differences but there are parameters that should be followed to achieve the greatest results. The most important step is always the first one. This is where he is made to understand that you control his sexual pleasure from this point forward. Most of the women I have talked with agree that it is best to lay out the terms of your new relationship with him in the strongest possible terms. Most favor a written contract, which I followed, so there is no room for confusion. My terms and the consensus advice from those women I talked with are that he agrees to having his penis pierced and permanently locked in a chastity device of your choosing, that you alone have the power to grant him an orgasm and that you may decide never to allow him to have another one, that he agrees perform all services, domestic and sexual, that you request, that he agrees to being disciplined in any way you deem appropriate, and that because he is locked in a chastity device that you may need to find other people to meet some of your sexual needs. Anything less than this and he has either not admitted that there is a problem, that the solution has to be permanent and completely effective, or that he has to give up total control of his sexuality and yours to you.

Your having other sexually partners or cuckholding as it is called is a controversial issue. A couple of the women I communicated had long had many partners in addition to their locked up hubby. A couple of bisexual women had female partners but only their hubby on the male side. A nice arrangement if your proclivities run in that direction. A few of the women have had a fling or two and maybe their agreement with their husband made them more comfortable doing this. Most of the women I talked with, though, did not carry on with other sexual partners because once their hubbies were locked up they were getting all the sex and attention they could ever want. Some of them do tease their husbands about the possibility of seeing other men. A few of the women I talked with volunteered that if things had kept going like they had been in their marriages they would have to had sought out an affair because they felt so unloved.

It is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity for their male that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the break in period of getting a device that fits. Preventing him from having an orgasm for three month period may seem a bit harsh but it is paramount to your success as it allows his body and mind to adjust to the lack of masturbation and sexual pleasure as desired. Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire and your commitment and your determination to his being chaste; it will also give you the chance to develop the strength to say “no”. He should be made aware of the time frame immediately upon his being secured in his device, this allows for a clear understanding of the initial commitment of time. If he is at all uncooperative during this first three months, you should add additional time to his lock up. I gave Mark a one week extension as a warning about whining about getting out and a one month extension the second time he more bluntly told me he needed out. After that there were no more incidents but I was seriously considering three months for the next offense. I tend to agree that with the more experienced women that I talked with that you can not be too strict with respect to the initial lockup period if you want to achieve the triple goals of getting yourself past feeling that it is your duty to give him orgasms, getting him focused on his new role of pleasing you, and your becoming comfortable with being in charge. If you haven’t achieved these goals then lengthen the time. In retrospect, I think that I came down hard on Mark and added the extra month because I felt myself falling into the trap of feeling that I had to let him have an orgasm since I saw him so frustrated by the chastity device. I am glad that I did. When I finally let him out it was on my terms.

After my experience and talking with several other women, I have come to strongly hold the view that it would be even better if the initial chastity period is set at one year with further extensions for any serious misbehavior. After three months of being locked up your hubby would be willing to do almost anything for a release so in that sense the chastity device will have done its job physically but mentally some men can hold out for three months and bounce back to their old ways once you let them cum and they expect future orgasms on a regular basis. He will have signed a contract with you saying that you can deny him permanently but believe me there is a big difference between telling a man that he can have an orgasm at the end of three months and telling him that it will be at least a year. A year’s time horizon puts an end to all the fun and games and excitement he may associate with chastity. It makes your agreeing to lock him up permanently the very serious proposition that it is. A year’s initial lock up tells him that you are committed to making your relationship work long term and that once he hands you the keys there is no turning back. A chastity lifestyle will be very hard on him initially and a year without a release will make that very clear to him. You will have put a permanent end to his days of masturbating behind your back. His life will never be the same after. Rather than pleasuring himself when he wants, he will become dedicated to pleasuring you when you want it and how you want it. Some of the women I talked with said their males initially back down from their wanting to be put in chastity when faced with a year’s lock up. If so he is not yet willing to surrender the control to you necessary to make the relationship work through the use of chastity. Don’t push him, just gently remind him whenever he brings up the topic of chastity that you will only do it on your terms. When he agrees, he is ready. You will need to be strong and keep up your end of the bargain. You too also need more time than three months to explore how make his chastity work best for you. I was counting the days until I could have intercourse with Mark again. If you know it is going to be at least a year you will start to experiment and think about how to train him to pleasure you without worrying about his having an orgasm. When you can do this it will have change the dynamic of your relationship in a way that set you and him on the path to long term happiness.

Upon completing his initial confinement period I assure you that you can give him an experience like he has never had before, this is a reward for the couple. You will have a sense of strength for enforcing it and him for getting thru it. You should make his orgasm a slow drawn out one with lots of teasing. It will be all too easy for him to cum very quickly. You may need to tie him down to keep him on edge but when you finally do let him cum it will be almost too much for his body to handle.

Once you allow him his first release it is entirely up to you how many sexual experiences you allow, how they occur and how the ejaculate is disposed. A very important step during any release period is to ensure that you will get him right back in to his device. Some of the women do this by always tying him down before the device is removed. While this has its old school charms, there are lots of other options. Locking his hands behind his back in a pair of steel handcuffs is a quick way to keep him from grabbing his penis if you are teasing him. I also have a waist belt with a pair of leather cuffs attached which is easy and fun to use. You can get something similar for cuffing his hands to his thighs. A wonderful device called a humbler works well if you want him to have use of his hands to pleasure you. If all you are doing is inspecting penis and making sure the device is cleaned then I just put the handcuffs on one of his wrists or ankles prior to removing his device. Before the cuff comes off he has to be secured back in his chastity tube. I am confident that he would not be willing to go to work with the dangling cuff. Several of the other women have tried this trick and found it works well. The less that you have to worry about his arguing that the device doesn’t have to immediately go back on the more likely you are to take it off frequently which promotes both teasing and keeping the tube and his penis clean.

