Soft Whispers of Self-love @lovethatlastsalifetime - Tumblr Blog

Your best is what you can do without harming your mental and physical health, not what you can accomplish when you disregard it.

theselfcarelifestyle

This. This is the one!

howelljenkins

having to come to terms with the fact that love is not an everlasting performance in which you attempt to retain the attention of your significant other but rather a release of control and putting faith into them and trusting them to choose to stay with you no matter what you have to offer

howelljenkins

to love and be loved is to rest

transgenderization

sorry for ignoring you ive been going insane

angelaeleni

There’s a difference between 1) bypassing our emotions and pretending everything is okay when it doesn’t truly feel that way and 2) feeling and honouring our emotions and then from there, knowing we have the power to create a new experience and a new outcome that re-writes our trauma. Recognising your inner power is not bypassing.

pancakeke

I don't know if any of you had the same experience as me, but I tried therapy when I was a teenager living in an abusive household and thought it was a waste of time. Ultimately my biggest problems (dad) were beyond my control and no amount of coping would make them better. Now that I'm an adult with actual control over my life and don't live with my dad anymore therapy is MUCH more helpful.

If any of you had bad experiences with therapy when you were younger it may be worth it to try again now.

pancakeke

THE SAME GOES FOR MEDICATION!! I tried meds as a teenager and they were powerless to help much due to my living situation being horrible. I thought that meant medication didn't work for me. Now that I'm out of that situation and trying agajn I can really see a difference.

hyperactivehedgehog

Such a large part of therapy depends on having some control over your life! Therapy isn't just talking to someone and they make everything go away. They give you tools to master your problems! And if you can't use them, they aren't of any use. And it's the same for meds! If they let you be more productive or creative but you have no outlet for that, the end result is the same. If your meds help you see the positives but there are no positives to see, you won't notice the difference.

Sometimes you get the wrong tools. Sometimes there's no space to use them. Sometimes the hardware store sucks. Try again with different tools, in different locations, at a new store.

theselfcarelifestyle

If you have trouble self-soothing in your relationship, the next time you’re feeling low and want your partner to regulate your emotions ask yourself this:

What would I do for myself right now if my partner couldn’t be here?

It’s okay to co-regulate with a partner, but if you have troubles with codependency/anxious attachment, learning to self-soothe is a beneficial skill for you and your relationship.

theselfcarelifestyle

For more relational healing check my relationship series on patreon 🥰

pokemon-personalities

Happy holidays to everyone whose holiday isn’t what they want it to be. whether it is illness, poverty, distance from loved ones or something else that’s making things tough for you this year, i hope that you can find peace and warmth. i hope that your year will end and start on a brighter note

chibird

You don’t have to be at 100% battery all the time, and you also don’t have to drain your battery to 0 every day. Some days can just be lower energy and that’s okay!

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lousydrawingsforgoodpeople

none of that shit is welcome here

angelaeleni

Don’t live your life for your family, your friends, your partners or anyone else. Care for them, love them, but don’t ignore your true purpose in fear of their reactions or judgements.

morganharpernichols

I will be okay

nobodysflower

my advice: go outside at night. look out. count the fireflies, the bats, the glow eyed cats. look up. find a new star. blow a kiss to the moon. she needs love too. look down. lift a rock. see a frog, a fungus, a forgotten note. don’t just walk. look, listen, learn.

five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, one thing you can taste. you’ll be ok. you always have been.

bakwaaas

something I’ve learnt as I’ve grown older which has bought me so much peace, is that not everyone will understand you and that’s okay. a lot of people lack the life experience, emotional intelligence and empathy to ever understand your life and the choices that you’ve made. you don’t need to prove anything to anyone. you know your truth and anyone who chooses to make baseless judgements or misunderstand you, isn’t worth arguing with to convince them otherwise. this goes for family, friends, or even just random people on the internet

miseducatedmelanicmuse

A lot of our parents are walking around with undiagnosed mental illnesses and that shit is traumatizing. Let’s have that conversation.

arthoerina

this is the exact reason i started going to therapy months back, those cycles need to be broken. you think you’re fine until you fully understand how much your parents’ mental illness/trauma has affected you and how much you’ve internalized from them.