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simena

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moan-s

I miss you. A little too much, a little too often, and a little more each day.

art--felt

I remember first learning that you can cry from any emotion, that emotions are chemical levels in your brain and your body is constantly trying to maintain equilibrium. so if one emotion sky rockets, that chemical becomes flagged and signals the tear duct to open as an exit to release that emotion packaged neatly within a tear. Everything made sense after learning that. That sudden stability of your emotions after crying. How crying is often accompanied by the inability to feel any other emotion in that precise moment. And it is especially beautiful knowing that it is even possible to experience so much beauty or love or happiness that your body literally can’t hold on to all of it. So what I’ve learned is that crying signifies that you are feeling as much as humanely possible and that is living to the fullest extent. So keep feeling and cry often and as much as needed

wishyroses

SHIT WHAT

teal-deer

Also let yourself cry. It really is a biochemical release valve to dump out all the chemicals that make you feel stuff.

I honestly think one reason men in western culture have so many problems is that we don’t let them cry, and literally their brains get stuffed with all this crap that doesn’t have a release valve. Men, please cry. You’ll feel better. It’s ok. You are not lesser for taking care of your health.

freewillandphysics

This is why tears from different emotions look different under an electron microscope. They’re literally made up of different things.

Happy tears are structurally different than sad tears than angry tears than overwhelmed tears etc.

may-13th

iknowthis

27.09.

plants, books and warm light

blartpaulxoxo-deactivated202001

playlist updates?

check out my playlists here!

songs to play while hooking up in the backseat

nobody knows the me that u do

his hair, his smoke, his dreams

having unfinished business with someone

even my phone misses your call, by the way.

a mix of happy, pure, love songs

the ultimate uni beakup playlist??

if that one person said they still loved you

these songs radiate mega in love vibes

i’m a little drunk and i need you now

a love that consumes you but in a good way

literally my favourite songs from when i was in the 7th grade

songs about being in love with your best friend

babe, you look so cool

love songs but pop ish?

i want you, i always will.

idont know what i’m supposed to do, i’m haunted by the ghost of u

real love is never a waste of time

god is a woman aka anthems

i keep dreaming of you so i stopped sleeping

there’s no space in my heart where i don’t want to love you

my new writing playlist

im glad i didn’t die before i met you

if u loved me, why’d you leave me?

every otp ever

i’ve been trying but u don’t hear what i say

i hit u up too often, i’m sorry.

i know u wanna die, so do i, so drag me down.

SIDE A: i should have known i would miss u

SIDE B: i should have known i would mess this up.

sometimes i wonder if these songs make you think of me

getting over u

i still feel all the things i did before when u used to need it more

everything i wish i could tell you

actually the saddest playlist i’ve made about soulmates?

SIDE A: you are my favourite ‘what if’

SIDE B: you are my best ‘i’ll never know’

why did i think it was ride or die?

lawyerd

295 | Sunday’s plan is the most important

coffeeforcollege

Don’t be fooled, that pretty planner and those fancy colored pens didn’t fix anything 😂

P.C. StudentProblems

dielises

01.30.2017 // Now it’s all done it’s time to put a little elbow grease into making this mid-year exam session useful!

maplecrossings

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kayleefabulous

my ultimate life hack? i like, never wear makeup except for occasions where i want to feel overly hot/professional. this way, people who see me everyday won’t be shocked when i don’t wear makeup, they will instead be shocked at how much hotter i can become. how much potential i don’t unlock for no reason other than laziness

modernbotanics

merrybitchmas91-deactivated2019

Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety

A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.

This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.

You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind.

People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.

In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture.

Therefore, I present to you:

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS

–Go on a walk

–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.

–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching

–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind

–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift

–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:

–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.

–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see.

–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in.

–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.)

–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety.

–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel.

–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:

–List the capitals of all the U.S. states

–List the capitals of all the European countries

–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors.

–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.

–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.

Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself. I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too.

(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)

lovelyplot

This would’ve been great an hour ago

midnightstarlightwrites-deactiv

This is so so true! When I was younger and suffering anxiety attacks, I used distraction techniques as I liked to call them. I’d watch tv shows, read a book, write something or play a game. Something that distracted my mind.

Sometimes it takes a while for it to work so don’t give up on distraction right away. Keep doing it! My mind eventually trained itself into recognising sitcoms as a “calm down” thing, so it became easier to distract myself with them the longer I did it.

crescentwords

first attempt at trying out a simple, minimalistic spread

kimreesesdaughter

The year is 2018. Your bills are on autopay. You just got paid and you still have $1200 from the last check. When you want something, you buy it without moving money around. Your credit cards are paid off. You and your friends have 2 international trips planned and paid for this year. Your parents are in great health and you’re able to help if they need anything. You love your job. Your desired creative career is falling into place and you get to take your little cousins to Six Flags and Universal Studios over the Summer. Your relationships are healthy and supportive. All of the toxic energy from the past 6 years is gone. You going to concerts, eating good across the states and your crib has art and warmth throughout. 2018 is going to be so good to you.