There were a number of different views about how often a male should be allowed to cum after the initial denial period. Some of the women with younger males let theirs have an orgasm about once a week. I suspect that they were masturbating a couple times a day before this so that once a week is a big reduction. Most of the women I talked to though thought that it was best to strike a balance between keeping them completely denied and giving them some hope of gaining a release. You will need to experiment and ultimately you will need to do what works best for you, recognizing that the less often for him the better. The most common belief was that it was not good to allow their male to achieve an orgasm more than once per month but most thought that his orgasm should not very often be withheld for more than three months unless there was a good reason for doing so. Several women who I have become friendly with though believe that once a year is the right number. Some of the women liked to think about how often hubby could have an orgasm as a small fraction of the number of orgasms they had. A hundred to one ratio was popular but you can pick the number to suit your needs and gets the time between releases just about right. This approach gives him a strong incentive to initiate sex. I suspect that Mark would be unbearable and unstoppable if this was the rule but you know yourself and your hubby and can always experiment.

Some of the other women like to set goals for their hubbies where they be allowed an orgasm earlier than scheduled if a big goal was met. One of the women I talked with wanted her husband to lose 40 pounds. After he completed the initial three month lock up, he was given a mind blowing orgasm that seemed to make all worthwhile to him. She brought him back down to earth by telling him that their relationship was so much better with him locked in his chastity tube that he would now get out only once a year for a release. She then told that she would let him out early one time during the year for each ten pounds that he lost and that for each five pounds he gained he would get three months added on to his lockup. She was thrilled with the results. He got fifty pounds off during the year and got five extra orgasms. Now, he is right where she wants him, fifty pounds lighter and locked on a one year interval with the threat that it will be over two years if he gains back even half the weight he lost.  

Males who had cheated with other women rather than by being chronic masturbators usually got very harsher treatment meted out by their wives. The other wives are quick to talk a newcomer out of any thought of leniency for her husband if had sex with another woman. Several of these males are locked up permanently in some very mean devices with no chance of release ever as a condition of not being divorced. I have told Mark that he is lucky that he is locked up and cannot stray because I now know what can be done to an adulterous husband to make him suffer evermore. He knows he would get the full treatment and then some.

I personally have found that a good baseline is to not allow double digit releases, meaning less than ten per year. You may find that you allow him to be released monthly and then decide that you would enjoy making him go for a longer period. It is alright to suddenly increase the time. He might ask why and you simply need to tell him why; I have responded with “because I am in control of your sexual abilities and I enjoy denying you, the longer I deny you the more you become frustratingly horny and thus I feel a sense of satisfaction”. Right now I am following the advice of several of the women I am friends with to have Mark go an entire year without an orgasm just to see how hard I can push him and how well he can handle it. We are eight months into it now and it has been wonderful. I have really stepped up the teasing and managing Mark takes more time and discipline. The payoff is that I have had more great sex than I have ever had and Mark has become sweeter and more devoted to trying to please me than I ever thought possible. He has done this without any whining since I told him that I would happily add on another year if he did.

The most common question women new to chastity ask is what type of device to put him in. The consensus advice, which now unfortunately now with too much experience I have to concur, is to prepare yourself for some frustrating trial and error to find the right device and the right fit. There is no right device for all males. It is a bit like finding the perfect pair of shoes. The chastity device needs to be custom fit. It has to be comfortable if he is going to live with it on 24/7 and it has to be completely secure and effective if you are going to be happy with it. There are two basic types of devices, chastity tubes and chastity belts. The chastity tubes usually have the tube attached to a ring that goes over his cock and behind his balls. The belts go around the waist. They also have a tube which is attached to the front shield part that forces the penis straight downward. With a narrow tube, a good belt is very effective at preventing erections. Some of belts come with attachment points so you can hook a dildo to the front shield for you to use or to insert a dildo into his anus. The main drawback with the chastity belts is that they are expensive, bulky and much less comfortable than the tube devices for many men to wear. They also need to be sent back for waist adjustments if his waist size goes up and down. Most of the women I have talked with use tube type devices but there are some women with custom made belts by Neosteel (neosteel.de) that love them. I have two chastity tube devices from Mistress Lori (chastitytube.com), a woman on a mission to put an end to male erections, masturbation, and cheating. I have her number 7 which is a short straight steel tube which has a ring that goes behind the balls for normal use, and an acrylic number 14, which I use on Mark when he travels and has to go through metal detectors. Many of the other women have tube devices from Lori. Once you have get the right fit in one of her tubes you could lock your  hubby up forever and he will never been able masturbate again. There are men who have been locked in her tubes that have not been allowed to cum for over a decade.

It was not easy though getting a belt or a tube to fit right. Many of the women have had to go through several devices or alternations to finally get the right one.  A few got lucky the first time but don’t count on it. The best advice here is to be patient and let your hubby put in most of the effort into getting a device that fits right. He is the one who has to wear it all the time. Have trial lock ups until he is ready to be locked down permanently. Don’t be surprised even then if you have to stop a week or two into the lock up to get something fixed or let the piercing tough up some more. If there is a problem take off the device and see if it can be quickly fixed. Sometimes there is just a spot that has been rubbed raw and needs some ointment or the device left off for a couple of days..  If you have to send the device back to be altered, start the clock over when it comes back and you lock him up again. Eventually, the device kinks will get work out. I just wish I had been aware of this when because there were some discouraging times until Mark was able to wear the device without problems for over a month. I slowly came to terms with being able to permanently lock him up and the satisfaction of knowing that his days of masturbating behind my back were finally over.

For both kinds of chastity devices, there are three things to remember. First, his penis needs to be pierced so that a bar or loop can be put through it and locked to the device. Otherwise, as many of the women I have talked to found out the hard way with CB3000 type devices, he will eventually figure out how to pull his cock and whack off behind your back. Once he can do this chastity is just a game for him. It is not real and he not you is in control. A lot of the women I talked to balked initially at getting their husband’s penis pierced. Some of the women were turned off by the thought of the pain in having it done or by the look or what they thought it would feel like inside of them. Not a single one of women I talked with regretted having their hubby pierced once he had been securely locked down tight in the chastity device for a while. Getting the piercing doesn’t hurt him that much and if you don’t like the look or feel of the piercing jewelry then don’t use him with it in. I just leave the rod from the chastity tube on the table next to the device when I take it off. With the device off, Mark has two small holes on the underside of his penis that are not very unnoticeable when the rod is out.

