‼️TW: SA, COCSA, childhood trauma, teacher’s irresponsible, sexism, violence to kid, gradual recall of childhood trauma, vent‼️
I used a translator because I wanted to speak out in a safe zone, but I didn't have the strength to write it in English. So, sorry for the mistakes.
idk what I can add, so if you are very sensitive, DO NOT read this post. Please. I don't want to cause anyone psychological pain. but I know some people may still want to read it, so:
Conclusion: Only a Pinterest post can make a person remember details. Just in case, I will clarify that I did not discuss this with a psychologist because: 1) I rarely mentioned it, and if I did, I did not want to talk about it. 2) I did not consider it a “real” or “important” thing.
And remember - There is no "not important" violence. And the aggressor's justification is terrible.
I just saw a post on Pinterest talking about COCSA(child-on-child-sexual-abuse).
Before I saw this post today, I thought it was normal. Yes, it hurt. But everyone I told it to didn't take it seriously, and justified it because of his age. Well, of course the teachers justified their actions by "instincts". So, I just ignored my feelings.
The first "incident" I remember is my first vivid memory of school. He was actively harassing. Absolutely everyone saw it as a joke or something cute. I was disgusted. I don't know what to add. I remember a little more detail, although not everything, but I don't know how to describe it all. I'll just hope that the fact that he stalked me is just my paranoia and that he really was just going to his grandmother at that time.
Oh my god, I feel so disgusted that I live/lived on the same floor as someone who is related to him and probably had a hand in his upbringing. Oh, by the way, he also punched me in the face while I was being choked by another guy who was beating me. It was in the middle of a crowd of people, during physical education. No one even noticed. I broke free and ran to the exit. I don’t remember if it hurt. But it was scary. I don’t want to talk about this person anymore. So now I’ll talk about the next one. I don’t remember when it started, but it seems it started when the first one hadn’t changed schools yet, but was just close to it.
As I understand it, the second one realized that the first one was paying less and less “positive” attention to me, and started acting up. But I’ll start telling the story from an earlier time. We hardly communicated, or didn’t communicate at all. But the teachers sometimes forced me to teach him to read, because he had problems with it. But I wasn't some really cool and smart student. I don't know why they chose me, but it had something to do with his attentiveness. It really annoyed me at the time, but in case you didn't know, most six/seven year olds don't like teaching someone. Plus, I had no idea how to do it. They just gave me a book and said, "Teach." But I'll talk about that responsibility later.
In short, I didn't like him right away. I didn't like his attention, but I got used to it quickly. I don't remember much, but when the "first" one changed schools, the "second" one started paying more and more attention to me. I think he confessed his love to me in PE class. I said no and explained that I wasn't interested in it at all.
In short, after I said no, this shit started.
At first, it was just harassment instigated by classmates. And the teachers took it as usual.
But then, his best friend, with who I became friends some time ago, told me how the "second" tells everyone that we are dating, and that he told his friend his dreams about me. I, as an ordinary child, then thought that fantasies about family life, and although I was already disgusted - it could have been worse. But now, remembering how his friend tried to gently explain everything to me, I begin to understand what he was telling him.
I'm really grateful to his friend for telling me about it. Then I realized it was wrong and told my parents about the rumors (not that he only told his friend). And what really disappoints me is that my father didn't see the problem in the rumors. I don't know what I have to think about my dad now, than I remembered about it a little bit more.
I don't know.
I just want to cry.
So, to avoid ending this story on my hysteria, I also want to add that about a year ago I met the second one and his friend. I'll be honest, I've never met worse incels than them.
I don't remember a single moment in junior high and a little bit of high school without them. I don't know what to say.