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[sexualassbutts]

If you're ever bored, here's a list of Studio Ghibli films you can watch for free.

Castle In The Sky (1986) Grave of the Fireflies (1988) My Neighbor Totoro (1988) Kiki’s Delivery Service (1989) Only Yesterday (1991) Porco Rosso (1992) Pom Poko (1994) Whisper of the Heart (1995) Princess Mononoke (1997) My Neighbors the Yamadas (1999) Spirited Away (2001) The Cat Returns (2002) Howl’s Moving Castle (2004) Tales from Earthsea (2006) Ponyo On A Cliff From The Sea (2008) The Secret World of Arrietty/The Borrower Arrietty (2010) From Up on Poppy Hill (2011)

If any of the links stop working, please let me know so I can fix it.

For Castle In The Sky, wait for the free user button to be clickable and it will send you to the video.

[allydsgn]

how do I not share this, though (HIGHLY RECOMMENDING HOWL’S MOVING CASTLE IT’S MY FAVORITE)

[zjoy-deactivated20190221]

Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind (1984) The Tale of the Princess Kaguya (2013) The Wind Rises (2013)

[palindromic-geek]

These are so good if you need something to calm you down on a bad day or after panics :)

[sketchdeath]

use my generator and find out your sexy monstersona, babes

[digicorvid-deactivated20211204]

…..slime creature…..

[masterassassinoo]

Mine just said “bastard”

[death-or-whiskey]

‘sexy sentient mist that fills you with anxiety’

[lynvaren]

kags and winter click in my mind as two things that were made for each other

[trix-witch]

PLEASE REBLOG THIS WARNING

HEY GUYS

The new Venom movie has a scene with intense flashing lights (the lab entry scene) and I received no warnings and had to leave (just for that scene) as I am epileptic!!! PLEASE share this since I’ve seen NO warnings being shared and this is very important and can prevent people from having seizures etc during the film.

[whatevercomestomymind]

Reblog to save someone (like my wife) from a seizure

[feistiest]

yo treasure planet was literally the best 2d disney film ever made like the setting? the colors? the flawless transition? the gorgeous world building? the three dimensional characters? a main character who’s never pressured to get into anything remotely close to romance? complex relationships? an antagonist who has layers to his character? the soundtrack? i could go the FUCK on,

[feistiest]

PLUS THIS SCENE?

[feistiest]

AND THIS????

[wolfbiscuit]

Always gonna reblog Treasure Planet, ALWAYS

[zaku21]

Can I just point out that Disney did their best to kill this film. They broke their tradition of one “classic” Disney film in theaters every 10-ish years and had the Loin King play at the same time frame as TP. The movie had next to no advertisement, and the few advertisements that were shown spoiled the surprise of who the bad guy was.

And it still turned out to be a hit movie.

I love reading the rough draft of the sequel and looking at all the consept art that was made.

[murdershegoat]

the loin king

[cherriielle]

it’s fma day!

[chaosemmie]

a blueberry and a clementine out for a stroll

[hawberries]

and it was a happy day.

(in catie’s immortal words: sometimes you just have to spray whipped cream directly into your own mouth)

[masozii]

Last minute Haikyuu prints for GoldNova! Bout time I posted them. 

[artsywitchling]

Mage Prince Boy Alexander

[rnoonjelly-archive]

Some More Fantasy au BokuAka!! owo

Btw I have an Instagram and i post a lot of wips and stuff i dont post here on it if u want to check that out~

[gutter-guy]

You shouldn’t be treating nb people like the secret sexy 3rd gender. Nb people don’t look like a mash of male and female, they’re not sexy androgynous twinks

[gutter-guy]

white skinny androgynous nb people reblogging this and saying shit like “Well this is what I look like! So I feel represented!” Are literally part of the problem. I’m not saying that no nb people are white/skinny/andro, I’m saying that those are the only type of nb bodies that get represented 

[quixoty]

its nice, isnt it, when nonbinary people are visibly distinct from binary people? its easy, isnt it? you can remember to use “they” for people who have no visible breasts or beards, right? no need to challenge the notion of male vs female if nonbinary people have their own look, isnt that right?

its time to step the fuck up and really understand that nonbinary looks like anybody. nonbinary looks like you. nonbinary looks like your family and friends and it looks like the strangers who you thoughtlessly call “he” or “she” because of their appearance.

really supporting nonbinary people means understanding that theres no visual tell - you wont recognise all of us as nonbinary on sight. you have to actually LISTEN to us. you have to BELIEVE us. and it means challenging your assumptions about gender, starting with the assumption that youre an ally to trans people while youre still doing puerile shit like gendering body parts and clothes.

NONBINARY LOOKS LIKE ANYBODY. ANY BODY CAN BE NONBINARY.

[blackpoeticinjustice]

Being part of the social justice culture or the “stay woke” culture, I usually thought that the main purposes were to:

1) Unlearn what was taught to you

2) Learn what was never taught to you

3) Educate those around you with the knowledge you have

[blackpoeticinjustice]

But you see…

You will come across people that will ask questions that may sound problematic but they just genuinely are confused about the matter and just want to learn

[blackpoeticinjustice]

I had a white girl, sweet as hell, that was curious about why White people can’t say the N-word but Black people can say it.