The usual comment I got from many women I talked with was that they were sorry they had wasted time playing around with toy chastity devices like the CB3000. They felt a sense of betrayal when they finally figured why chastity no longer seem to be working – their hubbies had figure out how to secretly pull their cocks out of it and have fun on their own. The advice of the other women when this sort of cheating was uncovered was always to take the male to get pierced immediately and then to lock him up after the piercing was fully healed for a year rather than three months because of the dishonesty. That is was one of the ways several of us started to notice how much better a year’s initial lockup worked than three months.

You can get him a Prince Albert or PA piercing which is a single hole (6 or 8 gauge) through the underside of his penis and out though the pee slit or a frenum piercing (6 or 8 gauge) which is sideways piercing on the underside behind the head of his penis. Both have their advantages and problems. A lot of men do not want to get a Prince Albert piercing since they now spray pee out of the bottom hole as well as the slit. This means always having to sit down to pee but they will have to do this anyway since they once they are permanently locked up in a chastity device. I think the women of the world would rejoice if all males were chastised and no more toilet seats were left up. A PA piercing is almost painless to get and heals fairly quickly although it can be painful for him to pee the first couple of times afterwards and it can bleed a fair amount for the first couple of days. It is best to wait at least three months to make sure it is healed before putting the chastity device on and, if it seem tender then after some trial break in days, you might need to wait a month or two longer.

The frenum piercing that Mark has is less conspicuous than the ring that usually goes through the PA since it is a bar that goes through the skin underneath the penis. Its main problems are that it does not heal as quickly and the first time it is done the piercing often does what is called migrating. That is it moves forward through the skin until it breaks free or has to be taken out because it will break free. This happened to me with Mark and several of the other women I talked with had the same experience. The usual suspect for causing this problem is putting the chastity device on before the piercing has fully healed, but I think that having the first frenum piercing migrate out is almost inevitable for many men. Fortunately, he can be pierced again with another frenum behind the first one. The second one is usually charmed. It is likely to hold if you wait about four months until it is fully healed since scar tissue from the first frenum usually prevents the second one from migrating. I think that I might have gone with a PA if I had known about the problems the first frenum caused even though Mark was very reluctant to get a PA.

The frenum though does have three advantages. The big one is that inflicts much more pain when his penis tries to become erect than the PA. This is because, as the penis gets hard, the frenum rod digs deeply into the bottom of the penis right behind the sensitive head. This makes the deflating pinch a Lori’s tube is designed to deliver much nastier. All in all a Lori’s tube with frenum a much more severe chastity device than one with a PA. Mark has now tasted this property of the frenum many many times and I suspect if given the choice over he would jump at the chance to have a PA rather than a frenum. I have really come like this feature of the frenum though because I don’t want to Mark to be able to hard at all even in the confined space of his chastity tube unless I decided to let him. I also think that a frenum helps to reduce your hubby’s wanting to be all over you physically. This is a problem most women have once he is in chastity which is a little odd after years of little physical affection from him. This problem has to be dealt with by your being firm about what you are willing to allow and where. When I deliberately tease Mark, I sometimes pull the frenum rod out of the chastity tube as a signal that it is ok to now try to get an erection without being punished for the effort by the frenum rod. You don’t need to worry though because the tube will still stop the erection from going very far and increase his frustration. One of the women I talked with, whose hubby had a problem with his PA piercing, got him pierced the second time with a frenum and put him in a tighter Lori’s tube. She said that with his PA tube on he still looked at porn all the time, although the PA tube had prevented him from successfully masturbating so the porn just made him hornier. The much greater pain the smaller frenum tube inflicted on any attempted erection, however, put a stop to his porn habit. Another upside of the frenum is that the PA bar can have a mean pinch for some men if their penis shrinks too much but the pull on the frenum is quite mild if the tube is short enough. The last advantage is that the two holes that the frenum rod goes through will close up much like an earring hole if it is not used whereas as the PA hole is more or less permanent. This would not be an issue for me now that I have seen the benefits of permanent chastity and would never go back to letting Mark freely masturbate. It might be though for a woman who initially wanted to try out a serious chastity program but was not sure it was going to work.

One of the questions that is often asked is what should you do during while the piercing is healing. During the first month his penis should not have sex of any kind but after that it is ok with a condom. You can use the time period when the piercing is healing to get him started on pleasuring you. Some of the women also bought a CB3000 chastity device to help get the process started of hubby’s being in chastity started. This seems to work well. The CB3000 will toughen up the skin behind where the teste ring will fit on a Lori’s tube and if you get him an insert for CB3000 from keptforher.com or luvtolock.comit will be very difficult for him to pull out and almost impossible for him to get his penis back in. These inserts can cause edema or swelling so I don’t think they are a good long term solution. I have a CB3000 with an insert and it works well for a few days. I still use my CB3000 occasionally when I want to give him a break from his Lori’s tube without letting him out of chastity. All chastity devices can some time rub spots in the wrong way occasionally so it is not bad to have a couple which fit differently if you can afford it. If you cannot afford a custom fit device it is possible make a CB3000 secure if you lock his piercing to it. This is not good to lock his penis to a chastity device until it is fully healed no matter how much you want to get started. Long term a custom fit device is going to be more comfortable for him to wear and will prevent erections which a CB3000 does not. I think it is worth the investment.

The second thing you need in a chastity device is to get him in the smallest tube his penis will fit in while soft so he can not get an erection in the device. Because a small tube quickly limits the growth of his penis it also keeps the pressure off the piercing. Often the original tube ordered turned out to be too wide or too long because of the male’s optimistic measurements or fear of being too confined. After a while in a chastity tube, the penis has a tendency to shrink a bit which makes the getting the right sizing initially difficult. Males who are what is known as growers, their penis get much larger when excited, are much harder to fit than those who are showers, those whose penis gets hard but not much larger. If you get the tube too small his penis will get fluid retention which is called edema but otherwise, smaller is better. You want him completely dependent on you for getting an erection and a smaller tube will actually be more comfortable after he has adjusted to it. A loose tube can also allow enough growth from an erection that with sliding the tube up and down or using a vibrator on it some males can successfully masturbate.

