Some of my favorite phrases/comments to make in a scene/dirty talk w reasons why:
“Who the fuck said you could talk to me like that?” Gives them a chance to decide what direction they want it to go, by defiance or willful submission
“I can tell you want it from looking at you, and yet I’d like it even better if you fucking begged.” Consent check disguised as dirty talk, but make sure they know this before hand
“No no no, don’t you dare close your eyes. You look at me when I’m fucking you, understood?” Keeps some people grounded, keeps them in the moment and gives a feeling of intimacy I feel has been ignored in the BDSM scene.
“Keep acting like this, yeah, it’s cute I promise. Pathetic (title)s are my favorite when they whine.” Another consent check, plus it gives the illusion (a sub is always in control in a healthy sub/dom dynamic as it’s them allowing control) that they are being degraded when in reality (for me) I just wanna know if they are enjoying themselves
“Praise yourself and I may actually let you cum, depends.” Making someone praise themselves to cum is cute because it’s A) humiliating/embarrassing and B) encouraging to a lot of people that you actually care, because who would ask for them to praise themselves if you didn’t care?
“You like that?” Another consent check
“God you really are so handsome/petty/etc, im so lucky, aren’t I?” Praise is a huge thing for me, sub or dom, they need to know that I value them even in degrading/harsh scenes.
“You’ve been so good for me, you’ve got this, it’s ok to let go” i use this one specifically either in the middle or end of a scene, praise and clarifying safety, it’s a part of my aftercare routine
“You have three seconds to quit the fucking attitude before I fix it.” Similar to number 1 but mainly used on brats
“Look at you, a pretty little thing aren’t you?” Another praise one, best used if you have a mirror, I especially love this if it’s the morning after with the marks (if any) on their skin
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