Now… If this was Black Tumblr/Twitter, y'all wouldve ate her alive and spit her out. Like, why would you ask a question like that????

[blackpoeticinjustice]

I didnt take any offense to the question, because again, you have to educate.

I broke it down simply…

“Bitch was a term used by men against women… If you call your female friend ‘my bitch’, theres nothing wrong with that… but if a guy did the same thing to his female friend, that wouldnt not look too good…”

Then she understood! She doesnt like when men call her or other women bitches but she noticed how women call each other bitches (almost) all the time in a friendly context.

[blackpoeticinjustice]

Some SJW ppl would resort to just straight ridicule. Like relentlessly roast you, and you just wanted to ask a question, get your answer, and just go.

I understand some people would come outta nowhere with smartass comments and deserve that roasting, im 120% for that, but yall really need to learn the difference between those 2 groups of people.

[blackpoeticinjustice]

I remember saying/doing something problematic not too long ago. This guy just went off on me, called me stupid, and vaguely explained why what I did was problematic. When I asked for a more in-depth answer as to why it was an issue, he didnt want to explain, he didnt have the “energy” to explain but had plenty of energy to say what i did was wrong and i was stupid to do it.

To this day, I STILL dont know exactly what was wrong but I am avoiding that action for sure.

[blackpoeticinjustice]

To cut it shortly for yall,

Some people genuinely dont know what they do/say was wrong. Some ask questions to learn and educate themselves. Relax…

Ridicule or slander shouldnt be a first option to everything, if anything, its more counterproductive. Not to mention yall do this for notes and attention on social media.

[glittangrease]

ALL. OF. THIS.

[blackpoeticinjustice]

This shits still relevant

[cynicaldom]

Intent

When communicating to someone about a sensitive topic, I’ve found it’s helpful to explain why you want to talk about it. If you say you’re worried, or hurt, or just needed to get it off your chest, it can help the other person not get defensive and then more completely process what you’re saying. 

Many relationships die by a thousand little cuts. Little problems that on their surface are penny-ante. But the real offense, the hurt, is unresolved. And the little hurts pile up and the resentment builds until things fall apart.

It’s very easy for people to read a bad intent when you’re communicating a problem. Sometimes it’s a natural defense mechanism, if you think someone is just being shitty then you don’t have to really hear them. But it can just as often simply be an incorrect assumption. Communicating your intent can stop that from happening and help the conversation come to a more fruitful resolution.

But if you break it down, your intent is not just a lubricant to keep the conversation productive. Your intent is the point of the conversation. More often than not the problems we have with each other are not the real issue, it’s how those problems make us feel. When you communicate your intent, you’re fully explaining the issue that needs to be resolved.

[amysubmits]

“I’ve been missing you, could you skip your TV show tonight so we can play a video game together?” works better than “You don’t give me enough attention.” or “you watch too much TV.”

Or “I suspect it’s just my anxiety, but I’m worried that you’re angry with me because you’ve been kind of quiet.” is better than just “Why are you so distant?”

For years I worried that we couldn’t discuss problems because it would cause a fight. That was how the world I lived in as a kid worked. Having a partner who is open to hearing you is huge, but choice of wording helps even when you have a partner who wants to hear you. 

[jumpingjacktrash]

very good advice. it really helps when you give the other person something actionable. a request, a suggestion, an offer to brainstorm. don’t complain; troubleshoot.

you don’t have to be emotionless or conciliatory. it’s ok to express anger. just be mature about it, and respect the other person. don’t go on a power trip, don’t leverage your legitimate gripes to make them grovel. keep your eyes on the prize. if you don’t know what the prize is, the next step is to tell them so and invite them to help you figure it out, not to moan until they miraculously do the right thing at random. even when you’re super upset you can still apply these skills.

wrong: “this place is a damn landfill because nobody but me does any housework!”

right: “there is some serious housekeeping fail going on around here. it’s kinda driving me bugfuck. i want to sit down and take a look at how we do the housework, because how we’re doing it right now sucks.”

see how the second one doesn’t blame? blame’s not important. responsibility is important, but that has to be worked out calmly or it’s not going to be functional. the first person is picking a fight; the second person is trying to solve a problem. you’ll notice they’re not smoothing ruffled feathers or acting apologetic, they’re clearly quite annoyed. but they’re aiming their anger at the situation, not the person.

even if they are angry with their housemate, working those feelings out is beyond the scope of the conversation. trying to combine venting with chore planning is, imo, the number one cause of screaming kitchen fights on planet earth.

[drinkyourjuiceshelby]

[ausimilation]

K. But I’m crying

[kiritarou]

its a doodle QAQ

[animal-factbook]

Dog owners please be aware.

[teamvoorhees]

REBLOG THIS PLEASE

[vaspider]

This is Snopes-confirmed. Also be aware this is very common in sugar free food of many kinds. The retriever puppy who I know of who died of xylitol poisoning got hold of a pack of sugar-free gum.

[veterinaryrambles]

Always good to remind folks - if it has xylitol, KEEP IT AWAY FROM DOGS! It induces profound hypoglycemia and liver failure and is life-threatening :(

[ainawgsd]

Friendly reminder to read ALL of the ingredients if you ever give any kind of “human” food or table scraps to your pets.