The last thing is that the device needs to prevent him from rubbing his penis particularly the head. Many males if they can rub the head can cum although it is a pretty frustrating orgasm almost akin to milking and hence not much to worry about except that you want him completely under your control. Chastity belts work best on this account since they completely deny access to the penis. If you get a Lori’s tube or one its competitors make sure you get it with extra bars over the penis head area. I don’t know why Lori doesn’t do this automatically for all of her devices.

Lori does make short device in both stainless steel and acrylic without any hood she calls a wedding ring that attaches with a frenum piercing. Several of the women I talked with have one. Some use it full time and some put it on when they want to engage in really heavy teasing. If you get this narrow enough he cannot get off a real orgasm but can get off what is a very painful version of what is sometimes called a ruined orgasm where his body thinks it is going to cum but then the semen just dribbles out without any sense of relief. I don’t want my hubby to have any access to his penis much less be able to do this on his own. However, some of the women like it though since it tends to make their hubby even more frustrated. Lori’s wedding ring is lightweight and has no teste ring so it is much more comfortable for a male to wear. I have been thinking about getting one but just for teasing since it allows you to get at all the most sensitive parts of his penis without worrying about his being able cum.

From time to time you might find it necessary to punish him for what ever reason, he might refuse to provide you with sexual pleasure as instructed or he spoke to you in a negative and degrading way; there are certainly many possible infractions. The most effective punishment is to increase his time of confinement; this should always be done in at least a week increment but you will probably find that additions of two weeks or a month will be more effective unless you like having him continually testing you which I don’t. As an example let’s say he was tired or in a bad mood and failed to enthusiastically provide oral sex to you one evening. If this happens it is imperative that you do what he would not. Masturbate yourself to as many orgasms as you like, he may then attempt to provide for you but you must not allow him to. After you have satisfied yourself let him know that his refusal requires that he be punished and that you have decided that an additional month will be added to the time that is already required. If he gives you any argument, add two or three months to his lock up time. You could also be creative by locking him up for one month for every time you orgasm and really go to town.

Different from failing to do something is a sort of agitation that many males including mine sometimes get when they are in chastity as a result of their sexual frustration. Most of the time this finds a positive outlet in terms of showering you with attention, but sometimes your hubby will just need to be toned down. Good old fashion discipline in the form of corporal punishment is what many of us have found works well. Almost all the women I have talked with know their husbands are submissive to them but they are not wimps. In other parts of their life they tend to be dominant A-personalities types who exert lots of authority and are often high strung. Many have masochist tendencies as well. You can beat them yourself or it is easy to find a professional dominatrix who will do it for you. If you decided on the latter option, pro-doms are easy to find in most major cities and advertise openly on the internet. Look for a no-nonsense disciplinarian type rather than a sensuous or man hating type. The disciplinarian types almost all believe that married men should be locked up in chastity devices and know that if they deliver a well whipped hubby back to you that they will have a long term client. This has become an increasing part of their business as the number of chastity devices sold increases since some wives no longer fear that the dominatrix would have sex with their husband if he is sent to be disciplined locked up. This is probably the last thing you need to worry about though since the last thing a well established pro-dom wants to do is have sex with a client.

If you think you might be tempted to let your hubby out early have the pro-dom hold the keys until the anniversary of his lockup and tell her to talk you out of earlier relief when you have those thoughts. You can always pick up the key from her for a scheduled teasing or inspection. You can also send him to the pro-dom to have his tube and penis inspected if he complains that he is having problems with his tube. Having her administer severe punishment if the request is not justified should nip this type of behavior in the bud before it gets started. You can also have a girlfriend you trust hold the keys. If you think a little humiliation would do him some good, send him over to clean her house and let her increase his lockup time for less than perfect work. He will never get out.

I use to think that disciplining my hubby was a chore. Now when I beat him long and hard, though, he sometimes just melts under my cane and breaks down and cries. Afterward, I hold him tight in my arms for a long time and then have him go down on me. The feeling I get is hard to describe. It is almost magical. I now feel sorry that most wives will never experience moments of this intense closeness with their husband.

There are times when Mark does something that really makes me mad. When he does I send him to a great pro-dom I found. She usually starts with milking him, because when this happens he always gets at least a month added to his lock up. She really works over and he is always on his best behavior for quite a while after he comes back. I recommend this strategy for any woman who wants to separate out the loving discipline that their husband occasionally needs from them and the serious punishment he sometimes richly deserves, which can be contracted out to a merciless third party.

Prostate milking is a necessity if your male is locked up for over a month otherwise his prostate can get clogged up and his chance of getting prostate cancer increased. Milking causes a release of semen clearing out the prostrate but provides none of the satisfaction of an orgasm. A male is usually even more frustrated after a milking than before because he has been stimulated similar to an orgasm but not allowed to have it. Milking also helps to prevent nocturnal or spontaneous orgasms which can happen if he is locked up long enough without being milked or allowed to cum. You can look at prostate milking as a necessary procedure, a form of punishment or just fun. There are a number of ways to do it and milking is psychological more effective if done with the chastity device on. Some of the women use a rubber glove or anal probe specially designed for the purpose. This works but is slow and tedious. Using a strap-on and taking your man anally also works well if you go at it long enough and figure how to stimulate his prostrate. This is a favorite of many of the women I have talked with. They find it most amusing to orgasm themselves while forcing the semen to drool out of hubby’s chastity device with each in and out thrust. I give it a go every so often particularly when I want some penetration with a great arched doubled sided feeldoe dildo that some clever woman designed.

You can also use an electrical stimulation device. This is usually a quick and almost clinical procedure if done right. It is what I typically do since I usually like to think of milking as something that should be done for medical reasons without even a hint of sexual enjoyment for him. I have a PES unit which requires two attachments to complete the circuit. One of attachments is an anal probe that slides right in with some lube and hits the prostate. The other is a strap that goes around his balls. I put him in a humbler on his hands and knees. Then, I turn up the dials to the right frequency, which I had to experiment with some to find, and the semen just steadily drips out. A professional dominatrix is also usually happy to milk hubby if you don’t want to and corporal punishment administered after a milking is more effective. Prostate milking is a wonderful thing to do and it is hard to over do. The semen drooling out will reduce the male’s testosterone level though so he will be more mellow and docile after the milking. If you think that he is getting testy just put him on the milking stand and pump it out. Many men do not enjoy being penetrated rectally and they all really despise seeing their ejaculate expelled dripped out slowly without any sense of pleasure or release. Milking is a great way of reinforcing your complete control over his sexuality.

There may be times where you feel you have to unlock him to use his penis. Fortunately, there is a way to do this without letting him orgasm by using elamax numbing creme and a several condoms. This usually works but there is always a small risk that he will cum especially if he has been locked for a long time. There are other alternatives that allow penetration without this risk. The easiest is to use is a strap-on dildo. There are two models, the feeldoe and nexus that were designed by women that will give you great stimulation while allowing you to taken him anally. The Tickleberry and Good Vibration’s websites are good places to look. There are also a number double sided penis gags that you can use to ride his face and there is even a dildo you can strap around his thigh. The most fiendish devices are those that fit over his penis. Lori sells a dildo sleeve that fits over her tubes. A chastity tube does not have quite the right shape so it is not the most comfortable ride for you, but if you really want to get to him on the tease side it is hard to beat. He will be a wreck as there is no way the Lori’s tube will let him get erect but his mind and body will just keep on trying. Somewhat better for your pleasure is a new device called Her Delight from the keptforher.com company that makes an insert to help prevent males from pulling out of their CB3000. This device uses the CB3000 teste ring to anchor a dildo that slides over hubby’s penis.This dildo is harder than Lori’s sleeve, but not too hard. Although he can get reasonably hard in it, he will get very little in the way of stimulation that might lead to an orgasm. You on the other hand can keep at it as long you want with no worries that he will cum at all, much less too soon.

Every so often I and many of the women I have talked with want the real thing. To make these rare opportunities for him to have intercourse with you work for both of you, you need to recognize that after being locked up for a long time he will cum with a hair trigger. He is also unlikely to get as large as he did before long term chastity unless you take him out of the tube and get him hard on a frequent basis. You can avoid disappointment if you stimulate him to orgasm in some way other than intercourse when you first let him out of the tube. After he cums give him a Viagra and wait an hour or so before you use him for up. It is good for about three hours or you can give him a Cialis if you want to do an all day thing. Once he has cum the first time and recovered by the time the erection drug takes effect, he will not orgasm nearly as easily and either of the two drugs will get and keep him really hard even if he has another orgasm. Some of the women use their hubbies for intercourse for several days in a row treating the whole event as a single release period before they lock him back up for a prolonged duration.

The big changes that you must make in yourself to make a chastity relationship work is to commit to frequently teasing him, like you no doubt did when you first dated, and to having much more frequent sex yourself. The two can be one and the same thing. Having him perform cunnalingus on you while locked up is almost guaranteed to drive to the edge. Fortunately, for you the chastity device will keep him from going over. Just think the more sex you get without letting him cum the more he wants you. If more women knew this secret there would be a lot more locked up husbands and boyfriends. Remember you have all the time in the world to train him to do the way you want without any need to worry about getting him off. Once locked all he does is fantasize about you. You will need to decide if you want to be the one that initiates sex or whether you want him to. My usual rule with Mark is that I will tell him when and how I want to be pleasured and he is expected to drop everything when this happens. This is clearly a control issue for me but your tastes may differ. One of my friends likes to have her husband instigate elaborate romantic seduction rituals. She never unlocks him during these events but on the rare occasion when he really out does himself, she gives him an orgasm the next day. The bliss point is when you get your hubby to the place he gets pleasure purely from your pleasure without thinking about his cock. Mark is not quite there yet but he is getting there.

There are almost an infinite number of ways that you can tease him. There is the classic tie him down to the bed, take off the tube and work over his cock for hours. Every time you feel him close to an orgasm stop and straddle his face and have one or more yourself. Stay with it as long as you can and you will leave him a marshmallow. You may find that you have to ice down is penis to get back in the tube. Dress up in the way that drives him crazy and stand him at attention nude in his chastity tube while you softly stroke him all over except for ignoring his cock. He will struggle to stand tall as his cock struggles to grow in the chastity tube. Every woman needs to develop her own style. You can keep things fresh by continuing to experiment. It may seem like a lot of work but he will shower you with attention. The hardest thing will be getting that much attention again.

If he doesn’t already, he will want to workshop you as a goddess after you have locked him up for a while. This initially bothered some of the women I talked with who felt their hubby’s new found attention to be artificial. It is driven partially by his newly increased testosterone level but that is what also drove his courting of you. Most often he has agreed to being locked up because he desperately wants to want you that badly again. You need to reciprocate by demanding that he worship you as a goddess but you also need to figure out how to channel his attention in directions that are good and work for you. Those may be very different from his ideas of how he should worship you, but this is an area where your desires come first and you need to maintain strict control if you are going to be happy with the chastity arrangement.

While it is hard to do too much physical teasing, conversation, by far, plays the bigger part. It takes very little energy and allows you to increase his frustration without having to do anything. Telling him what you like about his predicament, letting him know how much you appreciate what he has done to become a better spouse, partner, friend and lover. Let him know how his being chaste turns you on, if seeing him struggle thru sexual frustration entertains you let him know. Maybe you enjoy his not being able to touch himself, whatever it is communicate it. You should also not forget that all of those things that use to drive you crazy like porn and ogling pretty young things can now be used against him. There is nothing like knowing that the chastity tube is really biting as his favorite eye candy passes by. The beauty of a good chastity device is that not only does it prevent him from getting an erection and masturbating but that the device is always working for you. It stimulates him at the first sign of arousal and then quickly constraining the budding erection. You should never miss an opportunity to point things that might arouse him. You might even pick up a copy of his previously favorite masturbatory reading material and thumb through it with him.

It is understandable that there may be days that you want to ignore his situation. It is alright to not care that all the time that he is not no longer in control of his manhood and you can let him know that you don’t. Still you should not let this go more than a few days without making positive comments about his being locked up for you. The main thing if you are going to lock him up is that you need to make a commitment to yourself and him to make this work. I have told women who were thinking about chastity that if they were not willing to take control of the teasing, discipline and the frequency with which they had sex and the effort this entails that they might be better off in their old relationship where he ignored you and you ignored him. There is a way to get what you want but it will not happen by itself. He cannot change himself, but a chastity device and a lot of hard work on your part can mold him into the husband you have always dreamed about.

As the endeavor in to chastity continues you will be able to add ideas and musings to your relationship that you find works well. Remembering the basic principles of how to keep your hubby under your spell will let you, and him, discover chastity’s amazing rewards. Always maintain the upper hand, do those things to show both you and him that your requests are nothing less than a requirement for him. You will never want to let things revert back to his self “lack of” control again. Believe me, the routine is effective and over the long term you’ll not regret it even though at times it seems like a lot of work.

There is an old saying among those wives who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them – be careful what you wish for. I think some of the husbands would given a choice go back to their old ways, but none of the wives would. I think that deep down the men are happier because they wanted to be sexually controlled by their wives and now they are. Their new reality is often much different than their original fantasy because it is now your fantasy not his. I know the wives, who stuck it out through the trials and tribulations of finding a chastity device that worked and figuring out how change their mindset from a need to give him orgasms to one of deserving all the orgasms they could ever want, are all much happier.

[keyholderideas]

What a great intro write-up, very thorough and spot on.

[welcomematriarchy-deactivated20]

Remarkable!

[masculinitylost]

“There’s Always Next Week… Isn’t There?”

Taken From My Bdsmlr Blog ShatteredHeterosexuality

[submissiveclaude]

About male masturbation

I had suspected my husband was masturbating a lot by his low semen levels on some days. 

Plus some days he wasn’t into as much as other days. I could also tell if he had been edging to porn prior to us having sex (If I gave him a HJ or BJ) by the forceful spurts. 

When he brought the idea of Chastity to me, I wasn’t excited about it and didn’t understand it, but I read some articles he gave me, which got me interested enough to start my own researching the subject. I had read an article very similar to this and definitely became very suspicious.

 So i agreed to try it. When we got to lock ups of 4-5 days, I saw him going a little crazy for release and when I gave in, wow, the amount of semen was so much greater. 

Now I was pretty sure of the answer, but I asked him, telling him he better be truthful from what I’ve already seen and suspected. I thought at worse every other day or maybe 3 days. He answered at least once a day. Oh boy I thought, I’ve got a problem here that I need to control and break. I was a little hurt and angry and I asked him, OMG, what is wrong with you? 

I decided then, yes we are doing this and told him he better find a comfortable cage, as we would be working towards long term lock ups. 

I did do more reading and research and found out my man really wasn’t much different than other men. But he is now, after almost 5 years of 24/7 Chastity, that habit has been stopped. He says the habit hasn’t been broken as he still feels the constant urge, but it sure has been stopped. Below you find the optimum amount of Orgasms to keep his testo level high:

Here is a very general guideline to help you find his correct level:

20-29 Years - Three to five days

30-49 Years - Five to seven days

50-59 Years - Ten to twelve days

60+ Years    - Twice a month tops.

!👍🏻💕❤🔥😊 submissiveclaude

[ladyjanemistress-deactivated202]

Some interesting morning reading 😊 x

[locked4beautiful]

I’m nearly 59, and this seems about right to me. Thankfully, Beautiful now has me in full-time chastity and is teasing me daily, so that release (only when she permits) is such a thrill to look forward to! She’s also training me to recycle anything I either leak or ejaculate, so that’s going to take some getting used to.

[permanentchastitycaptions]

[doyouwantthetoporbottom]

CHASTITY CONTRACT

This agreement is strictly between _________________ and _________________.

The agreement fully releases all rights of ownership of the penis that was once owned by ________________ and transfers all rights to ________________. Effective immediately the following rules of agreement will be fully in forced. Failure to follow these rules will result in punishment.

1. He will obey her fully with out question or complaint, this total obedience to her is mandatory.

2. He will refer to her as ‘Dear’ when addressing her in public and private.

3. He will not refer to the penis as his own by use of words that suggests he still has ownership over it.

4. All body hair must be trimmed and well maintained.  And he must maintain excellent cleanliness of his body and the device.

a. Weekly nude inspections are mandatory.

5. He must sleep naked so that she has full access to his body anytime she wants it throughout the night.

6. He will not question nor nag about the time of chastity and possible release. He no longer owns the penis all rights and ownership belongs to her. The length of time she chooses to lock her penis up and restrict it from orgasm is her right and her decision.

7. Because the penis is now hers, he must inform her each time he experiences an erection and explain why the erection had taken place.

8. He will be restricted from viewing pornographic material unless accompanied by her. Personal blogs and Tumblrs are showing adult interest are acceptable.

9. He is to remain in the chastity device at all times, she will decide if and when it is allowed to be removed.

10. He will be restrained during times of release. He will not touch the penis unless instructed by her. He will be relocked into chastity device before the restraints are removed.

11. Sex does not always mean removal of the chastity device, for this reason he must be properly cleaned each night by 7:30.

12. She will choose when ejaculations occur. If he feels that ejaculation is arriving he must notify her immediately.  He may be brought to the brink of ejaculation many times before being allowed to experience full release.  And she does not have to tell, and may lie about, whether she is going to allow him to orgasm or not.

13. If ‘accidental’ ejaculation occurs he must be punished by recycling of the seed. No exceptions.

14. His release is conditional upon completion of tasks/ chores.

15. He must provide her with treatment worthy of a goddess and will be required to give nightly back rubs.

16. He will focus only on her pleasure, thoughts of his pleasure will only distract him from properly performing his duties to her high standards.

17. Time in chastity can always be extended any time she sees fit.

a. Failure to meet her high standards of performance will result in 2 days time extended in chastity. No exceptions.

18. Breaking any of these rules will result in punishment and/or time in chastity extended.

19. If he misbehaves in public all she has to say is a number and he knows that is the amount of days added to his time in chastity.

20. She has the authority to change/ add any rules anytime she wants.

I __________________here by agree to these terms

______________________________

I __________________here by agree to these terms

_______________________________

[teasinghiscagedcock]

Hmmm… Might be printing this out

[bubbaspanks]

Great contract

[dana-sissy-bride-deactivated202]

What a magnificent document. :)

[miss-julies-missives]

MISS-JULIE’S-MISSIVES—ARCHIVE

[ruthlesshumiliation-deactivated]

Follow me at: @ruthlesshumiliation

[phxcouple02]

HotWife Curious?

STOP NOW!

Take a minute and have your hubby answer this quiz to understand how much fun you can have. The test offers him with simple ideas and scenarios.

Use scale to rate answers with how you feel about real life situations.

1 - I don’t like that.

2 - Like to imagine it, but not to do it.

3 - It’s very arousing to think about it. I would like to try it.

4 - That thought gave me a hell of a hard-on. I can’t wait to do it.

5 - That’s my darkest desire!

Scoring key is at bottom. Print, mix Hubby a drink, and give to complete.

Remember just rate the thought of doing in real life 

1) You and your wife are walking by the beach (or pool). She is wearing a very sexy and revealing suit and every man is looking at her body.

2) Your wife is telling you about her past experiences.

3) Your wife a flirty text or sext that a guy sent her.

4) Your wife asks you to help her take sexually suggestive or nude pics that she can sext others with..

5) There is a guy that likes your wife, she knows and she is acting ‘slutty’

6) Your wife is changing clothes with the windows opened, the neighbor is watching.

7) Some male friends, you, and your wife are in a private tub. Then she decides to take off the bra and remains topless.

8) Your wife ignores you when she talks to someone with whom she is thinking about fucking.

9) Your wife likes the idea of the threesome and is inviting 2 other people (a couple) to your house to have sex with and you can only watch.

10) Your wife is having sex with another girl but you are tied up and blindfolded.

11) Your wife is having sex with another guy and you are watching her taking him bareback.

12) A guy is banging your wife and asked her to cum in her mouth know she will likely kiss you afterward.

13) A guy asks you if he can remove his condom and go bareback in your wife. You know his intention is to cum in her and your wife looks to you to answer.

14) You are looking at your just-banged girl’s pussy and another man’s cum is beginning to leak out and she asks you to give her an orgasm orally.

15) You are touching your girl’s pussy, filled with other man’s cum.

16) You feel responsible and a duty to lick her mouth, boobs or pussy clean after you or another man makes a cummy mess of her.

17) Your wife instructs you to jack-off on your lover’s dick for lubricate her for penetration.

18) Your wife instructs you to lay on you back and lick her clit as she gets fucked doggy style. 

19) Your girl is fucking a guy and called you on the phone so you can hear.

20) Your girl fucked a guy and came home with her pussy still wet. She’s telling you about it.

21) You shave your girl’s pubic hair before her date so that she’s silky smooth.

22) The only time you get to be inside your girl is when she wants you to feel how her lover has stretched out her pussy.

23) Your girl, in front of you, tells others how she is allowed to play with other men while you are not.

24) You love the thought of eating someone else’s cum from her pussy.

25) You are swinging with another couple, the other girl is awesome, but you are only interested in watching the three of them have sex.

26) You help dress your girl before she goes out on a date.

27) You loving plan a reoccurring schedule for your wife to have a date night or hotwife only weekend and manage the calendar for her.

28) Your wife has you drop you off and pick her up on date nights.

29) Your wife instructs you to give her lover a few quick hand job strokes to keep him hard then to insert his cock into her before leaving the room.

30) You are not afraid of a little cum if it makes your wife happy and feel loved, validated, and pampered afterward. After all, is it really that different than saliva on a beer bottle that you share? 

Scoring:

110 + = Total Cuckold Slut - You are a Hotwife treasure!

95-90 = Ultimate Cuckold

85-80 = Basic Cuckold

75-70 = Cuckold

65-60 = Want To Be Cuckold

55-50 = Wife Sharer

45- Below = Not much interest

[rae-being-naughty]

You Tell Him He Can’t Cum

The first time and you feel awful.  It hurts you as he begs and tells you how much he needs it.  As he curses and his hand shakes as you make him put his cock away.  As he wheedles and tries to undermine your command and you aren’t so sure anymore this is what he wants, but you shore up and are firm and you tell him how it will be.  

It turns out he loves you for it.  It drives him mad.  Hearing stern rules almost makes him cum on the spot untouched.  Being denied fuels him in a way you can’t quite comprehend, and this first time as you fight guilt and relief in equal measure you don’t enjoy the power.

Oh but the next time… the next time you barely breathe in his direction and he’s hard?  You work him up with such little effort to the point where he tells you he needs to cum, asks you to cum… and this time you deny him with a smile.  This time the commands fly off your tongue.  This time wonderfully evil ideas spin through your mind and sorting through to pluck only one or two this time occupies far too much of your time.  You are soaked through.  

It is not just a no for now.  It is a no for the afternoon.  It is a no for the evening.  It is a no as you cum and he listens.  It is a no as you send him favorite porn of his.  It is a no as you let him choose what toy you will masturbate with.  It is a no as others tease him.  It is a no as you cum again.  A world of denial coming easily, and with each no his desperation is evident, but he doesn’t fight it.  He’s so grateful.  Drowning in lust and hotness and your attention.  Denied but not forgotten.  Allowed to edge and edge so pleasure builds, if not release.  

He has a time limit.  A count down.  He knows when his torment is set to end.  That does not stop him from asking.  From needing.  From begging.  From cursing, but with a smile.  Enjoying the teasing nearly as much, if not more, than he’ll enjoy his release.  That’s okay… you’ll enjoy that release enough for both of you, over and over and over.

[teazdndenied]

…. and even now, when his time limit has expired, his torment set to end, she breathes huskily in to his mouth. “Are you sure baby?….. are you sure? Do you really want all of this to end…. or, do you want more?”

He moans, he whimpers, his mind far too broken to be able to think clearly…. all that exists is her wickedly swirling hand, her lips so close, her breasts grazing his chest. “You can have more baby, all you have to do is ask…. tell me that you don’t want this to end…. not yet…. beg me to make you wait….”

To her delight he does exactly that. Mindless, incoherent, broken…. he begs for more as he sinks deeper…. pleading with her to make this sweet torment last…. to not release him from this sensual hell of desperation where he is now helplessly trapped.

Now, her triumph over him is complete…. his addiction to her unwavering. “Mmm hmm, yes baby….. I promise, you can have more…. so much more…..”

She smiles at the sound of his whimper, when he realizes what he’s just done, but it’s too late. There’s no going back now. Wickedly she purrs in to his mouth, “It’ll be ok baby, I promise….. now, let me show you just how much longer I can make…. you….. wait….”

[ialayaita]

Grrrrr.

[hotwife86]

Chastity ❤️

[evildommebadsub]

Gotta say that first night was quite amazing lol 😂 but the first time online? Yeah, I struggled telling him no. But now? Haha, second nature lol

[dirtynotgross]

🧝‍♀️😈

[locked4beautiful]

All I can say is, “please…”

[dominantlife]

Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

[locked4beautiful]

Always helpful information!

[allaboutthehotwifelife]

Cheating on him by not cheating on him?

I have a feeling a lot of you are going to want to share this one. If someone shares this with you, that’s because it means something to them, so please do the courtesy of reading the whole thing!

First off, I want to acknowledge that wives often have various and complex reasons for reacting negatively to husbands who bring up hotwifing. That’s a valid topic for another time. This also isn’t for households with an abusive spouse who wants to force his perversions or sick desires in whatever way they enter his mind–those men are the scum of the earth. No, this is for you loving couples, where you try your best to do things right, and keep trying even when you don’t succeed the first time.

Today, I want to talk to the wife who hears her husband share his kink with her, and doesn’t stop to dig further. She doesn’t ask, “How difficult was it for you to tell me this? How much have you thought about this? How much does this mean to you?” I’m talking to the wife who jumps to conclusions and insecurities, or shuts him down without validating his opinion. Can I talk to you for a minute?

Dear wife, I imagine you love your husband a lot, and he probably loves you a lot too. In fact, he’s opening up to you because he loves you. He wants you to be a part of his life in every way, no matter how unusual society may say it is. And society may be the reason you shut him down. Have you been told all your life that it’s wrong to have sex with another man after you get married, and that it’s cheating on your husband if you do? Have you been told that this will kill your loving relationship? Chances are, this is where you’re coming from. These feelings make it seem impossible to imagine what your husband is really thinking.

In fact, I bet these values are more deeply ingrained in you than you imagine, especially if you haven’t sat and done introspection on why you think the way you think. So when your husband comes around and tells you he’s interested in this, it breaks all kinds of norms. You think, “Cheating!” And you think, “Wrong!” And you get disturbed, because he’s asking you to do that one thing you’ve always been told a wife should never do. This is where your imagination and insecurity gets fired up–if he wants you to do the worst thing of all, then, “My God, what else is he going to suggest?” You might not think it so much as just feel it deeply within. It feels wrong–so wrong.

On behalf of your husband, let me ask you to just stop for a moment and hear his side of the equation so you can communicate on equal ground. First, he probably has some idea of how weird this is to you, and it was even hard for him to admit it to himself at first. He’s battling with his own inherited values, which in this case run counter to his sexual desires and needs; he also fears your reaction. He doesn’t want to hurt you or scare you.

Second, his definition of cheating isn’t what you think it is. You both agree that cheating is a betrayal, a theft of love and intimacy from the one who rightfully owns it. Where he’s different from you is that–for whatever reason–he feels connected to you sexually when he imagines you being promiscuous, full of desire, and feeling flirtatious lust. Your promiscuity isn’t cheating, since he connects to you in that fantasy or act. It doesn’t mean he wants to be promiscuous himself, because if it would be a betrayal of you and your desires, then he sees it as betrayal too; he isn’t interested in betraying you. He isn’t interested in you betraying him either–he is interested in connecting with you by means of observation, fantasy, and wanton lust unchained.

I hope that’s clear in your mind, because it’s crucial to understanding him. He’s not asking you to cheat when he talks to you about sexual engagement (or fantasy) with other guys.

This brings us to the provocative title of this post. “Cheating,” sexually speaking, is betraying your spouse for others. It’s disregarding their needs and desires, and giving that part of yourself to others. Here’s the point: if social pressure or fear of others (parents, priests, friends) are the reasons you’re not willing to hear your husband out when he tells the thing that is most intimate to his sexual nature, he’s not the main person in your sex life.

You’ve invited a whole society into bed with you, and you’re neglecting him for everyone else that’s intruding into your sex life. He feels cheated, because you won’t even talk, read, or think about what’s on his mind.

Is that cheating? I’ll leave it to you and him be the judge of that.

However, I hope you’ll take the time to see how you might actually have things backwards when it comes to the idea of being faithful to the one you married. Not the idea of a husband you got from society and invented over time in your mind–the actual flesh-and-blood man you pledged to be with.

I’ll be saying more along these lines in the future, but I wanted to get this out TODAY so you could start thinking about it (and wives, please don’t be offended if your husband forwarded this to you–remember, more than anything sexual, he longs to be loved, trusted, and understood; please give him that at the very least).

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It's a valid point, worthy of consideration.